Women have choices on how they approach change. Often they pretend it isn’t happening, particularly when the change is unknown. What are the faces of change? Instability, lack of control, discomfort, loss of rights, inconvenience and, yes, that age-old monster, fear, just to name a few.

Change is the inevitable.

Change is the one thing that remains constant, but human beings continually try to avoid it, to control it, and to force it.

The one thing you can do to preserve your sanity is to accept, acknowledge and allow change to take place. Thinking it isn’t happening or even a possibility serves only to trick you into believing you are safe without it. Whether you realize it or not, change can be a good thing – if you let it.

Change can be a wonderful gift!

Let’s examine how change can be a good thing. Change allows life to start over: new beginnings, new chances, new mistakes.

It allows new ideas to come forward, and it can feed your heart and soul.

Sure, there are times when bad things happen to good people. What happens after change occurs can result in something better than where you started. The point is to embrace your frustration or fear long enough for you to experience the benefits of change.

Here’s a short list of the benefits of change. You:

• Get to define your future
• Can make things happen instead of waiting for things to happen
• No longer need to seek permission
• Can create new and exciting things that you believe in
• Will expand your influence
• Don’t have to settle
• Can have fun
• Can change the world – your world!

These benefits are great; however, when you are at the pinnacle of fearing change about to happen, it’s hard to stop and think about them. This is where you need to make a commitment to cause change to happen. The first change is making up your mind to embrace the change that is going on within and outside of you.

While in the throes of change, ask yourself, “What will happen if I run away or deny what’s going on? What will I be missing? What am I afraid of?” Your answers to these questions will help you understand what really is within your control. They’ll also help you know where you should be focusing your energy. Look at how you can massage or curtail change to work for you and not against you.

Where does your peace of mind fit into this? Denying change causes confusion. Your mind begins to question reality. You then start to behave in ways that don’t support you or what God has planned for you.

Reality is deeply connected to peace of mind.

It all starts with facing that very piece of change that exists right in front of you. You only have a split second to do it. Then it’s gone - forever. It may be considering what’s changing, accepting wholeheartedly what’s changing or retreating in disbelief of what’s changing.

Sir Francis Bacon once said, “If we are to achieve results never before accomplished, we must expect to employ methods never before attempted.” He was right. You will never experience something new or something different if you never attempt the new, the scary or the unknown.

So, just say yes to change. Take the risk. Embrace it and work it to your advantage.

Author's Bio: 

Karen Keller, Ph.D. is an expert in women's leadership and assertiveness training. She specializes in the skills of influence and persuasion, executive coaching, mentoring, sales techniques, management development training, personal life coaching, and corporate training. Discover the Real POWER for Women now!