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- Drive Gently Over the Stones - by Submitted on May 03, 2005 from Susan DunnI’ve been studying proverbs from around the world in order to produce an inspirational PowerPoint. There are some beautiful slide shows out there, and as far as I’m concerned there can’t be enough of them, and I’ve not seen one with great proverbs, of which there are plenty. They are a ...
Views: 2529 - What Sex over 60 Can Teach You About Sex Under 40 - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2004 from Susan DunnGot your attention? Everyone’s favorite subject. I’ll begin by stating again a myth that dies hard: That people over 50 [substitute your own age] aren’t having sex. Part of this is that we just don’t want to think of our parents as actually having sex, no matter how old they are, no matter ...
Views: 2408(1 vote) - All I Want for Chritmas Is My Son Back - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2002 from Susan DunnThe holidays are upon us … and how they churn up our emotions. The expectations … the memories … the empty chairs … Somewhere there’s the Norman Rockwell family celebrating, but it was never at my house. Was it at yours? A client and I have in common the loss of beautiful young men on the ...
Views: 2386(1 vote) - How to Have an Emotionally Intelligent Valentine's Day - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2003 from Susan DunnEvery time Valentine’s Day comes along, I think of the day before Valentine’s Day a couple of years when, as I was leaving the card and gift shop where I’d selected some Valentines, while cursing the materialism dictated to us by Madison Avenue that demanded the expression of feelings with ...
Views: 2385(1 vote) - What Makes a Manager Effective? - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2004 from Susan DunnTHE MONDAY FROM HELL Keely was the last person to arrive at the office Monday morning and when she walked in, she could feel the tension in the air. As she walked back to her office, others looked up and rolled their eyes or shook their heads, and she knew what was going on. Their boss, the ...
Views: 2380 - Coping When Someone You Love is Deployed - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2003 from Susan DunnHaving someone you love deployed, whether child, partner, relative or close friend, is extremely stressful. As on military spouse told me, “Why am I acting like this? STRESS When we must separate from a loved one we have reactions that are physiological and emotional that are beyond our ...
Views: 2331(1 vote) - How To Be The Perfect Guest - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2003 from Susan DunnBeing a good guest is important to both your business and your social life. When you’re invited somewhere as “the guest,” you really have a role to play, and it’s an active one, not a passive one. You’re there to enjoy yourself, but it’s also up to you to make a positive contribution to the ...
Views: 2296(1 vote) - Dating & Religious Beliefs - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2007 from Susan DunnYou’re dating and your religious beliefs are different. How much difference does this make? The answer is: Another person’s religious beliefs are important to you to the degree they re important to you. This may sound like begging the question, but it’s an important thing to get . Assuming ...
Views: 2268 - “A Dozen Ways to Celebrate Valentine’s Day If You’re Not Part of a Couple,” - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2006 from Susan DunnWhen we think of Valentine’s Day, we tend to think of two lovers celebrating together. If you aren’t paired at this time, don’t let yourself get left out! Here are 14 great ways to celebrate Valentine’s Day YOUR way. 1. Celebrate with a child! If you don’t have one, borrow one! Invite ...
Views: 2243 - Step-Parenting Problems at the Holidays - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2006 from Susan DunnDear EQ Coach: My husband and I have been together for 10 years. We have 4 kids, his and mine. I love his youngest one like she were mine, but the oldest one I just can’t stand. He’s favored her in the past, which irks me, and she’ll always doing things that get on my ...
Views: 2228 - How to Build Your Career with Emotional Intelligence (EQ) - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2002 from Susan DunnBuilding your career with emotional intelligence is one of the smartest things you can do! How do you begin? 1. EQ starts with self-awareness. Know your strengths. Take the StrengthsFinder(tm) profile and find out what your innate abilities are so you can build your career around them. This ...
Views: 2200(1 vote) - It's Late September, Maggie, and I Really Should Be Getting Back to School: An EQ Tale - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2003 from Susan DunnThe young man in this song, who lets Maggie keep him away from things he should be doing, is not practicing Intentionality. Intentionality is one of the higher level emotional intelligence skills. It means saying what you meaning what you say. Keeping your word, in other words, and doing ...
