Yes - it may be seen as a trite saying - but it is true. You can’t really expect to get what you want in your life until you have given it to others.

Perhaps that sounds like it doesn't make much sense. How can you possibly give to others what you yourself don’t have? If you can only open your mind to the possibility and ask this question of yourself, you may well allow an opportunity to do just this for you. Then you will find that there is a way that it is possible for you to give to others what you want, before receiving it yourself.

The basic principles underlying this argument are: you give before you receive, and you give with the faith and expectation of receiving. A modern example of this can be seen in the film ‘Pay It Forward’. By giving to others, you allow good things to happen to you. And this all brings us to the simple law of attraction.

The law of attraction is like any other law of nature - such as the law of gravity. And like gravity, it is not one that has been generally understood yet. As a result of this lack of understanding, most of us are still walking around with our thinking in a completely disordered paradigm.

These disordered paradigms of thought have been repeatedly observed in history, and discoveries of natural laws and associated observations of reality have brought order to transform many of the mistaken beliefs that people had accepted as fact for years, often centuries. Examples of this are many, such as the long held belief that the world is flat, or the belief that the Earth was at the center of the universe.

Just a people re-adjusted their thinking as these disorganized paradigms were shown to be no longer correct, we are able to make a change in our own disordered thought patterns. At this very moment most of us are probably feeling dissatisfied. This dissatisfaction arises as a result of our belief that we could be experiencing a better life, but the way to achieve this better life is being blocked somehow in our thinking. This process of self-sabotage is a very real process working in the realms of our unconscious mind.

However, there is good news - there are many simple, small but powerful techniques you will be able to use to reprogram your all powerful unconscious mind to order your own life as you want it. That is right - there IS a way to eliminate the chaos in your life, and it starts from within you. It starts by eliminating the often unseen chaos in your own mind.

If your mind is constantly resonating with disordered patterns of thinking -anxiety, stress, anger, sadness, envy, grief, or other negative emotions, you are strongly attracting more of the same into your life.

One major step you can take to change this disordered state is to focus on giving to others before you receive yourself. In this way you are changing your vibration and your focus. And you will have opened yourself to receive what you had been previously closing off from your life.

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