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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

ARE YOU USING YOUR THREE MINDS?

I can tell my couples how to do things till I’m blue in the face, but unless we play deeper change is not possible… I find that we have a tendency to look for immediate gratification, the quick fix, the easy way out, and the shortest path to the Promised Land. If this approach worked we would already be an amazingly evolved species… Unfortunately, this is not the case. This approach does not work. We have to be in it to win… We have to have skin in the game to get the desired outcome. We have to have our two feet in to walk and enjoy the Journey.

Primary topic: Codependency

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GIVING TO YOURSELF FOR ULTIMATE SUCCESS

I know not everybody enjoys and thrives during the holidays. Most actually don’t and struggle. I’m sorry if this is you. Tackling our Holiday and Year-End Process™ (HYP) might help… I know that our clients that fully embrace this process fare much better than those that don’t when the new year comes around… If you struggle please Gift this process to yourself!

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

ARE YOU CONTROLLING?

I’ve been knee deep in upgrading my personal routines and Wellness, Connection & Success Habits™. I do practice what I preach! LOL I’ve been having so much fun exploring and playing with resources to assist me with this current Theme. One of my targets is becoming even more paperless, now in my personal life as well. As you might know, I’m the queen of sticky notes. I pretty much run my life on a sticky pad (don’t judge me!). Yes, I have major platforms running my practice, teams, and even personal life – but I still need to capture, see and touch my immediate notes and to-dos on paper.

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

5 INSIGHTS FOR YOUR PHYSICAL AND MENTAL HEALTH

Yep, it’s official. We, NYS, have received the “Major Disaster Declaration”. These are tough times. How are you making out as this crisis continues to ravage our area and the world? It is imperative that we are extremely proactive in helping not spread the virus and that we are extremely proactive on how we set ourselves up to weather this storm… I strongly encourage you to read last week’s issue for the mindset and strategies for not only surviving but thriving during this terrible time. It’s on our Blog: 9 Tactics for weathering your quarantinernr

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

REPETITION IS THE KEY TO SUCCESS EVEN IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP!

How do we create a masterpiece life? How do create an awesome relationship? The answer is quite simple, we change (grow, heal, step it up a notch, etc)… How do we change? We change by taking action on new information (or old information if you sat on your a** with it thus far)… Insight, information, learning, reading do nothing for us unless we take some kind of related action, unless we implement something different.

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

ARE YOU MASTERING HOW TO CONNECT?

This brings us to our current topic lineup. So far, we’ve covered aspects of Repeating Patterns (from Element3-Clarity & Dynamics), Communication (from Element2-Communication & Alignment), and Boundaries (from Element1-Context & Mindset) in our Successful Couple Strategy™… Repeating Patterns tend to kick relationships in the butt. Dissatisfying and reactive patterns that is. This is where partners feel stuck, get discouraged and potentially give up.

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

DATING IN YOUR CURRENT RELATIONSHIP?

The longer we are with our partner and the more time goes on, there is a tendency for complacency, laziness, neglect, taking-for-grantedness, and boredom in the relationship.

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

YES, YOU CAN LOVE TOO MUCH…

I’ve been writing about stepping it up and fully embracing showering your partner with lots of love. And, I wholeheartedly stand by my position to embrace the Valentine’s Day cliché. But, I also want to warn you that there is such a thing as Loving TOO Much… Now, this does not negate the concept I’ve been endorsing and encouraging. I do want you to be Super Nice to your partner. We usually do way too little of that…

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

3 STEPS TO BUILDING CONNECTION HABITS™

We are at after the initial hustle and bustle of getting to back2school/business, and the accompanying anxiety, stress and overwhelm. We are at a time where the new routine starts to feel like second nature and can get into the groove. Where the energy of the season is inspiring, and productivity comes with ease… Where we can more heartily play with our Autumn Bucket List! Here is one to inspire yours. And, here are 10 Autumn Couple Date Ideas to consider: Cook Autumn Inspired Healthy Recipesr Go on a haunted hay ride or haunted house tourr Have a scary movies binge dayr

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

5 CULPRITS OF LOW INTIMACY…

One of the major consequences of running our life on overdrive is the impact on our energy, not just its vibration but how much of it we have. Fortunately, I’ve been blessed (as have you, but might not fully know it yet!) with the ability to generate energy naturally. Even during the craziest times, I had loads of energy. Though looking back, it was probably partially fueled by my adrenaline and sugar addiction (i.e., hot chocolate and Oreos for dinner while working). Ha! And, Poor Energy has tons of consequences as you might already know!

