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Patience is faith in the time something takes. Patience is faith in living in the present moment, without pushing or forcing anything to happen. Patience is accepting things as they are, but this requires some clarification. Things are not the way you think things are. People are not who you think they are. You are not who you think you are. Your child is not who you think your child is.
Wisdom Articles > Wisdom for Successr Soar Into Success With Inspirational Quotesr By Bob Lancer Feeding your mind with inspirational quotes is a way to stay positive. Quotes of inspired individuals convey the power of their inspiration to you. Because achieving major goals requires a positive attitude, reading inspiring thoughts by high achievers represents one of life's great success secrets. Consider this empowering statement of Thomas Jefferson's: "Nothing can stop the
When you use feelings of disappointment to manipulate someone into giving you your way, you program yourself to relate with your experience as a defeat. This costs you your freedom. There is really nothing wrong with your situation. The present offers you every opportunity. But you bind yourself to disappointment when you express yourself as a victim of your circumstances.
Because your results are equal to the level of your skills and knowledge, personal development is a crucial key for attaining higher levels success. Here are 5 essential personal development practices to support your higher accomplishment: 1 Control over circumstances begins with controlling your reaction to your circumstances. To develop your power of self-control, practice handling every challenging situation with calm and steady peace and poise. 2 Your power flows in the
Motivational quotes are more than just... well... motivational! Quotes by high achievers not only have the capacity to fire you up with the drive and confidence you need to succeed like the great. Motivational quotes also have the power to light you up with the timeless, universal wisdom of how to succeed. Short motivational quotes like the following by the great American psychologist and sage of the late 1800's and early 1900's, William James, provide an excellent example:
Our lives send us through ups and downs. We expect that we will find a “key” that will unlock the mystery of perennial happiness, total clarity about what is going on, a firm and unending grasp upon the helm of our lives. But inevitably, as night follows day, we find ourselves back in the pit of despair, longing, uncertainty, powerlessness, dread, discouragement and grief. That is when we need grief counseling self-work. Rather than resist your dark cycle or judge yourself
Never underestimate the role of personal responsibility in marriage. Relationships do not replace our personal responsibility for our own happiness. You make yourself happy or unhappy in your relationship. Help yourself out of marital dissatisfaction by adhering to the following marriage advice: accept total responsibility for your happiness. Marriage tips seem to abound these days, yet rarely is this particular bit of relationship advice given the attention it truly deserves
Why wait for New Years Day to make your resolutions for happiness and success? Why not resolve today to direct your life into the greater happiness and success available to you? So many do not experience all of the happiness and success they desire because they blame someone else for their problems instead of resolving to become all they can be and to do all they can do for all the happiness and success they want. Their fear of another's power distracts them from a more effe
We need wisdom for success that addresses the pattern of the wave! The wave describes the inevitable up-and-down pattern of life. Self-help success teachings usually seem to imply that there is a way to skip the lows, the falls, the losses and just rise right to the top. But that just leads to disappointment. We need wisdom for success that guides us through the disappointments, and also through the triumphs. Losing is unavoidable and winning is never enough. True wisdom fo
Ralph Waldo Emerson is considered by many to be the most eloquent American composer of wisdom essays. In the 19th Century he penned incredibly poetic, even incendiary inspirational words that echo the spirit of his genius through the corridors of time. Here is one marvelous example: "Great men are they who see that spiritual is stronger than material force, that thoughts rule the world." Contained in these inspirational words are two immense ideas that sum up the core messag
Goal achievement is not just practical; it's magical! Even though it is the result of something that is, for the most part, easy to comprehend, when we watch a dream turn into reality it feels like the essence of real magic and inspires us with enchantment. As I have explained in a previous article, the process of goal achievement basically comes down to something extremely simple: persistently take the best action you can, aimed at accomplishing what you want. As I also ex
While couples argue, they fight against their love. They relate with one another as adversaries, turning passionate loving into passionate loathing. And yet, while it involves sorrow and pain, even the most heated shouting matches can serve as a healthy and necessary catharsis for the relationship to grow. When couples argue they can relieve themselves of the pent up frustrations and resentments that are bound to build in any meaningful, long-term relationship. Healthy coup
Being a parent is never a cakewalk but being a single parent is a tremendously difficult job. For the most part, single parents must hold a fulltime job, chauffer the children to and from school, extracurricular activities and sporting events. Many receive financial help for parents without adequate income while others live just barely above the income cutoff. Regardless of the financial situation, the parent child relationship can be incredibly strong and able to last a lif
Life-balance is essential for ascending into higher levels of success in life. An unbalanced life, like an unbalanced building, leans toward collapse; the higher you go, the closer the fall. 2 Each individual's true life-balance is unique. For each needs a unique measure of time spent with loved ones, in solitude, working, playing, resting, engaged in routine, breaking from routine, being in a noisy environment, being in a quiet environment, being indoors, being outdoors, etc
When an adult regards a child's behavior as disruptive, disrespectful, or defiant, the adult commonly complains, "That child needs more discipline." How rare is it that one will say, "That child needs more understanding." Sometimes more firmness may indeed be in order, but even then the root-cause of the problem stems from a lack of deep and accurate understanding of the child.
