One of the hugest sabotages I see uber-gifted clients consistently make is focusing on the BIG WINS, whether in their personal life or business, rather than cultivating the small actions that are going to lead them to big wins … without stress. Did you catch the “without stress” part?

One of the most significant investments you can make into growing your vision is taking the time to team with others in everything you do. I call it the 3 F’s. Except these 3 F’s mean success: Faith, Family and Friendships.

The “hit it out of the ball park” mentality is a huge sabotage. It’s the pressure to look good quick or perform for people and usually shows up when people have an event or connection that they are getting ready to attend or make. It may be a class reunion that’s coming up, or maybe you’re like some of my clients who have to speak on camera frequently and want to look their best. Let me be clear, this sabotage will completely prevent you from building the principles into your life that will empower you GRACEFULLY for inter-generational success. When it comes to building for the long-term, you GROW, there not GO there.

This mindset will display itself with individuals who typically have what I call a “Niagara Falls-level” of potential, but lack an ability to harness it at the level they could. Sometimes they are beautiful, brilliant and highly-creative visionaries. Their sabotage? All they can focus on is the home-run, which they hit ALONE. With every fiber of their being, they fixate on an altitude of success that will SHOOT them into the big leagues. It could be the “award-winning book,” the “million dollar business,” or “the perfect body.” Deep down, it is a damaging mindset and at the root is a need for affirmation. Why? It is all a mirage that you will never arrive at. Success? Cultivate a lifestyle of authentic friendships and partnerships in everything you do.

Learn from the lesson of the great Sequoias in California that grow HUNDREDS of feet high with massive trunk circumference. The secret to this enormous weight and height? They grow in groves.

Although their roots are extremely shallow, they resist the wind and storms because they interwine their roots with other trees right next to them. Gotta love success principles in nature!

Who is God sending to you? Are you ready to get out of your comfort zone?

Author's Bio: 

Becky is a certified Atlanta Life Coach and National Speaker and is passionate about equipping Christians to move from sabotage to success. She has coached hundreds of men and women out of personal sabotage and into success. Determined to become an overcomer after self-sabotaging herself with food, alcohol, rejection, depression and resentment, Becky through the grace of God, has succeeded and is paving the way for countless others to experience the best God has for them. She is a founding member of KSU Toastmasters Club and a member of the Georgia Christian Counselors Association.

While doing an internship in Criminology at Florida State University in 1985, Becky received Christ into her life, thus experiencing personal and spiritual fulfillment to a degree never before known to her. She homeschooled her own four children for 12 years and when her husband was laid off after 9/11, she made the top sales team with a medical company within nine months with no prior sales experience which she kept two years in a row.

Again in 2005, when sabotaged again with an ID theft for almost a million dollars (so massive the FBI actually got involved) Becky moved into her next “BOLD IDENTITY” by running a marathon (after never being a runner) and becoming a spokesperson for a major identity company.

Becky has a passion for helping men and women tap into the strategies that empower them to quickly build bold, authentic identities and has worked with professionals ranging from non-profit organization leaders to educators and entrepreneurs. She has launched two separate businesses successfully, been part of two church planting teams and loves empowering her clients through speaking, tele-teams and coaching. She partners with Executive Business Coach Beverly Lewis of http://www.slingshotsuccess.com and Coach Consultant Clay Shiver, formerly with the Dallas Cowboys ) to equip entrepreneurs and non-profit leaders to market and grow their vision’s passionately and profitably.

Becky has an incredibly effective, yet gentle way, of extrapolating true feelings from each individual client and zeroing in on what’s really creating the self-sabotage. She has over twenty years of experience working with community and ministry leaders, entrepreneurs and youth, processing them through the transition necessary to clarify their identities and build success quickly. Becky also LOVES supporting her clients and partners with prayer and watching the presence of God touch them in deep and life=changing ways. In her spare time she helps raise money for charities by training people to run half-marathons. She also loves horse-back riding and traveling with her husband Jay of twenty-five years.