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Self-esteem is very well understood now-a-days as far as its definition is conce ed it is to improve one’s knowledge, success rate, social and emotional life, and strive for the next level of achievement continuously. Ones overall evaluations of successes and failures become self-esteem in total. William James famous formula: successes by aspirations equals to self-esteem.
For the parents of toddlers, it is very important to know what you are offering to your kids is affecting their attitudes towards life deeply. Leaving aside the evolutionary viewpoint, am focusing on the environment we provide for our kids. Many psychologists would agree that children learn through imitation that counts their 90% of learning in total. Such an amazing fact is it! What can a child learn through their parents through imitation: A. How to speak B. How to react to emotional disturbance C. How to express happy feelings D. How to behave aggressivelyr
Tensions and worries are of dissimilar varieties. Some are based on relationships, some are financial and others are conceptual. We live in a variety of cultures, thus experiences are too complex and ambiguous at a large level. Notwithstanding, our many of the troubles could be solved through a simple cognitive therapy or a therapy of belief change. When you meet with any such thing; believe me, it could be solved with a thrust button. Let me give you some more examples: a. People call me……………… and I simply do not like this word.
Time is a very important factor in each and every field of life. Everybody knows its importance and management strategies very well. Unfortunately, in the field of psychology, time is not given so much importance. We go to psychologists when finish with all doctors and practitioners in the field of medicine. The psychologist is given the last hope and usually we are never mentally convinced to get advice on our personal matters.
There are many kinds of toys that we can choose for our toddlers. In this process of choosing, parents have more decisive power and especially mothers can inculcate energy into the hearts of their children for specific objects. All kinds of toys are beneficial to children to some extent but some of them are good for their creative ability exclusively.
Have you ever seen a baby? She is so cute with her tiny feet, pure smile, loving gestures and incredible affection. Have you ever realized that your child could not walk properly, could not speak fluently, could not fulfill any task given to her and could not even take food with care ( without having any mess) yet she could give a smile, could perceive your love, anger, sadness, excitement and other emotions. Have you ever realized that in spite of being too weak and too dependent, your baby is fully equipped with the strongest emotion-love.
We all know what unconditional love is and how to apply it in a proper way. We all know parents love for their children must be unconditional, Gods love for his creation is always unconditional, and we know we need to develop unconditional love if we love someone truly. Unconditional means, love someone without any effort to change someone’s behavior, personality, and beliefs- accepting others with all shortcomings, limitations and weaknesses. We all know it very well and expect the same love from others too.
There are many things parents can do for their children. They can offer lots of activities to facilitate their creative skills , they can explore new places to give their children new exposures, they can provide them with lots of books to read and write, and they can play with them or provide them with opportunities to excel and accelerate. All of these activities are category specific: designed differently for each age group.
In Pakistani culture, many sayings/ concepts have taken the place of cultural things, and people consciously/unconsciously accepts them and adopt them in their life. One of those concepts is, “ to be overly obedient to your wife” ( beewi key neechey lag jana). It means that if someone is taking care of his wife’s needs, paying attention to her desires, respecting or following her wishes- he is not a real ‘Man’.
Fashion is not bad rather a need in today’s modern lifestyle. It is not limited to only dress out-fits rather covers all aspects of life from home-décor, gardening, cultural things, vehicles, traditions, parties, vacations, hobbies, professions, to beliefs,values, thoughts, priorities and identities. In almost every culture of the world, we can see it flourishing to some extent whether it is related to new trends in dresses, haircuts or tends in buying luxury cars, villas, or resorts. Unfortunately, in Pakistan, it has become a need!
Today I passed my driving test and felt a lot about how I did it. Irrespective to my knowledge of driving that my instructor has given me and the practice that is prerequisite to pass a driving test, we need something else to know. Especially the person who feels nervous and shaky on the test day, must read these tips. The driving test is different from other theory tests that we could pass by rote learning to some extent. In driving test, we need a lot of practice and understanding as well as common sense. It is also a test of your anxiety level if you are a B.P. or heart patient.
I have read more than 50 books on the Law of Attraction and they all focus on the same thing but the way of expression is different. I cannot see any difference of opinion between, the writers main focus. They all believe in the state of receiving. They all agree on the power of gratitude. They all are convinced of the idea that positive begets positive. They all think our thoughts define us. They all stress upon being stress free and feel good. They all want us to be out of the circle of self pity and depressed thoughts. They all want us to feel better in spite of our bitter realities.
