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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Defence Mechanism: Reaction Formation

The ego mind uses defence mechanism for protection and to ensure its own survival. There are many of these available and this will often depend on two factors. This can be: the type of experience that one has and how one interprets the experience. Reaction formation is a way for the mind to regulate emotions and thoughts that are perceived as being too inappropriate to reveal. It may be that one feels shame or guilt around expressing a certain emotion or thought. And as the ego mind works in polarities; the experience then becomes polarised.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

The Media: Why Do Some People Find It Hard to Back Up Their Arguments When They Listen To The Mainstream Media?

When it comes to what someone believes about what is taking place in the world, they can be heavily influenced by the mainstream media. Alte atively, they may have a different approach. One might be in a position where they rarely pay attention to this source of information, or they could listen to the alte ative media instead. If this is the case, it is likely to be a sign that they are happy to think for themselves. The Easy Option

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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Free Speech: Do Some People Try To Silence Others Because They Can't Handle Their Own Emotions?

While someone could experience a negative reaction if another person was to say something bad about them, this could also take place if they were to express their views. As a result of this, it could be a challenge for them to feel at peace within. No Escape One could then spend time with people who respect them, but that doesn’t mean that they will always appreciate being in their company. This could be a time when these people will listen to what they have to say and give them positive feedback.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Intimacy: Can Emotional Repression Sabotage Intimacy?

Although the need to experience intimacy is one of the strongest needs that someone can have, it doesn’t mean that this is a need that will always be fulfilled. For some people in the world, intimacy will be part of life and something that is simply taken for granted. And as long as they can remember, it has always been a part of their life. But for others, it will be an experience that seems more or less impossible to have. And this is inevitably going to lead to the creation of moderate, to extreme pain. Because even though this need may not be getting met, it won’t simply disappear.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Abuse: Why Do Some People Always Put Others Down?

As a human being, one has the ability to lift others up and make their life easier, or they can pull others down and make their life harder. There are going to be some people who generally fit into the first category and then there will be others who generally fit into to the second category. However, to say it is something that is completely black and white wouldn’t necessarily be accurate. This is because there will be some people who will have a positive influence on other people’s lives at certain times and then there will be moments when they don’t.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Victim Mentality: Do Some People Only Know Who They Are When They Act Like A Victim?

While there are some people who feel like a victim from time to time, there are others who pretty much always feel this way. When one can relate to the former, it is unlikely to be something that will have an effect on how they see themselves. Momentary But if it does have an effect on how they see themselves, there is the chance that this won’t be something that will last for very long. For example, something could take place in their life and then they could end up feeling as though the world is against them.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Social Media: Does Social Media Make It Easy For Someone To Create The Impression That They Are A Good Person?

If someone wanted to display their personality in the past, it would have been necessary for them to be around others. However, in today’s world this is no longer the case, and this is primarily due to social media. It is now possible for one to display their personality no matter where they are or what they are doing. Therefore, it can be normal for one to be on show at all times, and the only way this will change is if they deactivate their account. It’s Always There

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: Can Our Internal Representations Of People Define How They Respond To Us?

It can seem accurate to come to the conclusion that how one sees another will not have an impact on how the other person responds to them. So how one thinks, feels and the ideas that they have in their head, in relation to the other person, are then meaningless. This outlook would see the inner world as being separate and not having any influence on the outer world. And based on this, one could think, feel or develop any kind of inner outlook and it would be irrelevant.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Happiness: Are Some People Happy Being Unhappy?

I have recently reflected on my own tendency to have felt happy only when I felt unhappy. And I sensed that, even when everything was going fine and I could see that I was achieving my goals, there was often a sense of unhappiness within me. By observing my own emotional and cognitive processes it brought to my attention what could have led to some of the reasons why this was happening. As although I have revealed a part of myself here, I think this is an area that is common today.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Self-Development: Do Some Peoples Childhood's Set Them Up To Reject Their Masculine/Feminine Side

Although someone can find it easy to be assertive, they could find it hard to be vulnerable and to open up about how they feel. Alte atively, one could find it easy to open up about how they feel, but it could be a challenge for them to be assertive. As a result of this, they are going to be out of balance in one way or another, and this is going to make their life harder than it needs to be. However, even though one might be able to identify with one of these, there is also the chance that they don’t completely match up with how they experience life. Aggressive

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Boundaries: How Can People React When Someone Starts To Say 'No'?

