SelfGrowth.comThe Self Improvement Guide

About Log InLog In Browse TopicsTopics Create Professional AccountJoin

Home/
Articles

Browse SelfGrowth articles

Loading the searchable article library…

SelfGrowth.comThe Self Improvement Guide

Explore experts, guides, articles, videos, and events by topic.

Explore

All topics Experts Guides Articles Videos

Platform

About SelfGrowth Websites Newsletters Events Become an Official Guide Contact

Compliance

Legal

Privacy Policy Terms and Conditions Cookie Policy

Your choices

Privacy Requests

Help improve SelfGrowth

Accounts

Personal account Create Professional Account Become a Contributor

SelfGrowth helps readers explore personal growth topics with clear paths into guides, experts, and related resources.

Home/
Experts/
bob-lancer/
Articles

Articles by bob-lancer

Browse published articles attributed to bob-lancer, with full-archive search.

articles: 87

Explore

TopicsBrowse every topic ExpertsFind people ArticlesRead guidance WebsitesOpen resources EventsSee sessions VideosWatch clips

⌕

SortRecommended Most viewed Most recent Highest rated Alphabetical

Showing 51–87

By bob-lancerFeb 23, 20121 topic

Overcome The Influence Of Negative Thinking for Greater Success

Much has been written about the power of positive thinking. But to fully harness your power to succeed, you need to be careful to avoid the common mistake of underestimating the influence of NEGATIVE thinking. Thinking positively and thinking negatively exert the same form of influence over our lives: that is, we bring about what we think about. To apply positive thought-power, visualize success by “drawing” in your imagination a mental image of yourself succeeding. This

Primary topic: Success Principles

Success Principles

1,289 views

By bob-lancerDec 16, 20111 topic

The Price of Over-Protective Parenting

Watch the child closely to recognize when you are really needed to step in to lend support verbally or physically, but give the child enough freedom to discover his safe limits for himself. Raising children well involves a careful balance of providing the child with independence and intervention. Avoid physically dominating your child in an over-protective manner. Instead, alertly SPOT your child, whatever her age, when she is, say, attempting to climb up a tree. As your chil

Primary topic: Parenting

1,289 views

By bob-lancerJun 28, 20121 topic

Meet Your Family Demands With Sanity

We plan to have a family based on the dream of family harmony. But supporting a family emotionally and financially is not that easy. The bigger the family the more directions you are pulled in at one time. If you parent more than one child you know how hard it can be when both children demand your undivided attention at the same time, while the phone is ringing, dinner is cooking and your mate is trying tell you something important. At the same you might look around at your h

Primary topic: Family

1,275 views

By bob-lancerFeb 29, 20121 topic

Improve Your Parent Reactions

One of the crucial parenting skills for achieving the results you want involves paying attention to your child’s reaction to YOUR reaction. Observing the CONSEQUENCES of how you interact with your child reveals that your reactions are not just an effect of your child’s behavior, but also a CAUSE of your child’s behavior. For instance, reacting to your child with much annoyance, complaining, criticalness and disapproval actually programs the child, on a subconscious level, t

Primary topic: Teenagers and Parenting

Teenagers and Parenting

1,237 views

By bob-lancerMar 19, 20121 topic

School Teachers: Keys For Maintaining Your Power In The Classroom

Maintaining classroom order depends upon the teacher’s ability to maintain his or her own state of inner order, which can be described as a state of authentic peace and poise. Some students are quite skilled at “triggering” teachers out of their peace and poise and into a state of insecurity. These bossy or defiant students effectively trigger the teacher’s insecurity by creating classroom disorder with impunity. An extreme example of this is the seventh grader who recentl

Primary topic: Empowerment

1,223 views

By bob-lancerDec 16, 20111 topic

Behavior Management Tips For Parents

Each week, select one of these tips to focus on. You might jot the affirmation down onto an index card, so you can review the affirmation often throughout the day, to help you stay on track. “This week I will remember to maintain my peace and poise, understanding that I place my child in charge when he or she can make me react, and that in true peace and poise I have the clearest judgment and enjoy the blessed opportunity of parenting my child.” “This week I will remember th

Primary topic: Parenting

1,205 views

By bob-lancerRecently published1 topic

11 "Relationship Quotes" For Self-Empowering Communication

A practical article connected into the broader SelfGrowth topic graph.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

1,201 views

By bob-lancerFeb 29, 20121 topic

Parenting Help for Compromising Styles

Many people are afraid to ask for help learning to parent their children because it oftentimes makes them feel like they are inadequate. Nothing is farther from the truth. Asking for parenting help simply shows that you want to become the best parent that you possibly can be. That’s honorable and wise and in no way, shape or form shows that you are inept. Knowing about the different parenting styles will help you to find the best way to handle your own children. There are ma