In this book I have highlighted a very serious custom of Pakistan named,rukhsati',which means sending off girls with their husbands on the wedding day. But in reality it feels like girls are the burden and guests in their parents home and are supposed to leave it one day to live finally in their husband or in-laws home. Girls should not come back to their parents home, even in case of severe need or problem.
Children are our next generation and our future depends on them. They need to be healthy emotionally, physically and psychologically. We all know that medicines help us in curing diseases and improve our health in all over the world. Similarly we know how antibiotics prove a beneficial medicine in certain circumstances. We all use immunizations to provide our children a proper level of self defense against fatal diseases. Thus we take all feasible measures to protect ourselves from any possible low or high risk disease since the beginning.
We all learn from experiences and that is the most believing and convincing knowledge we ever gain. There is no limit to that. Let's take an example and then focus on the topic. I was wondering why I am blessed with poverty, struggle and hardships in my life since birth. All I got was not satisfying me and I was in great depression of self pity, helplessness and loneliness. The time was not so far when I could decide to commit suicide.
As a mortal human being, we just cannot deny the importance of products we use in our daily life. I am a fan of relationship science and its related benefits, but for this time, I want to highlight the benefits of the tangible items around us. As we use them often, they are closest to us, sometimes closer to human beings around us. For most of the time, we are living with those items, things, or products and we seldom recognize their utility and company consciously or unconsciously.
We as human beings are designed to live with food, shelter, love emotions, health, relationships, and many other things common for all of us in all over the world. Our instincts, attitudes, behaviors, aptitudes and personalities are totally understood the world over. We recognize the meanings of universal realities, international human rights, the definition of love, happiness and humanity as a whole in all over the world.
You know children accessories are very expensive nowadays. They require food, dresses, and toys. They will push you towards economical draught in no time. So what would you do to prevent this. Here are some useful tips for you: 1. Always buy second hand clothes – whether it is your new born or 5 years old. 2. The old shirts usually have your kids favorite character on them, so cut it and glue it on other shirts. 3. Go to charity shops daily and see if your child would need some of the toys. You would need them in future too.
Unconscious background matters a lot to succeed in our life or live a happy peaceful life at least. Should we think about it twice before ignoring this very important aspect of our life? True, we need to explore it first. As it is very deep and complex human emotion. Let me give you an example : You are going to see someone and on the way, you come across some naughty or disturbing people. People react in different manners to deal with the similar, strange, nasty situations. And there could be many types of reactions – they all depend on your unconscious mindset. Such as:
Decision making is very complex as many concepts play their role to make it happen. For most of the time, we don’t know which concept is leading ourselves towards an immediate decision. These are hidden concepts that make our background to work within our brains. Here, I am least interested in concepts that we consciously choose to play with or concepts that are given to us to play with by others. For the cause of our real behavior/attitude, we need to know hidden forces behind our actions.
Although there are many activities that you can choose from to create a wonderful environment at home while playing with your kids, but in this article I will only focus on things that need no or small amount of cash and will provide maximum pleasure of interaction and attachment between you and your toddlers. 1. Stickers
We being a human always search for easy fixes, short cuts, and quick ways to fulfill our desires, wishes, and needs. We want to be happy as early as possible. We are quite impatient and inconsistent in achieving our goals and become successful. It is our nature and we fight with our nature to look mature, reasonable, vigilant, cool, persistent and tolerant.
Once upon a time, in the city of Bathgate, Scotland, a full term pregnant girl, poorly dressed, was walking around the streets of the city aimlessly, carelessly but with great passion. She was quite educated, but no work at that very moment had put her in the most vulnerable situation. She had not a single penny in her bag to buy something for her future child. Even then she was selecting things for her child and enjoying window-shopping every day. Once she selected a white snow suit for her child- that she would never be able to buy in her entire life.
Self –Esteem is nowadays a common truth that everyone knows to some extent. We know when we feel low in esteem and when we feel high self esteem. We cannot say for sure, whether our self-esteem is real or fake, but we know that we are confronted with self-esteem issues and nothing else. You may find thousand techniques on how to gain self esteem truly and how to increase it day by day. You may find literature on how to maintain a healthy level of self esteem and become a successful human being as a result.
