Discover The Winner's Paradigm

Here are a few of my thoughts on the mindset, focus, and discipline required for massive success, and how to go about accomplishing something that is important to you. That something can be a better body, better health, and a better mindset.

My opinion is that, until people have committed enough in their preparation, they won't care enough when they fail. Many of us do not put forth enough effort, take enough risks, or aim as high as we can for fear of failure and the unknown. Life is full of “what ifs” and your mind will create many demons. Everyone has a breaking point where the gain or possible good outcome does not seem worth the pain.

This is where you will make it or break it. The problem that we have is that so many people have worked so hard and when they finally begin to realize how difficult things actually are they suddenly begin to invest the minimal amount of time and effort just to get by. This allows them to remain comfortable. Many of these “pretenders” act like they are (or were) ever good at whatever it is that they do. This gives them some sort of notoriety. Deep down they know that they have no chance, not because they do not have the ability, but because they are not willing to work hard enough and make a commitment to drive through the pain in order to reach a goal.

Many people have encountered these types of negative feelings and emotions. It is the monster or self-doubt that prevents a person from even trying so they give up in despair before even attempting! They are always the ones who are about to start working out, about to set new personal goals, about to pursue that dream they always had, about to be a better person, etc. You get the idea. Competition, in any form (job, school, sports, etc), is such crap because many people can pretend like they have been there and that they really want to go there. MOST people will watch other people and wish they were in a certain position (power, fame, etc), but when it comes down to it...these same people would rather just be lazy.

There is nothing worse in life than regret, and the world is full of people who become “losers” because they were always ABOUT TO do something. In order to be great you must leave your comfort zone (the happy place where you feel safe and live risk free) and decide to be proactive instead of reactive. Do not let outside elements control your future…only you can choose your future.

Preparation alone does absolutely nothing these days as it is easy to pretend so well. Until there is an investment, nothing matters. When most people reach their pain threshold or comfort level....they will pull the plug...everyone does. It does not matter what it is in....job, family, goals, etc. I think that I have finally learned that, although you can bust your ass in preparation phase, you have to be endlessly positive when the event you have prepared so rigorously for comes around. We all are weak and have doubt when the “wolf and storming troops come to tear down our house.” In the end, you will perform if you really deep down believe in yourself. Many people make the mistake of thinking that they know a lot as they make critical judgments about others, which are usually reflections of self-flaws, and self sabotage themselves in the process. Make sure that you mind your own business, stay focused, and believe in yourself…even when nobody else will.

It is hard, I know, when deficiencies in motivation appear to be everywhere, to sometimes question your own motivation level. But the bottom line is, when there is no investment, and no pain, you end up with no long term reward. There are no get rich quick schemes on the road to success. Work hard and keep grinding. Do not worry if you have a long road ahead...you just have to take where you are and work from there. Start small and think big and in the end you will be better prepared once you are hit with massive success. Work hard and you can achieve anything you want.

The best way to achieve any goal is to first know yourself. Who are you exactly? Do you even know? Have some sort of sense of self-awareness. The function of self examination is to lay the groundwork for insight, without which no growth can occur. To me, insight is the “Oh, I see now” feeling that must consciously or unconsciously precede any change in human attitude. These insights are real, genuine glimpses of ourselves as we really are, and are only reached with great difficulty and often with real pain. But they are essential building blocks to growth.

We all tend to be afraid of anything that would make us hate ourselves, or feel inferior, weak, or dumb. We constantly protect ourselves and our ideal image of ourselves with these quirky defense mechanisms, which are just simply our avoidance of becoming conscious of the reality of the truth itself.

Finally, in order to be successful you must win this battle against your own greatness. Your mind will always tell you to settle. It will tell you that it is ok to be average. And your mind will screw you up. You must be completely honest with yourself and be willing to make changes for self improvement. Do not avoid personal growth because in doing this you are admitting that you are not all that you would like to be. Use your talents, accept criticism, be honest with yourself, and always bust your ass.

Nothing in life is free. You will earn most everything that you get. Even the air you breathe comes at a price. Can you be anything that you want to be? Probably not. Each one of use was blessed with unique gifts and talents and it is up to each one of us to use them to their max.

My advice to you is to use the talents that you were blessed with and develop them. Work harder than your rivals and go about your business like a professional and life will reward you. Sure there will be ups and downs, but just remember, 80% of us don’t care that you are having a tough time, and the other 20% are glad your life sucks. Don’t whine because in the end nobody really cares. All you need to do is just be quiet, go about your business, and work hard. The best revenge is massive success.