Self Esteem Continued
To me, self esteem is the most important possession a human being can have. We were born innocent, and the lowering of self esteem occurred through life experiences and over time.
They key point, we were born with self esteem and it still exists within all of us, but with ... Views: 1158
Humor-Age and Wisdom
When doing my journal, I can get very serious. For those that really know me, humor has been a huge part of my recovery and journey, and is evident in most of the places I frequent. My higher power certainly finds ways to make sure I don’t take life too ... Views: 1157
SIMPLE SHARE on WHY
Why did I feel it necessary to get "help" and get a coach?
My simple story.
In 1994 I hit a wall. I was "sick and tired of being sick and tired" emotionally. While my self-employment was earning me a good living, many things around me were going unglued and I was turning ... Views: 1156
SPIRITUALITY-SOME THOUGHTS
I work with people who simply put, want to make major change in their life.
The reasons vary and may include addiction, abuse, stress, and depression. The common denominator is that the zest for life is not what they want and personal relationships are stressed or ... Views: 1156
Dick Cavett was quoted as saying "It is a rare person who wants to hear what he doesn't want to hear" and Oscar Wilde said "To love ones self is the beginning of a lifelong romance”. Emerson said "Where there is no vision, people perish".
I hit a point in my life where balance became a real ... Views: 1155
It is true for all of us, there are times when S..T happens. It is how we respond to it that counts.
I love to play golf. The golf course is such a window on life and an insight into the people who play the game. Spend four hours plus with a seemingly intelligent and balanced human being, let ... Views: 1154
DOES IT STILL PLAY FORWARD?
The biggest limiting factor in many lives today is the past, plain and simple.
In the “co-creative process of life recovery” that I deeply believe in, a huge part of the coached journey is taking a very hard and detailed look at the past and fully getting things ... Views: 1149
THE POWER OF ACCEPTANCE
As each new year begins, I love to go through and meditate on the 12 steps. As I constantly tell others, while the 12 steps in the familiar format people look at today come from AA, there is no better model for any human being to follow for good mental hygiene.
Want a ... Views: 1132
PLEASE LIKE ME?
I don’t know how many years I went through life deep down just wanting people to like me. Can you relate?
As a kid, I had friends, but never felt that I was anyone’s “best friend”. I longed to be the person who got that first phone call or had people knocking at my door on ... Views: 1129
Time to blossom
"The voice of our original self is often muffled, overwhelmed, even strangled, by the voices of other people's expectations." -- Julie Cameron
Ah, the expectations of others. They had a huge (negative) impact on my life, how about yours?
I lived many years feeling that I had ... Views: 1125
YOU WANT CHANGE. WHY?
Another great question prompted from my coaching mentor, Dr. Randin Brons “Idea Engineer”.
I work with intelligent people who are prepared to invest time, and in the case of my clients, money, to get a better life than current. To get what they want, they must be prepared ... Views: 1115
Playing Life Forward (and loving you).
Life moves forward whether we want it to or not. It never plays in reverse.
The past is past. Over. Finished. Our job is to move with the flow of the present. We are propelled by what went before, but we do not try to swim against the current of our ... Views: 1110
WILL THEY FIND OUT? (Or do they know?)
I sit here today a relatively content man. That is the result of a journey to change that I found the courage to start some 15 years ago.
Today, the constant worry about will they find out or even worse, do they already know is gone. What a ... Views: 1110
-living a life with new behavior in play!!
So here we are, at the end of the page, and oh what a challenge.
We’ve gone through all this work. We’ve had a “spiritual awakening as a result of THESE steps” and now we have to live the life?
So what are these principles ... Views: 1101
In working with others to help them find the life they desire, it is critical that the client look into themselves and understand what they really want, what are meaningful goals for them. How do you approach that?
Why is knowing the soul's desires so important?
Many people go through life ... Views: 1097
My Life Coaching mentor, Dr. Randin Brons, Has once again hit a chord with this week Idea Generator. Celebrate differences.
"Souls don't have races or sexes or religions. They are beyond artificial divisions." -- Brian Weiss
Intolerance of differences always exists in people who don't know ... Views: 1090
Practice, Practice, Practice
I’m a golf nut, and some may say certifiable.
With the amount of golf tips and lessons I’ve had appear on my computer screen this last little while; it caused me to reflect on not only my golf game, but my life.
