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- How to Reconnect with Your Spouse - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2009 from Lisa KiftI don’t subscribe to the notion that “marriages should be easy.” What I do believe is that marriages are hard work and they require time, attention and nurturing to continue to flourish. If you consider how much people change over the years, think about how a relationship would inevitably ...
Views: 4105 - Quick Tips for Executive Stress Management - by Submitted on May 21, 2008 from Lisa KiftNone of has unlimited time. Professionals or executives often find themselves in a pressure-cooker environment as they manage people, make costly decisions or determine directions of their organizations - on top of their obligations to family and friends. How they manage their time is critical ...
Views: 1576 - 5 Quick Tips for Anxiety Management - by Submitted on May 21, 2008 from Lisa KiftPeople who suffer with the distressing symptoms of anxiety often experience rumination, or recurrent worry and thought spinning. This can greatly impact sleep and daily living. The negative cyclical thinking tends to have a spiraling effect - where the person ends up at the worst possible ...
Views: 1558 - 5 Quick Tips for Practicing Empathy in Your Relationship - by Submitted on May 21, 2008 from Lisa KiftMost simply stated, empathy is the ability to put oneself in another's shoes - and also the willingness to respond to the person's needs. I believe it's one of the most important components of a happy, healthy relationship. Lack of empathy is a very common problem with couples. Many people never ...
Views: 1896 - 3 Quick Tips for Setting Boundaries - by Submitted on May 21, 2008 from Lisa KiftPeople who struggle with setting boundaries for themselves often struggle with saying "no." Using that word can literally bring up discomfort for them. For this reason, they over commit, don't end up with any time for themselves and can even be taken advantage of by others. Their friends, ...
Views: 1775 - Top 5 Relationship Tips - by Submitted on May 21, 2008 from Lisa KiftI've written a lot about healthy relationships and what aspects successful couples have that make them unique. As I continue my couples therapy work I continue to gather more information about relationships, the importance of good couples communication, their most significant sticking points - ...
Views: 1507 - 3 Quick Tips For Anger Management - by Submitted on May 21, 2008 from Lisa KiftAnger is one of the four primary emotions and has a very good purpose of alerting us to our boundaries being crossed by others. It serves us well when it's expressed in a healthy way. However, when anger becomes screaming, ranting, raving, or becoming physical with another person, you may have a ...
Views: 1736 - Premarital Counseling - Invest In The Future Of Your Marriage - by Submitted on May 21, 2008 from Lisa KiftMost couples spend more time planning their weddings than their marriages! With divorce rates at an all time high, it seems that couples are facing more challenges than ever in preserving their relationship stability. In my relationship counseling work as a Marriage and Family Therapist, I’ve ...
Views: 1531 - 5 Secret Qualities Of Happy People - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2008 from Lisa KiftIf there's one thing that we all seek - it's happiness. I've never met a person who has told me they didn't want to be happy, have you? When I do individual therapy, I have the opportunity to sit down with people as they present their concerns to me - whatever they may be. They usually seek ...
Views: 1866 - 6 Great Reasons To Get Premarital Counseling - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2008 from Lisa KiftMost couples spend more time planning their weddings than their marriages! With divorce rates at an all time high, it seems that couples are facing more challenges than ever in preserving their relationship stability. In my relationship counseling work as a Marriage and Family Therapist, I’ve ...
Views: 1519 - What Is Family Of Origin Work? - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2008 from Lisa KiftI've been asked this question enough times that I decided to expand on the topic in this article. Therapists will likely have slightly different interpretations of what it is - and how to go about doing the therapy work itself. My definition of "family of origin work" in it's simplest form is, ...
Views: 7026 - Quick Couples Assessment Checklist: How Strong Is Your Relationship Foundation? - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2008 from Lisa KiftIn my work with couples as a Marriage and Family Therapist, I’ve concluded that there are certain aspects that determine the strength of a couple’s relationship foundation - that is, the relationship’s ability to stand strong in the face of the things that life throws out, be it normal daily ...
Views: 980 - Driven Into The Ground: Stress Management Strategies For Professionals - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2007 from Lisa KiftIn this fast-paced, dog-eat-dog world we live in, super-achievers often find themselves at the top of the heap in their professions. They’re the ones who eat, breathe and sleep their jobs, race out of the house, briefcase and PDA in hand, occasionally a quick kiss to the spouse and kid on the ...
Views: 877 - Childhood Experience and Adult Generalized Anxiety Disorder - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2007 from Lisa KiftAdult anxiety has many faces, manifestations and levels. The anxiety disorder I’ve had the most contact with in my experience as a therapist is Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD) and from here on when I speak of “anxiety” I will be referring to this. I work from a family of origin perspective, ...
Views: 4004 - Balanced Relationships: You, Me and We - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2007 from Lisa KiftOne thing I notice in a lot of couples who come through my door is a lack of balance in their relationship. What do I mean by this? When two people come together there are now three parts to this system; “you,” “me,” and “we.” Imagine if you draw two overlapping circles. There are three ...
Views: 840 - Healthy Relationships: Assessing the Emotional Safety - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2007 from Lisa KiftCouples seek relationship counseling for numerous reasons. As a professional who works with many different couples with a variety of issues, I’ve identified one similar thread that runs through all of them. Their relationships lack in varying degrees of “emotional safety.” Typically, the ...
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