Our emotions and wants in regards to our relationships are indications that we are often not in control. Furthermore, the “I can’t and I won’t” thoughts that are playing in the background keeps us from taking positive action. Each “I can’t or I won’t” thought is actually a limitation. These limiting thoughts are the primary factors keeping us in unhealthy relationships. Many of us are stuck in fear. The fear causes us to repeat the same unhealthy patterns, over and over again. The results are often our being even more out of control because we don’t know how to change the patterns or situations that we continuously experience. Instead of creating loving and peaceful relationships, at home and in business, we are unknowingly creating relationships that are somewhat dysfunctional. We think other people can read our minds… and that others know what we want and need. And the folks in our lives have the same thoughts about us. Our family members and business associates assume we know (or that we should know) what they want. Successful relationships, first begins with communicating our needs, and our wants, to our Self. In order for us to have better, healthier and more successful relationships, we need to be able to effectively communicate our intentions with one another.

As we identify what we would like to experience in our life, we can then move forward in achieving better results. If we think we can, we can! And, if we think we can’t, we can’t! In thinking we can achieve better results in our relationships certainly helps us to be more positive. By stepping off of the emotional rollercoaster that we have created for our self… by reviewing our belief system… and choosing to do something different, will show us that we can have better relationships. When we take total responsibility for our relationship with our Self, only then, can we begin to change the negative patterns that we are experiencing in our relationships with others. By looking at the root source of how we feel about our Self, allows us to overcome unhealthy tendencies in our relationships. The way to change unhealthy patterns is to be able to see them for ourselves. Seeing negative patterns and how they affect our life, shows us if we can see the patterns, that we can also change these patterns. Our relationships reveal a wealth of information to us; often misinterpreted. We would all like to experience being in peaceful and harmonious relationships and yet in all honesty, we aren’t used to being at peace; so how is it possible for us to have peaceful and successful relationships. In truth, many of us never really learned where real love and happiness comes from. Although we don’t care to admit this, many of us are holding non-loving thoughts about the folks in our lives. Our negative and non-loving thoughts are interrupting us from having and enjoying successful relationships.

Life is a decision! Make a decision to change your unhealthy expectations about your relationships. Make a decision to be done with the negative patterns that have limited you from experiencing your true happiness. Have the life and relationships that you have always envisioned for yourself! Learn to be in control of your emotions at all times. And by being in control, you will find that there are no limits to the happiness that you can experience!

Author's Bio: 

Larry Crane has been teaching The Release® Technique to executives of Fortune 500 companies for years. He has personally trained businessmen, psychiatrists, psychologists, sports and entertainment celebrities, sales people, managers and housewives in the art of letting go of problems, emotions, stress and subconscious blocks that are holding people back from having total abundance and joy in their lives.
The Release Technique has been taught to over 100,000 graduates worldwide.
The Abundance Course IS the Release Technique, the original Release Technique Method as taught by Lester Levenson. http://www.releasetechnique.com