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- Personal Development: Familiarity Breeds Contempt - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2010 from Willie HortonFamiliarity breeds contempt – so the old saying goes – and, indeed, there is considerable psychological evidence to back this up. Many years research has proved that the normal mind performs its routine tasks in a mindless manner, without paying what is being done any attention at all. This ...
Views: 9194(2 votes) - The Importance of Being Calm - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2010 from Willie HortonFor those of us who live in these times – where economic adversity continues to be the order of the day, where extremism simmers in various quarters from Al-Qaida to Yemen, to Plains, Georgia where an effigy of President Obama was found hanging recently, to the ongoing political upheaval in Iran ...
Views: 8747(2 votes) - You Need to Get in Touch with Reality! - by Submitted on May 07, 2011 from Willie HortonFor the vast majority of our adult lives, we live in a world of make-believe. However, as most of us know, it’s no fairy story – most normal lives are a mundane up and down affair that never really goes anywhere – more like a second-rate soap opera. However, in stark contrast to our personal ...
Views: 7423(4 votes) - What Do You Want Out of Life? - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2010 from Willie HortonIs it possible that your life is not the joyful, effortless, successful, happy and carefree promenade that your heart desires because, in fact, you haven’t really got the first clue what your heart truly desires at all? I’ve been working with personal development or self improvement clients ...
Views: 6894(10 votes) - Personal Success and the Importance of Perseverance - by Submitted on May 11, 2010 from Willie HortonPerhaps this is an unusual introduction to an article on personal development or self improvement but, I would like to start by quoting 50 Cent – yeah, the rapper 50 Cent – who said “Most people can’t handle boredom. That means they can’t stay on one thing until they get good at it. And they ...
Views: 6402(1 vote) - How to Cope When Things Go Wrong - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2010 from Willie HortonMany personal development ‘gurus’ lead people to believe that, once you follow their course of action, life will be plain sailing – only good things will happen –life will simply be one wonderful moment after the next. Nothing could be further from the truth. I recently got a call from one of ...
Views: 5912(1 vote) - Personal Development - Get Out of Your Trance State! - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2010 from Willie HortonThe normal mind is anaesthetized. I’ve come across people who do things they know they shouldn’t be doing but they appear not to be able to help it. I know people who insist on reading every single email the moment it arrives even though they’re supposed to be in the middle of something ...
Views: 5762(6 votes) - Stop Reading Self-Help Books! - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2009 from Willie HortonI am forever being contacted by clients recommending a variety of self-help books. And, yet, a client recently mentioned to me that he had been on a workshop where another participant told him to "Stop reading the books - and start living it!" The truth is, that you will only find true wisdom ...
Views: 5389(5 votes) - How to Make the Best Life Choices - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2010 from Willie HortonEveryone is at a crossroads each moment of each day – it’s just that we never stop to reflect on the fact that each minute decision we make can have life-changing consequences. A client recently recounted a story from his youth. He told me about he used to hang out with his best friend – and his ...
Views: 5333(2 votes) - Be Positive : Stop Negative Gossip - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2010 from Willie HortonA client asked me recently “What would you have left to talk about if you took gossip out of the conversation?” A very good question, because most of us spend a large part of our time gossiping. It might be about little “harmless” things, like the neighbours’ behaviour, how someone down the road ...
Views: 4654(18 votes) - Why is it so Important to Live in the Now - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2009 from Willie HortonI was recently asked why authors such as Ekhart Tolle, Deepak Chopra and Tony deMello (and myself for that matter) place so much emphasis on the present moment. My reader also asked me to explain why living in the past or future can be so detrimental - and that's where this article ...
Views: 4589(3 votes) - You Are Not Your Behaviour - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2010 from Willie HortonNormal behaviour is rarely appropriate and often completely inappropriate if not totally bizarre. How could it be appropriate? Because normal behaviour is triggered automatically – you don’t have to think about it, you just react – by your subconscious mind. Your subconscious mind is fine ...
