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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: Do You Always Blame Other People For Your Relationship Problems?

There can be times when ones relationships are free from problems and then there can be moments when this is not the case. One could also be in a position where this is the only thing they know and they have never experienced relationships that have flowed. Conflict Conflict is then something they have been accustomed to and while conflict is not always negative, if it’s the only thing that one has known, it is going to be. To live a life where there is only agreement and an absence of conflict can sound appealing, but it doesn’t reflect reality.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Customer Service: Is Eye Contact Important?

Someone could enter a store and not receive eye contact from anyone who works there, and it might not bother them. The same thing could take place when they go and pay for what they have come to buy, and once again, this might not faze them. This could be because they are in a rush and want to get what they need without wasting time. Or it might come down to the fact that they know what it’s like in the store, and this means that they have come to accept what it’s like. Expectations

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Responsibility: Why Do Some People Say 'You' Instead Of 'I'?

When someone talks about something they have been going through or how they currently feel, there is the chance that they will use the world ‘you’. This means that the word ‘I’ is unlikely to be used. So even though one is talking about themselves, it can come across as if they are talking about someone else. And even though this is taking place it doesn’t mean that one is conscious of this fact; it can be a habit and something they do without knowing.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Approval: Why Do Some People Need Approval?

To gain the approval from others is the ultimate achievement for some people. It’s as if this is the primary purpose that they have on this earth. And should they actually achieve this; their life will then be complete. This will mean that this person’s focus is more or less exte al. I say person and not individual, because in order to be an individual; one would have to be individual. And if one is looking for approval from others, it means that this person hasn’t separated from others and is therefore not an individual. People

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Happiness: Why Do Some People Feel Guilty For Being Happy?

It is often said that everybody wants to be happy and yet this doesn’t mean that one will be comfortable when they are happy. For some people, being happy is a wonderful experience and for others, it is something that leads to incredible guilt. And the very thing that one wants is then casing them to feel down and even miserable. Logically this is unlikely to make any sense and why would it. Self Sabotage

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Perfection: Why Do Some People Try To Be Perfect?

To be seen as perfect is very much a part of the of the modern day world. And this doesn’t only relate to one’s ability in life; it also plays a part in how one looks and in how one feels. Clear examples of this can be found in the media and the fairly recent introduction of anti aging products. To be wrinkle free, have the perfect skin and to never age, is gradually becoming the norm. The importance of exercise and looking after ones physical healthy has been around for many years. And this is something that has now been turned into another area where one must look perfect.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Emotions: Can We Become Emotionally Stuck At A Certain Age?

It is often said that one’s emotional age is not always the same as their chronological age. And this can be known through how one feels and seen through certain behaviours and reactions that people have. One may even try to deny that they haven’t grown up and justly their behaviour in some way. Here, one could say that they don’t want to grow up or that life is all about having fun for example. On the other side of this can be people who are very much aware of how old they feel. These people don’t want to justify or rationalise how they are; they just want to grow up.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: What Causes One Sided Relationships?

Life is made up of what are often described as opposites and giving and receiving is part of this dynamic. When one of these is done and not the other, it will lead to an imbalance being created. One may receive from another and be unable to give in that situation. Or one may give in one situation and be unable to receive. This is part of life and something that can’t always be avoided. Due to it not always being possible to return the favour or to receive from the same person

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: Why Do Some Men Worship Women?

When the idea of worshipping a woman is mentioned it can trigger all kinds of meanings in one’s mind. And what these meanings are can depend on is where one was brought up. To worship the feminine, which is what women physically represent, can be seen as sacred. The earth itself is often described as mother earth, the giver of life.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Expectations: Where Do Our Expectations Come From?

When it comes to how one experiences life, expectations play an incredibly important role. Not only are they influencing how one perceives every part of life, they’re also affecting ones emotional and mental well being. This means that what one attracts into their life and what one sees in others is largely being defined by their expectations. And on the other side of it all, when one has expectations that are not fulfilled it can lead to feelings of anger, frustration, and even depression.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Negative People: Why Are Some People Always Negative?

What is clear that is that life is not always a bed of roses: there are ups and downs and sometimes, there can be more downs than ups. For some people, there will be more ups than there are downs, but for others, the downs will outweigh the ups. One might then come to the conclusion that one some people are luckier or more fortunate than others. And when this opinion is based purely on what is happening exte ally, it can seem accurate and what is true.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Psychological Boundaries: What Are Psychological Boundaries?

The word boundary can bring many ideas to mind and this is partly because boundaries can reflect something physical and also something that is not physical or visible to the eye. This could be a wall around a house or marker at the end of a territory for example. And a psychological boundary is completely different; one cannot see these types of boundaries as they would a physical boundary. However, no matter what type of boundary we are talking about, it is clear that they all have a purpose. And without them, all kinds of problems would be created. Psychological Boundaries

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Responsibility: Why Do Some People Feel Responsible For Others?

There are some people who seem to carry the weight of the world on their shoulders. In some shape or form, they are always there for others. And whether they truly want to be there for others is not always irrelevant; it often appears as though they have no choice in the matter. For some people this will feel like a burden and for others it can feel like something to be proud of. One can feel a sense of maturity and that they are doing what any adult should do.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Conditional Love: What Is Conditional Love?

This is love that is not given freely; love that is only given based on certain requirements being fulfilled and met. It is during our childhood that we have our first experience of love and our meaning or model of love is also created as a child. And to be more specific here, the love I am talking about can come across as; acceptance, attention and mirroring. Unconditional Love

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Projection: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Project Their Issues Onto Others?