We speak languages that often represent our thoughts, cultural beliefs, religious beliefs, viewpoints and serve as communication needs in all over the world. Our languages contain different words for different feelings such as being happy, grieved, cheer full, cool, indifferent, warm, hot, sensitive, caring, aggressive, assertive, pound, shy, confident and much more. For each human feeling, there is some vocabulary to express the same emotion. And many emotions are universal that we keep by birth.
There are many cultures in this world and all are aware of the name, ‘cultural differences’. We think we belong to a different region so our likes and dislikes are different. We feel we behave similarly while living in the same group and follow the same religious teachings that each one of us living around us belong to. For example, being a Muslim, we think all Muslims are alike because they share the same religion. Being a Christian, we think all Christians behave in a certain way.
Self-esteem is one of the natural things that we all have been blessed with since birth. A tiny baby cannot do anything for her, hence can cry, drink, blink, observes, and can feel emotions. Although the intensity of the emotions are not very much visible, but they are present even at the time of birth. We all know when babies think they know everything even the things that are obviously beyond their capacity. They cannot speak a word properly and say they can speak well. They cannot write a single alphabet, but think they are writing a story or so.
How parents introduce their children to others impact on their personalities strongly. There are many examples that may clarify the concept better. Let us consider: A parent is introducing his/her child to his/her relative/friend and says with a smiling face- a. She is too aggressive. Please be careful…she could harm you through her sharp nails. (the child is only 2 years old). b. My son is too shy. You can see he is not behaving properly in front of you. c. My son is too hyper. Please do not stop him from doing anything. He will create a scene.
The beliefs that we love or hate usually are part of ourselves and we are primary caretaker of them. We want to preserve them at any cost and would not lose them for any price. Sometimes we have to pay a heavy price to keep our wordings, principles and beliefs. Beliefs simply represent us and we are known what we are due to our beliefs.
Today I taught myself the definition of Happiness that would best satisfy me at least and that I want to share with you so that you could think it over too. You might have the same meaning like me so this mail will affirm your belief too.
A practical article connected into the broader SelfGrowth topic graph.
We all have different types of personalities, attitudes, moods, emotions, languages, cultures, beliefs, values, traditions, customs, and priorities in life. We share a few commonalities and the big differences even when we live together as a family member, a part of a social group and being a part of a culture, in one country – ultimately in one world.
The law of closure in which we tend to see the incomplete figures as a whole while ignoring gaps and missing spaces. This popular law of gestalt psychology, shape our over all perception indeed. We, not only perceive pictures as a whole, rather every thing as a whole. By nature we do not like to perceive gaps in our perceptions or we believe that our perception is perfect whatever it is. Therefore, in spite of looking at a disordered picture, we convince our self that the picture is complete, with no fault.
We are educated, informed, smart and vigilant. Even then we make wrong choices, wrong decisions, keep guilts and miseries. In one way or the other we suffer from our own misjudgments and misperceptions. We cannot control our mistakes from being happen and cannot save ourselves from being victimized. Pitty on us!
Aggression in children is not very common in cold countries as compared to warm places. There are many factors that contribute to the child’s aggressive behavior: weather, noise pollution, family structure, food, and parents parenting style. The most important one is ”Ëparents' parenting style’. One should know what to do when his/her child is in an aggressive mood otherwise things will become more complex and alarming in the future. Here are some common mistakes that parents do and contribute a lot towards the aggression of their children deliberately or unconsciously:
Positivity is a universal trait and a common factor to enhance our well being over all over the world. Every day we learn about positivity and try to adopt it as much as possible in our day to day life. We love to be called as positive parents, couples, children and positive members of our society. We by all means, fight with our negativity and try our best to achieve an acceptable level of resilience. It is our utmost aim to live a happy, positive and successful life.