Views: 2193(1 vote) - How to Stay Motivated When You Don't Feel Like Doing Something - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2003 from Susan DunnHow do you stay motivated when you don’t feel like doing something? There’s the ‘carrot and stick’ philosophy which works for children. How do you “motivate” your 10 year old to clean up his room? Either punish him for not doing it, or hold out a reward for him when he does do it, the ...
Views: 2081(1 vote) - How to Be A Good Guest - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2002 from Susan DunnBeing a good guest isn't a passive affair. It means actively participating in making the party or gathering a success. There are certain people I like to invite to anything I give because I know they'll show up and leave on time, they'll be able to talk to anyone, and they'll help me with little ...
Views: 2075(1 vote) - How to Chart a Course Through Rough Waters & Reach a Safe Harbor - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2002 from Susan DunnWhen the sea of life gets stormy, how can you stay shipshape and ride the waves? You’re the CAPTAIN of your ship. Being empowered means having a deep sense of confidence that you can take charge of your ship and handle whatever comes up. Use your personal power and intentionality to keep your ...
Views: 2057(1 vote) - How to Grow Old - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2007 from Susan Dunn"To know how to grow old,” wrote Henry Frederic Amiel , “is the master work of wisdom, one of the most difficult chapters in the great art of living." One of the most important things you can do to assist in this process, is to work on your emotional intelligence. It includes competencies such ...
Views: 2008 - 10 Ways to Celebrate Valentine's Day - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2003 from Susan DunnWhen Valentine’s Day comes around, I remember the year when I left a card shop, having mourned the fact I had no “honey” at the time, worried about whether I was spending too much or too little, whether I’d gotten it right or not, cursing Madison Avenue for the commercial thrust, and thinking of ...
Views: 1986(1 vote) - “How’s Your New Year Feeling So Far?” - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2006 from Susan DunnWhat's the pulse out there? Many of us opted for a quiet New Year's Eve choosing Mozart and a glass of wine in front of the fireplace over getting drunk, hanging off the rafters, and negotiating a statistically dangerous drive back home in a sort of mad compensatory gesture. It’s really just ...
Views: 1978 - A Way to Find More Happiness Through Your Work - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Susan DunnOur mantra is “if you keep doing what you’ve been doing, you’ll keep getting what you’ve been getting.” With that in mind, let’s talk about “happiness.” If you're into professional development, you've heard of Martin Seligman, Ph.D., who developed the theory of Learned Optimism. Optimism is ...
Views: 1972(1 vote) - Cruising is Great for Families Who Get Along, and for Families Who Don't - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2007 from Susan DunnLet's face it, some families live in each other's pockets and love it, while others prefer a little distance. But parents, especially, like to get the whole gang together once in a while. Also you might be hosting the step-kids for the summer. What venue you choose for these occasions makes ...
Views: 1955 - Midlife Dating: Where to Find the Men - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2005 from Susan DunnThe recent proliferation of dating websites makes it clear that you’re looking for him, and he’s looking for you, so how do we get the two of you together? AT WORK Most people meet their future mates in the workplace, despite the distinct possibility of Double Jeopardy: you could lose both ...
Views: 1914 - Planning for Success? Don't Leave Out the Most Important Ingredient! - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2002 from Susan DunnAccording to research by Martin Seligman, Ph.D., pessimists are more often right, but optimists accomplish more. Optimism is an emotional intelligence competency, can be learned, and it can be twice as important to your success and happiness as your IQ. Take a look at some of this exciting ...
Views: 1881(1 vote) - Lessons About Life from the Apple - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2003 from Susan DunnWe transform ourselves and our lives when we look at things differently. Take a new look at THE APPLE and what it can teach us. "The Botany of Desire: A Plant's Eye View of the World," (http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0375760393/susandunnmome-20 ) is a delightful book full of fascinating ...
Views: 1873 - How Do You Get Them to Buy-in to Your Idea? - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2003 from Susan Dunn“How can I get them to buy-in to this idea?” Anna, a bank manager, asked me. She had an idea for restructuring the department. She knew it would work, but only if everyone would agree to it. She talked about different department members: Bob, who disagreed with anything anyone proposed. ...
Views: 1856(2 votes) - If the Floor's Dirty, Don't Call a Meeting, Pick Up a Broom - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2003 from Susan DunnMother Theresa. How would you describe her? Compassionate? Kind? That’s not what people who knew her said. In my Strengths course, I ask the learners to name the major strength of different well-known people. Here’s what Pamela Sheppard replied: “The standard is compassion, but, having ...
