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Using a Life Coach for Addiction Recovery A dream is just a dream. A goal is a dream with a plan and deadline behind it. As I went through a major process to determine what I wanted to focus on for the rest of my life, the answer finally came to me: Helping others. Specifically, coaching ...
As a part of each day, I start with the “Serenity Prayer” to get a focus for the day. This has become an ingrained daily habit, but as can happen, sometimes we don’t pay attention to things we do so frequently. Today, from Hazelden, I received a great reminder, and it was ...
Some universal truths I have learned in my own process of life recovery and in working with hundreds of others. "Family" is an issue I hear about almost everyday, and deal with directly on many occasions in my own life. As today is a statutory holiday here in Ontario-"Family Day",- it is a very ...
So You Want the “Big Life”? Getting it through coaching Written by Gary Glasscock and Keith Bray Whether it is in life, sports, fitness, career, relationships, health, or executive performance, more and more people are turning to personal coaches to help them achieve goals they set ...
Four little letters, but an emotion that plays havoc on so many of us. Have you ever really sat and thought about how much “Fear” has impacted your life. For those who have experienced going through “The Creative Theory of Life Recovery”, they are always surprised to ...
Do you believe in yourself? "We cannot rise higher than our thought of ourselves." -- Orison Swett Marden Each week I receive an idea generator from my coaching mentor, Dr. Randin Brons. Seldom does Randin send something that does not provoke thought within me and usually it takes me back to where my head was at when I sought help to begin a journey to a different life. I was challenged to change, and change I did through direction. The question posed is only six words.
STEP 1/Twelve Steps Each year I like to run through the 12 steps as written in the book Alcoholics Anonymous. These steps were an adaptation of many works before them, and are a universal truth for all people who want to enjoy good mental Hygiene and an abundant life. They have been adopted by ...
Fortunate are the people whose roots are deep. --Agnes Meyer Co-Creative Life Recovery is a program of action and change. It has a spiritual (not religious) component as part of a holistic approach to getting the life YOU want. It is a process that is taught and requires commitment and work. It ...
A good reminder for me. I started on the journey to get a life back that had fullness, happiness, hope and serenity. I worked very hard at that process, have had a spiritual awakening, and benefited from the advice of professionals and peers who had walked before me. I wanted what I perceived ...
It’s always interesting to see what a difference 24 hours can make, even two hours. I am a life transformation coach, coach based on many of the principles Eckhart Tolle put forth in A New Earth, I have a strong spiritual foundation, have helped many others, have been addiction free for a ...
When I started by own personal journey to recover a life I really wanted, and a life free from addictions, I longed for serenity. I felt the squirrels were constantly running lose in the cage I call my head. They gave me no peace. Today, they are still there at times, but on an ever increasing ...
Differences:Sponsor / Coach Twelve Differences between your Sponsor and your Coach: As I chose coaching as my profession, and shared with others that I’d look at working with addicted people and those affected by addiction as a niche within my practise, some who have the honesty to be up ...
With a smile on my face, I say, “will restore us to sanity”! It’s Sunday, and for the second day in a row, I headed to the golf course with anticipation. For the second day in a row, it began to rain part way through the golf game. For the second day in a row, I finished the ...
POWERLESS. WHO ME? I’ve got a friend going for wedding #3 tomorrow, I’m best(questionable) man, and pre-wedding golf game. Thus an early post! It’s been a day to really think about powerlessness. Years ago, I came to realize that I was powerless over my addictions, and my ...
HAD NO CHOICE! When I was being made as a person and if I had been able to pick my attributes, I would not have chosen addictions and the effects of addictions, to be part of my life. That being said, addictions and abuse did impact on my life. This not very unique. About 10% of the ...
For some reason, finding balance is a theme that has resonated deep within this week, and I’m not sure why. The past 2 weeks have seen our local 12 step community bury 2 members. Both too young, both at the time of death back using their substance of choice. In listening to comments, both ...
