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- Who You Really Are - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2011 from Willie HortonThere is a well-worm saying that suggests that perception is, in fact, reality. And, no matter how most thinking people might laugh off such a notion, the fact is that for the normal mind, reality is just that - the sum total of our perceptions. How we perceive the world, how it works and our ...
Views: 2379(1 vote) - Personal Development and the Lie of Self Improvement - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2010 from Willie HortonFrom the word go, we’re programmed to believe that we need to better ourselves. If we’ve grown up in the Christian tradition, we have learned that he are damaged goods in need of repentance – that’s not, in fact, at the core of the Christian message – in fact, we are actually told that we are ...
Views: 2361(19 votes) - Personal Development and the Curse of Useless Thought - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2010 from Willie HortonI’m writing this article on a Friday morning. A couple of years back, I did a breakfast seminar – a short discussion on effective personal development – for a large organization in Dublin. Early on in my presentation, I mentioned that fact that I was greeted at the door by a particularly ...
Views: 2345(12 votes) - How to Cope with Stress - by Submitted on May 28, 2010 from Willie HortonI’ve just spent a couple of days with a client here in the French Alps – someone who regards his personal development as of paramount importance in his life, someone who has altered his daily routine, going to bed one hour earlier to ensure that he has an extra hour each morning for meditation. ...
Views: 2326(2 votes) - Personal Success: Managing Your Energy - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2010 from Willie HortonOur world, our entire universe and, indeed, your own daily life operates like a big energy-exchange machine. Ground-breaking discoveries in the field of quantum physics has begun to confirm just how this energy actually works. But, for starters, we already know that everything is made up of ...
Views: 2319(3 votes) - Stop Limping Through Life - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2011 from Willie HortonDecades of psychological research prove that about 96% of people use only 1% of their mental energy to focus in the present moment. Instead, the “normal” subconscious (the greater part of your mental energy) lives in your formative years, when you were so “sponge-like” and open-minded that you ...
Views: 2307 - Positive Mental Attitude – Exploding the Myth - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2010 from Willie HortonWhat’s the difference between positive thinking and positive mental attitude? Because, as far as I can figure out, positive mental attitude is just a fancier name for a way of thinking that is becoming increasingly discredited. Your attitude is created by your subconscious mind – the part ...
Views: 2291(1 vote) - Taking Action - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2011 from Willie HortonIn case you haven’t already heard, the global economy is in something of a reversal at present!! I mention this in the context of a long-standing friend mentioning to me over breakfast last Friday that his daughter “couldn’t pick up the ‘phone” to ask for some career or job-seeking advice from ...
Views: 2279 - The Waste of Worry - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2010 from Willie HortonHave you ever woken in the midst of a beautiful night’s sleep and just been drifting off again when some inane silly little thought flits across your mind? And another linked thought comes to join in and soon you find yourself off on a train of thought that takes you to all the places that you ...
Views: 2269(5 votes) - Crazy People – Crazy Reality - by Submitted on May 28, 2010 from Willie HortonStop watching the news! Stop reading newspapers! Indeed, we have to keep up with important developments in the news but, beyond that, normal people wallow in bad news, love discussing bad news and being the first with bad news. And, unfortunately, you know what they say, bad news sells ...
Views: 2255(1 vote) - Low Self Esteem - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2010 from Willie HortonWhat impact does your self esteem have on your personal effectiveness, your relationships and the normal course of your daily life? How does low self esteem affect your view of what you can and cannot achieve? Indeed, what is low self-esteem, how does it even come about in the first place? Are ...
Views: 2239(1 vote) - You Haven’t Turned Up To Your Own Life - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2011 from Willie HortonPeople tell me that, having met me for the first time, they are shocked to discover that they aren’t there! They are stunned to realize that their body is present but that their mind is somewhere else. And, even as you read these words, you’re only partly here. Decades of psychological ...
Views: 2231(2 votes) - Ooh heaven is a place on earth! - by Submitted on May 10, 2010 from Willie HortonI may be in danger of breaking into song here – and anyone who has heard me sing will confirm that you don’t want to be there when that happens! Seriously, thought, the well-known hit song does actually say it like it is – “Ooh heaven is a place on earth”! Confirmation of this fact comes from ...