Views: 4473(4 votes) - How We Label People Hurts Them and Us - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2010 from Willie HortonI have long been of the view that “normal” behaviour is bizarre. After all, the Universities of Chicago and Milan calculate that so-called “normal” people use just 1% of their mental capacity to do what they’re doing in the here and now. The rest of their mental energy is wasted on looking ...
Views: 4387(18 votes) - Focus Your Mind: Real Self Help - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2010 from Willie HortonDid you leave your house naked this morning? Of course you didn’t. Isn’t it bizarre that everyone has no problem preparing themselves physically for the day ahead whilst almost no one bothers to mentally prepare – and being mentally prepared is far more important because the quality of your ...
Views: 4131(3 votes) - Cosmic Ordering and the Law of Attraction - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2009 from Willie HortonAsk and you shall receive! The concept of so-called “cosmic ordering” apparently works along these lines – definitions of cosmic ordering suggest that you write out your wish list (which is somehow cast out into the cosmos) and wait for it to happen (wait for the cosmos to respond). This is ...
Views: 3991(9 votes) - Being Overwhelmed by Useless Thoughts - by Submitted on May 11, 2011 from Willie HortonI’ve been running Personal Development Seminars now for over fifteen years and still, after all these years practicing what I preach, I wake up some mornings plagued with useless thoughts – or the little rascals come after me during the day when I least expect it. But, of course, I should ...
Views: 3986(8 votes) - Get Your Head in the Game - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2009 from Willie HortonHow did you start your day today? When you leaped out of bed, were you ready and alert for all today will offer or did you drag yourself out of bed on automatic pilot, and lurch into the bathroom in the normal early morning daze. If, of course, you were awoken by an alarm clock, then you ...
Views: 3901(2 votes) - What Goes Around Comes Around - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2009 from Willie HortonWe all have some sense that we reap what we sow – or what goes around comes around – but quantum physics actually scientifically proves that karma is a powerful force in our lives. As quantum physics might put it, energy in : energy out. So, for starters, let’s examine a couple of important ...
Views: 3844(3 votes) - Meditation and Sunny Summer Days! - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2010 from Willie HortonCast your mind back to when you were a child – maybe eight or nine years old. Remember those long, sunny, summer holiday days that seemed to go on forever? Remember how you had no idea of time – what time it was, the way time was passing – it was like everything was effortlessly enjoyed in a ...
Views: 3780(8 votes) - What is Personal Development All About? - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2010 from Willie HortonI sometimes get very frustrated (it doesn’t last long!) when I see the extent to which Personal Development is hijacked by people whose sole focus is on money. Go on, Google ‘Personal Development’ – the number of sites that talk about becoming a millionaire, trebling your income, achieving ...
Views: 3667(3 votes) - Are You Simply Too Lazy to Live Your Dream? - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2010 from Willie HortonAs a once senior banker, I know all about inertia. Studies from various parts of the world show that the majority of bank customers are unhappy with the levels of service they receive. In addition, many bank customers are aware that, at various times in their “relationship” with their bank, they ...
Views: 3660(4 votes) - A Clear and Present Mind - Meditation and Flow - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2009 from Willie HortonMost people lead normal lives. Those lives are, generally speaking, repetitive - where anything spectacular rarely happens. Of course, the normal life is punctuated by the spectacular - falling in love, marriage, the birth of a child, the odd special holiday. But, generally speaking, ...
Views: 3626(4 votes) - Are You Anxious, Nervous, Worried or Stressed? - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2010 from Willie HortonDo you ever feel uncomfortable, anxious or tense? Are there things that you worry about – things that sometimes even keep you awake at night? Are you ever nervous or apprehensive? Do you get hassled or lose your temper easily? Do you feel that you suffer from stress? If you perceive ...
Views: 3590 - Why You Don't Need a Life Coach - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2011 from Willie HortonI’ve been in the personal development business for nearly sixteen years and, to be quite honest, a get a little fed up when I see people, who are all over the place themselves, suddenly proclaiming themselves to be a life coach because they did a weekend course or get some online accreditation. ...
Views: 3506(2 votes) - Waiting for Something to Happen - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2010 from Willie HortonToo many people are going through their lives wishing, hoping, wanting or waiting for something to happen. “I wish I could just get that lucky break.” “I hope that tomorrow will be better.” “I want to win the Lottery!” Unfortunately, what most people don’t realize is that nothing “just ...
