A woman holds a prime position in every person’s life, for the care, the concern, the passion, the strength, sensitivity and support, and the love, energy and happiness that she brings in the relationship. She nurses children, protects the family, serves parents and supports her husband. A mother, a sister, a daughter or a wife – no matter what role she is placed in, her devoted service to the person in relationship, makes a big impact in the person’s life.

The key relationship advice, given by Pujya Niruma, the Mother of the World, is: ‘Live with love!’
When we live with love, then no matter how many differences there may be between the two of us, our love does not go away, because love admits no division whatsoever.

What is love?
Real love is permanent and selfless. Selfless love is very different from worldly love, as it believes only in giving, without expectation of taking anything in return. Such love results in happiness!

How to develop real love?
Pujya Deepakbhai, the Living Gnani, says: “You begin to develop such love when you:

1.minimise your expectations in the relationship;
2.do not see the faults of the person in relationship with you; and
3.do not hurt the person in relationship;
4.have no condition;
5.if the person, you are in relationship with, happens to do something wrong or behaves badly with you, then you understand that this is a result of my karmic account, you see the person’s Pure Soul and decide, I want to keep love with the other person’s Soul;
6. don’t say any negative of the person to anyone else, you only talk positive of your loved one.
Doing so, love will increase, it will rise!” He further advises that, “If you want to maintain the loving relationship, bring your loved one(s) to satsang of Gnani, the Enlightened One. When people sharing a common goal are together, they make good progress.”

Our mistakes hurt our relationships...
Our expectations, our demands, our attachment, our possessiveness, our jealousy, our grudge, our complaints, our opinions, our insistence and our obstinacy are all constantly hurting our relationship.

There are infinite such mistakes inside us. But we can’t see them because of our strong inner belief that ‘I am so and so (the reader may insert her own name here). I have no faults and I am a very good person”, which makes us partial towards our (worldly) self. It is only when we sit here in the satsang of Gnani, the Enlightened One, that veil after veil of ignorance is lifted with His grace, and this enables us to see and more importantly, allows us to accept our mistakes, one after another.

These mistakes are the results of the demerit karmas that we have committed in our past life. But rather than destroying our mistakes, we only keep increasing them and as a result, experience suffocation all the time. To destroy a mistake, it is important that we accept and regard it as a mistake; we cannot go on protecting it - this is the key, Gnani gives to open up the most difficult of locks in our life; it solves all our problems and fosters harmony in our relationships.

Should we not look at becoming free from our faults?
Our attachment to our worldly self is our biggest ego. This attachment does not let us rest and it keeps us burning from within. All our mistakes stem from this very attachment and it further perpetuates many more faults.

This attachment can break only after Self-Realization, because we then realize that our real Self is not the same as our worldly self (i.e. our body and name that we identify with). We really are a Pure Soul and without the knowledge of this real Self, there is no liberation from mistakes. When we acquire Self-Realization, we no longer remain partial towards our mind, speech or body. And it is this very impartiality that allows us to see our faults, admit them and even destroy them.

The knowledge of the Self can only be acquired by meeting Gnani. Liberation calls for no efforts if one is fortunate enough to come in communion with Gnani. But such communion is extremely difficult and rare, even more difficult is one’s ability to recognize Gnani and His grace!! Through the scientific approach of Akram Vignan, the stepless path to Self-Realization, one can attain Self-Realization by meeting the Living Gnani, the Enlightened One!!!

Param Pujya Dadashri, founder of Akram Vignan, says “Love is a constant internal attraction. It stays on one's mind the whole day. Only love should prevail in life. Where there is love, one does not see fault in others.” Param Pujya Dadashri, the spiritual scientist, advises us, saying:

•Let love awaken in abundance in you. Have a firm conviction that ‘no one has committed any fault, but that I am seeing now, was my own fault.’ This is for all, who yearn to rouse love with anyone. They have to let love awaken thus.

•When does love arise? Apologize with a true heart for all the mistakes that have happened in interactions with anyone in life so far. Then love will arise within.

•Have the deep desire to help others. For all living beings, simply harbour kindness and empathy. The deepest empathy is the force that wants to do everything for people, not worrying about one’s self.

•Even when one says anything wrong, there is love. Even if one curses Gnani, He does not lose love for him. You too must begin to decide that. If one takes a wrong stance, even then we continue to maintain love within.

•When one becomes the embodiment of love, one has oneness with the other person.

Following Gnani’s advice, we cultivate a broad mind and a vast capacity to absorb anything and everything with a clean and clear mind. Once our deep inner intent changes, then everything is accomplished with ease.

Gnani has unmatched, extraordinary spiritual power!!!
This life is for attaining Self-Realization. Seek the Living Gnani, and acquire Self-Realization from Him.

Gnani is the embodiment of love. In the company of Gnani, constant inner bliss prevails. Oneness with Gnani means liberation from all miseries is in our hand. We can go ahead and reveal all our secrets to Him, and when we tell Gnani about what’s happening inside us, He instantly repairs it. He has the spiritual power to undo any entanglements of ours with anyone in the world. He teaches us to see the Pure Soul (the real Self) in everyone and thus help us to live with love!!

So come, lets bond with Gnani, become one with Him, and seek His love, with an utmost sincere prayer in our heart, that “Oh Gnani!!! whatever You do for Your Self, do for me too.”

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Author's Bio: 

Ambalal M. Patel was a civil contractor by profession. In June 1958, spontaneous Self-Realization occurred within Ambalal M. Patel. From this point on, Ambalal became a Gnani Purush, and the Lord that manifest within him became known as Dada Bhagwan. A Gnani Purush is One who has realized the Self and is able help others do the same. Param Pujya Dada Bhagwan used to go from town to town and country-to-country to give satsang (spiritual discourse) and impart the knowledge of the Self, as well as knowledge of harmonious worldly interactions to everyone who came to meet him. This spiritual science, known as Akram Vignan, is the step-less path to Self-realization.