Primary topic: Teenagers and Parenting

Teenagers and Parenting

1,188 views

By bob-lancerFeb 29, 20121 topic

Great Parenting Guidelines

This article presents a parenting guide for stress-free child behavior management. Maintain order in your home in an orderly way. When the children become chaotic, concentrate on not letting the chaos get to you. Instead, maintain your calm, confident demeanor and proceed to handle things in a patient, step-by-step manner. In this way you will gradually increase the order and avoid empowering the chaos. For amazing parent help, practice CONSCIOUS parenting. Remember to rema

Primary topic: Teenagers and Parenting

Teenagers and Parenting

1,181 views

By bob-lancerDec 16, 20111 topic

Motivational Videos For Self-Improvement

Wisie motivational videos are today’s new breakthrough way to success through self-improvement. Wisie motivational videos present deeper practical wisdom messages than you will find anywhere else, messages that lead to great breakthroughs and release tremendous power. Through brilliant verbal messages on success through self-improvement, matched with poignant, vivid imagery and gently inspiring music that drive their wisdom home, wisie 90-second motivational videos are sure

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

1,154 views

By bob-lancerDec 2, 20111 topic

Couples: Here's How To Argue

While couples argue, they fight against their love. They relate with one another as adversaries, turning passionate loving into passionate loathing. And yet, while it involves sorrow and pain, even the most heated shouting matches can serve as a healthy and necessary catharsis for the relationship to grow. When couples argue they can relieve themselves of the pent up frustrations and resentments that are bound to build in any meaningful, long-term relationship. Healthy coup

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

1,144 views

By bob-lancerDec 16, 20111 topic

How To Create A Behavior Problem

One positive discipline influence often overlooked by parents has to do with the quality of the child’s surroundings and routine. To behave well, children need a number of essential ingredients. Among these are: 1.An orderly, stable home environment 1.An orderly daily routiner Both of these are necessary for the child to develop and demonstrate orderly behavior, orderly thinking, and balanced emotions. A significant contributing factor to a child’s unruly behavior is exposing

Primary topic: Parenting

1,139 views

By bob-lancerDec 2, 20111 topic

Positive Thinking: Why It Doesn't Work For Everyone - And How It Can Work For You

Everyone has heard about the power of positive thinking. Filling your mind with inspiring thoughts and exposing yourself to inspirational messages are great keys to personal development and success. And yet, only the very few top performers in any field really apply this age-old wisdom for its full benefit. The reason may lie in the fact that positive thinking requires more self-discipline than most people realize or are willing to apply. The purpose of this success article i

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

1,139 views

By bob-lancerDec 16, 20111 topic

Help Your Self To Help... For Success

Self help is absolutely crucial for your success. To achieve all the success that you desire, you need to do all that is within your power to help your self to achieve your goals. Over relying on others, or even on God, will only lead to your disappointment. Self help alone is never enough, though. There is a limit to what you can accomplish on your own. Forming strategic alliances with others, and learning how to trust what lies beyond your power of control, are just as nec

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

1,137 views

By bob-lancerDec 2, 20111 topic

Romantic Relationship Advice (Part 1)

Relationship advice that pertains to romance typically ranges from the superficial to the silly, in many self-help books and magazines. This shallow quality of romantic relationship advice may be a reflection of the dearth of romance in so many marriages, particularly those with children. Relationship advice for a deeper romantic bond is not critical. You won't die without romance, if by life you mean only the active heartbeat that can be sustained through artificial, mechan

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

1,129 views

By bob-lancerJun 4, 20121 topic

Relationship Advice For Love and Success

The quality of our marriage impacts every part of our lives. When there is stress and strife in a relationship, we lose motivation, focus and even self-respect. To achieve happy, healthy life-success, you need to be in positive, harmonious relationships. When an important relationship is going well, you feel free to focus your full power into achieving the goals in life that are most important to you. But relationship problems fester and our emotions enter turbulence and we

Primary topic: Marriage Coaching

Marriage Coaching

1,128 views

By bob-lancerFeb 29, 20121 topic

Are You Teaching Your Children To Not Listen?

