The biggest obstacle to intimacy is fear of rejection. If fear of rejection is blocking intimacy for you, then you may be feeling very lonely. I know you desire the deeply fulfilling experience of being close, but your fear of being rejected is too strong to allow you to open up and truly share yourself with a potential partner.

Emotional intimacy may be a dream of yours, and that makes alot of sense. Sharing who you are, being seen and known by another, and sharing love and laughter together is soul satisfying. Everyone wants a deep,loving, fun and secure love relationship, and everyone deserves to be successful in finding and keeping love.

If you are afraid of being rejected, you may not realize that the solution to your fear is not finding someone else who loves and accepts you for who you are. The solution is loving and accepting yourself, so you can handle the ups and downs in any normal, healthy and loving relationship. Without self-love, you will be completely dependent upon your partner to say and do the exact right thing for you all of the time.

It may be more important for you to focus on healing yourself right now, than looking for love or demanding your partner treat you in certain ways to keep you happy and content. I hope this makes sense to you, and that you are open to healing yourself. You are a special person. You have always been a special, important, brilliant, talented, creative, witty, wise and intuitive person, and you deserve to love and accept yourself 100% no matter what anyone else says.

It is time for you to take back your life and to love yourself. If you continue to avoid relationships, you will continue to feel lonely. If you let others determine your self-worth, you will continue to take many things personally, and your fear of rejection will continue to block the possibility of achieving emotional intimacy. You deserve to love yourself and to be loved 100%.

It is not a luxury for some people to have love. It is a need for everyone to feel lovable and to love and be loved. Please be open to healing the negative programming you have received that has caused you to not love and accept yourself, and instead, fear rejection, because you felt rejected as a child. I am so sorry your childhood was not loving and supportive. Mine wasn't either. I had to learn how to love myself, and I am one of the happiest people in the world today.

You can truly transform your life to a life full of love and success. Please believe in yourself, expect and best and take the steps you believe will turn your fear of rejection into being open to love and intimacy. You can do it. I know you can, because I did it, so I know it can be done. Let me inspire you to love and support yourself, and from your foundation of healthy self-love work to create the life you are dreaming of having. You can do it. Go for it. Don't let anything stop you anymore.

Author's Bio: 

I am Sandra Dawson, MA. I am a Love and Relationship Coach, and America's Most Loving Relationship and Trauma Expert, and Your Guide to Intimacy. I have been helping individuals, couples and groups to love themselves for more than 25 years.
I am a Certified Couples Communication Instructor, a certified Trauma Practitioner and a Past Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in CA. I am passionate about increasing love on our planet, one person, one couple or one group at a time.
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