Avoid These 5 Mistakes When Trying To Re-Connect With An Ex Boyfriend

Almost every relationship can be salvaged after a breakup, and chances are good that yours is no different... there’s a strong possibility that, if you play your cards right and work at it long enough, you can turn your ex boyfriend’s feelings upside down and make him come running back, begging for a second chance.

Unfortunately, most women trying to get their ex back make a number of mistakes that end up ruining their chances. They do or say things that might seem like a good idea at the time, but are actually pushing their ex boyfriend further away and into the arms of some other women.

If you want to win your ex boyfriend’s heart back, then you’ll want to avoid these 5 common mistakes at all costs....

Mistake #1: Begging, Pleading, and Crying
It can be nearly impossible not to break down into tears when your boyfriend breaks up with you. Nonetheless, the more you cry and beg for him to reconsider, the more he’ll become convinced he’s making the right decision. Self-confidence and independence are traits men find attractive, and pleading your ex to take you sends the opposite message.

Mistake #2: Contacting Your Ex Frequently (Or At All)
Most breakup experts -- myself included -- believe that you should cut off all communication with your ex for 3-4 weeks after the breakup. This gives him time to forget the negative aspects of your relationship, and will force him to experience life without you in his life. While you may be able to win your ex back even if you talk to him a few times after breaking up, it’s never a good idea to initiate communication for at least a few weeks. No matter what you may think, there are no urgent reasons for you to call or text him!

Mistake #3: Buying Your Ex Gifts & Sending Love Notes
This is a mistake that’s more common with men, but a lot of ladies feel like they can win their ex boyfriend’s heart back by telling him how much they love and miss him. Sending gifts, cards, love notes, etc is never a good idea in the wake of a breakup. You want him to think that you’re completely fine with being apart, as this will cause him to second-guess his decision to end the relationship. Sending cards and gifts will make him think that you’re desperate and clingy, which aren’t attractive qualities.

Mistake #4: Making Promises That You’ll Change Yourself Or The Relationship
Your ex boyfriend may have had legitimate reasons for ending the relationship, and they may be things you’ll need to work on if there’s a long term future for the two of you together. But right now, you don’t want to go overboard admitting you’ve made mistakes... this is along the same lines as begging and pleading, and certainly won’t cause him to change his mind about the breakup.

Mistake #5: Trying To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Jealous
You can use jealousy to your advantage (and you probably should!) when winning your ex back. But if you do decide to date other guys and go on a social splurge, don’t make it obvious that you’re doing so just because you want your ex to notice. There’s no reason to be blatant about dating other men or going bar-hopping every weekend, since your ex will found out anyway... and if he thinks you’re trying to make him jealous, it will only serve to make him angry and will likely backfire.

If you can manage to avoid making any of these five mistakes outlined above, you’ll be well positioned to win back your ex boyfriend’s heart... and rebuild a happy, loving relationship that will stand the test of time.