Views: 3438(2 votes) - How to Achieve Financial Freedom - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2010 from Willie HortonOver the many years that I’ve been working with clients who want to better their lives I’ve come across the goal of “financial freedom” – people looking for an end to financial worry (over 905 of males claim that it is their greatest source of worry), people looking for “passive income” or ...
Views: 3404(4 votes) - Irritated? Annoyed? Stressed? Don't Scratch That Itch! Meditate - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2009 from Willie HortonI constantly tell my clients that meditation is like your life in miniature - in other words, everything you encounter during meditation mirrors your daily life. So, for example, during meditation, your conscious mind will distract you - with an average of 50,000 random thoughts whizzing ...
Views: 3402(4 votes) - Happiness Beyond Belief - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2010 from Willie HortonHere’s a question that you may have never seriously asked yourself. Are you happy with yourself and with your life? The chances are that there are things that you would like to change about both you and your life – I have rarely met anyone who is truly happy, they are few and far between. ...
Views: 3252(4 votes) - Curing Your Own Depression - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2010 from Willie HortonEven though the effects of depression might be all too real in your life, depression is not real. If you’re suffering from depression, you’re only imagining it because depression is the direct result of your subconscious mind’s obsession with useless thoughts that were impressed upon it during ...
Views: 3217(6 votes) - Does Positive Thinking Really Work? - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2009 from Willie HortonJust a couple of weeks ago, I spent a day with a dozen "old-timers" clients with whom I've been working for years. Early on in the discussion, as we chatted about how psychology and quantum physics proves that you get what you expect, so that, if you expect something different, something ...
Views: 3188(3 votes) - Crazy Parents - Crazy Children - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2009 from Willie HortonThe vast majority of people raising children are ill equipped for the job. Now, we all know the general comments like “How come they don’t teach you about this at school?” or “Why is there no training to be a parent?” But that’s not what I’m talking about. Those of us who are parents know that ...
Views: 3073(6 votes) - The Law of Attraction is a Force in Your Life - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2010 from Willie HortonA great deal has been said and written about the so-called Law of Attraction’. It has been popularised by videos and books, like ‘The Secret’ and by televisions talk-show hosts such as Larry King. It’s been around for decades – Florence Schovel Shinn’s book ‘The Game of Life and How to Play ...
Views: 3035(4 votes) - Your Life Will Never Change If You Keep On Doing the Same Thing! - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2011 from Willie HortonI’ve been running my Personal Development Workshops for the last fifteen years and, during that time, I’ve met plenty of people who, for one reason or another, wanted to change their life. I’ve all sorts of reasons – from the proverbial midlife crisis to the career crossroads, from low self ...
Views: 3027(1 vote) - Are You One of the Normal Crazy People? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2011 from Willie HortonJoin all the dots plotted by over seventy years of psychological research and you’ll immediately come to the blindingly obvious conclusion that normal people are crazy. You probably don’t even have to look far for concrete evidence of this psychological fact. Normal crazy people are all ...
Views: 2982(2 votes) - How to Break Away from Frustration and Worry - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2010 from Willie HortonIn business – and often in our personal lives – frustration and worry go hand in hand. We get frustrated that our efforts are not receiving the acclaim that we believe we deserve and we get worried that, if things continue like that, we’re either not going to be the success we want to be or, ...
Views: 2899(2 votes) - Self Help Books That Don't Help! - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2010 from Willie HortonAre you an avid reader of self help or self improvement books? Because many people that I know are constantly reading, constantly learning, constantly searching, constantly gaining a deeper understanding of what it takes to change your life. Unfortunately, however, it is not reading that ...
Views: 2872(1 vote) - Personal Development – Mission Very Possible! - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2010 from Willie HortonUnfortunately, most people look at life through dark glasses and, consequently, everything looks gloomier than it should. This is normal because the normal mind is hard-wired to look at reality by filtering it through our conditioning and, in doing so, it is more likely than not that the mind ...
