“The focus of tolerance education is to deal with the concept of equality and fairness. We need to establish confidence with children that there is more goodness than horror in this world.” ~ Morris Dees
Your little boy wants to play soccer so badly. The others on the team consistently choose ... Views: 930
Chances are, if you are reading this article, you are already on a good path to a rewarding career. Every successful person understands that a satisfying professional life doesn’t just happen. Each one of us must actively seek out the experiences and opportunities that will make us truly great ... Views: 847
Many great parents struggle with their energy levels. Successful careers are as demanding as successful child-rearing. Combine the two, and it’s truly a miracle anyone ever gets out of bed!
In all seriousness, however, you are wholly capable of tapping into energy reserves you didn’t even ... Views: 814
We’ve all had family television shows served up as a model for us over the years. You all remember The Brady Bunch and The Partridge Family. The book Little Women influenced many families. As a mom today, you still have the influence to proactively transform your family dynamics. Your instincts ... Views: 1010
When we were born, we arrived with a list of things that we needed. Many of our needs were provided for by our parents to one degree or another. Many needs got added to our list as we matured into adulthood. I’d like you to think about what you may need in the following categories. Are you ... Views: 987
One of the most remarkable abilities of our mind is it’s ability to remember. Memory allows us to recall what we have learned through experience. The more emotion surrounding the event, the deeper the memory of it stores in our minds. If the emotion was a negative one, frequently our memories ... Views: 1055
If you basically don’t want to do something, no one or no thing can motivate you to do it. Your motivation comes from inside you only.
In our society today, we have developed the habit of deferring the blame for what happens in our lives to another: She made me do it. My boss didn’t provide ... Views: 1368
I have worked to embrace “meaning” all of my life. I tried to understand those smiling faces over my cradle. I learned that when my mom washed clothes, I could play in the sun with her. I learned the meaning of good friends and hurtful people.
I began to make sense and value in my world. ... Views: 846
Grandiose words spoken to motivate another are 100% meaningless unless the speaker actually lives the truth behind his words – in other words, unless he walks his own talk. We become very disgruntled when we hear of church ministers misappropriating funds. We don’t like it when dignitaries are ... Views: 901
Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around. ~ Leo Buscaglia
Are you so busy with the things you merely do, that you find yourself not ... Views: 1545
Each of us has different standards regarding telling the truth vs. telling a lie. I’d like to share with you some ideas about why telling the truth might be a lot easier on you. Shakespeare said “Oh what a tangled web we weave, when first we practice to deceive.” That is a very meaty statement ... Views: 984
Being the Change in your life is not a magical, instantaneous event. Like Life itself, it is a journey and not a destination. Be the Change is a process that can be accomplished while you life your life, go to your job, raise your children, love your pets and take vacation. It is like playing ... Views: 1008
We become very accustomed to things, don’t we? We become accustomed to having oatmeal for breakfast. We get accustomed to having our clothes cleaned in a particular way. We are accustomed to a specific manner of interface with particular individuals. When we arise in the morning, we have an ... Views: 1102
I think a lot about helping people Be the Change. I think the biggest surprise to many of them is the invisible workings of their own minds which might be just the one factor they haven’t consciously looked at.
When I was first drawn to this coaching work, I noticed that the way I thought was ... Views: 1216
“There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.” ~ Wm. Shakespeare, Hamlet Act 2, Scene 2, 251
You know that I am a Change Coach. One of the most beneficial things I do is to help people who want to improve their lives to systematically make the necessary changes even ... Views: 996
I’d like to tell you how to find your voice, or if you already have a voice, to give it a bit more volume. In order to do that, I would like you to gain the perspective of a new parent. Some of you are already parents and this will resonate with your experience. For those of you who haven’t ... Views: 822
Once you’ve decided to Be the Change in your life, you no longer will be satisfied with not changing. One of the best ways to change is to experiment with new things, new ideas, new habits, new ways, new friends, new job, etc. Think about how good you feel when you wear new clothing. Your whole ... Views: 1087
Your feeling is the period at the end of the sentence. It’s the result of what you thought to a conclusive state, and it is the only way things can manifest in your life. The way to gain control of your feelings is to return to your second position and re-think what you’ve thought there because ... Views: 1613
You may have many pockets of unsettling feelings inside of you. I’ll make a list of some of them and you can indicate if this particular one is something that makes you uncomfortable and unable to change. Only honesty here will help you. You cannot hide yourself from you.