While it is relatively easy to say ‘yes’, the same can’t be said when it comes to saying ‘no’. In fact, there are going to be plenty of people who are unable to say ‘no’, and it could then be said that it doesn’t mean much when they say ‘yes’. What this emphasises is how important it is for one to be able to say both words. As if they are unable to do so, it is likely to show that they find it hard to stand their ground. A Common Perspective

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Celebrities: Why Are Some People Obsessed With Celebrities?

For some time I have been reflecting on and thinking about what causes the obsession with celebrities. So here is my current outlook on what I believe is going on. Today's Society In today's society celebrities are often worshiped and are objects of obsession for many people. And it doesn't matter what these celebrity's do; for in today's world they don't need to have achieved or done anything. Just by the mere fact of being famous is more than enough for some people. Healthy Role Models

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Ego Boundaries: What Are Ego Boundaries?

The purpose of ego boundaries is to protect the self. And through having these in place, one will know the difference between who they are and who someone else is. They allow for ones inner space to be protected and looked after. These are not visible to the naked eye like a physical body is. And although everyone has a physical body, it does not mean that everyone has ego boundaries that are invisible. As ego boundaries are what make one feel safe or unsafe and not the physical body itself; it shows how important they are. Muscle Building

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Entitlement Mentality: What Created It?

In today’s society there is a common mentality and this mentality is often called - The Entitlement Mentality. On the dictionary.com website this is described as: The fact of having a right to something and the amount to which a person has a right. So what this means is that one has the right to something and that this right is not based on having earned the right. This right exists regardless of one having to do anything. My Opinion

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Self-Esteem: Is Self-Acceptance The Key To Self-Esteem?

If someone doesn’t feel good about themselves or simply wants to feel better than they do, they can end up trying to change one area of their life. At the same time, they may try to change a number of areas of their life. When this happens, someone is likely to believe that they will feel better about themselves, and that their value as a person will increase, once they have achieved certain things. Therefore, what is going on within them will change by changing what is going on without. The Next Step

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Compliments: Why Can’t Some People Accept Compliments?

When it comes to compliments there are some people who can accept them gracefully and others who completely reject them. It may be that one rejects all compliments or only compliments that come from certain people. This can relate to men who reject all compliments from women or women who reject all compliments form men. And then there is the work environment; where one may reject compliments from colleagues. Accepting compliments from friends may also be a challenge.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Power: Why Do Some People Feel Powerless?

The power that I am talking about here is personal power. And this is more about the power that one has over oneself than it is about having power over others. Another term that is often used for this is self control. And although having power can lead to having influence over others, this is purely a by-product and not a reflection of power per se.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: Why Do Some Men Need A Women’s Approval?

While a certain amount of approval seeking is part of relationships; when it is out of control and taken to the extreme, it can create dysfunctional consequences and unnecessary pain. And when this happens, a man’s mental and emotional wellbeing is going to suffer. However, in order for a man to seek this level of approval in the first place, something within is already at fault. Behaviour

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: Why Do Some Men Pull Away After Sex?

When two people come together with the intention of having a relationship or just the desire to spend time together, it is generally going to lead to them having sex. And this could be something that both of them equally want to experience or something that one of them is more attached to than the other.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: Why Do Some People Hide Their True-Self In A Relationship?

If one is in a relationship, it could show that they are with someone who they share every part of their being with. What this means is that they will talk about what is taking place in their mind, reveal what is taking place in their heart and share their body. As a result of this, every part of them is typically going to show up when they are with this person. When they are around this person, then, it will be normal for them to feel seen, heard, and connected. Two Parts

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Letting Go: What Does Letting Go Mean To You?