Views: 1856(1 vote) - Make New Year's Resolutions That Work This Year - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2002 from Susan DunnMaking resolutions means resolving to do something, committing to do something. In Emotional Intelligence terms this is called Intentionality. It means saying what you mean, and meaning what you say. What are your intentions for your life this coming year? What do you intend to do to make this ...
Views: 1850(1 vote) - Why Write for the Internet - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2007 from Susan DunnThere's no better way to promote your business for free than to write articles on the Internet. It is particularly good for promoting services where advertising doesn't work as well even if you can afford it. All business is about relationship. You can't meet face-to-face with each person, or ...
Views: 1839 - Emotional Intelligence and the Gentle Art of Conversation - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2003 from Susan DunnHaving just returned from a cruise, where I was seated nightly with a table of 10 stranger, I was reminded of the many definitions of ^emotional intelligence.^ When I ask laypeople what EQ means, they respond “common sense,” or “manners,” or “knowing how to get along.” These are good ...
Views: 1837(1 vote) - Grasso, Kennedy, Frost, Public Service and You - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2003 from Susan Dunn“Something we were withholding made us weak/Until we found out that it was ourselves," wrote Robert Frost, in "The Gift Outright." Frost recited this poem at John F. Kennedy’s inauguration in 1961. With the words, “And so, my fellow Americans: ask not what your country can do for you -- ask ...
Views: 1831(1 vote) - Why Become a Certified EQ Coach - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2006 from Susan DunnCoaching developed because it met a need. People who weren’t in need of psychiatric therapy needed more in terms of advice and guidance than friends or family could, would or should provide, and were seeking this from various professionals in their lives – doctors, financial advisors, ...
Views: 1831 - Express Yourself with Internet Articles - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2003 from Susan DunnSelf-expression is one of the most important things you can do for yourself. It helps you solidify your thoughts and feelings, gives you a chance to pass on the knowledge and wisdom only you have to give, and nourishes your creativity. Perhaps you’ve seen an article on the Internet and said, ...
Views: 1830(1 vote) - The Hidden Meaning in Their Summer Vacation - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2005 from Susan DunnEveryone’s big on emotional intelligence now, because we’ve learned the hard way that a person’s people skills can make or break them in the workplace. If the person is highly exceptional in their field, it can be a close call, but all things being equal, we prefer to work and socialize with ...
Views: 1825(1 vote) - Credit Card Company Tricks You Need to Know About - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Susan DunnThere are lots of things credit card companies can do legally that are unfair and that leave you in the lurch if you're not aware of them. For more information, go to http://www.bankrate.com where these facts come from. 1. Bait and switch. You think you're applying for a credit card with ...
Views: 1797 - Reflections After Christmas, and Thoughts for Prosperity and Health in the New Year - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2002 from Susan DunnAnother Christmas come and gone. What a workout for the emotions! I’m the EQ Coach, but that doesn’t mean I know all there is to know about emotional management – it’s a lifelong proposition; and it doesn’t mean my emotions don’t give me a ride for their money – remember, 2 of our 3 brains ...
Views: 1789(1 vote) - World Cup: Azzurri, Materazzi, Zidane and EQ - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2006 from Susan DunnBravi Azurri! The Italians deserved to win. They outplayed and outmaneuvered the opponents, including using what they call “furbo.” It means being wily, cunning, or tricky. It’s an integral life skill as well as football skill. It works and it’s part of emotional intelligence. As you ...
Views: 1768 - Teaching Emotional Intelligence to Your Kindergartner - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2003 from Susan DunnCasey’s 5 years old and reminds me of Edith-Ann. She sometimes even stomps her foot and tosses her head. And that’s the truth! Casey’s what you’d call “high-maintenance.” She likes things to be just so, reacts strongly to what’s going on, and tends to get wound-up. We’ve been working on ...
Views: 1761(1 vote) - Let's Celebrate National Women's History Month! - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2003 from Susan DunnMarch is National Women's History Month and this year's theme is "Women Pioneering the Future". According to the National Women’s History Project, this includes both “pioneering women from US history, who led and won struggles for equality and civil rights, created and advanced educational ...
