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By Jim HallRecently published1 topic

7 Steps to Overcome Withdrawal from a Break Up of an Addictive Relationship

Are You a Love Addict? Are you in a Break-Up from an Addictive Relationship? There is no doubt that for most people, “breaking up is hard to do”… for love addicts, breaking up is especially difficult. One of the most disturbing and defining features of addiction is withdrawal and obsessive withdrawal is the ultimate confirmation of love addiction when a relationship ends. You may feel paralyzed in your grief, locked into the past, totally obsessed and unable to move forward. The pain feels unrelenting.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Jim HallRecently published1 topic

Breaking up: The Love Addict in Withdrawal

Tracy, a 30 year old love addict shares her story of a relationship break up:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Jim HallRecently published1 topic

6 Signs Your Partner is Love Avoidant

Are you in a relationship with a Love Avoidant? In addictive love relationships, the Love Addict repeatedly attracts individuals with particular signs - and in turn, people with these particular signs are attracted to the love addict. The type of person I am speaking of is the Love Avoidant. Like two powerful magnetic forces, a love avoidant and love addict form and inevitably create a very toxic ‘love’ relationship. The following are six common signs of a love avoidant, see if you recognize them in your relationship partner or a past relationship partner.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Jim HallRecently published1 topic

Love and Relationship Addiction: How do you know if you are a Love Addict?

Love Addicts create unhealthy and painful attachments to romance, people, sex, and the euphoria of love relationships. Love Addicts commonly search outside of themselves to feel alive and fill their unmet emotional needs. Love Addicts unconsciously look for others to “fix”-“rescue” them from the fear, pain, and discomfort of their lives. Being a Love Addict can be an emotionally painful, lonely, and baffling experience.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Jim HallRecently published1 topic

Unrealistic Expectations : An Unhealthy Ingredient of Addictive Love

As human beings, we live our lives with certain expectations. For emotionally healthy individuals, expectations are more likely to be realistic and rational -- based on reality. For individuals whose emotional health is less-than healthy, expectations are often unrealistic and impractical – and this certainly is the case for the love addict in an addictive relationship. A RELATIONSHIP BASED ON FANTASY = UNREALISTIC/IDEALISTC EXPECTATIONS = ADDICTIVE LOVE The Love addict enters relationships with highly unrealistic expectations

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Jim HallRecently published1 topic

Healing Love Addiction: Letting Go Of The Past

“It is not where we were that counts, but where we are going” When we first find recovery, some of us feel shame and despair at calling ourselves “addicts”. In the beginning, we may be filled with both fear and hope as we struggle to heal and find new meaning in our lives. The past may seem inescapable and overpowering. It may be hard to think of ourselves in any way other than the way we always have.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Jim HallRecently published1 topic

The Nine Love Addict Types

Love addicts are known to become hooked and obsessed on another person in relationships. Love addicts tend to share core issues of damaged self esteem, boundaries; symptoms of rescue/care taking and unrealistic relational expectations, and they have in common noxious relational patterns. However, love addicts don‘t necessarily look the same all the time. In my personal and professional experiences over the years as a recovered love addict and now, therapist and love addiction expert, I‘ve come tornrecognize nine different love addict types- each characteristically unique from ther

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Jim HallRecently published1 topic

Love Addiction Recovery: Detachment, Boundaries, Self-Care

Love addiction recovery is about reclaiming our own lives. One part of our path to recovery learning and owning our right to focus on and take care of ourselves, build on our strengths, and ask for and accept help with our limitations. Many of us find it difficult even to begin this self-focused process because we have lived with impaired boundaries, which have too often been blurred (or invisible) and have lost track of the separation between others, especially a relationship partner and ourselves.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Jim HallRecently published1 topic

Love Addiction: What is it?

Love Addiction is an unhealthy obsessive and dysfuntional dependency to another person in relationships. Love Addiction is finally being recognized as a serious problem and a serious addiction in the media and mental health professionals. Some have difficulty believing "love" can become an addiction. However, love addiction is as real, as painful, and sometimes as deadly as any other addiction (drugs, alcohol, sex, gambling, etc.)- the chaos it causes can wreak havoc in people's lives.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Jim HallRecently published1 topic

Treating Love Addiction

People looking for the answers to overcoming their love addiction often ask two questions, “What does recovery really mean when it comes to breaking this problem”? ... and “What are key things I need to work on to successfully recover from love addiction”? When we are new to recovery, we may mistakenly believe that recovery is limited to ‘getting over a bad break up’... then moving on to find the right partner. The reality is-- unless we do the work required for healthy change, the same old relationship patterns will absolutely repeat themselves.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Jim HallRecently published1 topic

Love Addict Recovery: Setting Boundaries

In the 'Love Addict in Love Addiction', I write a lot about the five core issues which is a large part of our pain and dysfunction in addictive relationships—one of these core issues of love addicts are Impaired Boundaries. Love addicts need boundaries. We need to set limits on what we shall do to and for people. We need to set limits on what we allow people to do to and for us. The people we relate to need to know we have boundaries.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Jim HallRecently published1 topic

Men in Love Addiction

If you're a man- you're here for a reason. Maybe you're here because you're having relationship difficulties- or you are dealing with a relationship loss. And/or you identify yourself as having characteristics in love addiction- - YOU ARE NOT ALONE!