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

REENERGIZE YOUR LIFE

Life is full of little wonderful surprises if we allow ourselves to see them and let them in… When was the last time you were delighted by the unexpected? Are you being flexible with your approach to life, work, schedule, perspectives? Are you letting your energy flow freely? Do you allow your life approach to energize you, sustain you, elevate you? This is how the magic happens… Embracing the new season, we know that Spring is all about what I call: The Five Rs – Recharging, Restoring, Renewing, Reinvigorating and Rejuvenating.

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

PINK IS FOR BONDING…

Our relationship has a purpose. There is a reason for our relationship why we chose the partner we did. People, in more recent times, usually say they got married, or are involved in their relationship, because they love their partner, and/or have also other logical reasons why they decided to commit and stay with their partner. These are not the real reasons for why they are in their relationship! These are either socially correct or superficial reasons, and are ways for them to understand why they are with their partner.

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

BECOME ALMIGHTY

We are extremely powerful creatures created in God’s semblance. As we are all universally interconnected as energy and matter in the physical universe, we are omnipresent (present everywhere), omniscient (all knowing), omnipotent (all powerful) and we are Love itself. Now that is powerful.

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

HABIT BUILDING FOR BEST LIFE

What routine tweaks are you implementing for more peaceful and joyful days? What systems are you putting in place to have more ease and flow in your home? What ritual can you integrate to launch the new season with spunk? What habit will you put in place to start the new quarter strong? How will you make this quarter special?

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

SPRING CLEAN YOUR SOUL

In last week’s issue we covered Detox. Another Springtime favorite is of course – Spring Cleaning. I like to cover the usual topics from a different angle that include a personal growth/wellness and relational enrichment component…

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

Relationship Refresh and Reset

New beginnings are super exciting, and this new season promises nothing less. Not only is it a new season, but it is also Springtime when things come alive. And, this Spring is meaningful as it marks a one-year anniversary of the still ongoing global pandemic but with it hope as the vaccine is being distributed. Newness is in the air. This is the perfect time for a relationship refresh and reset. What is a relationship refresh and reset? A relationship refresh and reset is a time for renewal. It’s a time for starting again with a shift from:r

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

TO CREATE CHANGE, YOU HAVE TO CHANGE

I’m operating with a new mantra, Keep clearing. Doing another round of letting go of the old (like possessions, processes, ways of thinking…), and I’m seriously embracing the concept of entering a New Era… Feeling amazing… Yay! How are you doing?

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

Discover the newness instore for you…

We’ve done amazing work this month getting rid of the noise, creating spaciousness, revitalizing ourselves, and just refreshing for newness… When we clean up, when we create space, when we reorganize, when we get quiet, attuned, and inspired, then we are able to tap into new realms… We can tap into anything we want… The universe is the limit… Let’s discover the newness instore for you… We can Discover newness only when we are ready for it... If we continue to have, do and be the same old, we’ll continue to create the same old… Make sure you have Refreshed for Newness: ~Declutterr

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

Does your Couple Brand™ need upgrading?

Have you ever noticed that there are certain couples in your life that you love being around, and others that you dread or avoid? How do you think others experience your relationship? Do they want to be around you and your partner? Or, do you find that you each get invites to go solo? Is your Couple Brand™ what you want it to be? Does your Couple Brand™ need upgrading? Your couple brand is the flavor of your relationship. It’s also how your relationship comes across to others, and how others think of you as a couple.

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

A HOLIDAY GIFT FOR YOUR RELATIONSHIP!