I would like to ... Views: 1471
If you have ever felt frozen in time and space as a result of some fear inside of you, you know precisely how uncomfortable that is, how you do not like that feeling, and how it keeps you from enjoying the life you love. I would like to talk about two forms that fear assumes and how you might ... Views: 891
We banter the word feelings around blithely. Have you ever sat down and looked more deeply into just what feelings means? We have learned as children to answer “How are you feeling today?” We use the word in our workaday life: “I’m feeling overwhelmed with all this work.” We use it around our ... Views: 1449
I became enthralled with the concept of change at a very early place in my life when I read about Gandhi and his principles. Because my life was also touched by the war in Lebanon, I knew life could not go on the way it was and I knew that I just had to change things in order for me to feel ... Views: 960
Mahatma Gandhi said “I want freedom for the full expression of my personality.” I began to think about that idea and it brought up another similar quotation that had hung for a full year on the board of my sixth grade classroom: “Personality is who people think you are; character is what God ... Views: 1255
I believe that our lives here on earth are one enormous learning situation. I have seen the lessons zoom in front of me time, after time, after time until I finally get it. Many lessons come in the form of discomfort.
The first time I was consciously aware that there was discomfort in my ... Views: 1266
I’ve spoken often about Be the Change. I love the idea of Change. Change is our privilege, a function of our free will, and it exercises autonomy in our lives when we learn how it functions and how to use it wisely and well.
In order to change, you have to decide that’s what you want to do. ... Views: 1200
The Change Cycle was developed 16 years ago by Ann Salerno and Lillie Brock. Their work was originally distributed by Interchange International Inc. which is known today as CCMC Inc.
Stage 1 – Loss
• Feelings of Fear
• Thoughts of Caution
• Behavior is Paralyzed
Stage 2 – ... Views: 1197
Let’s examine the idea of choice. In order for you to chose something – be that a dress to wear, a bicycle to buy, a sports event to attend, or what you want to think about – before you can make a choice, you have to think about the merits of your subject, look at all your options and then ... Views: 1110
Feeling trapped can leave us vulnerable to more and more dissatisfaction. I believe our lives should be lives of fulfillment and satisfaction, so let’s see what we can do to help you move away from feeling trapped?
What makes you feel trapped?
• Parental pressure?
• A toxic past?
• An ... Views: 1145
When we were small children, in an effort to control our exuberance, many of our school teachers sought to encourage conformity. We had to present our paperwork in a particular way. We have to behave in the prescribed manner. Our parents encouraged conformity also. We arose at the same time. ... Views: 1037
I found I could say things with color and shapes that I couldn't say any other way - things I had no words for. ~ Georgia O'Keeffe
Have you identified a color palette that is “you?” Do you strive to show your personality through the choices you make for your home’s décor? Are there colors ... Views: 1116
How might you define a healthy person? And if you already know what it means, would you say that you are a healthy person? What do you think is most important in being healthy: a healthy mind or a healthy body? Or could it be that having both mind and body equally healthy is the key?
