Relationship Advice Articles

The Wolf You Feed the Mostn(Excerpt from an upcoming book, The Wolf You Feed the Most, by Cindy Stone)nnThere is a most wonderful story originating with the First Nations that circulates in various forms in books (I referenced it in my first, The Incidental Guru; Lessons in Healing from a Dog), on the internet , and in the oral tradition it is passed from person to person in meaningful conversations. The story goes like this...nnA native elder is telling his grandson that he

The question that appears to always crop up when you're talking about getting your ex back and the no contact rule--how long should you wait? If you are using the no contact rule, you deserve some congratulations in the first place. Very few people have the courage or discipline to really execute the no contact rule despite the fact that it is one of the most effective things you can do to get your ex back out there. Using the No Contact Rule - How Long Must I Wait?

I'd like to tell you about a game called The Triangle Game. There are 2 levels to this game, and most of us are already playing on the first level but we're not aware of it. This first level isn't really very fun -- I call it the Bermuda Triangle Game, because basically we get lost in it -- sometimes our whole lives. According to psychiatrist Stephen Karpman, there are three roles we humans unconsciously play with each other when we're in conflict -- these roles are victim, p

While we all feel the need to be loved and enjoy good company and relationships there comes a time when we are getting attention from someone or have been seeing someone that we are not really interested in. Either we were never interested in them in the first place or we have had a relationship with them and enjoyed seeing them and now things have changed. How to dump an admirer is a whole new thing because they may genuinely be decent and nice but just not of interest to you. You need to temper being firm with being fair and kind and sticking to your decision.

Love is a state that exists within you and someone else triggers that state so that you fall in love. How does that psychological process work? “Can you think of someone in your life who instantly brings a smile to your face or a warm feeling inside of you? “ One such person for me was my high school drama teacher, Mr. Niven. He was hailed as a great director because of the plays and musicals he produced. What truly made him great though were his teaching abilities. There

Dealing with a breakup is very complicated but the presence of mutual friends’ makes it even more complicated. In addition to dealing with heartbreak emotions, you will also have to deal with a problem that will keep you connected with your ex, the one that you cannot stand a minute with. The big question is how do you deal with mutual friends? rnSometimes the friends were yours before you became involved with your ex. Other times, you may have met the friends through your

Regardless of how much you love your partner, if your family is not too fond of your partner—or worse, despises your partner—it could lead to the demise of your relationship. Fortunately, there are ways that you can help your family and your partner find the reasons for the conflict between them and resolve their issues. Prior to attempting communication with your parents about the issue, remember to consider the source of their disdain. Your parents love you and want the be

Have you ever said to yourself, If only I had known then what I know now? As I reflect on my past relationship patterns I wonder if, had I had a more thorough grasp of the meaning of the astrological 7th house, my own particular aspects to Venus and the ruler of the 7th house, would I have been able to create something different in my life? I believe so.

Too many attempts at a romantic love-reunion go wrong not because the other person does not want to give the relationship another try but because the confrontational dialogue or aggressive type approach used time and again by many men and women when trying to get their ex back repeatedly damages ...

In a relationship couples usually share feelings, interest and love with each other. When men start to get cold, distant and uninterested with the relationship; women may feel uneasy, bothered and confused. Women should know how to deal with a cold man to bring his love back. He may stop doing the things he used to do to make you feel loved and needed. He will suddenly become self-centered. Before he totally lost interest in the relationship, you have to do something to bring

“Just what do men want anyway?” Yes, I get that question a lot these days and no, I don’t just answer with “sex”. (Yes, men want sex, but that’s not really the answer to this question.) You keep hearing that “men are simple” and that’s not really true. It’s based on that however that you often believe sex is the only answer. In fact, men are actually rich, varied and pretty complicated – just like women are. Thus, answering a question like that with something as simple as “sex” is pretty sophomoric and frankly, misleading. Let me try to clear up the fog a little. Men want:

“I feel like I just walked into a buzz saw.” Have you ever felt this way about your partner? Perhaps you've been apart all day and when you next see him or her, it seems like you can't do anything to your mate's liking. In fact, to you it feels like your love is critical or ...