Views: 2220(1 vote) - To Change Your Life You’ve Got to Change Your Life! - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2010 from Willie HortonMost of us want more out of life. This is not to say that you’re unhappy with what you have. Indeed, the secret to happiness is wanting what you already have! But that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t be constantly striving to scale higher heights of happiness and success because there is no ...
Views: 2209(1 vote) - Practical Tips to Focus Your Mind - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2010 from Willie HortonOnce our day gets going it is the easiest thing in the world to get swept away by the routine, the urgent (which, by the way, is quite different from the important), the latest minor crisis (which probably seems major at the time) or, most common of all, the endless stream of useless thought ...
Views: 2187(4 votes) - So Many Self Help Books... So Little Change - by Submitted on May 07, 2011 from Willie HortonI spent a couple of hours recently with a client for whom basically everything has gone wrong over the last couple of years – marriage in a mess, business heading down the tubes, in the middle of a couple of court actions, finances shot – and, seemingly no way out. However, the very first thing ...
Views: 2185(1 vote) - Be Your Own Motivational Speaker! - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2010 from Willie HortonDo you ever wake up in the morning full of good intentions for the day ahead and find that, by the time that you get to work you’re no longer motivated? Or, maybe, you get off to a flying start but when the first minor distraction or interruption occurs, you go off the rails. Do you ever find ...
Views: 2181(3 votes) - Ignore Worry – It Will Go Away - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Willie HortonUndoubtedly, we, as normal crazy adults, are built to worry – it appears to be an integral part of our hard-wiring. And, if we can’t find something to worry about, we’ll invent it. I once had a client, who should have known better, telephone me to tell me that he was having sleepless and that ...
Views: 2170(1 vote) - How to Control Your Mind and Change Your Life - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2011 from Willie HortonYou are the creator of your own version of reality. Decades of psychological research prove beyond doubt that how you think controls how you behave and how you behave creates your life. Your mood dictates how you feel about every situation and every person that you encounter in your life. ...
Views: 2147(3 votes) - Dealing with Anxiety, Fear and Panic - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2010 from Willie HortonWorrying about money, being anxious about job security, worrying about children, fearful of personal security, feeling inadequate – these are the things that occupy the normal mind. Unfortunately, psychology has proven time and time again that the normal mind is plagued by negative thought. ...
Views: 2107(2 votes) - Success Means Having Arrived - by Submitted on May 06, 2010 from Willie HortonMany people reading so-called personal development or self improvement articles or, indeed, any of the vast number of self help books that continue to proliferate will know all about the concept known as the Law of Attraction – that, by your state of mind, you attract into your life the things ...
Views: 2097(5 votes) - Awareness and an End to Suffering - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Willie HortonI recently spoke to a client who told me that he was plagued by what I would describe as useless thought – feelings of inadequacy, distractions, negative thoughts, worries, even fears. The first thing that I said to him was that, at the very least, he could count himself among the horribly ...
Views: 2073(1 vote) - Learning How to Control Yourself - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2009 from Willie HortonNormal people are out of control. This is not an observation, a theory or an opinion. This is a statement of scientific fact. Decades of research, all the way back to 1936, prove conclusively that the normal person is not in control of themselves, rather they are controlled by their ...
Views: 2072(2 votes) - Business Leadership: Gaining Competitive Advantage - by Submitted on May 28, 2010 from Willie HortonOne of the most important elements of ongoing business success is gaining and maintaining competitive advantage. Lots of businesses talk about it, lots of businesses strive for it, but very few businesses really understand it. Put simply, competitive advantage means being different – not just ...
Views: 2063(18 votes) - The Fine Art of Effective Communication - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2009 from Willie HortonOn many of my workshops, I quote a piece of well known research into the effectiveness and impact of communication. The effect on those with whom we communicate is dictated by body language, tone of voice and our words. Body language accounts for an enormous 56% of the overall effect, tone of ...