A typical parenting challenge that causes many parents frustration can be expressed in the following question: "What do you do when you want your child to do something, and he responds with: 'I don't care', or 'I can do whatever I want to do', or 'I am not going to my room', or 'try to catch me', or 'I won't eat this, you can't make me'"?
Everyone has heard about the power of positive thinking. Filling your mind with inspiring thoughts and exposing yourself to inspirational messages are great keys to personal development and success. And yet, only the very few top performers in any field really apply this age-old wisdom for its full benefit. The reason may lie in the fact that positive thinking requires more self-discipline than most people realize or are willing to apply. The purpose of this success article i
To enjoy happy, healthy relationships you need to know how to reach people. Reaching someone occurs naturally; it’s an organic process. Difficult people are not necessarily unreachable. It just requires more patience and skill for building relationships with them. When you attempt to communicate with someone you may find an open, pleasant “circuit” that seems to effortlessly link the two of you. When this happens, it means that you and the other are “ripe” for relationshi
Most children begin to lose their primary teeth anywhere between the ages of six and seven years. This is a normal child development stage however; every child reacts differently to losing their teeth. Hopefully, your child has had regular dental visits to prevent premature loss of his teeth. Your family dentist probably offers tips for parents about child behavior when they begin to lose their primary teeth. Before That First Wiggly Tooth Many children go into an outright p
Let's define an "impossible person" as a person who seems unwilling or unable to cooperate with you in some way that feels important to you. From your perspective, cooperating with you makes perfectly obvious sense. But this other person seems impervious to your arguments, inflexible in his or her non-compliant decision.
Even great relationships have problems. Sooner or later, even if you find your soulmate and marry him or her, marital issues are BOUND to arise. As hard as we work to resolve our relationship issues, though, we usually feel stuck in them. Even if you attend the very best marriage counseling, you will very likely find that after all of the airing of issues, the issues continue to divide the relationship. There is an alte ative. It is a bit unusual, but so is a really happy
Some bosses are quite skilled at “psyching” an employee into doubting the value of his or her contribution to the organization. An example of this is the president of a company who recently tried to “show up” his sales director by taking over a sales meeting in an effort to prove to everyone present that he, the president of the company, could do a better job. There are bosses who will publically insult an employee in a leadership position to achieve the same result. One o
Relationships between parents and children are constantly changing throughout life. When you have a newborn, it seems like the umbilical cord is still attached because they depend on you for everything. The parent and infant relationship at that point is always blissful although it is an exhausting time. As children grow so do your parenting skills. You begin to learn about different forms of child discipline and wonder which method is best. There is no definitive way to rai
Parents influence their children in many ways, but none may be more significant than the quality of the relationship between parents and their children. The quality of the relationship between parents and their children exerts one of the strongest influences upon child behavior. When parents and their children clash, their children cannot demonstrate their best behavior. Any parent who wants help in dealing with a challenging child behavior problem will find at least some rel
Your financial situation is a product of your application of the amazing creative power contained in your thoughts. You manifest the economic conditions you think about. In other words, your material affluence or financial struggle is a reflection of the thoughts you have been thinking. Your thoughts are your links with material supply. You apply thought's phenomenal manifestation power to produce what you anticipate, whether you anticipate financial triumph or financial
Despite the old adage that "kids don't come with instructions", any parent who actually believes this has never attended really meaningful parenting classes or read any of the great books or checked out any of the great websites on child behavior and development. While not all parenting classes, books and websites are worthwhile, some do present essential insights and invaluable tips for parents that can make a huge difference in raising kids. Parenting classes based on the
Real love making is the formula for a great marriage, and a great marriage is like a springboard to great success. Real love making is about making love, not war, in your marriage. A truly great marriage means more than just sticking it out together. A great marriage means real love making - in other words, it means getting along great! To make love and not war in your marriage means to look for loving, harmonious ways to work things out. The more harmonious your marriage,
Inspirational words of love may be just the marriage help you need. It’s amazing how powerful a few lovely words can be for transforming the mood of your relationship. If you and your mate have been feeling a bit challenged by one another, try using inspirational words of love instead of complaining, for marriage help. Here are some examples: 1.“If you love somebody, let them go.” For marriage help, speak these inspirational words of love by Kahlil Gibran to yourself when
This article presents inspirational mother quotes, quotes that come from the heart of mothers (which include quotes about mothers) that I gathered from moms who attended my parenting classes. Sometimes touching, sometimes educational, these mother quotes give personal insight into the challenges and triumphs of parenting. As a dad, I can say that these inspirational quotes of mothers are also for fathers. What follows are samples from several categories of quotes by mothers.
