Do you love yourself?

Do you love yourself?

What a great question and I thank Express Coaching and their Idea Generator for sending. It is probably the first question I drill to with the clients I take on, and one each of us must regularly ask ourselves!
"At the heart of personality is the need to feel a sense of being lovable without having to qualify for that acceptance." -- Dr. Paul Tournier

Take a few minutes to write down why you perceive yourself to be unlovable. Look at the list and see if you can identify where those characterizations originated. Can you pinpoint old messages from parents, teachers, and friends that led you to negative conclusions about yourself? Are those messages valid today?

The beliefs we adopt as children usually don't hold when we view them objectively as adults. Can you let them go? Can you begin to see yourself as a unique expression of life, a genuine gift to the world?

"You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection." -- Buddha

"Limitless like the ocean are your excellent qualities." -- Dalai Lama

The article above is exactly in keeping with the process I take my clients through.
Few, if any, were born damaged goods. There were messages and behaviors that came to us very early in life, and set the stage for our journey. There are some who had a healthy childhood, but many who did not. Healthy in terms of the practice of good mental hygiene that leads to humble self-love.
For the most part, there is not fault to ascribe. Those who raised us did the best they could and were the products of their own adolescence.

The good thing, humans have a great capacity to awaken and change. With coaching, the abilities that are within each and every one of us can be brought out and new goals set and achieved. An abundant and fulfilling life is within the grasp of those who are willing to make change! It is a message of hope!
What are your gifts? What are your positives? What is your purpose? Are you willing to change? Are you willing to let go and move forward?
Luv
Keith www.hopeserenity.ca