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- Declaring a Truce at the Holiday Dinner Table - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2013 from Sharon RivkinWith the holidays fast approaching, our emotions seem to jump all over the place. We’re excited, anxious, stressed, because there’s so much to plan, and we want the holidays to be perfect. Yet, the thought of the holiday dinner quickly reminds us of past events that have been anything but ...
Views: 996 - ***6 Tips for Resolving Your Thanksgiving Hassles NOW - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2012 from Sharon RivkinHe says no…she says yes. She wants to go to her best friend’s for Thanksgiving dinner, he’s firm about going to his parents’. She wants a change…he wants the same. Suddenly you’re not feeling thankful for anything at all. Sound familiar? So, how do you put the thankful back into ...
Views: 1371 - ***What’s Working and What Isn’t? 5 Ways to Get a Jump Start on a Fight-Free Holiday Season - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2012 from Sharon RivkinWith the holidays around the corner, and before the stress and panic really hit, make this a time to look at your relationship and take inventory to see what’s working and what isn’t. Begin to NURTURE your relationship NOW, in new and more effective ways, so that the holidays can ...
Views: 2399 - ***Strategies to Stop Fighting and Start Loving During the Holidays - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2012 from Sharon RivkinAre you tired of feeling stressed and angry during the holidays? Do you want this special time of the year to be filled with peace and joy? Do you wish for a fight-free holiday season with your loved ones? Make your Christmas wish come true by following these simple guidelines that will turn ...
Views: 1372 - ***Before, During, and After: How to Declare a Truce at the Holiday Dinner Table - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2012 from Sharon RivkinWith the holidays fast approaching, our emotions seem to jump all over the place. We’re excited, anxious, stressed, because there’s so much to plan, and we want the holidays to be perfect. Yet, the thought of the holiday dinner quickly reminds us of past events that have been anything but ...
Views: 1538 - ***Your First Holiday Season After A Divorce or Separation - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2012 from Sharon RivkinAfter a separation or divorce, the first holiday season can bring tremendous stress and sadness, in addition to feeling overwhelmed and frightened. Coping with loss and grief, coupled with changes in familiar patterns and traditions, can magnify your feelings about the separation or divorce ...
Views: 2658 - ***5 Effective Ways to Cope with Holiday Stress During the Recession - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2012 from Sharon RivkinFor most of us, we want the holidays to be fun and exciting. But more often than not, the holiday season evokes tension and stress. By spending more money than our budgets allow, or going overboard by eating the wrong foods, or taking on too many activities…these external stressors are only a ...
Views: 2327(2 votes) - ***What to Do When Your Partner Has Become Your Enemy - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2012 from Sharon RivkinWhere has all the love gone that you once felt for your partner? Do you seem to fight about everything? Has your partner become your enemy? How did it happen? These are common questions I address time and time again in my private practice. The process of “building a case against our ...
Views: 12060(3 votes) - ***The Downfall of Fall - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2012 from Sharon RivkinAs summer ends, we see the light changing and the days becoming shorter and shorter. That fall chill in the air seems to come out of nowhere, and we often begin to sense sadness and maybe even depression, prompting us to think, what’s that all about? Though fall is beautiful with the leaves ...
Views: 1528 - ***Seven Ways to Ruin Your Marriage - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2012 from Sharon RivkinUnless someone is completely vicious, no one enters a marriage with the intention of destroying it, yet the divorce rate gets higher every year and couples, even if they don’t divorce, are often unhappy and in loveless marriages. By being aware of what you may be doing in your marriage that ...
Views: 1766 - ***Have We Gone Too Far with List Making? 5 Reasons to Hang On or Let Go of Your Latest Love - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2012 from Sharon RivkinWe’re a cult of list makers. We make to-do lists, grocery lists, packing lists, and now a list of must-have qualities for our potential partner. She needs to be independent, yet be devoted; he needs to earn a good living, yet have enough time for her. He needs to have follow-through on his ...
Views: 1456 - ***Giving Up the Fantasy of the Perfect Mate, What REAL Marriages Are All About - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2012 from Sharon RivkinWe all seem to think that we need to find our perfect mate or soul mate. But does a perfect mate even exist and, if so, does this mean that the only way to be happy is to find this perfect soul mate? What if you don’t? What if you spend your entire life looking, only to end up alone in your ...
