Finding Mr. Mrs. Or Ms. Right - Believe In You First

Do you believe you are worthy of being loved? Finding Mr./Mrs./Ms. Right begins with you believing that there is one person in this world just waiting to love you. It is important to know who you are, what your values are, what your beliefs are, and what it means to you to be in a relationship. You receive what you believe you deserve and want. Question your thoughts, feelings and beliefs with respect to attracting ideal romantic partnerships so that you can deliberately melt any resistance you may have to letting love in.
Who you are and what you believe about yourself were shaped and influenced by your experiences as a child. An exercise that can be very insightful in understanding your unconscious beliefs is to review how your parents interacted with each other. Also, reflect on the relationship you had with your parents. It is not so much what happened to you, but how you reacted and internalized your experiences that are the key. These have shaped, influenced and created the foundation of all your subsequent relationships. Examine not for blame, but for understanding.

Asking yourself probing questions offers you valuable insight into understanding the dynamics in the relationships you have had. Did you communicate easily with your parents? Were they judgmental, or open? Did they place high expectations on you that you felt you could never satisfy, or were you the apple of their eye that could do no wrong? How did they express their love to you? How did you show your love to them? Do you feel that your parents accepted your love easily and comfortably? Take time to answer with honesty. Awareness is the starting point that allows you to consciously change or accept your beliefs with clarity and choice.

A friend of mine complained that communication with men was difficult. No matter how much she knew what she wanted to say, it never came out the way she intended. She always felt frustrated and powerless after talking to her partners about issues that were important to her. Nothing was ever resolved.
Upon reflection, she realized that is exactly how she felt when speaking to her father. As far back as she could remember, he always made her feel inadequate when she spoke to him, turning everything that she said around. She felt like she never received what she wanted from the conversations. My friend believed that she could not communicate effectively nor have the results that she wanted with issues that were important to her. This underlying belief of which she had been totally unaware had carried into all her significant relationships. Once she understood this, she was able to take corrective action.

She has found a man with whom she easily communicates and no longer feels unheard.

You may have been attracting people with whom you feel a certain comfort level based on unconscious memory from childhood. Understanding how your relationship with your parents influenced your values, choices and beliefs is a pivotal action in moving forward. With deliberate preference and unwavering belief in your desires, you can attract a perfect Mr. Mrs. or Ms. Right for you.