Here is a collection of resources for the Season! Enjoy!! Newsletters: Peacefulness, Abundance and Givingr Don’t Just Survive the Holiday Season Books: On Personal Success, Motivation and Goal Achieving Happy Holidays!! ~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment Have a discussion with your partner about how to make the Holidays meaningful for you as a couple. Create a couple ritual that captures the essence of your partnership. Have fun! ~ Share Your Thoughts & Successes in the comment box at the end!

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

End-of-year, decluttering and minimalism (Step1)

Last month of 2020! Let’s make it a good one! In this context, making it a good one means making the rest of the Holiday Season as magical as they can be, properly wrapping up this year, and setting up the new one for more success… Today’s topic is the first step in putting a bow on it and launching into the New Year with pizzaz. It includes how to properly do end-of-year, decluttering and minimalism to lay the groundwork for setting up the new year right…r

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

TREAT YOURSELF, PLEASE YOUR PARTNER…

How do you like to spend your snow days? Indoor or outdoor? Do you have any fun rituals or traditions? How can you make the time more special? Actually, how can you make your weekends more special regardless of snow?

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

FRESH STARTS AND NEW BEGINNINGS

With the hustle and bustle of the year end activities and holiday preparations and festivities, it is no wonder that we might feel a little over extended and perhaps have been neglecting our selves and loved ones. With the New Year just around the corner, it is time to shift gears and change our focus. It is time for fresh starts and new beginnings.

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

FEELING FUNKY, VISIONING AND STRATEGIC PLANNING

Boy, oh boy! Are people struggling right about now. If this is you, please know you are not alone and do not worry we’ll get you out of the funk soon enough! There are plenty of reasons for potentially not feeling well: Crunch time at work or business, spotlight on life success, overwhelm with the holidays, financial concerns, family-of-origin stressful dynamics and painful memories, relationship dissatisfaction or spotlight on relationship status, over commitment in all areas of life, poor health, fatigue or burn out, and so many others. Unfortunately, this is pretty universal.

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

GET CRANKING CHANGING YOUR RELATIONSHIP

I’m familiar with relationship struggles. I’ve had my share, obviously I’m not exempt, and this is what I work with day-in and day-out. I’m pretty intimate with the nuances of what troubles partners and what gets them stuck. For reasons that are beyond the scope of this article, I love working with couples. Couples are my passion. I’m intrigued by them and care about their wellbeing.

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

ARE YOU ON YOUR PARTNER’S PRIORITY LIST?

As with busyness comes neglect of things we care about, our partner is usually one of the first to go. This is very unfortunate as most would say that the relationship with their partner is one of the things they care about most in life. But, still they usually come in last on the priority list.

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

Summer of Self Improvement

I say we focus on really enjoying the next two months and getting ourselves ready for weather what’s coming in the fall. Are you with me? What does this type of getting ready mean for you? For me it means:rn- Maintaining and upleveling my Self-Care Practice for great health, wellness, fitness, and vitalityrn- Clearing the decks of minutiae and distracting miscellaneous noise rn- Wrapping up any unfinished lingering tasks and current projectsrn- Putting in place and/or upleveling whatever support I need…r

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

CONNECTING AND GETTING MORE INTIMATE

A common complaint in relationships is partners feeling disconnected from each other. I hear this as one of the primary concerns couples present with in my practice, aside from fighting a lot and not communicating. As a couple is composed of two different individuals who have different histories, upbringings, personalities, ways of looking at things and processing information, styles of communication and many other individual characteristics, it is easy to get disconnected. This gets even further compounded with current dynamics and contexts if an effort to stay connected is not made.

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

GENTLENESS IN ROCKING THE YEAR-END

I love this time of year! I love the coziness of the season, palette, and activities. I love making the holidays, from decorating to hosting to gifting. I love the urgency of getting projects done to wrap up the year with a bow.

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

HOW TO KEEP YOUR DAY FROM GETTING AWAY FROM YOU

How we do our days is how we ultimately do our life… Our life is but a collection of days… We can decide now what kind of life we want to have lived at the end of the day… When on our deathbed, what kind of highlight reel would we have to showcase? What kind of life do we want to have to show for our time on earth? What regrets do we want to make sure we don’t have? How will we have immortalized ourselves, how would we live-on in the hearts and minds of others? What would our footprint have been, what kind of impact did we make?