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Jim HallRecently published1 topic

No Contact Rule: When You'e Addicted to Love

No Contact Ruler Cutting Out the Ex and Moving Forward Healthy people who experience a relationship break up generally experience universal stages of grief such as anger, sadness, and disappointment. Eventually they come to accept the loss and move forward. For love addicts, moving on from a broken relationship literally feels like a dreadful insurmountable ordeal. The agonizing feelings go beyond normal grief— as they are in withdrawal from the love addiction. Accepting the fantasy has crumbled, and moving forward seems unbearable.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Jim HallRecently published1 topic

Recovering Ground Rules for The Love Addict

1- Understand the Dynamics of Love Addiction & Intricacies of Love Addicted Relationships A very important first step in recovery is to gain clarity into the intricacies of love addiction, the love addict, avoidant partner, and love addicted relationship dynamics.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Jim HallRecently published1 topic

Love Addicts: 7 Steps To Feel Good About Yourself

1.Don't make other peoples thoughts, feelings, or actions about YOU. In other words, with healthy emotional boundaries, don't take responsibility (or blame yourself) for what another person may do, say or think? You are not responsible (i.e., your partner or ex partner). As an adult, you are only responsible for your own. You empower yourself through taking ownership of ONLY your own thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and choices.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Jim HallRecently published1 topic

Love Addiction Recovery: Setting Boundaries

In the 'Love Addict in Love Addiction' I write a lot about the five core symptoms which fuel the undue pain and dysfunction in addictive relationships. One important core symptom deserving attention is love addicts Impaired Boundaries in relationships. Too often, boundaries are invisible and weak. Love addicts need boundaries. We need to set limits on what we shall do to and for people. We need to set limits on what we allow people to do to and for us. The people we relate to need to know we have boundaries.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Jim HallRecently published1 topic

Toxic Seeds That Feed Love Addicts Delusion

From the beginning of our childhood- we are planted with seeds in our conscious. These seeds are the messages on love, romance, and relationships love addicts (and all of society) have been consistently bombarded with- that feed the DELUSION of addictive relationships. These fabricated seeds are the misconceptions of love- and are in our culture through movies, music, novels, soap operas, media, and magazines. Taking these dysfunctional messages as truth and attempting to live them out- often leads to pain and frustration- and lead to toxic love addicted relationships.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Jim HallRecently published1 topic

Relationship Addiction: A Process Addiction

Most of us typically associate addiction with alcohol or drug abuse, but it's clear that addictive behaviors go far beyond. A universal definition of Addiction is characterized by the repeated, compulsive seeking or use of a substance, behavior, or activity despite negative consequences (harmful consequences to the individual's health, mental state or social life) (NAPS)- Often accompanied by physical or psychological dependence, withdrawal syndrome and tolerance.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Jim HallRecently published1 topic

Why Love Addicts Are Truely Like Any Other Addict

Using a practical definition, addiction is characterized by the repeated, compulsive seeking or use of a substance, behavior, or activity to reach euphoric states in the brain, despite negative consequences (harmful consequences to the individual's health, mental state or social life). Addiction is often accompanied by physical or psychological dependence, withdrawal syndrome and tolerance. The more one uses the addiction of choice; obsession and preoccupation for that addiction increase. Generally, there are six common indicators of all addictions:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Jim HallRecently published1 topic

The Recovery Ground Rules for Love Addicts

* The following are some very critical ground rules needed for love addicts in order to pave a healthy, successful path in love addiction recovery. 1) Understand the Dynamics of Love Addiction & Intricacies of Love Addicted Relationships A very important first step in recovery is to gain clarity into the intricacies of love addiction, the love addict, avoidant partner, and love addicted relationship dynamics.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Jim HallRecently published1 topic

Breaking Free from Love Addiction

Love Addiction can be loosely defined as a dysfunctional relationship between two people in which one person strives, almost compulsively, to 'fix' the other person. A characteristic behavior in Love Addiction is enabling, in which the love addict ignores problem behavior in the other person or makes excuses for them in order to continuously feel needed or to live up to a faulty sense of responsibility for that person's conduct.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Jim HallRecently published1 topic

Treating Love Addiction

People looking for the answers to overcoming their love addiction often ask two questions, “What does recovery really mean when it comes to breaking this problem”? ... and “What are key things I need to work on to successfully recover from love addiction”? When we are new to recovery, we may mistakenly believe that recovery is limited to ‘getting over a bad break up’... then moving on to find the right partner. The reality is-- unless we do the work required for healthy change, the same old relationship patterns will absolutely repeat themselves.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Jim HallRecently publishedTopic pending

Love Addiction: THE Hidden Addiction in Society

By definition, an addiction or dependence is a recurring compulsion by an individual to engage in some specific behavior or activity, despite harmful consequences to the individual's health, mental state, or social life. People fall into many categories of addictions (alcohol, drugs, sex, gambling, etc.) -- love addiction is one of the categories- and is a big one.

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Recently published

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