When it comes to living life in the present moment and being free from attachments to the past and to specific outcomes in the future; letting go is often spoken about as the ideal. And through letting go, one can then allow life to flow. Also, as a result of this, a lot of the stress that can accumulate by holding on will disappear. However, while this sounds like a wonderful idea and one that is extremely appealing; it is often far from what feels comfortable and natural. In fact, to do this can feel uncomfortable and something that has the potential to be extremely dangerous.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

You Are Not Broken

When Errol Campbell and I were doing live videos about a year ago, he said that it wasn’t just about us giving advice. While this was part of it, he also said that we were there to hold the space so that the people on the call could find their own answers. At the time, I found it hard to get my head around what he said and to understand how this approach would work. This was because a big part of me believed that it was up to me to come up with all the answers. A Heavy Weight

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: Is The Fear Of Being Abandoned Defining Who You Are Attracted To?

Over the years, many points of view have been put forward as to what causes one person to be attracted to another. These have come from scientists, relationship experts and everyone in between. And while some of these views can sound accurate and as though they reflect reality, it doesn’t mean this is actually the case. Women are said to go for one thing and men for another and one doesn’t need to look very far to see there are always exceptions.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Self-Neglect: Why Do Some People Always Put Other People’s Needs First?

If someone focuses on other people’s needs and does what they can to make sure that they are taken care of, they can end up being seen as a ‘good’ or ‘selfless’ person. One can behave in this way when they are at work and when they are around their friends and family, for instance. By behaving in this way, then, it is not going to be uncommon for them to receive positive feedback from others. Along with this, they are not going to spend much time looking after themselves. One Focus

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Emotional Masks: What Is An Emotional Mask?

The word mask is described as: an object normally worn on the face, typically for protection, disguise, performance or entertainment. Emotional Mask However, the mask that I am talking about here is an emotional mask. This can effect: how one sees themselves in the mirror; how one believes other people see them and how one feels about themselves and their capabilities.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Verbally Abusive Mothers: What Can Happen When Someone Is Verbally Abused By Their Mother?

From the moment someone is born, their mother has incredible power over them. She has the power to build them up or the power to tear them down. Ideally, one would have had a mother who was: loving, supportive and kind, for instance. But there are also people out there who had the complete opposite. Their mother could have been someone who wasn’t nurturing on the odd occasion or they may have always been this way. And as they have so much power, it won’t necessarily matter whether one had a mother who was verbally abusive every now and then or all the time. Damage

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

The Media: Is The Mainstream Media Behaving Like A Petulant Child When It Comes To The Presidential Election Result?

Now that the presidential election has ended, it has given people the opportunity to focus on something else. Therefore, if someone was caught up with what was taking place; their life may have gone back to how it was. Alte atively, the whole experience may have had a big effect on them, and they might not be able to go back to how things were. This could be a sign that the person they supported won, or this might not be the case. A New Beginning

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: Why Do Some People Feel Smothered In A Relationship?

Although one can have the desire to be in an intimate relationship with someone, it doesn’t mean that this feels comfortable. In their mind this could be what they want and yet when it comes to making this a reality, it doesn’t feel right. What feels right is for them to stay away from intimacy in general and should they happen to get into a relationship, then there will be the urge for it to end. And this urge could arise as soon as it has begun. So this is going to create conflict and self sabotage is going to take place.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Critical Thinking: Can Someone's Negative Energy Have A Destructive Effect On The Planet?

For a little while now, a lot has been said about the planet and how it is not in a good way. On one side, there is a focus on what is going on with the weather, and on the other, there is a focus on what is happening on the ground. And although the media has spoken about the weather for a very long time, it appears to be spending more time talking about what is happening to the earth. One of the ways that this is taking place is by looking at all of the plastic that is in the ocean. Its Everywhere

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Emotional Expression: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Hide How They Feel?

If someone is not in a good place emotionally, they could end up talking to a friend about how they feel. Now, this doesn’t necessarily mean that they will want this person to do anything; simply sharing what is going on for them could be enough. Opening up about what is going on for them can lighten their load, so to speak, and may allow them to settle down for a short while. Being able to do this can also allow them to gain valuable insights. Interdependent

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Emotions: Why Do Some People Hide Their Emotions?

