Letting go
“How would I let him go?”, this is the exact question my best friend asked me 2 days ago. I decided to write something about this topic, for her and for you to know my end. Letting go is easy to say, but hard to do. How would we let go to someone we treated as our world, whom we have given everything?

There comes a time in our life when we meet this person, somebody who’s so beautiful in and out. That single glimpse of chance when he turn our life upside down. With this spark, we concluded it is the magical thing called love. We fall; we give him everything without exemptions. Every moment is a game of chance; every memory is a treasure to keep. As long as this special person is beside us, let us keep him closer in our hearts every single day. To love is to take the risk, and if loving hurts then love more. But if the love you have given is not enough for him to stay, learn to let go. Because sometimes love is not only a risk but letting to the special feeling.

I can hardly say when love is enough for someone to stay in our life. It goes together with respect and commitment. When you respect each other’s feelings you learn to accept the differences you have. Without commitment relationships are bound to fail. You should be committed to that one person, for him to know that you value the relationship more than anything else. Things don’t always go as we expect them to be. We have to learn to accept the fact that it’s over when it doesn't work out. The hard part is letting the other half know how you feel. Letting go sucks and hurts like hell. You have nothing to do about the relationship, it’s over and it’s gone. Acceptance is the key to let that person go. Accept the fact that the happy ending you want is not meant for the two of you; maybe the fantasy is bound to end with someone else.

While others are searching for that perfect relationship, you should bear in mind that there aren't exist any perfect tie. Every fairy tale has its ups and downs; every story has its endings. A realization will not strike you directly but sometimes mistakes are repeatedly committed until learned. In the mean time, focus on the single thing that will relieve the pain- acceptance. Whatever you are dealing right now, you need to know that this pain should go. Memories remain, yes, but you should not dwell on the memories forever.

Move on and let go. The only way to open another chapter in your life is to close the previous one. There’s no use denying the pain when in fact this unbearable pain gives us strength, enough strength to continue the journey ahead.

How would I let him go? Accept that you were not meant to be. The happy ending is bound to continue with somebody else. Settle yourself first and you’ll see everything will fall in the right place.

Author's Bio: 

Princessgen Patris is a former editor-in-chief of her school organ "Lawis" wayback in 2006-2008. Attended University of Cebu-Lapulapu and Mandaue (Cebu, Philippines) with a degree in Business Administration majoring Marketing Management. She became the External Vice-President of the Junior Marketing association of the Philippines (JMAP)University Organization. She is also a member of the Catholic Charismatic Youth Movement (CCYM),UCLM chapter.