Views: 2413 - ***Getting Back In So You Can Finally Stay Out - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2012 from Sharon RivkinOne of the hardest things to do is to leave a relationship. A more difficult undertaking is staying out. Maybe it wasn’t so bad. Maybe I didn’t try hard enough. Maybe she could change after all. Maybe I could put up with more than I thought; after all, I do love him. When we leave our ...
Views: 1525 - ***Formula for Creating a Strong and Healthy Marriage - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2012 from Sharon RivkinThe healthiest and longest lasting relationships don’t just happen because a couple fell in love. The majority of strong and healthy marriages are created by using a formula composed of six vital elements. 1. Good/open/honest communication and a willingness to change. This happens with ...
Views: 1590 - ***Can Spouses Have Friends with the Opposite Sex? The Do’s and Don’ts for Making it Work - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2012 from Sharon RivkinMale or female friendships are usually a threat to the primary relationship, but they really don’t HAVE to be. What fears us the most is the sexual aspect of this oftentimes complicated relationship. It’s difficult to keep the friendship platonic, given that 90% of the time, one of the friends ...
Views: 2969(1 vote) - ***Can a Democrat Stay Happily Married to a Republican? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2012 from Sharon RivkinIn these tough times of economic and political turmoil, with a critical Presidential election right around the corner, everyone is talking politics. Hot political debate is being fueled around the dinner table, over coffee, over drinks, and at parties. The upcoming election is in the air! ...
Views: 4362(2 votes) - ***A Healthy Marriage Doesn’t Happen Out of the Blue: Five Must-Do Secrets that Really Work - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2012 from Sharon RivkinWe seem to prepare for everything in our life – jobs, exams, etc. Why then don’t we prepare for a successful marriage? According to divorce statistics, it is estimated that between 40 and 50 percent of first marriages end in divorce in the United States. Without realizing it, most couples have ...
Views: 1501 - ***Has Your Spouse Become Your Enemy? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2012 from Sharon Rivkin3 Steps to Resolving Your Fights and Loving Each Other Again Months before they married, Kyle told Hilary that he wanted to dance with her at their wedding. Hilary agreed, and they signed up for dancing lessons. But when the wedding day arrived, the train on Hilary’s dress made it too ...
Views: 2257 - Seven Powerful Ways to Make Your Marriage Last - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2012 from Sharon RivkinMarriage is supposed to last “forever,” isn’t it? When we decide to get married, we truly believe that forever will happen. Sometimes that’s easier said than done, because most of us don’t have realistic guidelines or tools to know how to make a marriage last. When we fall in love, we usually ...
Views: 3848(5 votes) - How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2012 from Sharon RivkinAccording to statistics, 45 or 55 percent of married women and 50 to 60 percent of married men engage in extramarital sex at some time or another during their relationship. An affair is one of the most difficult challenges a couple can face, and nothing destroys a marriage faster than marital ...
Views: 2160(3 votes) - Affairs: The Ultimate Challenge - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2012 from Sharon RivkinAn affair is one of the most difficult challenges a couple can face. It is a powerful catalyst that can either end the relationship or take it to a greater level of intimacy. An extreme symptom of a relationship that has been in trouble for some time, affairs do not happen out of the blue. ...
Views: 2123(2 votes) - Change Your Language, Change Your Relationship: How We Say Things Does Matter - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2012 from Sharon RivkinThat old phrase, “sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me” is not really true. Words may not inflict visible bruises like sticks and stones, but they pack a punch nonetheless. They injure our insides, our feelings, and our self-esteem. External bruises are tangible ...
Views: 2610(4 votes) - Does Your Spouse Steal the Limelight? - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2012 from Sharon RivkinDoes your spouse take credit for your ideas? Or do people compliment your spouse for tasks or projects that you did? Do you get the credit where credit is due? For example, Jill herself maintains a beautiful garden and takes a lot of pride in it. One day, a neighbor comes to visit the couple ...
Views: 3295(2 votes) - Five Steps for Letting Go of Hurt in Your Marriage - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2012 from Sharon RivkinOne of the greatest desires married couples have is to stay together forever and have a happy, healthy relationship. But what about past hurts that you can’t let go of? Are they creating more pain than happiness in your relationship? When you get hurt by your partner, you lose trust and ...
