It may surprise you to hear that even a person who ends their life is, in a strange way, seeking to preserve themselves. Not their physical existence, of course, but what they have left of their mental wellbeing. As an act of self-preservation in terms of their mental state, they end their life.

We’re all guilty of such thinking, though generally in much lesser ways that we don’t generally think of as suicidal. For instance, say we do astoundingly beautiful work painting or decorating a room in our home and then show it to our friend. The friend immediately oohs and aahs over the work. How do we respond? We may say something like, “Yes, it went pretty well. But see that corner over there? I couldn’t get that line straight.” In other words, we pick out the tiny flaw, which becomes magnified in our eyes, and pay little attention to the experience of beauty that our friend is having as a result of our work.

Wow! How do we allow the tiny flaw to color the whole room of beauty? And we do this kind of thing in so many aspects of our lives. The reason is simple: it originates with a brain pattern.

If suicide is in its intent an act of self-preservation, then there’s a brain pattern that sees only the tiny flaws compared to the whole, for in the whole the flaws are inconsequential. There’s a brain pattern driving us to see everything based on one little thing - to see only contextually and not sequentially as pieces of a whole.

There’s a far better option, which is to optimize our brain patterns, thereby removing the all-or-nothing thinking that supports thoughts of suicide.

At Brain State Technologies®, we address the underlying issue that produces this all-or-nothing thinking based on feelings of hopelessness, despair, and the sense that you can’t go on - a result of the imbalance in the brain.

These are feelings, not the total of our reality. Brainwave Optimization™ allows the brain to return to a state of balance and harmony, from which flows a life that’s characterized not only by the will to live but also by the will to be our best self, with the ability to see the flaw as a flaw and not as the room.

Author's Bio: 

Lee Gerdes, Founder and CEO of Brain State Technologies® (, is the creator of the patented process of Brainwave Optimization with Real-Time Balancing™, which is transforming lives all over the world.

As the author of Limitless You: The Infinite Possibilities of a Balanced Brain, published in 2009 by Namaste Publishing and now in soft cover, Lee's work emanates from a combination of his interests in how the brain works and its effect on mind, body, and spirit, coupled with his personal experience of trauma in the form of a violent assault in 1992.

This effort has now evolved into the neuro-technology known as Brainwave Optimization, which is produced and distributed by Brain State Technologies, with nearly 200 affiliate offices in 18 countries worldwide serving over 50,000 clients.

As a result of this trauma, in 2000 Lee began working with his own brain to relieve post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). His success in overcoming the effects of trauma led him to dedicate his life to understanding neuroplasticity (the ability of the brain to change itself) and how the breakthrough insights of neuroscience can be applied to improve peoples’ lives. His work is daily proof that by optimizing our brain, we can optimize our entire life, empowering us to "at last be the limitless individuals we were born to be."

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