Parents and their children have a complex relationship. As children progress through the stages of development they are bound to experiment with countless forms of challenging behavior. What their parents do in response to their behavior operates on the child’s development on many levels. When we respond properly to the child’s improper behavior, the child quickly recognizes the appropriate boundary. He then outgrows the problem behavior most swiftly, moving into more mature
Goal achievement is really a very simple process: persistently take your best action for what you want until you arrive at your goal. As simple as this seems, very few actually employ the process to achieve really big goals. The key to using the goal achievement process to make your greatest dreams come true is practice. Goal achievement is a skill, and like any other skill, it can be mastered. The process of mastering any skill involves practice. The more you practice the s
How you feel, on the emotional level, draws you into a destiny that resonates with that feeling. When you feel confident, things tend to work out almost effortlessly and automatically. This is because your genuine attitude of confidence generates a kind of magnetic influence that draws together all the elements necessary to align your circumstances with your positive expectations. The anxiety and discouragement we feel when we worry about a possible disappointment literall
Here is the most important and powerful "secret" for achieving prosperity that you will ever learn: YOU ARE THE CREATOR OF YOUR OWN ECONOMY. There are countless success skills that you can develop, like time management, organizational ability, anger and stress management, communication skills, and the various specific proficiencies connected with your particular line of work. And all of those are important. But by far the most important form of personal development to pursu
We usually think of dreams as conditions that occur only in sleep. But you dream every time you think of the past or the future. Think of what you had for breakfast today and a dream flashes in your mind. For an instant, you are living in that dream. Deliberate Dreamers Are Practical We often think of the term “dreamer” with a negative connotation. Dreamers, we hear, are impractical people. Dreamers think, but they don't do. The truth is, though, that the most accomplished i
One of the biggest pet peeves that parents who are raising kids have is talking back. Believe it or not, there are children out there that do not talk back to their parents or anyone else, for that matter. These children also tend to do very well in school because they are respectful to their teachers as well. Raising kids to be respectful is important. In The Beginning There Were Rules Raising kids is the most difficult job you will ever have in your life. Teaching your chi
This newsletter presents you with inspiration quotes that support the self-empowering insight that the world truly is ruled by dreamers. Dreams are not conditions that occur only in sleep. The inspiration quotes that follow deal with the power of deliberately dreaming of the future. These dreams determine the conditions to come. Inspiration Quotes About Future-Dreaming Every dream of the future moves the world toward that dream. The world today is the product of yesterday'
There are good reasons why parents seek alte atives to saying “No” to their children. One is that saying “No” often makes some parents feel that that they are being too negative. If this is your parenting issue with “No”, try instead to inform your child of the reason why, and of what he can do instead for an outcome he wants. For instance, if your child asks for a cookie before bedtime, instead of saying, “No” you might briefly explain: “The sugar would keep you up. But if you stop asking for a cookie now you can have one tomorrow for sure.”