Views: 1759(1 vote) - Christmas Has A Knob. Use It! - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2002 from Susan DunnChristmas has a knob. Use It! What does this mean? It means you have choices. It's your holiday and you can have it just the way you like it. Turn it on, turn it off. Turn it up, turn it down. Adjust the dial. Get rid of the static. It means you're free to celebrate or not, in exactly the ...
Views: 1757(1 vote) - Holiday Party Etiquette - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2006 from Susan DunnIntroduce interesting topics of conversation - good movies you've seen, places you've visited. If you're stuck, ask the other person something - Do you have children? Did you get away over the [holidays]? Have you read [the latest bestseller]? Where do you work? Any of these questions will get ...
Views: 1744 - About Those New Year's Resolutions - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Susan DunnIf you’re sitting down to write your New Year’s resolutions and they're looking a lot like last year’s, it’s time to try something different! What to do? How about developing your Intentionality? It's an emotional intelligence competency. It means saying what you mean and meaning what you ...
Views: 1730(1 vote) - Does It Matter What You Wear? - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2004 from Susan DunnDoes it matter what you wear? Of course it does! We want to be appropriately and comfortably dressed so it isn’t distracting. How can you court your honey when your waistband is too tight? How can you represent your client if the judge doesn’t allow women lawyers to appear in court in ...
Views: 1709(1 vote) - How Do You Help Your Child Develop Emotional Intelligence? - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2003 from Susan DunnIn her book, “Taking Charge: Your Life Patterns and Their Meaning,” Gudrun Burkhard writes: “It is important that the child’s feeling life should find fertile ground on which to grow. Such fertile soil can be provided by art or religion, but above all by loving authority which comes from ...
Views: 1697(1 vote) - How to Make Your Single Guest Comfortable at the Holidays - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2002 from Susan DunnWhether you've invited a military person, divorced friend, friend whose children are holidaying with their other parent, or a widowed or widowered parent or friend to your table for the holidays -- when everyone else is paired -- here are some things you can do to make your single guest more ...
Views: 1685(1 vote) - "When It's Emotional Intelligence and When It's Not," - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2006 from Susan DunnAs we all race to understand Emotional Intelligence, arguably the hottest thing on the business scene globally, there are many questions. As ‘Ask the EQ Expert’ for a business website, I’ve been asked: · Isn’t ‘Emotional Intelligence’ a ...
Views: 1676 - Holiday Office Party: Safety First - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2006 from Susan DunnIn today’s litigious society – and simply because you care – planning the holiday office party must include thoughts toward the safety of guests, especially if you’re serving liquor. Here are some tips to aid your planning: First of all, someone always gets assigned to PLAN the party, but you ...
Views: 1672 - Out of Sight, Out of Mind? Will He Remember You ... the Way You Want Him To? - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2003 from Susan DunnIf you've ever had a long-distance relationship with a guy, and lose ou t to a new woman he finds in his hometown, even though you two had a phenomenal relationship, you might find some new research interesting, hopefully even consoling. fMRI, functional Magnetic Resonance Imaging, lets ...
Views: 1669(1 vote) - Stay in Touch - for Stress Relief - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2004 from Susan DunnStaying in touch … we say it so lightly, yet it’s an important concept for our wellness. Staying in touch with others, staying in touch with ourselves, and staying in actual physical touch with our lives are all important. One of the ways to reach relaxation and give ourselves some relief from ...
Views: 1668(1 vote) - 10 Ways to Avoid the Landmines of Thanksgiving - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2006 from Susan DunnThe holidays are coming. It means festivities and joy, but it can also mean stress, anger, resentment, family dynamics you're sick of, extra work at the office, grinding travel, amped-up kids, weather problems, and, because of all this stress on your immune system, illness. What can help? ...
Views: 1662(1 vote) - The Introvert's Holiday Survival Plan - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2002 from Susan DunnIf you're an introvert (about 10% of the population), the holidays can be a stressful time. Here are some things to keep in mind to make it more enjoyable for yourself. 1. Be sure and plan plenty of time for extra rest and time alone for recharging your batteries. 2. Don't accept every party ...
Views: 1621 - Coaches: Everyone's Got One, You Think You Might Want One, What Do They DO? - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2002 from Susan DunnPersonal coaching has burst upon the scene. Everyone’s got one--even Jamie Lee. You think you might want one. But what do they do? Here’s one example of what coaching is all about. Charles M. Schultz, Creator of “Peanuts,” said: “I have always been grateful for the tolerance my parents showed ...
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