We are all blessed with two minds; one conscious that we react to and are aware of, the other, subconscious; a place where dreams dwell. A place of untapped possibilities. Just like high performing athletes, entertainers and business leaders, all of us can use coaching to take us to the ...
This is one I’ve wanted to do for a while. I’m just back from my favorite Saturday morning meeting, and it is always a great reminder of where I was, and what has changed! I am ete ally grateful. It stops me from taking things for granted, from assuming! Even though I have been on a ...
As I started on the process of life recovery, I felt that there was no one there who would really listen to me and actually hear me. Today I realise there are a few people who do listen to me and hear me; and this includes my wife and a few “skilled” others. Listening is a learned skill that ...
As I reflect on the week that was, I can’t help but remember how many times a fear of god and not understanding spirituality came up. My own belief is that to have any real contented success in life, you need a “spiritual”, not necessarily a religious, foundation. Why do many ...
Technology Addiction? Tomorrows Pot? There is no doubt that during the later part of my life, technology in communications has exploded. Is it good or bad, and how many are becoming addicted? I’ve certainly had some comments about this on the Big Life web site in my Free From Addictions ...
Personal Powe "We are no longer puppets being manipulated by outside powerful forces; we become the powerful force ourselves." -- Leo Buscagli In making dramatic change in our life, is there really not just one thing we are seeking? Personal Power? Ther came a time in my life that I realised I ...
Always good to read something from Norman Vincent Peale, the king of positive thinkers! I know a ton of people in my life who can find a negative in almost anything, they are the "king" of BUTS. Yes, But. Heard the phrase? I've been in that space also. Normal (what's "normie"-seperate ...
CHANGE THROUGH COACHING What I said never changed anybody; what they understood did.rn--Paul. P. To often in my role as a life coach, potential sponsor or mentor, I run across people who think I can change them. Craziness as the above quote states. The only person I can change is I, and this is a journey that has been work in progress for many years, and continues. For those who are looking for the answers they have within in nearly all aspects of their life, a coach or mentor can have them find it within. Many really do need a guide.
Choosing Hope Over Fear What a great topic for the times we're in. I received a piece of this blog from the head hunting business and as you can see, received it earlier in 2009. When I got the courage to do what I had felt was my life purpose, I picked a company name that reflected what I had ...
Do You Have Any Idea Where You’re Going??/Life Directio The above question can be found as part of a collage of questions on a bill board in Dallas. They are questions from God. Upon seeing this, it made me reflect. There was a time that I had no idea of where I was going. Then as they ...
The last couple of weeks, being knocked flat by an infection bug, have certainly given me time to reflect on some real core issues. One great reminder has been the importance of the moment and keeping my mind open to the “potential” of NOW. Within now are answers. "Why not concentrate on the ...
For the last 14 plus years I have been on a journey. I had hit a wall in life, in particular the life I was living inside myself. The outside world may have thought things were OK. I had a home, 2 cars, the bills were paid and my consulting company was doing fine from a financial ...
When we live with fear and a lack of self confidence, we need to be in control. Do you see the need to control people, places and things in yourself? Daily, I use the serenity prayer, and on some days, with great frequency. In my professional life, it is easy to slip in to this mode and to be ...
There is an old expression that rings true so often. “I could complicate the Lord’s Prayer”. Not withstanding that the Lord’s Prayer is a complicated document, I think we all know the intended thought behind complicating it. Often wonder how nice it would be to walk the ...
To me, the simple answer to this question is yes. The complex answer, another yes! In both my recovery to a more abundant and joyous life, and my reaching fulfilling work (and golf results), goal setting is a key. If I don’t have targets, write them down, and measure against them, how will ...
I like others, can be sensitive to what others say, and what I perceive they think, about me? Can anyone relate? I have a very deep faith that the higher power in my life exists within (as well as outside) me. As I go through my journey, and with the beliefs I have, I must be mindful that ...
From post at www.hopeserenity.cannI got up early this morning, and while taking my quiet time, the word BALANCE kept playing through my head. I have the privledge of coaching several people and helping them to articulate and move towards goals in various parts of their lives. As well, I do a ...