It is often said that women show how they feel and men keep their feelings to themselves. And this is surely going to apply to some men and women, but not all of them. It is simply a generalisation and one that allows people to navigate their world more easily. One reason why it is this way is due to the role that each gender has played for so long. Being a woman has meant that one is allowed to reveal how they feel and this is normal. Where as being a man has meant that one needs to hide their emotions and this is what is normal.

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: Why Are Some Men Needy?

There are many descriptions that can be used when it comes to how one goes about getting their needs met. While some are called needy, others are often called needless. However, no matter how one is described: what is clear is that everyone has needs. To be human means that we have needs. And for the person in the middle of these two extremes; this means behaving in a way that allows for these needs to be met in an empowered and functional way. The Two Extremes

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Anger: Why Do Some People Feel Guilty For Being Angry?

There are going to be people who feel comfortable expressing every emotion on the spectrum and then there are going to be others who are not in the same position. When someone does feel comfortable with their emotions, they are not going to deny how they feel. This will allow them to not only be honest with themselves; they can also be honest with others. And during those moments when it is best for them to keep their feelings to themselves, they can still acknowledge how they feel. Emotionally Aware

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: Why Do Some People Try To Rescue Others Instead Of Rescuing Themselves?

When someone is experiencing some kind of inner pain or drama, they can take a closer look at what is taking place and start to look for solutions, or they can focus on what is taking place around them. Through placing their attention on something or someone else, it can allow them to avoid their own life. However, even though one is going to be neglecting their own life, the people around them might not notice what is taking place. This is partly because they could end up being seen as ‘selfless’. Model Behaviour

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Belonging: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Believe That They Don’t Belong?

It has been said that when someone feels as though they belong to something else, it will have a positive effect on their mental, emotional and physical health. When it comes to what they belong to, this could involve being part of a family, a group of friends or to a religious group. This undoubtedly comes down to the fact that one is in interdependent human being. Due to this, they are not supposed to operate as though they are their own island. Positive Feedback

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: Why Do Some People Fear Being Alone?

While someone can be by themselves, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they will feel lonely. To be on their own and away from others could be something that they enjoy; with one feeling energised by it. However, there are other people who can be by themselves and this makes them feel incredibly lonely. In this case, they are unable to enjoy their own company and the experience makes them feel cut off and isolated from other people.

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Boundaries: Why Can't Some People Take No For An Answer?

When it comes to being successful, it is often said that one shouldn’t take no for an answer and that they should keep going. As if they were to give up after they experience negative response, they are not going to get very far. It is then going to be in their best interest to be persistent and not to let anything stand in their way. Through having this approach, it may only be a matter of time before they start to make progress. Resilience

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Social Media: Is Social Media Creating Your View Of Reality?

Long before the internet was available; people could watch TV, listen to the radio or read a paper in order to find out what was taking place around them. As a result of this, people were able to find out about things that they wouldn’t have known about before these options were available. One would have felt more connected to the world, as opposed to feeling isolated and cut off. But while one’s experience of life was changed through this, it also caused them to experience reality in a way that they wouldn’t have experienced it before. Taking a Back Seat

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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Self-Image: Do Some People’s Childhoods Set Them Up To Believe That They’re Incapable?

If one sees themselves as someone who is capable, it is naturally going to have a positive effect on their life. Through having this view, it will allow them to take the steps that they need to take to fulfil their goals. Thanks to how they feel about themselves, they will believe that they have what it takes to fulfil their needs. Being this way is also going to help them to keep going when the ‘going gets tough’. A Strong Core

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Critical Thinking: Does The Establishment Control People By Keeping Them In A State Of Ignorance?

In order for someone to find out about if something is true or not, it will most likely be vital for them to have access to a wide range of information. When this takes place, it will be possible for them to come to an accurate conclusion. Simply having access to a lot of information won’t be adequate; the reason for this is that all this information could be the same. So by having access to a number of different sources, one will be able to filter through what is right and what isn’t. The power of Contrast

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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Emotionally Expressive: How Can Someone Become More Emotionally Expressive?

