If you are unsure how to begin to give a massage there are a few simple strokes you can learn to master easily. There are some excellent massage videos you can learn from.

  • Long, smooth, firm strokes following the line of muscle up and down his body.
  • Circular motions, especially at joints.
  • Kneading—slowly and firmly squeezing muscle between fingers and palms of your hands, then letting go and repeating—particularly in large muscle groups like shoulders, back, buttocks and thighs.
  • Feathering—very light fingertip strokes—primarily for erotic massage, the arousal of skin to skin contact.
  • Rocking, with one hand on either side of your partner’s body, or a particular part of it, her buttocks for example, gently rock back and forth.

    You cannot go wrong by starting out with slow, gentle pressure in your strokes. Ask your partner to tell you if she would like more intensity as you go. The more massages you give each other the easier it will become to know what is needed through the messages your hands give you. Nevertheless, whenever you are receiving a massage communicate your desires and sensations with loving requests and appreciative sounds—give your masseur informative and thankful feedback.

    Excerpted from our Tantra and Kama Sutra Sex Positions eBook.

Author's Bio: 

Al Link and Pala Copeland own and operate 4 Freedoms Relationship Tantra. They regularly host lover’s romantic weekends near Ottawa Canada, and weeklong retreats in exotic locations. For more information call toll free from Canada or USA: 1-800-684-5308 International long distance: 1-819-689-5308. Visit their websites Tantra-Sex.com, SexySpiritualRelationships.com and their blog Ask About Love and Sex or send email: 4freedoms@tantraloving.com They have four books published including Soul Sex: Tantra for Two, New Page, 2003; The Complete Idiot's Guide to Supercharged Kama Sutra, Penguin, 2007; Sensual Love Secrets for Couples: The Four Freedoms Body, Heart, Mind and Soul, Llewellyn 2007; Tantra Step by Step: 28 Days to Ecstasy, Llewellyn 2007.

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