A week ago, I was facing surgery for the first time since I underwent a psychic change through the process of recovery. Lets be honest, the surgery was not life threatening although what was being corrected caused constant pain. I was not thrilled by the thought of someone cutting my groin area, ...
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Lida Clarkso We all want life to unfold according to our plan. After all, we are certain we know what's best for us. But hindsight quickly reminds us that few, if any, of us had included recovery in a Twelve Step program as part of our life's plan. ...
With the emotions that go along with Christmas, the topic of resentments is a good one. For many years in my not too distant past, I came out of the Christmas season with some pretty good resentment. They didn’t appreciate; I didn’t get; she said; they should have; they did….. ...
Someone Gave Me A Compass Early in my journey, someone gave me a compass. What the heck is this about I wondered? One of the great discoveries I have made as I get stronger on the journey, the divine spirit I know is there trusts me enough to give me freedom of choice. This spirit is also the ...
Why I'm Herenn * Viewn * Edit Posted September 23rd, 2008 by Keith First and foremost, I'm here to attract clients. I am a life coach who has helped clients to achieve the results they want, and have also helped others to create a life journey that is free from the effects of ...
Can You Relate? You are the hero of your life. This statement is the foundation behind my journey and a new life (now 14 years and counting) and the true fundamental principal that drives my coaching practice. YOU MUST BE THE HERO OF YOUR OWN LIFE. Coaching can help you find that hero! Each ...
With “Mother’s Day” just past, what a better a topic to think about than relationships? They have such a huge impact on every facet of life. My relationship (like many men) with my mother was a troubled one. I was the victim of abuse, and did not feel safe or like I belonged as a child. My ...
Insanity? Restored to? I think we all go through rollercoaster rides. Even though I’ve been on the recovery journey for a while, things happen, we face stress, and even though we try to turn it over, a black cloud appears! This isn’t the first one I’ve had, nor will it be the ...
Man, I enjoy Thursdays. Sometimes the simple gems I hear or am reminded of resonate so strongly in me. The acronym “HOW” falls into this category. The world is filled with insanity, and most of the time insanity as a part of life (my definition-repeated behavior expecting a different ...
Hard to believe, what we consider summer is over. School is back in, traffic is back to insane, and they days are definitely getting shorter. Seeing September 2 pop up in my calendar is shocking. There are so many things I had said to myself I would do over the summer, and of course, a lot of ...
-flashback to my 20’s, it’s not me today I went to a concert over the weekend to see Credence Clearwater Revival, or what’s left of the group. The music was great, it really was good old rock and roll, but the feelings were funny! There was a lot of gray hair in the crowd, ...
A Moment of Clarity Ever have occurrences and thoughts in your life that seem to come out of nowhere, then reoccur over a period of time? I have been going through just that over the past few weeks. In my line of work, I see many people struggling to get a new life and grow in a new direction. ...
What a good weekend, but a great reminder that kids are for the young, and I don’t get smarter about some things with age. It was great to spend the time at my youngest daughters and in the company of a terrific son-in-law. All three of the grand kids were there, the oldest finishing off a ...
So You Want the Big Life???? Getting it through coaching Written by Gary Glasscock and Keith Bray Whether it is in life, sports, fitness, career, relationships, health, or executive performance, more and more people are turning to personal coaches to help them achieve goals they set for ...
Do You Understand Coaching and The Benefits To You? - A review for me too, and why I know it’s my life purpose. Man, life has been busy and with the different holidays, a little confused over the last few weeks. Days go by, and I wonder where time goes, and sometimes I am guilty of losing ...
Here in Canada, we are starting our Thanksgiving weekend. While timing is great to get a long weekend, the name thanksgiving means so much more to me than three days were the work world shuts down; it brings gratitude to the forefront! Around me the trees are changing color. The reds in some of ...
It has been a crazy Thursday from very early in the morning, and tomorrow will be more insane. We call it “Grampy Day”, my annual venture into the world of fun with my two oldest grand kids sans parents or other adults. Golf, fishing and whatever else my little heroes want. ...