Views: 2855(1 vote) - Start Your Day on the Right Foot - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2010 from Willie HortonHow did you start your day today? When you leaped – or dragged yourself – out of bed, were you ready and alert for all the wonderful opportunities that today will offer, or did you slouch, on automatic pilot, to the bathroom in the normal early morning daze. If, of course, you were awoken by an ...
Views: 2851 - Simply Happy! - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2010 from Willie HortonThe purpose of life is to be happy – so says the Dalai Lama. Jesus Christ said something similar when he said that he came so that ‘you might have life and have it to the full’. Unfortunately, however, having worked in the field of personal development for more than fourteen years, I have ...
Views: 2843(1 vote) - Do Self Affirmations Work? - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2010 from Willie HortonDo positive self-affirmations actually work? The short answer is ‘No’ – unless you have a few years to spare and a heavy-duty supply of perseverance. The problem is that self-affirmation is directed at the conscious mind and, unfortunately, your conscious mind has absolutely nothing to do ...
Views: 2773(7 votes) - Personal Development and the Normal Mind - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2010 from Willie HortonNothing is more frustrating than trying to better yourself and being constantly beaten backwards. Embarking on the adventure of personal development can sometimes seem similar to trying to scale Mount Everest and finding that, every time you make a little progress, you suddenly start sliding ...
Views: 2761(6 votes) - Success, Happiness and Wasting Your Energy - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2010 from Willie HortonToday is a new day – one that has never happened before, a unique day that will never be repeated. Now is a new moment. And, in this new moment, you have a choice. You have a choice - which thoughts you are you going to pay attention to just at this moment in time? The probability is that ...
Views: 2752(5 votes) - Personal Development and Peace of Mind - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2010 from Willie HortonHow do you achieve lasting peace of mind? Well, the answer is in both the question and the title of this article. You find it within, in your mind, where else would you expect to find it! It doesn’t matter what is going on around you, what is happening in your life or who is doing what to ...
Views: 2714(2 votes) - Self-Help: Getting Your Priorities Right - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2010 from Willie HortonNo doubt you have heard the old saying that no one, on their deathbed, would ever say that they wished that they'd spend more time in the office! Well, given the mass hysteria that is the fear and panic that has been gripping world economies over the last few months, some don't even have the ...
Views: 2701(1 vote) - Simple Steps to Personal Effectiveness - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2010 from Willie HortonWe would all like to be more effective – to get the really important stuff done effortlessly, to simply do the things that we don’t like doing or want to do without any distraction, to get much more done to the very best of our ability in far less time and have plenty more time to do all the ...
Views: 2626(1 vote) - Self Improvement? No Need! - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2010 from Willie HortonYou don’t need self improvement. You’re perfect all ready – you just need to realize it. Some aficionados of personal development might call the process ‘self-realization’ – a big word (two actually) for something that is within every single person’s reach. There’s little pointing in ...
Views: 2493(1 vote) - The Dangers of Personal Development - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2010 from Willie HortonWherever you are, whatever you’re doing, you’re surrounded by people who have no idea that their subconscious mind is creating their very own version reality as we speak. All these people – so-called normal people – have no idea that their subconscious mind controls them and, by virtue of the ...
Views: 2462 - Personal Development – It’s About Doing Things Differently - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2010 from Willie HortonI have no idea exactly how many personal development, self improvement or so-called self help books were sold over the last year – but I do know that it is one of the fastest areas of growth in the publishing world with millions of books being sold every year. I also know that these self help ...
Views: 2403 - How to Stay Positive in A World Gone Mad - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2009 from Willie HortonSpend a few moments glancing at the websites of any of the major international news services - it is little wonder that so many of my clients have been emailing me to tell me just how difficult it is to stay positive at present. And these are people that I've been working with for some time - ...
Views: 2395(6 votes) - Taking Courageous Decisions - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2010 from Willie HortonWe’re in our eighth great year living in the French Alps. When we upped and left Ireland in 2002, many friends and clients remarked that we were taking a courageous decision – after all, our children were thirteen, eleven and eight years old at the time and were establishing their own little ...
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