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

TO BE FREE…

There is a multitude of ways in which we don’t embrace our Freedom… We can certainly imprison, subjugate and de-self ourselves with how we choose to live our lives. We pigeonhole ourselves through our mindset, perspectives, habits, lifestyle, job, career, marriage, home, community, religion, appearance, everything… We don’t realize that everything about us is a choice… Everything about us is a decision we made, or didn’t make, along the way…

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

GET YOUR SWAG ON AND DAZZLE YOUR PARTNER

Romance is not just for Valentine’s Day! Romance adds spice, texture and color to life. Unfortunately, most of us don’t utilize this much in our life and relationship. We get too comfortable and busy… This is probably one of the hardest muscle to exercise unless you are in the dating world, and even then you might feel challenged. I hear all the time from my single clients (yes, I do also work with single persons and individuals on attracting love and having an awesome relationship) how difficult it is to figure out what would tickle another person.

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

THE SPACE BETWEEN US…

What makes us Us? What is the essence of our relationship? Is it the sum of You and Me? Of two separate entities committed to each other, hopefully, that positively, or indifferently, relate to each other? The essence of our relationship is made up of the connection between ourselves and our partner. The energy in the space between us.

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

TRUSTING AND LIVING

Trust is very delicate and fragile and needs to be earned and developed, it is not a given. And, once it is achieved it is only transient. For it to survive it needs to be safeguarded and nurtured. It is like achieving our ideal weight and level of fitness. To maintain them we need to continue to eat healthy and nutritious foods and keep up with out fitness program.

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

HOW TO ROCK IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP!

Have you ever wondered how some people create successful lives and others settle for mediocre ones? Have you taken this a step further and wondered how some people create successful relationships and others settle for mediocre ones? I have. This is my life’s purpose… It’s a constant wonder and question for me. My every breath, thought, and action revolve around this. I’m obsessed with this. There is a common theme to my musings, research, and work driven by the question of how we can Be our Best Self… Reach our Highest Potential…

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

I MADE TIME TRAVEL POSSIBLE!

The only Time that exists is Now which encompasses our past and future as we understand them. I’ll spare you the physics lesson, but suffice it to say that at any moment in time we create our own reality and have access to all the information we need… I’ve created a powerful tool, Imagine Visiting with our Future Super Successful (FSS) Self who shows us the ropes to create what we desire in all areas of our life. Mine is my cheerleader, counsel, guide, and coach.

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

GENUINELY BEHOLD YOUR PARTNER

Some couples experience a lot of discomfort, dissatisfaction and unhappiness in their relationship as the partners have a hard time syncing, seeing eye-to-eye, understanding each other and connecting. This is not just about hectic schedules or intense life styles, different communication styles, gender or other differences for as these are addressed the dejection remains… There is a human fundamental need that is not met for the partners in these couples. The need of being Accepted – to know that they are OK, that they exist, that they matter.

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

Achieving true work-life integration

What are you striving for when you are in the pursuit of Balance in your life? Do you have a visual of a scale perfectly balanced in the middle? Are you looking to work 9-5 and then you are OFF? Are you looking to break down your day into thirds: sleep, work, live? What is balance? I believe striving for balance means finding an equilibrium in our life that is satisfying to us… That honors who we are and what we are about… This is what I call Work-Life Integration…

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

HALLOWEEN AS AN APHRODISIAC…

Whoever said that Halloween is just for kids and trick-or-treating? Yes, adults have fun too with the decorating, costumes, and parties. But I’d like to also suggest taking this a step further by using Halloween as a relationship-building tool. Why not? Why waste a perfectly set up situation with built in opportunities for awesomeness?

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

TIRED OF FEELING OVERWHELMED AND STAGNANT?

I wrote in the last issue about feeling like we are embarking in a New Era. Feels more and more like that every day. I’m so excited thinking on the fact that we are starting a whole new decade. We are at the beginning of a new huge chunk of time. It makes me dizzy to think about what this means. To step back and think of what I’d like to create in the next 10 years of my Human Experience… Looking at this New Beginning this way is humbling, and so super Inspiring. Have you pondered similarly?