Us guys can have a hard time understanding the mixed messages our girlfriends (or ex girlfriends) are sending us. So how can we overcome this? The answer is simple; body language. Why? Body language doesn't lie and once you understand how girls use it to communicate their selves, it can be a powerful tool. Read on to see the top 5 body language signals you can use to help you realise if she is still interested in you. Eye Language . A way to see if a girl is interested in you

Becoming friends with an ex is not impossible. Depending on the situation of how the relationship ended as well as the dynamics of the relationship between the couple, a genuine friendship can occur over time. Keep on reading if you want to know whether or not becoming friends with an ex is a good idea. Being friends with an ex is extremely plausible. Especially if the breakup wasn't so bad to begin with. However, if you're wondering why your ex is reaching out to and is wanting to be friends all of a sudden, I can understand your confusion.

If you have recently gone through breakup, chances are good that you are still on your ex's mind. However, what they may be remembering are the bad times, the things that caused the breakup in the first place. What you need to do is get them thinking about the good times, remembering why the two of you fell in love in the first place. Many people think that something like calling the local radio station and requesting that “your song” be played over and over again will do

Affirmationsn1. I have the STRENGTH to face and conquer alcohol. I AM STRONG! 2. I am fighting to get my life back. I HAVE COURAGE! 3. I REFUSE TO LIVE A LIE. ALCOHOL IS A LIE. I LIVE ONLY TRUTH! 4. I REFUSE to be dragged down by alcohol ever again. I retain my own power. I WILL NOT BE ABUSED OR ...

Trying to make an ex jealous in an attempt to gain deeper affection is a common playing hard-to-get tactic advocated by some "experts" and practiced by many. I know many men and women who've used this tactic and it's worked in the short term, and many more who have used it and it back fired big ...

Have you ever been out on a date with someone who you really liked, but you weren't sure exactly how to let them know that you really like them and are interested in them? It can be hard to know how to express yourself around someone whom you don't know very well yet. There are LOTS of ways to ...

Relationships are like shoes. Sometimes they fit, and sometimes they cause annoying, painful blisters. For example, your partner doesn't call when running late; your colleague at work taps his pencil incessantly; and a neighbor trashes your yard. Sometimes you need to confront the offender and get it off your chest. How do you start a difficult conversation about relationship issues without making the situation worse? Here are two tips to help resolve relationship conflicts w

There is always a reason for break ups. Women can seem random and unpredictable sometimes but they don't take action without a reason motivating them. There is a good probability that the reason your girlfriend left is you... however I will help you discover why that happened and how you can win back her heart. There are a lot of reasons why a woman leaves a man, but 3 possible reasons your girlfriend leaves come to mind in view of the fact that these happen more often than a

Getting over a break up is always difficult for any person. The longer we are in relationship with someone, the stronger they make an impact our lives. And when it ends, we start to miss them more than anything in the world. If you keep thinking about thoughts of "why my ex ignores me," then I'm assuming you feel awful about yourself. You might start thinking about the reasons why your ex left you and then you begin to convince yourself that these reasons are true. Your relationship with yourself begins to suffer greatly... all because of a bad breakup.r

Intentionally or not, you have created a relationship climate for all of your relationships. The quality of those relationships has a lot to do with this climate. Relationship climate has little to do with the exact words that you speak or the things that you do. You can say or do the exact same thing but have two very different relationship climates. It has much more to do with what is going on inside of you at the time. You can do something nice for someone from two different positions or a whole range in between. Lets say that you that you decide to make a nice meal for someone.

Wouldn't it be nice if you could tell when someone was going to be a cheating girlfriend or cheating boyfriend BEFORE you get involved with them? Don’t you wish there was something you could do that would help you avoid having a cheating spouse? There is something you can do, and it begins with ...

Why would someone be afraid of intimacy? Don't we all want to feel close and connected with someone? Yes, of course we want that, but there are very real fears that keep us from opening to emotional intimacy in a primary relationship. The Fears What is the first fearful thought you think when you think of feeling close to someone? "I'm going to be rejected or I'm going to be abandoned." "I'm going to be smothered, engulfed, controlled. I will lose myself."

