Real Love Is Colorblind

By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts.

The romantic 1955 movie, Love is a Many Splendored Thing, tells the story of an American reporter who falls in love with a Eurasian doctor. And as you might have guessed, they encounter prejudice from both of their families. Such prejudice was, unfortunately, all too common in 1955. It is all too common in 2011.

People in love it seems do not always find a colorblind world. That’s too bad. Love is love. People, who are in love, love each other irrespective of their race, creed, color, or national origin. True love between two people is colorblind – never forget that! Love does not see color, it only sees love.

In the nearly three decades we have studied successful loving relationships we have often encountered people in love who have suffered the “slings and arrows of misfortune” because their relationship was a bi-racial one, or in many cases, a multi-racial relationship. Often times, there are people who observe others in love, but they do not always just see love. They see race. They see people who are different. Their prejudices take over. The dark side of some takes over. Too bad.

During the film, Love is a Many Splendored Thing, some intensely romantic meetings occur on a high and windswept hill. The song lyrics are clearly audible during many parts of the film.
This intensely romantic song touches the heart. It touched our heart. It will touch yours. It goes like this:
Once on a high and windy hill,
In the morning mist, two lovers kissed,
And the world stood still.

You see, two people in love know their love for each other is timeless. They know their love is unconditional. They know it transcends everything else, even prejudice. Love between two people who are truly in love trumps everything else.

There is another line from the song that we think is particularly lovely:

Love is nature’s way of giving.
A reason to be living.

Love must be shared. Love must be enjoyed. Love, quite frankly, is nature’s way of telling people in love that they have many reasons to live – that they have many reasons to spend their life with the one they love.

There is another message about love. Love, when it comes your way, must be embraced. When you fall in love, you must seize the moment. Love does not always wait. When you fall in love, when you feel it completely, you must seize the moment:

Love is a many splendored thing
It’s the April rose that only grows in the early spring.

When you fall in love, when you fall deeply in love, there is a good chance it will be forever. True love is between two individuals who see only love when they gaze into each other’s eyes. Those in love do not see race, color, national origin, or prejudice. They see only love.

Love is a many splendored thing. Love is colorblind to those in love, and it should be to those who observe those in love.

In love and marriage the simple things matter. Love well!

By Dr. Charles D. Schmitz and Dr. Elizabeth A. Schmitz

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