An excerpt from upcoming 8/25/11 blog radio talk show "A Fine Time for Healing"
If you’ve ever been in love, chances are that you have suffered the devastating feelings of at least one relationship break up. Immediately following the death of a love relationship, your heart is shattered. ... Views: 1421
I was brought up in a Jewish, kosher home. Our family life revolved around Judaism. My grandfather was an Orthodox Cantor. I went to Hebrew School three times a week for six years and became a Bat Mitzvah. Even our kitchen clock had hebrew letters instead of numbers. Although the ... Views: 1280
How to Throw a Successful Pity Party and Then Start Thriving Again
I have discussed this thought in previous articles, but this time I will state it in the form of an affirmation: "There is a reason of greater good for everything that happens."
Acknowledging that there is a greater good ... Views: 1114
Recognizing the Red Flags
Article Written by Randi G. Fine
Author of Close Encounters of the Worst Kind: The Narcissistic Abuse Survivor’s Guide to Healing and Recovery
Narcissists are everywhere. These predators covertly walk among us in droves. Adept at changing their personalities in ... Views: 1093
Narcissism is an instinctive trait of self-love that everyone possesses to some degree. In infancy we all possess traits of narcissism that are appropriate for that level of development such as self-absorption, omnipotence and grandiosity. However, these same characteristic are seen as ... Views: 1528
The word Karma is new age and trendy. We see it used on food products, bath and body products, on business names, as titles of songs, etc. But how many of us really know what it means?
Karma is often thought of as reciprocal punishment, with the same connotation as, “An eye for an eye.” ... Views: 4671
"Among those whom I like or admire, I can find no common denominator, but among those whom I love, I can; all of them make me laugh" ~ W. H. Auden
A few days ago I went to visit my ex-mother-in-law, along with my daughter Cammy (her granddaughter) who was in town for the weekend. I usually ... Views: 1408
What is Your Emotional Awareness About Your Past?
Identifying Unexpressed Emotion
To find out if you are having trouble letting go of the past, please answer yes or no to the following twenty questions:
Do you have painful childhood memories that you have yet to deal with?
Do you ... Views: 1303
Partial transcript from 9/12/11 episode of my radio show, A Fine Time for Healing
Death is one of the greatest mysteries of life. Haven’t we all thought about what happens to us after we die. Every religion claims to have the answer, but all the answers differ. There are many points of ... Views: 2263
You Are Living Your Life But Are You Living Your Legacy?
Part One of a Three Part Article Written by Randi G. Fine
Have you ever asked yourself what your ultimate purpose is; what you are supposed to add to this world and what imprint you will leave on it? Are you living the legacy you hope ... Views: 936
You Are Living Your Life But Are You Living Your Legacy?
Conclusion of a Three Part Article Written by Randi G. Fine
You may not realize it but your life has been influenced by or benefited from the lives of those who have gone before you; your parents, grandparents, great grandparents. They ... Views: 909
You Are Living Your Life But Are You Living Your Legacy?
Part Two of a Three Part Article Written by Randi G. Fine
A life lived virtuously and consciously ripples and reverberates eternal. That is the legacy of unsung heroes.
That is one of the legacies I hope to leave behind and try to ... Views: 809
Self Love Comes Before All Else
"You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection." ~Buddha
So many women struggle with the concept of self-love. Women by nature are nurturers, caretakers. Many of us believe that it is our duty to give and give, ... Views: 1181
Making Difficult, Courageous Decisions
Written by Randi G. Fine
A life rooted in faith, love, and honor is one of compassion and acceptance; one that values and respects others for their intelligence, strength, and courage. ~Randi G. Fine
Finding the courage to make a difficult decision, ... Views: 1060
We steal if we touch tomorrow. It is God's. ~ Henry Ward Beecher
Life is a journey, a path we take to self discovery and higher learning. Our dreams, wishes, and goals place us on this path and keep us moving forward. Everyone embraces their journey differently. Some set goals and ... Views: 1070
Is One Parent a Narcissist and the Other an Enabler?
To find out if you have a narcissistic parent and a parent who enables him or her, please answer yes or no to the following twenty questions:
Did you grow up in a two parent home with one parent significantly more domineering than ... Views: 3154
Narcissists Need to Show Perfection to the World, At Any Cost
There is an elderly woman I know (whom I will not name) whose narcissism is so severe that it is physically destroying her. This woman has been suffering from a painful auto-immune disease for thirty-five years.
Progressively ... Views: 1613
Narcissistic Parents Divide Their Children Through Triangulation
Conflict is a normal part of family dynamics. The fact that a family argues from time to time does not make it a dysfunctional family unit. What makes a family dysfunctional is the emotional pain and confusion that prevails ... Views: 2026
Life Transitions
Written by Randi G. Fine
Life is a series of beginnings and endings. Seasons change; trees blossom and then go barren, flowers bloom and then go dormant, day turns to night, years begin and they end, we are born and we die.