Views: 2004(3 votes) - How to Make a Great Impression - by Submitted on May 07, 2011 from Willie HortonIf you’re worried about making a good impression, you can be damn sure that you’re not! You see, the normal mind is split – part of you is there with whoever you’re trying to impress, part of you is thinking that you’re not as impressive as you would like to be and part of you is evaluating ...
Views: 1993(3 votes) - Inspirational Leadership - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2009 from Willie HortonIt only takes one person to believe. That statement is littered across so many texts, over so many centuries - from spiritual literature, to the chronicles of the great explorers and inventors, to the field of professional sport. That belief may sometimes be described as single-mindedness, ...
Views: 1993(5 votes) - Has a Self Help “Guru” Ripped You Off? - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2010 from Willie HortonWe have recently witnessed the furore over the deaths of three people in a “sweat lodge” in Arizona during a “Spiritual Warrior” retreat run by self-help guru James Ray who has now been charged with three counts of manslaughter as a result. Allegations from participants in the retreat include ...
Views: 1979(4 votes) - Personal Development: Are You Fooling Yourself? - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2010 from Willie HortonWith the continuous and massive growth in sales of self improvement or self help books and the proliferation of personal development websites, wouldn’t you think that you would by now have witnessed a major shift in human consciousness – a marked improvement in the human condition? In other ...
Views: 1975 - Boring Minds, Boring Lives - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2010 from Willie HortonOver seventy years of psychological research proves conclusively that we live automatic lives. "Automaticity" is what psychologists call our extremely efficient ability to perform routine tasks without paying attention to them. Stop for a moment to reflect on how much attention you paid, this ...
Views: 1933(7 votes) - Changing Your Life – It’s Up to You - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2010 from Willie HortonA long-standing friend recently recommended one of his best-loved self-help books to me – it was the latest in a long list of his recommended reading. In chatting with him, I enquired as to how he was getting on putting into practice what he was learning from all his reading. It emerged from ...
Views: 1929(1 vote) - Focus Your Mind – It Will Clear Your Path to Success - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Willie HortonA clear mind is the only state of mind worth being in. It enables you appreciate what’s actually happening around you and places you in a position to act – rather than react, which is the normal response of so-called normal people. A clear and focused state of mind alerts you to the ...
Views: 1926(1 vote) - Mind Body Spirit and the Power to Achieve Happiness and Success - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2010 from Willie HortonVery often I find it difficult to explore some of the key concepts in what might loosely be described as personal development or self improvement, given that ordinary language and words prove wholly inadequate. For example, do the words ‘universal energy’ adequately capture the reality that you ...
Views: 1921(4 votes) - Desperate Times Call for... Simple Measures - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Willie HortonFrom talking to clients in various countries, from talking to radio talk-show hosts, from following the latest news it could be said that we live in desperate times. And, as the old saying goes, desperate times call for desperate measures. No they don’t. What people need now is a sharper and ...
Views: 1919(1 vote) - Playing with Other People’s Lives - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2010 from Willie HortonFirst of all, we all know what the title means – children’s lives toyed with by teachers, children bullied in the schoolyard and employees bullied in the workplace. We’re all aware of domestic violence, psychological violence in the home and the workplace and the manner in which Governments ...
Views: 1913(5 votes) - Your Own Personal Development Journey - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2010 from Willie HortonSince I started working for myself in the area of personal development in January 1996, I have come across many, many people who yearn for a better life, a more balanced life, people who want for more out of life. I’ve met lots of people who have bought all the books – purchased their atlas or ...
Views: 1909(5 votes) - Personal Development: Getting Results - by Submitted on May 28, 2010 from Willie HortonI hear from quite a number of people – clients and readers of my Personal Development Ezine – who tell me that they have become far calmer, more aware and focused as a result of the various little “mental exercises” that they undertake to banish stress and move themselves in the direction that ...
Views: 1908(2 votes) - Building a Winning Business Team - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2009 from Willie HortonAnyone out there got the guts to do it? I mean, is anyone "brave" enough to create and lead a team of like-minded people towards the kind of exceptional business success that one only sees, if one is lucky, once in a career? I've spent the last couple of weeks talking to and working with ...