When it comes to how human beings communicate with each other, there are many different aspects involved. During those moments where one is face to face with another, it is not just what comes out of their mouth that matters. If one was talking to someone through text, email or via social media, it would be completely different. In this instance, the words that one uses are the only thing that matter, but when it comes to talking to someone in person, the words that one uses are not as important.

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Emotions: Why Do Some People Feel Uncomfortable With Their Emotions?

When it comes to human development, emotions are generally ignored and have been exceeded by other areas. In recent years there has been an intense focus on ones physical side and this has lead to people joining gyms or going for runs for example. And when it comes to ones intellectual side; this is something that is usually taken care of through school, college or university for instance.

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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True-Self: Does The Fear Of Being Harmed Stop You From Expressing Your True-Self?

If one was to think about a time when they were able to be themselves, they could say that it was possible for them to express their true-self. Whereas as if they were to think about a time in their life when they were unable to be themselves, they could say that this was a time when their false-self appeared. This would show that although one can be themselves, they can also be someone else. It could be said that the ideal would be for one to have more moments when they are themselves than moments when they are someone else. One Way

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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Reactive Behaviour: What Causes Reactive Behaviour?

We all have our own style of behaviour and this can change when one is around different people and based on how one feels. As one grows and changes as person; this can also lead to ones behaviour altering. And there will be times when ones behaviour is a response to situations and other times when it is a reaction. If it is a response it will be coming from a place of awareness and self control. And if it is a reaction, it will be coming from a place of unawareness and lack of self control. Part Of Life

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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Relationships: What Does It Mean When Someone Says They Are Too Busy?

Just because someone is available at one point in time, it doesn’t mean that they will continue to be available. There is the chance that they will continue to be around or everything could change, and they may be extremely hard to get hold of. However, without even going into how much someone can change, it is to be expected that they will not always have the same amount of time available to see other people. But, if someone is available one minute and then unavailable the next, it is naturally going to make one wonder what is going on. Confusion

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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Ignorance: Is Ignorance Good Or Bad?

No matter how much someone learns in life there are always going to be things they don’t know about. That is part of life and is something that one simply has to accept. That doesn’t mean that learning is therefore futile, if anything, it could feel like a weight has been lifted from ones shoulders. As if one has felt the need to know everything in life, to hear the above can allow them to let go of a lot of the pressure they have created for themselves. So during those moments when one doesn’t know something or they are wrong, it is not something to feel ashamed of or bad about.

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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Relationships: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Feel Comfortable With Hot And Cold Behaviour?

If one is in a position where their romantic relationships have not been very fulfilling, what they may find is that it’s because they have the inclination to end up with people who are anything but reliable and consistent. If so, this will mean that they have been with a number of people who are hot one minute and cold the next. Being with someone like this is likely to take a lot out of them and it could be hard for them to focus on other areas of their life. After having thought about how destructive it is, one may wonder what they can do to change this area of their life.

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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Relationships: Can Someone End Up Being Dependent On Others If Their Adult Self Is Undeveloped?

If someone was to end up feeling upset, they may find that another part of them is there to soothe this part of them. Or, if they were to feel a bit deflated and low on motivation, another part of them may offer them support and encouragement. It might then sound as though they have multiple personalities and are not an integrated human being. Even so, this will show that the different parts within them are working together – like one big happy family. Inner Parents

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Our Value Is Not Defined By How Many 'Likes' We Get!

I remember hearing about someone who only felt good about themselves if they received a certain amount of likes on a social media site. This person was sharing pictures of their face and their body. If they received a certain amount of likes everything would be fine, but if they didn’t, they would soon end up hitting rock bottom. It was clear that this person had allowed other people to define their value and to control their emotional state. Complete Strangers

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

The Media: Does The Mainstream Media Control How Some People Feel?

Whether someone does something or not can all depend on how they feel, and this shows how powerful their feelings are. There are going to be people who are defined by how they feel, and then there are going to be others who are able to take a step back. A Slave When someone’s behaviour is generally defined by how they feel, it is going to be a challenge for them to determine how they will behave. In order for them to do something, it will often be necessary for them to be in the right mood.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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