Do you know your net worth? The first time I was asked this question I had no idea what it meant. Even though I paid the bills for our farming business, I really did not pay attention to the bigger picture. I had money to pay the bills. That was the important thing. Right?

When my husband died there were many discussions with advisors about my finances. I was told my net worth. There were financial planning discussions, but no one explained to me what net worth really meant. I assumed that I should already know what this meant.

I didn’t ask. I wasn’t told. Net worth was a mystery that I chose to ignore. I was still able to pay my bills. That was the important thing. Right?

I consider myself fairly intelligent. I have even run my own small business. I had money. I was able to pay the bills. That’s the important thing. Right?

I paid the bills and worried constantly about my financial situation. I wanted to know more, but was afraid of what I would actually discover.

Through financial education and coaching I have learned that my early conditioning around money and finances was blurring reality.

My family didn’t talk about finances when I was growing up. I believe that translated for me that this was a taboo topic. And I began to believe that I really didn’t deserve to know about money or to have money.

So tell me about your experiences around money. What were you told or not told as a child?

Did your family teach you about basic finances? Do you feel somewhat lost in the world of your finances?

It happens a lot for women. And often the first awareness comes after the death of a spouse or divorce.

Education is the key. Education brings knowledge and knowledge brings confidence.


Author's Bio: 

Sandy Clendenen lost her husband and best friend in 1999, after twenty-one years of marriage. Her grief process was lengthy and complex. Sandy felt stuck in layers of unresolved grief. As part of her heaing, Sandy filled numerous journals with her thoughts and feelings. A review of these journals several years later revealed insights into the grief process which Sandy is now committed to sharing with other grievers. Sandy attended seminary for 3 years. She also received her Master of Arts in Counseling Psychology. Sandy has also worked in various areas of hands on healing. Sandy incorporates her vast personal experience and education into her grief coaching products and services.

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