What does healing your past have to do with getting and keeping your life on track? Just think of the last time something just slightly bad happened to you and how it ruined your day. (Like getting a speeding ticket, or having an argument with your best friend.) How much energy and time did you spend worrying about what happened? How many times did you tell the story of your ill-fated experience, over and over again, to anyone who would listen? Or, how hard did you try to conceal the truth from everyone, even yourself?

I'm not here to tell you it's wrong to spend time thinking about the bad stuff that's happened to you. It's not. In fact, it's completely normal. But when the bad stuff gets in the way of creating a productive, happy life of your choosing, it may be time to discover how the experiences you've had in your life play a role in how you view yourself and the world around you today.

I'm not a therapist but I am someone who worked hard to get her own life on track and to get there I had to sort through my share of past issues and old wounds. Therefore, I speak solely from personal experience when I say:

If you have issues from your past that you haven't fully dealt with or understand thoroughly they will continue to run your life from behind the scenes. That is why, healing your past (coming to terms with it, letting go of it, understanding it), is a very, very good thing to do if you want to create and live the life you really want.

Face it, you have a past. Hopefully yours was great, but I think I speak for most people when I say, it probably wasn't perfect. So before you think your past issues don't qualify, take a look at this list to see if you've experienced any of the things listed.

As a child, or any other time in your life, were there times you felt:

Like the weight of the world rested on your shoulders
Like you needed to take care of the adults in your life
Like an outcast
Like you had to hide the truth
The need to be perfect
Less than
More than
Other ---
Is it possible these experiences led you to form healthy and unhealthy beliefs about yourself, the people in your life and the world around you?

Every experience you've had in your life has left its mark on you in some way, leading you to become the person you are today.

Your beliefs are partially formed from the experiences you've had in life. For example, if your father left your family when you were a young child you may have formed the belief that "fathers leave".

Now whether or not this belief is universally true or not, it doesn't matter. Consciously or subconsciously you have a belief fathers leave their family. The belief was created when you were a child, but as an adult you still have it, albeit buried deep within your subconscious. If you were the child whose father left, how might the belief "fathers leave" influence your life and relationships today?

Your beliefs shape the lens through which you view the world, yourself and your possibilities. That lens leads you to make the decisions you make for your life.

By becoming an observer of your beliefs, you can see if your beliefs work for you, or against you, depending on your circumstances.

In a nutshell, your past is partially responsible for what you believe about yourself and your possibilities. If you don't understand how your beliefs were formed or where they came from, part of you is working behind the scenes, in the dark. And that part of you may be running your life more than you realize.

Understanding your past and how it influenced the shaping of your beliefs is like turning on the light to the deeper part of who you are.

Healing your past will bring more consciousness to your life. With more consciousness you'll be in a better position to choose thoughts, attitudes and actions that serve your life, rather than take from it.

Should healing your past be the first thing on your "get my life on track" to do list? Of course, that all depends. It may be a great place to start if you experienced trauma and/or abuse early in life. It also may be a good place to start if you find yourself worrying excessively, unable to take action, or feel like you just don't have what it takes to create the life you want. If you feel depressed or feel like you've been "stuck" far too long, therapy could be the ticket.

Healing Your Past has the power to change your life because you'll no longer spend energy and time explaining, denying or trying to forget the life you had, rather you'll use your energy and time to create the life you want.

If healing your past is of interest to you I recommend the following books as good places to start. There are many helpful books on the market so don't rely solely on this very short list as your guide, rather visit your local bookstore to see what best fits your unique needs.

Psycho Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz
The Dark Side of the Light Chasers by Debbie Ford
The Fourfold Way by Angeles Arrien
Sacred Contracts by Caroline Myss

I also recommend therapies that honor the mind, body, spirit connection, such as Hakomi. Every city has excellent therapists. Ask your friends or family for referrals and most importantly, trust your instincts when choosing a therapist. Freeing yourself from your past and healing your old wounds is a big gift you give yourself, and eventually the world around you.

Finally, just thinking about your past could bring up many unpleasant memories. If you feel the need to talk to someone please feel free to contact me. I am not a therapist but I may be able to direct you to resources that can help. It's important to remember you're not alone. There are many qualified people who can help you and who will understand.

©2006 Cari Vollmer / LifeOnTrack(tm) / LifeOnTrack.com

Author's Bio: 

Cari Vollmer, founder of LifeOnTrack.com and creator of InspireYourSuccess.com, simplifies personal growth by showing you step-by-step how to create and live a life that works well and feels great! To sign up for her FREE how to articles and no-charge 5-Day Feel Great Now E-Course visit www.LifeOnTrack.com.