Endings are not sudden, nor are beginnings. They ... Views: 1015
Life Transitions
Written by Randi G. Fine
Transition is uncomfortable and difficult but nothing in life would exist without it.
Transitions have beginnings and ends. We cannot possibly know what is in store for us, but hindsight of our past will assure us that everything will work out ... Views: 994
Can Your Children Be Honest?
Parenting Advice: Establishing Open Communication and Trust
I often hear parents say, “My child does not tell me anything.”
Children go through phases, particularly during their adolescent years, when they see no logical or justifiable reason to communicate ... Views: 1305
Recovering From Relationship Codependency
(Codependency Part Two)
written by Randi G. Fine
Originally published on Life As A Human
Codependency is an emotional disorder that begins forming in childhood, but it does not reveal itself until a person starts having adult ... Views: 1203
The word spirituality is often interchanged with the words faith and religion. Though they are interrelated, the terms have very different meanings. This article will specifically focus on what it means to embrace spirituality, and the many positive attributes of living a life that is ... Views: 2475
Addictive Personalities
Conclusion of a Three Part Article Written by Randi G. Fine
Deep down inside people with addictions know that what they are doing is wrong. They know that their behaviors, choices, and actions are hurting them and their loved ones. But the need to feed their addiction ... Views: 850
Addictive Personalities
Part Two of a Three Part Article Written by Randi G. Fine
Much has been written about genetic predisposition and its relationship to addictive personalities. Having an addict in the family does not guarantee that everyone in the family will become addicts. But many ... Views: 909
Addictive Personalities
Part One of a Three Part Article Written by Randi G. Fine
How do you envision someone with an addictive personality? Do you picture an alcoholic, someone strung out on drugs, a chain smoker, or a gambler down on his luck?
Addictive behaviors are commonly thought of ... Views: 1256
One would think that by the time we reach our fifties, our abilities and hidden talents would have already become apparent. Well that may be true for many, but it wasn’t true in my case. What is odd is that before it happened to me, I had always looked upon the talent that suddenly sprung from ... Views: 1504
When Children Don’t Stand a Chance
Narcissistic mothers do not have children for the right reasons. They are not nurturers. They have no maternal instincts or genuine love to give. To the narcissistic mother, children represent a captive narcissistic supply. Because a young child’s very ... Views: 1840
Through a Simple Twist of Faith
Part one of a three-part article written by Randi G. Fine
I was born into a highly observant Jewish family. My mother’s father, a Lithuanian immigrant, was a pious man. He was a cantor by trade—an ordained Jewish clergy with a magnificent voice who joined ... Views: 787
Through a Simple Twist of Faith
The conclusion of a three-part article written by Randi G. Fine
I should have seen the writing on the wall and planned an exit strategy long before I needed it but I had not. Financially dependent and deeply in denial I lingered until the very last second. ... Views: 862
Through a Simple Twist of Faith
Part two of a three-part article written by Randi G. Fine
Some who suffer adversity have had their lives negatively altered by an identifiable, pivotal event. Others gradually lose their foothold over a period of years. Though unaware that it was happening ... Views: 1040
Parenting is far from easy; it takes consistency and tenacity. While raising children, we plant many seeds in them and hope they will grow. It is difficult to know how we are doing as parents and what the end results will be, because these seeds take many years to cultivate. We may feel like ... Views: 1072
Twenty Choices You Can Make to Increase Happiness
In our pursuit of happiness we must first realize and accept that being happy is a deliberate choice; a choice we make every moment of every day. There are many strategies to help make attaining that goal possible. Following is a list of ... Views: 696
Take The Quiz
To find out if you are suffering from relationship codependency, please answer yes or no to the following twenty questions:
Do you put others’ feelings, desires and needs before your own?
Are you drawn to relationships with people who lack stability and/or are ... Views: 989
Have You and Your Siblings Been the Target of Narcissistic Parental Triangulation?
To find out if your narcissistic parent has used triangulation to divide you and your siblings, please answer yes or no to the following twenty questions:
Is there one sibling in your family who is your ... Views: 3635
Do you suspect that you are suffering emotional abuse from someone who has narcissistic personality disorder? Here are twenty of the most common behaviors you may be experiencing:
Does he rage when his opinion, point of view, or idea is challenged, even slightly?
Is she emotionally ... Views: 926
Many of us, myself included, have suffered through difficult childhoods. It is with greater clarity that we are able to evaluate our past from an adult perspective. Though we may be cognizant of the root of our pain, our childhood experiences were tightly woven into the cloth that made us who ... Views: 1167
Have you ever asked yourself, “What am I doing all this for? Why is life such a struggle? What am I accomplishing?’”
I am fascinated by life after life accounts. I’ve read a multitude of books written by reputable spiritual mediums and have attended their seminars. I have personally ... Views: 1184