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- *** Solution Focused Therapy - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2009 from Garrett CoanMost types of psychotherapy involve exploring feelings, being validated, finding explanations, exploring wishes and dreams, setting goals, and gaining clarity. Every therapist has unique ways of working with clients, based on his or her personality, training, and views of how people change. A ...
Views: 4167(2 votes) - *** Become More Self-Confident - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2009 from Garrett CoanSigns of Self-Confidence Let's explore the meaning of self-confidence by taking a quiz. Read the list of statements below and check which ones, in your opinion, are signs of self-confidence. 1. Admitting when you are wrong. 2. Being flexible when change is needed. 3. Talking about your ...
Views: 2026(4 votes) - ***Addiction: How to Recognize It and What to Do about It - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2009 from Garrett CoanAddiction to alcohol and other drugs is a chronic disease. It is progressive, continuous, and long-term. Alcohol or drug abuse means that a person has control over whether he or she drinks or uses. Alcohol or drug dependence means that a person has lost all control over his or her drinking or ...
Views: 1368(3 votes) - ***Effective Strategies For Stopping Procrastination - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2009 from Garrett CoanYou will have the greatest success if you read the first newsletter and take some time to observe your own procrastination patterns. Once you have accomplished that, choose a few of the strategies outlined here. Keep working at it until you understand what you need to do to stop putting things ...
Views: 1713(2 votes) - ***Should I Leave my Job? - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2009 from Garrett CoanMost of us have to work for a living. Since we spend so many hours each week at our jobs, it's very important that there is a good fit. If you have been feeling less enthusiastic about your work situation recently, maybe you have even begun to wonder if it is time to move on. Here are seven ...
Views: 1582(2 votes) - ***How to Recover from a Career Crisis - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2009 from Garrett CoanIf you have ever experienced any of the following, you have had a career crisis: Loosing your job Being fired Burning out Not wanting to do your job for one more day A career crisis can be caused either by someone else (being laid off) or by your own feelings ...
Views: 1570(1 vote) - ***Should I Leave This Relationship? - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2009 from Garrett CoanHow do you know when it's time to say goodbye to a relationship? In any intimate relationship-especially in a marriage-it's not a good idea to let a doomed partnership drag on, simply to avoid the pain of a breakup. Signs of Trouble There are some warning signs that your relationship is in ...
Views: 1241(1 vote) - ***29 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Tuned Up - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2009 from Garrett CoanWhy do some relationships last forever and others fall apart? Here are some ways you can make your partner feel appreciated again and prevent your relationship from becoming a casualty. Treat your partner as you would your boss, best friend, or best customer. Think about what your ...
Views: 1392(1 vote) - ***Help! I Need to Make a Decision! - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2009 from Garrett CoanMany people who come to my office say they have a difficult time making decisions. I have developed a process to help my clients master this skill. I recommend that people follow these four steps: 1. Identify the real issue. For example, you are trying to decide which movie to see, but you ...
Views: 1919(1 vote) - ***How to Forgive Another Person for Past Hurts - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2009 from Garrett CoanNo one gets through life without being hurt by another person. We all have experienced the pain of a thoughtless remark, gossip, or lie. If you have experienced an unhappy marriage, the devastation of infidelity, or suffered physical or emotional abuse, you know what it feels like to be hurt. It ...
Views: 1687(1 vote) - ***Managing Perfectionism - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2009 from Garrett CoanThis is the first of two newsletters that address perfectionism. In this issue, we will explore what perfectionism is and why it is destructive. In the next one, we will take a look at some strategies for both controlling the need to be perfect and living a more relaxed, satisfying life. What ...
Views: 1475(2 votes) - ***How to Deal Effectively With Anxiety - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2010 from Garrett CoanEvery human feels anxiety on occasion; it is a part of life. All of us know what it is like to feel worry, nervousness, fear, and concern. We feel nervous when we have to give a speech, go for a job interview, or walk into our boss's office for the annual performance appraisal. We know it's ...
Views: 883(1 vote) - ***Depression: What It Is and What to Do about It - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2009 from Garrett CoanThere are three basic ways to treat depression: psychotherapy, self-help, and medication. Many people respond best to a combination of two or more methods. Psychotherapy: Exploring one’s beliefs and ways of thinking, and learning new ways of thinking and behaving, with the guidance of a ...
