You feel tired and exhausted. Sure, you don’t get enough sleep, so that explains some of it, but there’s more. It’s not just physically tired. You feel emotionally drained. You feel stuck. You feel like you’ve tried what you can think of, and you just don’t really feel like trying anymore, even when new ideas pop into your mind. Your chest clenches; your head tightens. You just want to scream, but you keep it inside, and it slowly weighs you down. You try to take a few deep breaths, and maybe that helps for a moment or two, but you feel like you’ve been going through the same cycles for years. Those habits are hard to break.

You remember mistakes from your past and wonder whether you’ll repeat them. You worry that you’ll repeat them. You wonder if you’re missing the obvious, that small piece that will help.

You feel the weight of so many expectations pushing down on your shoulders. Part of you feels better about yourself that these people think so highly of you and think you are capable of so much. Part of you is resentful. Part of you worries that if you say no they will think you are just being mean or that they’ll think you feel superior. Part of you worries that if you say yes you will feel even more overwhelmed and out of control. The biggest part of you slowly starts to realize that many of these expectations and unreasonable standards aren’t being placed on you by someone else. You realize that in many ways YOU’RE the one doing this to yourself.

You have big goals for yourself. Maybe you’re clear on what they are. Maybe it’s just a nagging feeling inside like you are meant to live a bigger life, to do something more – you`re just not sure what it is yet and you’re not even really sure how to figure it out. Maybe you do know but sometimes try to remember what you’re doing it for in the first place.

You wish you could just take a few minutes to slow down, to let your mind catch up, but it seems to be going, going, going – to the point where you feel like you can hardly hear yourself think.

Sometimes you feel like you’re living in a box and the walls are keeping you stuck. Part of you longs to break free. Part of you is scared like anything and is pretty content staying within those four walls. You have an inner tug of war between the feeling like you are meant to be doing something more, something different – and the feeling that it would be too scary for you and you may not succeed, so why bother trying? What if you fail? And then you feel bad about being scared, and you are stuck in a stew of fear, self-doubt, desire, second-guessing and a feeling of just going through the motions while longing for more.

If any of the above sounds like you, believe me when I tell you that you are not alone.

How do I know?

I could say that I’ve heard pieces of this from many people I’ve spoken with, and it would be true.

But how do I REALLY know? Because I’ve felt all of the above at some point – and still do sometimes.

You don’t have to keep all these feelings inside.

If you can relate and would like to talk about it and brainstorm some ideas for your next step, let me know by emailing so that we can set up a time to speak.

Author's Bio: 

Elizabeth Spevack is the founder of Heart and Soul Living. Elizabeth specializes in empowering women by helping them believe in themselves and be true to who they are. Her passion is helping women who long to be more realize they are more than enough even when they are not perfect and to help them dream big and take steps towards their unlikeliest of goals. Through questioning, listening and encouraging, she helps women realize that they are not alone on their personal journey.

Having lived with anxiety and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder for years, Elizabeth loves to connect deeply with others and help them break down the walls that have been holding them back.

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