Positive Discipline is about teaching children, in a loving way that preserves their healthy self-esteem, to behave well ON THEIR OWN. It is also about teaching children to heed our directions when we need to direct. We teach children to IGNORE our directions, and our corrections, when deliver them incorrectly. Parenting skills therefore need to include knowing when to NOT direct, to give the child a chance to develop responsible behavior on his own. And also knowing HOW t

Primary topic: Teenagers and Parenting

Teenagers and Parenting

1,109 views

By bob-lancerJun 18, 20111 topic

Help Your Self To Help... For Success

Self help is absolutely crucial for your success. To achieve all the success that you desire, you need to do all that is within your power to help your self to achieve your goals. Over relying on others, or even on God, will only lead to your disappointment. Self help alone is never enough, though. There is a limit to what you can accomplish on your own. Forming strategic alliances with others, and learning how to trust what lies beyond your power of control, are just as nec

Primary topic: Empowerment

1,098 views

By bob-lancerDec 16, 20111 topic

Parent Stress-Relief

In the midst of the hustle and bustle of parenting kids, a common mistake involves the parent focusing too much on the child’s inappropriate action, and not focusing enough on the parent’s reaction to that action. For instance, say your toddler is behaving inappropriately in a public setting, like in church. While the Pastor attempts to deliver a moving sermon, yours is the only child determined to move right along with it. He breaks free of your grasp and runs up and down th

Primary topic: Parenting

1,086 views

By bob-lancerRecently published1 topic

True Parent Authority

A typical parenting challenge that causes many parents frustration can be expressed in the following question: "What do you do when you want your child to do something, and he responds with: 'I don't care', or 'I can do whatever I want to do', or 'I am not going to my room', or 'try to catch me', or 'I won't eat this, you can't make me'"?

Primary topic: Parenting

1,086 views

By bob-lancerDec 16, 20111 topic

Daily Inspiration Strategies From Inspirational Videos To Save Your Marriage

In this article we will look at some daily inspiration strategies contained in Wisie relationship inspirational videos that may help you save your marriage. The painful direction your relationship takes probably advances through many small, hurtful steps. To improve your relationship, take small helpful steps, like viewing Wisie relationship success videos, because they offer powerful, positive relationship success strategies. What follows are some examples of these small

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

1,082 views

By bob-lancerDec 16, 20111 topic

Daily Parents Guidance

Here are twelve mother quotes regarding parenting that fathers can certainly benefit from pondering: I understand that how I see my child in my mind is a form of self-fulfilling prophecy. I envision my child as a winner, as I feel confident in my child’s ability to successfully meet life’s challenges. To be the best mother I can be, I seek out, contemplate and strive to incorporate positive tips for parenting. I believe in my own ability to lead a successful life, understand

Primary topic: Parenting

1,075 views

By bob-lancerMay 22, 20121 topic

A Student Discipline Secret For Teachers

As a school teacher, it can help you better handle student discipline challenges by understanding how they often originate. Children become like their parents! This fact can do more than enhance parenting success – it also proves helpful to teachers. You see child behavior, moodiness, classroom attitudes, ways of communicating and emotionally reacting all reflect the parents’ modes of self-expression to a significant extent. The student who displays hostility toward author

Primary topic: Learning

1,069 views

By bob-lancerMay 31, 20121 topic

How To Resolve Your Relationship Issues

Even the best relationships have problems. Sooner or later, even if you start out believing that you are with your soul mate, relationship issues inevitably arise. As hard as we work to resolve our issues, though, typically very little progress is made. Despite relationship counseling, most often, we just learn to live with what we don’t like about the relationship, or we leave and learn to live without it. There is an alte ative. Here is some free relationship advice tha

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

1,042 views

By bob-lancerJun 11, 20121 topic

Some Of The Most Powerful Parenting Advice

Children are their parents! More specifically, how a child behaves, the child’s mood patterns, attitudes, ways of communicating and emotionally reacting – even thought patterns - all reflect their parents to a significant extent. In a sense, raising children means raising ourselves. In my parenting classes, parents quickly realize how their children’s behavior problems demonstrate behaviors those parents themselves have modeled. Some of the most powerful parenting advice

Primary topic: Child Development

Child Development

1,030 views

By bob-lancerMay 31, 20121 topic

Solve Relationship Problems The Inner Way

Even great relationships have problems. Sooner or later, even if you find your soulmate and marry him or her, marital issues are BOUND to arise. As hard as we work to resolve our relationship issues, though, we usually feel stuck in them. Even if you attend the very best marriage counseling, you will very likely find that after all of the airing of issues, the issues continue to divide the relationship. There is an alte ative. It is a bit unusual, but so is a really happy

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

1,015 views

By bob-lancerMar 4, 20111 topic

Love Advice For Finding Your Ideal Relationship

The love advice that you will find here is really essential for your growing relationship satisfaction. By applying the love advice that follows you will progressively grow more fulfilled in your love life. So the love advice that follows applies to all of us, including those facing a very severe relationship difficulty or no relationship at all. To experience the ecstatic joy of realizing that you are in your ideal relationship, you first have to find that relationship with

