Are you feeling overwhelmed and anxious? Are you struggling to stay positive in the face of life’s everyday challenges? If so, it might be time to start talking to yourself. That’s right – self-talk can be an incredibly powerful tool for reducing stress and improving your mental health.

Self-talk is simply the act of speaking kindly and positively to ourselves. It may sound strange at first, but research has shown that self-talk can help us manage our emotions more effectively, cope with difficult situations, think more clearly, and even boost our performance levels in various areas of life.

In this article we will look at five easy ways that anyone can use self-talk to reduce stress on a daily basis. We'll also explore how understanding our own thought patterns can help us become better communicators with both ourselves and others. So let's get started!

1. Talk Yourself Through Difficult Situations

Self-talk can be an invaluable tool for helping to reduce stress in difficult situations. By talking yourself through a situation, you can use positive affirmations and encouragement to build your inner resilience and confidence. This helps you to stay calm, focused, and in control of the situation.

To do this effectively, it's important to be mindful of your thought patterns and to focus on the positive aspects of the situation. If a challenging task feels overwhelming, try breaking it down into smaller, manageable steps. Each time you complete one of these steps, reward yourself with a positive statement such as “I’m doing great! I can do this.”

2. Replace Negative Thoughts With Positive Ones

We all have negative thoughts from time to time – but rather than letting them overwhelm us, we can use positive self-talk to transform our perception of the situation. It's important not to beat yourself up over negative thinking patterns; instead, replace them with more realistic and helpful statements such as “I am capable” or “This challenge is an opportunity to grow and learn.”

3. Acknowledge Your Feelings

Negative thoughts and emotions are a normal part of life, but they don't have to rule our lives. Instead, we can use self-talk to acknowledge our feelings without judgment or criticism. This helps us to be more accepting of ourselves and better able to handle stress in the long run.

For example, if you're feeling anxious about a project that needs completing, try saying something like “It's okay for me to feel nervous; I'm going to take it step by step and do my best." This simple act of self-compassion will help you stay focused on your goals while also helping you manage stress more effectively.

4. Focus On What You Can Control

We can't always control the things that happen to us, but we can control our reaction to them. Self-talk is an excellent way to remind yourself of what you have power over and help you focus on taking action rather than getting stuck in worry or fear.

For example, if your job situation is uncertain, try saying something like “I'm doing my best and I will make the most of whatever comes my way". This helps you stay focused on what you can do in the present moment rather than dwelling on the future or worrying about things out of your control.

5. Be Gentle With Yourself

It’s easy to be hard on ourselves when things don't go as planned. But self-talk can help us remember that mistakes are part of the learning process and that we all have our own unique strengths and weaknesses.

Try using statements such as “I accept myself just as I am” or “I'm doing the best I can with what I have” to develop a more compassionate attitude towards yourself and your circumstances. By being gentle with yourself, you'll be able to approach stressful situations from a more relaxed and positive perspective.

Self-talk is an incredibly powerful tool for reducing stress in our daily lives – but it takes practice, patience, and dedication to make it stick. So take some time each day to practice your self-talk skills, and before long you'll find yourself more confident, resilient, and in control of any situation.


Self-talk can be an incredibly powerful tool for reducing stress, improving focus, and better managing difficult situations. It takes practice to master the art of self-talk but with dedication and patience you’ll find yourself more confident, resilient and in control. Remember to be mindful of your thought patterns by focusing on positive aspects, replacing negative thoughts with positive ones, acknowledging feelings without judgment or criticism and staying focused on what you can control instead of worrying about things out of your reach. Above all else remember to be gentle with yourself as mistakes are part of life’s learning process. With these tips in mind start practicing self-talk today!

Author's Bio: 

Ambassador of JOY, Barry Shore, is a change maker and life transformer whose profound message of JOY is being embraced around the globe. A successful entrepreneur, Barry was afflicted suddenly with a crippling disease that left him a quadriplegic overnight. Barry’s decision to use this experience to better his life and the lives of others has opened a unique opportunity to find JOY in living regardless of circumstance. Barry’s Keep Smiling Movement has distributed over a million Keep Smiling Cards free to all. His radio show/podcast, The JOY of Living is heard worldwide with 100 thousand downloads per month. Barry founded the JOY of Living Institute, helping thousands of people learn to live in JOY every day. Barry is a charismatic, JOY-contagious speaker who captivates his audiences and elevates them to a new level of extraordinary. Embraced by numerous major media outlets and a host of well-known celebrities, Barry is a must-have speaker for your next event! Barry Shore has a best selling book on Amazon. Coming soon, his newest title: STRESS KILLS… JOY Heals.