What is ... Views: 1148
The whole secret of existence is to have no fear. Never fear what will become of you, depend on no one. Only the moment you reject all help are you freed. ~ Buddha
Have you lived long enough to truly know who you want to be? Have you fallen into the path of someone else’s concepts for who you ... Views: 1696
May the roof above us never fall in, and may we good companions beneath it never fall out. ~ Irish Blessing
Have you ever been in a building – frequently a place of worship – that feels safe and filled with peace? What about your own home environment: does it feel safe and filled with peace? ... Views: 1180
Second marriage is the triumph of hope over experience. ~ Samuel Johnson
Did your first marriage end in divorce? Did it leave you shaken and unsure about yourself, or life, or about marriage? Would you hesitate to enter into marriage again? Have you learned what you were supposed to learn ... Views: 992
I had a coach who told me I was much better than I thought I was, and would make me do more in a positive sense. He was the first person who taught me not to be afraid of failure. ~ Mike Krzyzewski
Have you ever experienced any event in your life where someone was behind you, supporting and ... Views: 1429
The environment must be rich in motives which lend interest to activity and invite the child to conduct his own experiences. ~ Maria Montessori
Do you think that your children are connected to nature? Do you remember the activities from your own childhood that bring up a sense of great joy? ... Views: 940
When health is absent, wisdom cannot reveal itself, art cannot manifest, strength cannot fight, wealth becomes useless, and intelligence cannot be applied. ~ Herophilus
Do you realize that a Super Mom’s life is a life of giving? While you’re taking care of them, who’s taking care of you? Can ... Views: 1311
Don't dig your grave with your own knife and fork. ~English Proverb
Dieting can be both a boon and a blessing. Yes, you might lose weight, but you have to also look at what it’s costing you in your health. If a diet promises rapid weight loss, you are almost guaranteed when you go off the ... Views: 1149
"One can be very happy without demanding that others agree with them." ~ Goethe
One of the strongest challenges to a relationship is communication. Assuming you know what your partner is thinking is most unwise. But if you work on your communication skills, you can work together to turn ... Views: 1297
The only shame is to have none. ~ Blaise Pascal
Are you one of those fine folks out there who knows deep inside your heart-of-hearts that you really want to change a few things in your life, but you just cannot find whatever it takes (you're not sure what it is) to get going? Overcoming shame ... Views: 1368
In the sweetness of friendship let there be laughter, and sharing of pleasures. For in the dew of little things the heart finds its morning and is refreshed. ~ Khalil Gibran
There is something special about the significance of "a new dawn, a new day." It's the end of a period of darkness, and ... Views: 1040
Leadership demands that we make tough choices. ~ Alan Autry
We have exercised the right to choose for many, many years. If you reminisce backwards, you’ll recognize at just how early of an age you were making choices. We become wiser in making choices as we mature, oftentimes because we ... Views: 1354
Build upon strengths, and weaknesses will gradually take care of themselves. ~ Joyce C. Lock
If you have worked hard to make the people in your life happy, you feel rewarded if they thank you, if you see them smile. You want your desire for their wellness and satisfaction to be rewarded, and ... Views: 1158
The quality, not the longevity, of one's life is what is important. ~ Martin Luther King, Jr.
Some people speak of that animating, unseen part of each of us as the soul. I like to think of it as the Mind. Whatever you call it, solving what the mystery about it is can be one of life's ... Views: 1760
Planning ahead can help your child enjoy a successful school year. Advocating through your participation will add to the health, well-being and success of your children, and will help their transition back to school that much more harmonious. Remember: you didn’t want summertime to end, and ... Views: 2004
Forget art. Put your trust in ice cream. ~ Charles Baxter
I know every one of my readers has experienced the joy of eating ice cream only to be suddenly hit with a brain freeze, mind-numbing headache. Am I right? Well, let's look at what causes brain freeze and what you can do to make it go ... Views: 1578
Although the most acute judges of the witches and even the witches themselves, were convinced of the guilt of witchery, the guilt nevertheless was non-existent. It is thus with all guilt.~ Friedrich Nietzsche
Have you found yourself motivated by guilt for skipping chores because you chose ... Views: 1998
"Choose your thoughts carefully; they are the builders of your life." ~ Anonymous
How many times have you set out with a fabulous plan for success and within a short period of time found yourself mentally kicked to the curb wondering why? You are not alone. Many people find it tough to ... Views: 1382
You can never, ever, use weight loss to solve problems that are not related to your weight. At your goal weight or not, you still have to live with yourself and deal with your problems. You will still have the same husband, the same job, the same kids, and the same life. Losing weight is not ... Views: 2180
Action is the normal completion of the act of will which begins as prayer. That action is not always external, but it is always some kind of effective energy. ~ Dean Inge
There are doers; there are procrastinators; there are finishers; and there are those who's entire life is surrounded by ... Views: 1814