I am a believer in asking for help, and when it ... Views: 1084
NOVEMBER 11
May I Never Forget/Gratitude
Thankfully, November 11 is an annual day that is celebrated. I wonder if I would so clearly remember to be grateful without the reminder.
I am truly grateful that I did not have to live through or fight in any global wars over my lifetime, and I pray ... Views: 1078
Got this great reading today from Hazelden, and boy did it hit home!
I only wish that I had “got it” as it relates to my mother by the time I was 35. Man, she, and a few select other very close to me, knew exactly what buttons to push. I’ve learned that it was I who allowed them to be pushed, ... Views: 1077
SIMPLE LOGIC (The God Thing)
You must wait and listen for the sound of the genuine that is within you. When you hear it, that will be your voice and the Voice of God.
- Howard Thurman, American author, civil rights leader, and theologian (1899-1981)
One of the great things with what I ... Views: 1072
WHAT AM I THINKING?
"I never know what I think about something until I read what I've written on it." -- William Faulkner
Years ago I was in a treatment facility trying to learn how to live life on life’s terms. To say my mind was a super speedway would have been an understatement. Disjointed ... Views: 1065
What a great reminder tonight, and it tied in to closing off my personal inventory.
I, like many others, had secrets buried deep inside of me that I honestly thought I die with. No one ever had to know.
Today I am aware that these secrets caused guilt and shame daily, and some I had buried so ... Views: 1054
Are you afraid to be different?
After doing a coaching session this morning, and spending a weekend in what will eventually be our new home town, I thought the question asked and information shown below (Received from Express Coaching-Dr. Randin Brons) was right on the money!
Unfortunately, ... Views: 1043
Some days I feel like a cartoon character and not my beloved Popeye.
I am the person you see in the cartoons with the little black cloud over my head every where I go. I’m thankful that I don’t get this way often, and know it will pass, but the feeling is here, right now. I think ... Views: 1042
TIGER GETS HONEST
“At first I didn’t want to look inward. Frankly, I was scared of what I would find—what I had become. But I am grateful I did examine my life because it made me more grounded than I’ve ever been; I hope that with reflection will come wisdom.” –Tiger Woods
This is the first ... Views: 1042
BEDEVILMENTS (interesting word)
Got this reading this morning, and the word bedevilment is one I have not seen in ages. So over to Mr. Webster. He says, "exasperating interference and trouble; a besetting with devils". The way he puts it, I know I have experienced it. Have you?
The message: ... Views: 1040
WE ARE “CREATED SELVES”
Shakespeare said it, “This above all; to thine own self be true”.
In a journey of life recovery, a transformation to a new and more abundant life, had not one of our real problems been true to our selves and selfishly so?
For me the answer to this was yes; but I know ... Views: 1032
-many ask for “things”
I thought about and journal about the need for prayer and meditation yesterday. Meditation is a listening skill.
I was familiar with prayer. As a child, I learned to pray in Sunday school and even in real school. We said grace before meals, and the like.
As my ... Views: 1030
After we have worked the 12 steps to the best of our ability, we have started a journey that offers unlimited potential. What we do from here is critical.
We have made tremendous change in our life. We have begun the practice of good mental hygiene and are humbly confidant in who we are. We ... Views: 1029
Do You Understand Detachment?
I’m off at 6 in the morning for golf, so an early blog!
For years, I have heard about detachment, often loving detachment. As the child of an alcoholic who went on to be a practicing addict in several areas, it is not a term I understood, particularly with ... Views: 1000
I am not, today, a religious person, but to move from a low start point to a life I love today, I had to understand what god is to me. It is safe to say, at my lowest hour, I was spiritually bankrupt. I was the centre of my own universe and I tried to control all within it. For a long period it ... Views: 1000
"The Doctor's Opinion"
-It Defies Psychologists
Why Co-Creative Life Recovery may be the best option to those with addictions; it works for everybody! A spiritual awakening plays a key role in the recovery of a life ANY person wants. While it works for those with addictions, it works for ALL. ... Views: 998
MORE ON ANGER
Today, I had the pleasure of reading an exert from a book called “In God’s Care” by Karen Casey. What a great reminder about the power of anger.
