What’s the secret to ongoing intimacy, in and OUT of the bedroom?

Most couples agree that they feel more emotionally, mentally, and physically connected with each other, after a good romp in the sack.

But generally that yummy feeling of mutual connection begins to wane over time, overwhelmed by all the pressing details of home, work, kids, etc.

Feelings of disconnection can also lead to arguments and fights, which can make it more difficult for couples to find their way back to mutual sexual desire and passion for one another.

So what’s the secret to couples maintaining a more intimate connection in and OUT of the bedroom?

# 1) Take Time to Breath

It is a well documented fact that when 2 or more people breath together at the same rate and the same pace, their heartbeats will literally synchronize.


Just by harmonizing your breath, you harmonize your heartbeats, creating a powerful emotional and physical connection.

Just imagine how you would relate to one another from this deeply connected, mutual experience.

You may find yourselves being on the same “wavelength” mentally, emotionally, and physically, leading to more of that life-enriching sensual connection that so many couples crave.

So how do you have this experience on a regular basis?

It’s easy:

First step is have the man (or more masculine of the 2 partners) sit in a comfortable upright position on a chair or the couch, with their back supported. Have the woman, or more feminine/smaller partner sit in their lap, face to face. Make eye contact and smile.
Next, place your left palm on your partners chest, and make a heart to heart connection
Now – watch the rise and fall of your partners breathing pattern, and match it.
Once you have the breathing pattern established, count 21 breaths silently together.
Then proceed to alternate or circular breathing, followed by The Ocean Breath.
Now watch how your connection transforms.

I invite you to practice this 3-4x’s a week for the next 6 weeks, and observe the radical transformation it makes in your feelings of love, connection, and passion over time.

# 2) Express Yourself!

The number one killer of romance in my opinion?

Unexpressed emotions between partners.

Small, seemingly insignificant hurts, irritations, even unexpressed desires, can build over time, creating a subtle but perceptible wall of resentment between couples.

Nothing deters the free-flowing joy of open- hearted connection more quickly than resentments built from unspoken truths.

Find ways to communicate your feelings responsibly, and learn to effectively “process” your emotions as a couple.

I recommend using the compassionate communication platform of Non-Violent Communication, developed by Dr. Marshall Rosenberg.

For more information on Authentic Tantra Breathing Practices, and how to use them for sensual connection, healing and awakening pleasure, check out our Level One~Authentic Tantra Course Package, currently on sale!

For more information on Non-Violent Communication, check out my 90 Day Pleasure Program, where I give you personal instruction in developing “The Language of Life”, along with The 4 Principles of Self-Pleasure and The 11 Different Orgasms For Women.

Author's Bio: 

Devi Ward is a pioneer in the field of Women’s Sexual Empowerment and the author of “Shake Your Soul-Song! A Woman’s Guide To Self-Empowerment Through The Art Of Self-Pleasure.”

She is a Certified Tantric Healer, Certified Authentic Tantra™ Educator , and Co-Founder of Authentic Tantra™ Sexual Education. She is a qualified Tantrika of the Shangpa Kagyu Lineage of Vajrayana Tibetan Buddhism, and one of 2 people in North America qualified to teach the Secret Tibetan 5 Element Sexual Tantras.

She has been featured as a Tantra and Women’s Sensual Empowerment expert on over 30 different radio and television networks world-wide, and continues to make regular guest appearances on various media networks around the globe.

Devi offers experience-based guidance for catalyzing profound life transformation in the areas of sexuality, sensuality & personal growth. Her instruction contains some of the most powerful and authentic Tantric teachings available today, modern cutting edge sex education, Non-Violent Communication, and Sensual Dance.