You know it is never the same 'feeling'- When you are going to pick a glass of water for someone When you are going to pick a glass of water for yourself When you are going to pick a glass of water in order to obey When you are going to pick a glass of water under pressure (of your or your loved one's health) When you are going to pick a glass of water with great passio When you are going to pick a glass of water to fill your need of great thirst When you are going to pick a glass of water for your kid When you are going to pick a glass of water for your enemy
Why the Nice biscuits are nice? I do not know if you think they are nice. Anyhow, there could be several reasons for them to be nice : They are sweetr They are inexpensiver They are availabler Some has brought them for your Being a child, your mother used to offer them to your Your friend likes themr You eat them for your stomach needr You think they are lightr You think they are different in shaper You think they taste differentr You think your mother likes themr You got them as a rewardr
Education is must for everyone and especially for children, it is vital than any other consideration. Informed parents in all over the world are personally involved in the enhancement of their kid’s education and career in the long run. Nobody in this global world would deny the importance of a well-rounded education for our new generation.
Happiness is no doubt a feeling, very much desired, true, delicate and crystal clear. Everybody knows when he/she is happy with him/her, with others, with the work, with the environment and even with his/her creator. We all become happy in various degrees- average, low, high, the least and the most. We all experience happiness often and crave for it throughout our life span. Happiness not only benefit us, our body, our brain, our immune system rather benefit others who interact with us, talk to us, watch us, passes by us, and to the environment as a whole.
In this short life, we always crave for things- sometimes for wealth, sometimes for health, and sometimes for relationships. We strive for successes, fame, and popularity. Our ultimate goal is our happiness and satisfaction to a large level. What we need to understand is that our time is the most precious thing in our life. Although we feel happy when we earn a lot, when we enjoy health, when we love someone etc, but our quality time that we spend (alone or with someone) is the most beautiful thing in this world to remember and to cherish again and again.
"Belief is defined in Webster's Unabridged Third New International Dictionary as a 'conviction of the truth of some statement or the reality of some being or phenomenon………………………… One must therefore take cognitive, behavioral, sensory, motivational, affective, and contextual factors into account when attempting to unravel the mysteries of belief system evolution." (Walters, 2002, p. 21).
When we go to the market to buy some electric item, we consider all the specifications in detail and compare their quality with their price. For example, in the shopping of computer, we consider hard drive capacity, screen size, RAM, processor type, etc. We take it as a whole and compare several times with other categories of the product.In short, we try to satisfy ourselves from every aspect and then decide about the purchase. The people who do not care much, usually ends up in frustration and cry over spilt milk.
When we live with someone we have to share many things from food to bed. In couples, usually arguments arise due to having a contradictory point of view about one object. Do you want to know what is the real truth about your partner with respect to love, sex and intimacy? Are you aware of your partnerÃƢ┚¬Ã¢“¾¢s true nature? Have you ever experienced your partner reacted differently somewhere beyond your expectations? If yes, then it is a case of contradictory preferences. Consider the following statements for a while:
How can you give a different Background to your kids?
We all have different kinds of aspirations, perceptions and beliefs. There are many theories about how we form them, modify and re-establish them for our purposes. Among several theories one is that we make them instantly, indirectly, and unconsciously while experiencing a unique situation or event. This kind of concept usually becomes the base for other future concepts that would be added into it step by step from time to time. Now consider the following concrete examples for clarity purposes:
Figure and ground relationship is very common among gestalt psychologists. It is one of the most popular laws of visual perception which states that figure-ground organization is a type of perceptual grouping that is a vital necessarily for recognizing objects through vision. It is known as identifying a figure from the background ( cited in wikipedia). Without any background, vision is not complete. Even blank or white background plays its vital role in our perceptual understanding of the objects. see more on: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Figure%E2%80%93ground_(perception)
Consider the following examples for a while: a. You are on your way and you come across a mother with her sweet toddler child. You start cuddling him/her and ignore the mother totally (no eye contact) b. You meet someone you know on your way, with his or her spouse. For you, the spouse is a stranger and you had no contact before, with him/her. You talk with your acquaintance for a pretty long time and ignore the partner standing beside him totally (no eye contact).
The word ‘why’ is very important in motivating a person to make some decision. When one believes that the task given to him is worth considering, he/she is naturally inclined towards it. The goal, belief, purpose, benefit or cash whatever is in your mind to boost your energy towards a set task, is the most important thing. It is usually in your unconscious when you set your mind to take an action. There could be one or several motivating forces behind your actions; however, usually one factor is big enough to make a person willing to do something.r
When you go for shopping, you come across many products of your choice and you choose something that you like obviously in terms of beauty, quality, and price. When you have no choice available, you go to the item you are in need of. When there are some choices, you do a little comparison of price, brand and quality. You pick one that fits in your criteria.