Life Coaching Zone - Do we get what we ask for?
Article by Carole Railton

Most of us are controlled by our unconscious - and the very fact it is our unconscious means that we don't realise this! It is tough changing things embedded in our unconscious mind, unless of course we begin to work out how and why the mind works in this particular way.

With previous articles in this series you will know that you generally get what you ask for. As so much of what happens to us is in our unconscious minds, this means that as soon as you stop consciously looking for things the unconscious mind begins to focus on whatever the mind thinks is important. All this will have been built up over years of the unconscious mind's experience inside of you. You may look for the good in people, in which case you are then likely to encounter good in the people you meet. The opposite is true: if you think people are nasty, dishonest or untruthful, the people you meet will display these characteristics. Therefore, whatever the mind focuses on, you will experience the results of this focus - either immediately or later in your life. Be warned!

Your brain works by asking itself questions and then providing the answers. Each one of us has our own individual dialogue running in our heads, sometimes its a constant chattering! The mind talk will bring about how you will feel or act in situations and can set you up or otherwise for the day. Given that this is happening, should you leave it to chance? I don't think so!

Understanding how our brains work, has taken thousands of years and we can learn even more by experimenting ourselves. An example of how this could work is for you is to do this exercise now:

Find something that is not working in your life and then ask:
'What is wrong exactly?'
'How long have I had the problem?'
'Why do I have this problem right now?'
'Whose fault is this?'
As you respond to these questions notice how you feel, more positive, and how you begin to take control of your life and its current situations.

Then ask yourself some different questions, ones that influence your unconscious mind. This is a sure way to help you to a better outcome for each of the situations in your life:
'What do I want now or in the future?'
'What is the ideal solution to get this?'
'If I knew the ideal solution what would it be?'
'What resources do I have to solve this?'
'What resources can I use to solve this?'
'What can I learn from this?'
'How will I feel when I solve this?'

Now notice again how you feel. Even more positive, I hope! You are on the way to recovery, of your subconscious mind! What power!

What has happened is your unconscious mind will naturally focus on answering your questions. If you ask better questions, you get better answers, so I cannot think of any reasons not to hone questions until you get really detailed. Really specific questions will bring really specific answers - so have a go now, change your life forever by doing this daily. I guarantee results. It is that simple.

Motivators like Anthony Robbins ask themselves good questions every day. This gives them the opportunity to measure how their day has been and what progress they have made in life. They stick to this system, evermore improving their situation. Even simple things like asking 'How could I make today more fun?' will lead to a more fulfilling life. Do you want to be a successful person, or one who is always making excuses as to why they cannot become successful, its in your hands, or more correctly in your brain. We only use about 20% of our brain just imagine what we could do if we understood the 80%.

Asking what you want to achieve in a day, a year, a lifetime is also a good question. Perhaps you want to take this exercise a stage further. Well you can, write the answers to the questions above each day for a week. Something great will happen for you by the end of the week, guaranteed, believe me and experience it yourself, no excuses you can make 15 minutes a day for yourself to do this and reap the rewards. Reading this article is not enough you need to take action and now is probably the best time, because you will get caught up in other activities and not come back to this until its too late to change the situation you were worried about.

Could it be that you are not convinced about the benefits of training your unconscious mind... well you need to ask more empowering questions until you get there. What would make you focus on having a fabulous fun day? Whatever the answer is, do it. Please take action now, tell others what you are doing so you can share the successes and love you have for each other and with this will come a better community for you to live in too!

There is no better path in life than improving along the way, and there is no better way to share than letting people do the same. If all it takes is good questions how can you refuse to move on and experience everything that is your birthright. I believe in you, you have to believe in yourself too. Get going! there is no time like the present to take action and the more you take the more you get. Yes, its naturally flowing energy which brings you to your life goals. Best wishes for a successful summer. copyright carole railton august 2010

Author's Bio: my two latest books are here with overviews.
I spend my life working and learning. I work with those that want to accelerate their lives and gain more success. I have helped people who have changed for teacher to writer, MD to potter and is more successful, mum to chemist, GM to be happier in his life. By raising awareness through personal branding and body language people are able to progress at a much faster rate and achieve dreams. Some do not have a dream so I help them get that right first too...
As well as managing my two companies, & I travel the world giving talks and running workshops on personal branding and executive body language. + 44 (0) 7866531400 begin_of_the_skype_highlighting              + 44 (0) 7866531400      end_of_the_skype_highlighting