Views: 1073(1 vote) - ***Assertive Communication: 20 Tips - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2009 from Garrett CoanMost of us know that assertiveness will get you further in life than being passive or aggressive. But few of us were actually taught how to be assertive. Here are some helpful tips. 1. Choose the right time. Imagine you’re dashing down the hall on your way to a meeting. Lisa passes by. ...
Views: 1455(1 vote) - ***Become More Self-Confident - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2009 from Garrett CoanSigns of Self-Confidence Let's explore the meaning of self-confidence by taking a quiz. Read the list of statements below and check which ones, in your opinion, are signs of self-confidence. 1. Admitting when you are wrong. 2. Being flexible when change is needed. 3. Talking about ...
Views: 1307(6 votes) - ***Recognizing Depression's Warning Signs - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2009 from Garrett CoanDepression is a serious illness, not a harmless part of life. It is a complex disorder with a variety of causes. It is never caused by just one thing. It may be the result of a mix of factors, including genetic, chemical, physical, and sociological. It is also influenced by behavior patterns ...
Views: 925(6 votes) - ***Recovering From a Career Crisis - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2009 from Garrett CoanIf you have ever experienced any of the following, you have had a career crisis: Losing your job Being fired Burning out Not wanting to do your job for one more day A career crisis can be caused either by someone else (being laid off) or by your own feelings (burning ...
Views: 1223(4 votes) - ***Use a Journal For Self-Discovery and Self-Expression - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2009 from Garrett CoanAs a therapist, I often suggest to clients that they explore their feelings and thoughts by keeping a journal. Sometimes clients ask for a bit of direction with this process. Here are some journaling ideas if you're not sure where to start: 1. Write down what happened today and how you felt ...
Views: 1830(6 votes) - ***Should I Consult a Therapist? - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2009 from Garrett CoanMost of us experience times when we need help to deal with problems and issues that cause us emotional distress. When you are having a problem or dilemma that is making you feel overwhelmed, you may benefit from the assistance of an experienced, trained professional. Professional counselors and ...
Views: 910(3 votes) - ***Surviving Those Holiday Blues - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2009 from Garrett CoanNot everyone shares in the celebration and joy associated with the holidays. Many people feel stressed and unhappy in response to the demands of shopping for gifts, spending large amounts of money, attending parties and family gatherings, and entertaining houseguests. It is not uncommon to react ...
Views: 887(2 votes) - ***Unlock Your Potential Through Self-Awareness - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2009 from Garrett CoanSigns of Discontent You don't need a degree in psychology to know when you're off-track, but sometimes it creeps up on you. It can seem like you wake up one day and realize that things are not right. These are a few of the signs: You don't want to get out of bed. You have a hard time ...
Views: 939(3 votes) - ***Achieving Success Through Effective Goal Setting - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2009 from Garrett CoanIt is important to have goals because they are good for your physical and mental health. You can have goals for all areas of your life. Here are a few ideas: Career, Learning, Clubs, Money,Community, Politics, Contribution, Professional, Emotional, Reading, Family, Relationships, Health, ...
Views: 1018(4 votes) - ***How to Enhance and Enrich Your Marriage - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2009 from Garrett CoanAny marriage counselor will tell you that one of the most common problems observed when couples come for help is poor communication skills. People get into trouble in their marriages because they have not developed their ability to listen and communicate. Barriers to Communication These ...
Views: 1007(3 votes) - ***How to Parent Your Teen Effectively - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2009 from Garrett CoanMaintain Communication Even though teens need to separate from their parents during adolescence, they also need to know that the safety net of home and family is always there for them. If the lines of communication are shut down, they are not yet capable of surviving emotionally; they need ...
Views: 1156(3 votes) - ***Managing Your Stepfamily - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2009 from Garrett CoanIf you are a member of a stepfamily, you know how difficult it can be to integrate all of the new members and adjust to the new boundaries and rules. The following ideas may help you make a successful transition during this challenging process. Have patience. Establishing new families takes ...
