The way we look at ourselves has a lot to do with our happiness. If you believe in yourself, see yourself as acceptable, you will have an easier time being you. When you look outside of yourself for acceptance this leads to failure and low self-esteem. We all tend to believe, at one time or another, that if we were just a little more this or a little less that we could be happy. If only your hair was different or your body more like something else. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if you became everything you wished, all the” I should and shouldn’t be this or that” you’ve thought about? Do you see yourself as being happy and content from that moment on? This is not about material things or your profession. This is simply about how you see yourself and about how you think others see you. We often over-exaggerate our tendencies or our “faults”, and then we look for all the best qualities in others and wish we had those. Like somehow they would cancel each other out and we would become the perfect person. Is there such a thing? This person you idolize may be thinking the same thing as you, the “if only” thought. The beautiful and true part about all of this is you have the ability to let go of this and see yourself more clearly.

Now one change in your life will not make you happier, everything being altered will not bring contentment. The only thing that will is not on the outside but within you. This may sound corny and unrealistic but it is true. Again imagine everything in your life, a full mental image of your desires for your body and everything about you changing, a complete alteration. Sit with this for a moment, let it become you; visualize how you would feel, where you would be within yourself. Does it feel right, do you sense that perhaps you might keep looking for things to change or get better? Would you possibly still see yourself as not as good as others and still looking for a solution to this? Maybe not, maybe you believe if everything was perfect you could rest and be happy, and maybe for you this is true. But maybe right now, in this moment, you can also find that feeling. Let go, just for now, of the idea that something, even if it's small, doesn’t work with how you want to see yourself. The truth is we are who we are. We can become better by releasing negative thoughts and emotions and by being more clear with who we really are. If you believe in your ability to trust and accept yourself for who you are, as you are, you can have peace and contentment within yourself.

You are special and unique, no other is like you, nor do you really want this. All of us are different, each with different qualities. What helps is to see yourself as part of your own destiny right now. You are who you are meant to be just as you are. Your body, your whole person, belongs to you and is perfect as it is. There is more power in accepting yourself than you can imagine. No one else can give this to you. Not even if everyone saw you and agreed you are the perfect person. For who really decides this- you do. Look at yourself for who you really are at this moment. Relax and let yourself envision that you do have everything you need, that right now you are perfect. Let go of seeing yourself as less and see yourself as more, perfect as you are. You have the ability to let go of a bad self-image. You have the power to release any old emotions and thoughts that are negative, to find peace in yourself and acceptance for who you are right now. That should be the true goal. If everyone sought this, perhaps we could all find a little piece of perfection in our lives.

Author's Bio: 

I found myself from a very early age always seeking, on a constant quest to understand. I feel most comfortable learning and this desire correlates with a need to connect and help others. That is why in the beginning I chose acupuncture as a career, it seemed like a perfect fit. But I found a lack of compassion directed towards the center of being, not only in myself but others. I ended up in a situation that changed all this. I found who I was and who I am meant to be. It all clicked and came together. My desire for knowledge and eternal desire to really see and help others has brought me to this place in time, to this place with you. Allow me to help you feel complete, like stepping into that perfect spot, that place meant for you in your own life. Connect and feel the difference not only in yourself but in world around you.
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