Views: 1900 - How to Stop Worrying - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2011 from Willie HortonWorry is corrosive form of useless thought – that is all worry is. Yet, it turns mole hills into mountains, conjures up imaginary crises and transforms the small puddles that we have to inevitably step over in life into raging impassable rivers. Instead of looking at life’s little hand ...
Views: 1893(12 votes) - Why Now is So Important - by Submitted on May 07, 2011 from Willie HortonSurely we hit what might be described as the ‘peak performance zone’ when we are striving to achieve our goals. Goals, by their very nature, are things that we don't have at present – they are things that we are aiming for in the future. So why do so many personal development experts or ...
Views: 1892(5 votes) - How You Are Who You Are - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2010 from Willie HortonWe are all victims. Whether we are aware of it or not is entirely a different matter. The facts are, however, as grown adults, we are all a product of the childhood years that shaped who we now believe ourselves to be. During those formative years, our subconscious minds learned about the ...
Views: 1890(6 votes) - How to Find Peace of Mind - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2011 from Willie HortonThe normal mind is hard-wired to ensure that you will never find peace of mind. Research confirms that each of us is peppered with, on average, some fifty thousand thoughts each day. Many of these whizz through our field of consciousness at such speed that we don’t notice them. Then there ...
Views: 1889(1 vote) - Meditation Doesn't Do It For Me! - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2011 from Willie HortonMany people have said this to me - what exactly they're expecting it to do for them, however, is the rock that they think they're perishing on. Re-read that sentence - it's a loaded one. Our own thoughts and expectations can present a barrier to what we do in life. We know this already from ...
Views: 1888(1 vote) - The Five Minute Miracle - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2011 from Willie HortonI was sent an article on lottery sales by a reader a couple of weeks back - how, the Texas State Lottery was heading for record sales of US$3.83bn this year. Yes, that's one State and that's billion, not million! You'll also see in the article that its the poorer people who spend a ...
Views: 1876(3 votes) - Change Your Life : It’s About the Choices You Make Today - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2010 from Willie HortonPerhaps you’re stressed out – or you’ve had enough of your awful boss. Maybe you’re overweight and simply haven’t had the staying power to shed those pounds. Maybe you’re lonely – looking for friendship or a relationship but you freeze every time you’re in company. Perhaps you almost collapse ...
Views: 1872(8 votes) - Worry, Stress… and Pulling Yourself Together! - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2018 from Willie HortonIncreasingly, I find myself talking to people who, until the pull themselves together, live in fear of the future. We might casually call it "worry" - we might even label it stress. But all it is is unchecked useless thought. "All it is" is slightly misleading - because this fear keeps people ...
Views: 1870 - I Won’t Recommend Any More Self Help Books - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2011 from Willie HortonEach Monday morning, I recommend a self improvement book to my Personal Development Ezine readers. But I’ve decided to stop. I’ve come to the conclusion that self help, personal development or self improvement books – whatever you’d prefer to call them – don’t work. For starters, Forbes ...
Views: 1868(1 vote) - Career Choices: Deciding for Yourself - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2010 from Willie HortonOver the last year or so, I have spoken to a number of people who have found themselves at a crossroads in their careers through no fault of their own. Economic circumstances, being in the work place at the wrong time, employers using the excuse of the economic downturn to re-structure – have ...
Views: 1862(3 votes) - Change Your Life – Starting Today - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2010 from Willie HortonIf you’ve got everything that you want out of life and want for nothing at all, in any aspect of your life, do not read this article. Everyone else – read on! From my experience in dealing directly with clients for the last fourteen years, or through my online workshop, I reckon everyone ...
Views: 1861(4 votes) - Steps to Personal Development - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2010 from Willie HortonI’ve just received an email from a reader who tells me that, after wasting many years on “normal” living and “normal” people, she is now determined to take the necessary steps to find peace of mind, contentment, happiness and success. Her use of the word “normal” refers to many of my articles ...
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