Don't you just love advice that you can really use? Sound relationship advice is truly priceless because it steers us in the direction of love. Relationship advice based on how relationships really work can help you to avoid, and help you to heal from, a broken heart; it can lead you more quickly and easily to your heart's fulfillment There are definite universal principles at work in every relationship. Advice that proves reliable needs to be based on these principles. One
We usually think of defiance as a negative trait. But that thinking is overly simplistic. There are situations when parents WANT children to demonstrate defiance. Don’t you want your child to defy peer pressure that would lead her into irresponsible self-conduct? When your child faces a situation where the odds seem stacked against him, if the goal is worth striving, you want him to defy those odds, don’t you? If your child has a dream and a negative person advises her to
Our parental “job” includes instilling wisdom in our children. There are good reasons why parents would like to find an alte ative to using the word “No” with their children. You don’t want to HAVE to motivate your child to “do the right thing.” Wouldn’t you love sensible ideas to bring as much inspiration to your kids as, say, the idea of shooting off firecrackers? Having to frequently say ‘No’ can make parenting exhausting, and it causes some parents to feel that they are b
When it comes to parenting wisdom, no principle may be more important than how we speak to our children. What we say to our children impacts them deeply. When we feel frustrated with our kids, it’s best to practice the parent wisdom of silence. Under the influence of a disturbed emotional reaction to a child behavior challenge, we are most likely to say something that negatively impacts child self-esteem, self-confidence and performance. What we say to our children forms thei
I was recently discussing a so-called “relationship problem” with a young lady. She is 35 years old and though she says that she desperately wanted to be married with children by now, it hasn’t happened. This relationship goal of hers has been her target for a dozen years, and each year that “happily ever after” life has eluded her she has grown more unhappier with her life. She complains that all the single men that she meets turn out to be “losers”. (Another unhappy rel
Here is a wisdom secret that you may be glad to receive: Every experience in life advances you toward your most deeply desired goals. When I first really “got” this wisdom message, my heart leaped with joy and my entire perspective on life shifted for the better. Even when it APPEARS that you are encountering a disappointing outcome, you are actually moving forward toward the outcome your heart desires. There is really only one direction in life’s flow, and that is UP and INT
Potty training can be a trying time for both the child and the parent. We all want to get our children out of expensive diapers as quickly as possible. Not only can they be nasty to change, they can kill your bank account and oftentimes, the child gets an uncomfortable diaper rash. It’s important to recognize child behavior before making an attempt at potty training your child. Every child is different. You’ll need to know which of the child development stages your child is
We all have to deal with "impossible" people from time to time. You may even be living with one! Let's define an "impossible person" as someone who seems irrationally unwilling to cooperate with you in some way that you regard as important. He or she seems impervious to your reasoning, impossible to reach. This brief article presents relationship tips for sanely handling this potentially maddening challenge. Relationship Tips For How To Win With Impossible People: 1 The firs
Many children have a terrible fear of the dark. This can be trying for both the parent and the child. There is help for parents who are trying to help their children overcome their fears of the dark. Raising kids is a tough enough job but a child who is afraid of the dark can make raising kids even more trying. Positive parenting experts suggest that the best help for parents who are raising kids that are afraid of the dark is simply to have patience. Acknowledge Your Child’s
Do you believe that children cause their parents to react with anger and stress? If, for example, children tell their parents a sharp "No!" in response to a direction or request, must their parents become upset, or do parents have better options? The fact is that you can always improve your reactions to some degree. But as long as you believe that another person or your situation gives you no choice but to react in any particular way, you give up your power to change. Childre
Good parenting supports the child’s goodness. This is an INSIDE job, because “goodness” is an intrinsic quality. We can define the child’s “goodness” as: * Her genuine manifestation of love * His radiance of pure innocence * The heart-touching expression of herchild’s inner, spiritual beauty To support your child’s goodness, you have to CONSCIOUSLY connect with the child’s heart. Blindly reacting with annoyance to the child’s behavior may break the child’s trust and so b
In the parent-child relationship, regard your child’s attitudes and behaviors as reflections of your own. The 3-year-old who has been displaying“strong-willed” tendencies sinceearly infancy is most likely portraying the strong-willed character of a parent. While you can look at this as a genetic condition, you can almost always find that relating with the child in certain ways leads the child into more cooperative behavior. Tips for parents of “strong willed” children: Avoid
This article presents a very powerful "secret" for goal achievement. The "secret" is to make your action-plans easy enough for you to follow through on. Goal achievement is the fruition of a process that is totally reliable: 1. Take action in line with what you want 2. Learn from your experience to make improvements in your approach as you go 3. Persistr And your goal achievement is virtually guaranteed. What holds most people back from goal achievement is failing to take a