Going through a break up is a tough experience to say the least, especially if your ex broke up with you. It's understandable if you are going through emotions such as denial, sadness, anger and frustration. The question is how can you reconcile with your ex and more importantly stay together in the long run? Most couples fail to get back together not for the lack of effort but simply because they rely on trial-and-error and don't have a proven, step by step plan that is prov

In these trying and troubled times, it can be difficult to get the feelings of “impending doom” out of your head. War, terrorism, the bad economy, you read about it in the newspaper, see headlines on the internet, and watch the war coverage on TV. It’s natural with this level of exposure to ...In these trying and

What are my core values? What's most important? The most important thing about the most important thing is to keep the most important thing the most important thing. I hope by now you are beginning to realize the importance of knowing what you want in your life, and you're beginning to take the steps to figure it all out. But how do you decide when to do what and for how long? You can start by creating a values and priorities oriented life. It may sound simple, but for many people it's quite challenging. When was the last time you sat down and inventoried your values?

It’s not unusual. The glow of a new relationship begins to dim as time goes by. As excitement and novelty turn to contentment and familiarity, the relationship begins to shift and become more predictable. Excitement wanes and you may begin to wonder how to get it back. This is normal. But whether you have been married for 20 years or dating for 2 months, it’s the responsibility of both partners to keep the fire beneath the glow burning. Most happy couples will tell you th

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I have counseled couples for almost 40 years, and it still thrills me when a couple, especially a couple with children, choose to work on their troubled marriage instead of leave it. It is my experience that when two people really want to save their marriage, they can. Even if one person wants ...

If you are reading this article, you have separated with your partner and your mind is probably dominated by the thoughts of how to get them back with as little heartache and effort as possible. Well, I have good news and bad news. The bad news is that it will require some effort and persistence on your part. The good news is that the text below will give you a strategy that will give you an unfair advantage over so many other people who don't get their ex back because they d

They say that breaking up is one of the hardest things to have to go through, even more so if the break-up in question is your marriage (and subsequent divorce ) or the death of someone close to you. It’s hard to know how to handle the rollercoaster of emotions that you’ll undoubtedly be feeling, but there are ways to keep your feelings under control through all of the stress and pain. nn Accept that it’s over nn The first step in getting control of your emotions is to

Dear Guru, I am looking for a therapist for my boyfriend and/or myself. We've been together for the better part of 6 years and he suffers from what I believe- based mostly on the book "He's Scared She's Scared" and our history together- to have fairly severe commitmentphobia.

Charlie Cook said it right: whether you are in the elevator or on the phone, the way you start the conversation will determine whether or not it will continue. So many times we face the uncomfortable situation of meeting with a recently established contact and we just don’t know what to say. In fact, opening a conversation requires a set of skills if you want to leave an everlasting impression that will make the other one eager to come to you every time he/she will meet you.

There is no way around it: dealing with a breakup is a traumatic experience. Adjusting to this new scenario is not easy and it's likely you don't want it to end. The great thing is: it doesn't have to be the conclusion of your relationship. rnIf you are really sure about it, there are ways to get your loved one back. In this article I'll list some ways to stop you being alone any longer. rn1. Try communication via email. rnBy writing in front of your pc instead of talking to

Male Psychology Works To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back; If you have been looking for advice to get your ex boyfriend back, you should be familiar with the term male psychology. You might have thought it sounded complicated and tried some other tactic to get your ex back. However male psychology is not complicated at all. It is simply knowing a few things about what motivates a man and using them to make the man you love desire you again. You can use Psychological and Expert Tips

Women make relationship mistakes too; after reading this article, you'll no longer be able to pretend that it's all your soon-to-be-ex boyfriend's fault. Let me guess- you had some great times together-just you and him against the world. He soon became your first thought in the morning and your last before you went to sleep. Hell, your father even liked him. In your wildest dreams, you'd never imagine that your most ideal relationship would have such a short shelf life.