Views: 1473(4 votes) - ***Negotiating Skills Will Get You Ahead - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2009 from Garrett CoanNegotiating skills can help you manage lots of different kinds of life situations, both at work and in your personal relationships. Here are a few examples of where these skills can help you build an even better life for yourself: 1. Many family situations require negotiating with others. ...
Views: 1436(5 votes) - ***How to Be Less of a Perfectionist and Enjoy Life More - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2009 from Garrett CoanYou will have the greatest success if you read the first newsletter and take some time to observe your own perfectionist patterns. Once you have accomplished that, choose a few of the strategies outlined here. Keep working at it until you understand what you need to do to accept your ...
Views: 1161(2 votes) - ***Keeping Your Anger Under Control - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2009 from Garrett CoanIn my work with individuals and couples, I see many people who have a difficult time expressing and managing angry feelings. Let's take a look at what causes people to become angry and how they can respond to stressful situations more productively. What Is Anger? Many people think that ...
Views: 1511(3 votes) - ***The Impact of Divorce on Families - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2009 from Garrett CoanAs a licensed mental health professional, I work with many individuals, couples, and families who are affected by divorce. I see the devastating effects that breakups can have and am dedicated to helping people develop the skills to cope with experiences like divorce. Major Disruptions The ...
Views: 1310(2 votes) - ***How Do You Change Yourself? - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2009 from Garrett CoanWhat Is Happiness? If you are thinking about changing your life for the better, one way to start is by identifying your goals. You are probably hoping to find some version of happiness or emotional well-being. That might look like any combination of the following: A sense of ...
Views: 1060(2 votes) - ***Stress Busting Strategies - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2009 from Garrett CoanLearn to have healthy relationships: This subject could fill an entire book. In the limited space of this newsletter, let's look at the key components of this stress-reducing strategy. 1. Identify the sources of stress in your relationships. Write about them in a journal. Make a list of ...
Views: 1259(6 votes) - ***Coping As a Caregiver - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2009 from Garrett CoanFew people are prepared for the responsibilities and tasks involved in caring for loved ones who are ill, elderly, or disabled. The success of the relationship between you and your loved one depends on several factors. One of the most important is how well you take care of yourself, empowering ...
Views: 1232(2 votes) - ***Is Your Company in Need of Family Therapy? - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2009 from Garrett CoanHow Companies Are Like Families Like a family, a company is a group of people who have an ongoing relationship with one another. Companies have several things in common with families: 1. Families have distinct ways of communicating and degrees of togetherness. For example: Communication ...
Views: 1073(1 vote) - ***How to Create a Positive Work Atmosphere - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2009 from Garrett CoanPositive versus Negative Workplaces We have all worked in places where we grew to dread getting up in the morning, and a few of us have had the pleasure of working for a boss who makes us feel like we can do anything. Let's take a look at the differences between a positive and a negative work ...
Views: 1729(1 vote) - ***Effective Ways to Give Performance Feedback - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2009 from Garrett CoanConsequences of Not Giving Effective Feedback Let's take a look at some typical examples of what goes on in work environments when managers don't give good feedback. Example #1: John has been working at his new job for one month. On his first day at work, Wilma, his boss, showed him what ...
Views: 1913(22 votes) - ***Resolving Conflicts Effectively - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2009 from Garrett CoanEvery relationship has conflicts. In some relationships, conflict is a serious problem; in others, differences seem to be resolved without creating a major incident. Think about the kinds of conflicts that happen in your daily life. These are typical: 1. Disagreements over who should do ...
Views: 1021(1 vote) - ***Solution Focused Therapy - by Submitted on May 27, 2009 from Garrett CoanMost types of psychotherapy involve exploring feelings, being validated, finding explanations, exploring wishes and dreams, setting goals, and gaining clarity. Every therapist has unique ways of working with clients, based on his or her personality, training, and views of how people change. A ...
Views: 1356 - ***How to Deal Effectively With Anxiety - by Submitted on May 27, 2009 from Garrett CoanEvery human feels anxiety on occasion; it is a part of life. All of us know what it is like to feel worry, nervousness, fear, and concern. We feel nervous when we have to give a speech, go for a job interview, or walk into our boss's office for the annual performance appraisal. We know it's ...
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