Communication with Your Teenage Daughter can be as Difficult as a Toothless Man Winning a Rib Eating Contest At a Dental Convention.

As a mother, do you ever wonder why the parent child
communication process seems so difficult?

"The Secrets to Having the Teenage Daughter you Actually
Like" with Dr. Cheryl Guy

It is a fact that parent communication and teenage
communication can be vastly different. When it seems as if
neither party understands the other during the parent child
communication process, especially between a mother and
teenage daughter, I term this communication as momglish and
teenglish.

The truth is, no one can better understand the plight of
mothers as other mothers. Teenage girls feel the same
comradery and security within their own friendship circles
too. As mothers of teenage daughters, we have to be able to
connect with our daughters on a more intimate-heartfelt
level if we are going to maintain open communication.

If you are a mother and have been unable to tap into that
intimate-heartfelt level with your teenage daughter and you
find yourself questioning your sanity, intelligence,
intestinal fortitude, and patience while attempting to
communicate with her, you are not alone!

The parent child communication process reminds me of the
dummy blocking sleds my husband's football players used
during football practice while coaching them. To teach the
concept of effective blocking, the players would run up to
the sled and push against it with all of their might in
attempt to push the dummy backwards.

We as mothers sometimes feel that during our attempts of
communicating with our daughters, we are the football
dummy's being pushed backwards, but on the same hand, we
also have the ability to make our daughters feel the same
way.

In the early stages of trying to reconnect with your
daughter, choose a visual such as the football dummy
blocking sleds or some other object. Not only is it
important to form that mental picture in your mind, but
print an actual visual picture of that object. Post it at
your desk, beside your bedside table, in your vehicle or
other locations where you will be sure to be reminded that
you do not want to continue the same mode of parent child
communication with your daughter.

The second way to improving communication is to actually
talk with your daughter and explain how you have felt and
how you intend to work towards a healthier way of
communicating with her. Allow her to express her feelings
as well. Give her a mental picture and visual pictures of
your reminders and encourage her to either use yours or to
come up with her own. Have her print her own pictures out
for her use as reminders. You won't believe how this
concept can begin to move your relationship into a
healthier place.

Don't stop there though. There is no
silver bullet or quick fix to sustaining change between a
mother and her teenage daughter. The same can be said of
the relationship between a husband and wife. It takes work
and the payoff for your efforts will come in the form of
life-long relationship changes between you and the one you
love.