Many who are in a breakup situation often ask; will my husband ever love me again? That’s because they want or desire to have their ex husband back in their lives. You want to revive the romance with your husband or you want your ex husband to forgive you and reconcile to get him back. If you both recently separated or divorced, you may find yourself asking this question. And to be honest, it is a fair question. But having said that, there is not an easy answer. Relationshi

Recent statistics suggest that 40% of women (and that number is increasing) and 60% of men at one point indulge in an affair. Put those numbers together and it is estimated that 80% of the marriages will have one spouse at one point or another involved in an affair. That may seem like a very ...

In my experience as a Behavior Specialist and Licensed Clinician for over 13 years, the amount of independence or dependence you have in your relationships is often an indication of the level of your psychological and emotional health and a predictor of how successful your relationships will be with others. It is known that we grow through certain psychological and developmental stages throughout our early childhood into adulthood.

Psychology Advice To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Want You Again; What made your ex boyfriend's attitude change so fast? How to attract your ex using psychology. He told you he loved you and wanted to always be with you, but now he won't answer your text, emails or take your phone calls. A complete solution to help you get your ex back into your life is provided at the end of this write-up (Author's Bio), meanwhile let's build the foundation. Psychology advice to make your Ex Boyfr

Ed consulted with me because he was conce ed about his 16 year-old son. "He doesn't have any friends. I'd like to spend more time with him but there doesn't seem to be anything he likes to do." "How does he spend his time?" I asked. "Playing video games." Betsy consulted with me because she was conce ed about her husband's lack of motivation.

Desperate To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back – Do This; There is no doubt about how desperate you are to get your ex boyfriend back after a breakup. That is why you chase him and accept his rejection. You will do anything to get your ex back in your arms and that includes losing your pride and self respect. What is wrong with this picture? In one word - everything! You will never get your ex back as long as he can keep you chasing him. A complete solution to help you get your ex

Does your relationship slip occasionally or frequently into the tit for tat spat? Don’t you just loathe it! You say something, which granted may not be languaged that well, and your honey beautifully deflects the perceived criticism that’s about to land like a fly, by pointing out that, in their opinion, you do the same or in fact worse!

Dear Dr. Romance: I heard you on the radio today and I think that this is my last hope. My dad told me to listen to you this afte oon, since I have been having problems with my marriage. I am in my late twenties and I have 3 children under four years old. My husband is two years older. We recently moved into a home away from family and away from what we are used to. I am totally happy with where we are living and he "says" he is but I am thinking that it is not like that.

You are being a permissive parent when you are compliant, indulgent, or indifferent with your children. When you are being compliant, you are giving yourself up and going along with what your children want to avoid their upset with you. When you are being indulgent, you are giving in to your ...

Rejection is one of the main causes of depression and social anxiety. Understanding why may help you combat and even overcome some of your depression and social anxieties. Rejection causes a series of emotional and spiritual issues that need to be addressed. God did not create us to be antisocial. The need for human companionship, love, acceptance, and even touch is intrinsic to our natures. Rejection, however, can subjugate those needs creating even larger and more serious issues.

Fighting isn't necessarily a bad thing in a relationship, but if most of your time together is spent fighting, you've got a problem that the two of you have to deal with. Together. You each have your own ideas and opinions. If fights develop every time the two of you disagree on something, though, then there's something else going on. If you keep in mind that you're in this relationship because of love, you should be able to address the problem together and strengthen that re

There are many people out there that believes that once your marriage is headed in the direction of a trial marriage separation, your marriage will inevitably end in divorce. Contrary to many popular beliefs that is not true. If you want to know if your marriage stands a chance in a trial marriage separation, please read the truth about what a trial separation can do for you marriage below. Why go through a trial marriage separation in the first place?r

How long before he calls after a break up; Have you have been thinking about your ex boyfriend more and more lately and are considering trying to get him to come back to you? Are you sure of your intentions, such as do you want him back because you realize how much you love him, or are you being possessive? Sometimes a person can try to get their ex back just because they are dating someone else and they can't stand it.