Views: 2373(1 vote) - What to Do When Anger Turns to Rage in a Relationship Conflict - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2012 from Sharon RivkinThere is a significant difference between anger and rage. Anger can be viewed as a scale that ranges from minor irritation to intense rage. It can be very scary indeed when the scale tips toward rage. Most of us don’t have any idea what to do when someone we love becomes that angry. Do we ...
Views: 4703(2 votes) - My Partner Cheated, Why Was I the Last to Know? - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2012 from Sharon RivkinUsually we’re surprised by an affair because we’ve ignored the early warning signs, such as arguments that never got resolved, or built up feelings of resentment due to diminishing communication and emotional and sexual interest. We don’t realize that these are the seeds of affairs. We don’t ...
Views: 1899(1 vote) - How to Predict a Cheating Spouse - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2012 from Sharon RivkinThe same, unanswered questions keep getting asked each time a celebrity or politician gets caught cheating: Why? Are they bored? Is the fear of getting caught exciting? Is monogamy just not their thing? Are they searching for an outlet for fetishes they’re afraid to ask their partners about? Do ...
Views: 2084(1 vote) - Relationship Red Flags: 5 Tips for Identifying Your Negotiables and Non-Negotiables - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2012 from Sharon RivkinYou’re in a new relationship, and you’re starting to see some red flags, warning you that the relationship may not be a good bet, but does that mean you should leave? How many red flags does it take to make that decision? How do you know if the red flags mean future disaster, or are just a ...
Views: 3131(3 votes) - Seven Warning Signs of a Troubled Relationship - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2012 from Sharon RivkinWhen is it time to say, “My relationship is in trouble, and we need help”? How do you know when that time is? When couples wait too long to ask for help, the relationship may be beyond repair. The sooner help is sought, the better chance there is of recovering, saving, and actually ...
Views: 2287(1 vote) - ***The Most Important Argument You’ll Ever Have in Your Relationship - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2012 from Sharon RivkinThe first argument is the most crucial argument you will ever have in your relationship, setting the stage for all arguments to follow. Future conflicts will often look and sound like they’re different, but most times are simply variations of the first, unresolved argument. Understanding that ...
Views: 3349(1 vote) - ***How Your First Argument Could Last For 50 Years - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2012 from Sharon RivkinSounds crazy, but it’s true! Simply put, the first argument you have with your partner, if left unresolved, will manifest itself time and time again - in different forms – throughout your entire relationship. When we fall in love and begin a partnership, we temporarily maintain our best ...
Views: 3223(1 vote) - ***A Year Without Arguments? 3 Proven Steps to Stop Fighting and Start Healing - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2012 from Sharon RivkinHave you ever considered a year without arguments? In these times of economic chaos, it is more important than ever to minimize your fighting and disagreements, and create a more harmonious relationship with your spouse and family. Couples simply cannot afford to divorce as easily during a ...
Views: 2006 - 4 Ways to Survive the Hard Times and Come Out Closer - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Sharon RivkinIs it possible for something good to come out of the economic downturn? Can a relationship, even one that may be experiencing its own hard times, come out better for surviving the hard times? Here are some ways to use the recession to your benefit: 1. Back to Basics. View this as an ...Is ...
Views: 2432(2 votes) - 6 Ways to Stay Focused on What You Really Want in Your Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Sharon RivkinNo matter how young or old you are, or how hard things have been, it’s never too late to review what works and what doesn’t work in your life. It’s easy to lose focus on what you really want due to the daily demands of life. However, there’s always a way to look at your life differently, to ...
Views: 4779 - Health and Harmony in Relationships: It All Starts with YOU! - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Sharon Rivkin“Stress is damaging to your health, so take care of yourself,” is very sound advice, but what exactly does that mean and how exactly do you take care of yourself and lessen stress? Experiencing optimal physical, mental, and spiritual health includes the good fortune of having healthy and ...
Views: 3875(1 vote) - How Your First Argument Could Last for 50 Years - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Sharon RivkinSounds crazy, but it’s true! Simply put, the first argument you have with your partner, if left unresolved, will manifest itself time and time again - in different forms – throughout your entire relationship. When we fall in love and begin a partnership, we temporarily maintain our best ...
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