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

5 TACTICS FOR INCREASING CONNECTION

How are you doing with your New Year Relationship Resolutions or Intentions? How are you doing with staying loving and nurturing post VDAY? Are you keeping up with your Connection Habits™? Remember that to create change we have to keep a focus on what we want to achieve, focus on the progress and the result (not the lack of!), and how to continue to invest, tweak, and course correct to make it happen.

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

NEED FATHERING IN YOUR LIFE?

As we already started diving into in last week’s issue, Fathering is a very important concept in our life. From “fathering” comes discipline, the self-discipline we need to really succeed at our life. How disciplined are you? Do you have systems or a mechanism in place to achieve your goals? Do you have goals? Do you have a strategy, a plan? We tackled this thoroughly for the New Year… If we don’t know what we want and where we are going, how are we supposed to get it and get there?!

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

DO YOU HAVE RELATIONSHIP GRAVY?

Does your partner support you, romance you, engage you, enliven you, energize you, seduce you? Is your partner there? When couples are not on the same page, they tend to drift apart. They fight a lot, don’t feel each other, and don’t get their needs met. Partners appear invisible or have a negative presence.

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

Master your mind, master your day…

What is the key to an awesome day? Yes, we can say that all kinds of good things happening to us would make the day awesome. But I dare challenge that notion as we don’t want to be at the mercy of good things happening randomly to us for us to have an awesome day. When good things happen, let’s of course enjoy them and be grateful for them. But let’s not hang our hat on that. Let’s instead create our awesome day- become the of Master your day! As usual, the key is to own your day… I’ve covered this concept from the idea of Designing and Owning our day:

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

Personal responsibility includes turning yourself on

We are responsible for absolutely everything in our life… When people struggle, they are quick to find the reasons and explanations for why things are not going as they would like. They usually end up pointing the finger at some external factor for why things are as they are…

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

Do you know how to have fun together?

Couples usually have a challenging time coming up with fun things to do as a couple. They have difficulties having fun in their relationship. And, they might struggle having fun with each other. Do you know how to have fun together? This is not unusual as partners have a tendency to focus on what they don’t like, an unfortunate product of our brain’s built-in negativity bias. They worry about everything that is not to their liking, about what their partner is doing or not doing, and how they themselves might not be measuring up… These are the scripts running in their head…r

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

START A NEW RELATIONSHIP, WITH YOUR PARTNER

It’s been a wonderful Season so far of clearing, replenishing, and resetting ourselves. As we move into the lovely holiday weekend with Passover and Easter, if you observe, we can expand on the meaning of the holiday beyond the religious message. I love to experience this time as a time for new beginnings… A time for rebirth, for freely pursuing our heart and our dreams, for beginning anew, for blooming, for thriving…

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

IT IS TIME TO CONNECT, HERE IS HOW

Whether there is a lot of fighting and bickering or quiet discontent and separateness, most couples struggle in their relationship. You might feel dissatisfaction, loneliness, and hopelessness seep in and take an unrelenting hold of your relationship from which you can’t seem to figure out a way to feel okay in your relationship and with your partner.

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

TIRED OF FIGHTING WITHOUT RESOLUTION?

So many of our “big projects” are coming to gorgeous fruition. Life indeed is Grand! How about you? What accomplishment or deliciousness are you celebrating from this year? Nothing is irrelevant, a given or expectation. Anything beautiful in your life you Allowed and coCreated. Acknowledge it, own it, celebrate it. We create the life we have, take credit and delight… We get what we put in… This brings me to today’s writing. We are on Element2 of the Successful Couple Strategy™: Element1 – Context & Mindset Element2 – Communication & Alignment Element3 – Clarity & Dynamicsrnr

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

Dream and inspire your alternate reality

I’m sure you’ve heard a version of the saying that if you can see it, you can create it. Yes? What does this mean for you? Does this mean that the Elon Musks of the world get to have huge dreams and then make them happen allowing us to space travel and such? I say we own our own power a bit more and embrace what we can see, we can create also… How about it? Let’s dream and inspire your alternate reality…

Primary topic: Codependency

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