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

989 views

By bob-lancerJul 10, 20121 topic

Three Powerful Steps For Success

Worrying and feeling discouraged about your future will not help you one bit. The more clearly and consistently you focus on your goal, and the more effective your action, the more quickly you can succeed. They certainly are not what we can call “steps to success”! On the contrary, they distract one’s focus and they drain one’s power, hindering successful action. So why do people slip into worry and discouragement? The answer is quite simple: HABIT. Indulging in feelings of d

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

984 views

By bob-lancerDec 2, 20111 topic

Relationship Advice For Growth: 8 Tips

There is no relationship advice that can save us from the fact that relationships challenge all of us to the utmost at times. Even the best relationship advice that you can find offers no escape from this because life demands our ongoing personal development. So if you are looking for relationship advice that will make your relationships easy all the time, you look in vain. Real relationship advice guides you, not in how to avoid hard relationship challenges, but in how to

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

965 views

By bob-lancerDec 16, 20111 topic

Parenting Kids Without Punishment

Being a parent is without a doubt among the most demanding jobs on earth – that is, if you strive to be a great parent. Like any other endeavor, though, you can slide by in parenting if you choose. But if you do strive to be the very best parent for your child that you can be, one of the most challenging aspects of parenting kids well has to do with appropriately handling child behavior problems. Punishment is often the first option that parents resort to. But in this parenti

Primary topic: Parenting

958 views

By bob-lancerDec 16, 20111 topic

Are You Teaching Your Children To Not Listen?

Positive Discipline is about teaching children, in a loving way that preserves their healthy self-esteem, to behave well ON THEIR OWN. It is also about teaching children to heed our directions when we need to direct. We teach children to IGNORE our directions, and our corrections, when deliver them incorrectly. Parenting skills therefore need to include knowing when to NOT direct, to give the child a chance to develop responsible behavior on his own. And also knowing HOW to d

Primary topic: Parenting

956 views

By bob-lancerDec 16, 20111 topic

Solutions For Easier Child Behavior Management

Dealing with child behavior is sometimes incredibly difficult. The most common child behavior problem can push any parent over the edge, including: Crying on and on Rejecting "no" for an answerr Outright defiancer Disrespectful "back talk" Picky eatingr Refusing to do household chores or schoolworkr Lyingr Dawdling when you need to leaver Drifting off taskr Whining helplesslyr Resisting bedtimer Sibling rivalry The following solutions can make it easier for you to handle and

Primary topic: Parenting

939 views

By bob-lancerAug 2, 20121 topic

Be Strategic To Achieve More Personal Success And Satisfaction

To achieve success, we need to remain on the path of personal development aimed at developing the inner strength to NOT take things personally. Reacting emotionally wastes power and blinds one from recognizing the golden opportunity to succeed that present in every situation. One of the most valuable success secrets is simply this: Reacting emotionally is the opposite of professionalism because it holds one back from professional progress. When you take something personall

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

914 views

By bob-lancerDec 2, 20111 topic

Romantic Relationship Advice (Part 3): 5 Insights To Set Your Heart Free

Romantic Relationship Advice Insight 1: The Power of The Small We release the spark of romance and fuel it into passion through the smallest advances. Based on this insight, your romantic relationship advice is to give your mate an admiring glance, a soft kiss that comes as a surprise, a fleeting touch of tende ess prolonged an extra moment. Romantic Relationship Advice Insight 2: Confront Fear Romantic advances involve the risk or rejection. Holding onto past hurts paralyz

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

913 views

By bob-lancerDec 16, 20111 topic

The Trials and Tribulations of Child Behavior

Being a parent is the toughest job on the planet. There are no simple tips or easy ways to handle child behavior. Kids are merely little adults that have a lifetime of learning in front of them. They need to learn how to behave as well as what is expected from them at an early age. Children are like sponges and love to suck in all of the information that surrounds them. With good parenting skills, you will be able to incorporate proper behavior into their life’s lessons. If y

Primary topic: Parenting

903 views

By bob-lancerDec 2, 20111 topic

Romantic Relationship Advice (Part 2)

While standard romantic relationship advice recommends things like giving flowers and candy, wearing special perfume or even feathers, dancing on a date, etc. - those represent only extra efforts, like new icing on an old cake. But the cake itself may be spoiled! What spoils a marriage are the build-up of blockages to romantic flow. What follows is romantic relationship advice in the form of a four-week program aimed at releasing those blockages. As you do the inner work tha

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

877 views

By bob-lancerDec 2, 20111 topic

The Relationship Law of Growth

Going through overwhelming challenges gives us the opportunity to make a leap of growth: as we improve our handling of those challenges, we fulfill our greater purpose and potential at the deepest levels. So, when your relationship feels the most trying see it as our “graduation” into your greater self and a greater life. To be really mature about such trials would be to actually feel grateful for them. It’s No One’s Fault It’s not your fault when your relationship gets roc

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

869 views

Previous pagePage 2

Back to top ↑