How many people do you run into in your own life that give off vibes that make you feel like there is a volcano present and just about ... Views: 983
Holistic Living-Spiritual Awakening
For something to have an “AWAKENING”, it must have been asleep. Now isn’t that the most brilliant thing you’ve ever read.
For me, I made the changes in my life for one big reason, to live abundantly with peace with in. I was an unhappy person and knew that ... Views: 981
Responsibility brings power.
"To be tested is good. The challenged life may be the best therapist." -- Gail Sheehy
Time spent on my personal co-creative process of recovering a life that I knew was meant for me opens my eyes to truths on a continuous basis.
One of these truths is that for my ... Views: 979
This action scared the living twist out of me!
What was hammered through my thick skull that the amends I made were for my benefit, not for the benefit of the person I was making amends to. I was carrying the garbage, and this step in my journey was for me to clear up my garbage, and I was told ... Views: 974
There was a point in my life, a decade plus ago, I was living in insanity. I was doing things that were negative repeatedly, but expecting a diffrent outcome. I was less than honest, leading a double life- one for the public and a diffrent life inside of me, I suffered frequent depression and ... Views: 950
Upon reflection, the biggest stumbling block to get a journey started to a life I am happy with was seven little letters. HONESTY.
Over many years I had lied to myself and others, I had been less the honest in dealings with others, and had created a Disneyland in my head which had become a ... Views: 948
Had some great feedback over taking a first step, powerless and unmanageable! Thanks. I learn from hearing from others.
I sometimes wonder if I’m not addicted to golf. Played twice over the weekend. Each day, even on the occasions of playing very poor shots, I am amazed by how I ... Views: 935
This getting your life back together, setting goals and being accountable is serious stuff!
That being said, Laughter plays a very important role along the way, and one of the new skills I have picked up is a genuine ability to laugh at myself. I found the following quote and reading a good ... Views: 933
Believing In You!
Over the weekend, I was asked by a friend about the similarities of people I coach on “Life” issues and in the area of addictions. Throw in people I work with on a “service/volunteer” base and there is one huge area in common.
Those who are struggling or ... Views: 931
By definition, unmerited means undeserved, and the gift I was given, the gift of life recovery-was seemingly undeserved. Why me?
The question has no answer that I understand.
For a long period of time, my life was in decline, some periods slow, some much more rapid and obvious to others. I was ... Views: 925
I was blessed a year or so ago to have a man named Patrick Meninga come into my life through “electronic” channels. He is the “Spiritual River” man (www.spiritualriver.com).
Over the period we have got to know each other and have partnered on a few very small ventures. Our common bonds? We are ... Views: 922
Learning to be aware of who we are and why a tremendous part of a recovery of life journey is. To do this, there is nothing better than a thorough working of the 4th step of the 12 steps.
Going forward, we must make sure we stay in contact with “self” in an honest fashion each and every day. We ... Views: 903
Using a Life Coach for Addiction Recovery
A dream is just a dream. A goal is a dream with a plan and deadline behind it.
As I went through a major process to determine what I wanted to focus on for the rest of my life, the answer finally came to me:
Helping others.
Specifically, coaching ... Views: 892
Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says: "I'll try again tomorrow."
--Anne Hunninghake
“A key quality that distinguishes a successful athlete, or a top-notch performer in any field, is the way he responds to his bad days. ... Views: 881
Interesting day today.
It’s interesting when you go to a closed 12 step meeting and run in to someone you know from another part of life. I have no concerns about people knowing I’m in recovery. I accepted that I was powerless over a few things fourteen years ago, and that began my ... Views: 878
Frequently I am reminded of what asset humility is. Frequently, when I think of “humility” I think of “humiliation”.
My actions were responsible for humiliation to both myself and others I care about, and humiliation is not something I want! I am slowly starting to learn ... Views: 870
As a part of each day, I start with the “Serenity Prayer” to get a focus for the day. This has become an ingrained daily habit, but as can happen, sometimes we don’t pay attention to things we do so frequently.
Today, from Hazelden, I received a great reminder, and it was ... Views: 867
A weekend just past and the first client of day completed, and my head turns to a technique known as mirroring.
Funny, as I work with clients to bring out the talent within them, I find myself asking questions that I am, in part, asking of myself. It is true that we see ourselves in others. In ... Views: 859