When someone doesn’t face what is within them, there is the chance that it will end up being projected onto others. This is not bad per se, as this is a way for someone to realise what they need to work on. Another way of looking at this would be to imagine other people as the white screen in a cinema, and that the film that is being projected onto that screen is coming from another human being as opposed to a camera. If one is in a cinema, it is clear to see what is taking place, but the same can’t be said when it comes to the ‘real world’.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: Why Do Some Women Try To Rescue Men?

While a relationship between a man and woman is meant to be based on giving and receiving, this is not always the case. For some women, this will be exactly how it is for them and this is going to enhance their life. And yet for others, this will be far from what they can relate to. When they look at their own relationship or relationship history, they will see that it is or was more like an adult relating to a child.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Speaking Up: Does The Fear Of Being Harmed Stop Some People From Speaking Up?

If someone was asked to share their views on something, they might not have a problem speaking out. Also, if another person was to do something that they disagreed with, they could also be happy to speak up. What this can illustrate is that this is someone who doesn’t have any trouble asserting themselves. They could often be described as someone who is confident and comfortable in their own skin. Two Parts

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

The Royal Family: Why Are Some People Obsessed With The Royal Family?

Over the ages the purpose of the royal family has changed. Today they are not only an attraction for people from all over the world and for people in Britain: they are also idolised and worshiped by thousands of people. The royal family are the modern day celebrities and this is of course a far cry from their original purpose. However, unlike other celebrities that are often elevated and then toppled by the media; there identity is rarely tarnished.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Emotional Needs: Do Our Unmet Emotional Needs Control Our Lives?

To be human means that one has needs and these cover a wide range of different areas. For instance, one has: physical, mental and emotional needs. And although each of these are important when it comes to experiencing a level of wellbeing and a sense of fulfilment, it doesn’t mean that one will have all of these needs met.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: Why Do Some Women Attract Controlling Men?

Although a woman can want to experience a relationship with a man that is healthy and functional, there are numerous things that can get in the way if this actually taking place. And one of these things is when a man is controlling. To a one degree or another, both men and women are controlling. But this is not bad or dysfunctional per se. What can lead to problems is when a healthy sense of control gets out of hand and goes to the extreme. When this happens, it is inevitably going to lead to problems. First Impressions

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Religion: Why Are People Attracted To Religion?

There are numerous religions in the world today; some of these have been around for thousands of years and some could be described as new in comparison. And as well as the religions that are clearly definable as religions, there are also other figures and establishments that are serving a very similar purpose. However, these might not be noticed or perceived as having any similarities to religion. Meaning

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: Why Do Some People Become Obsessed With Their Ex?

When a relationship comes to an end some people come to conclude that it was no longer working and that its time had come. And then there are others who experience an end to a relationship and find it extremely difficult to let go and move on. This could have been a relationship that was working and creating a lot of fulfilment and it could also have been a relationship that was no longer working and was unfulfilling. So just because a relationship was not functional or healthy, it doesn’t mean that one can simply carry on with their life. Love

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: Why Do Some People Try To Do Everything By Themselves?

If one was to go for a walk in nature, they would soon see that everything relies on something else in order to survive. One is not going to come across anything that is independent of its environment; what they will see is interdependence. When it comes to a tree for example, it could be said that it is independent. This is because it stands by itself and it is not connected to other trees. Yet, if the tree was not rooted into the ground, it wouldn’t last for very long and it would soon fall down.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

The Media: Is It Important For Someone To Be Sceptical When It Comes To The Mainstream Media?

If someone was to read a newspaper or to watch a news station, they might keep a mental distance (psychological distance) from what they are exposed to. Said another way, they won’t let what they hear to go straight into their mind. Through being this way, they will be able to take a deeper look into what is being said. Naturally, it will take more effort and energy for them to do this, but it will be a way for them to protect own their mind. An important Ability

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Disappointment: Do You Always End Up Feeling Disappointed When You Get Your Hopes Up?

One is going to have moments in their life where having something to look forward to enables them to get through their day, and this could be something that lasts for quite some time. This could be because what they’re doing is something they would rather not be doing or perhaps one is going through a challenging period in their life.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Bleeding Gums: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Bleeding Gums?

In todays world, ones image has become incredibly important. And there are all kinds of options for one to choose from when it comes to enhancing their image or even completely transforming it. The style of clothes that one wears can be changed, as can the style and colour of their hair. From here, one can change their physical appearance through going to the gym or through having some kind of cosmetic or plastic surgery.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: Why Are Some People Obsessed With Other People's Problems?

If someone only focused on themselves and didn’t take the time to see how other people are, there is a strong chance that they will be seen as self-absorbed. Not only that, they might not have many friends either. This is going to cause them to feel isolated from others, and their existence on this planet is unlikely to be very fulfilling. It will be important for someone in this position to spend less time on themselves and to spend more time on other people.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Success: Does Success Depend On Who You Know Or What You Know?

In the modern day world, education is seen as an important part of becoming successful and as a means of increasing ones quality of life. And so getting the right qualifications or the right training for instance is therefore imperative when it comes to making progress. This sounds logical and can make more sense than not educating oneself and trying to progress in life that way. If one knows what they are talking about and has the skills required to do a certain task or to create something for example, then surely that will enable one to achieve their desired outcome.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Judgemental: Why Are Some People So Judgemental?

To be judgmental is part of life and it is something that everyone does to some degree or another. There will be some instances where this is seen as good thing and other times when this will be seen as bad or inappropriate. If one was to see an athlete or sports star cheat or break certain rules in a game, it would be appropriate to say that what took place was wrong and shouldn’t have taken place. However, if one was to say that only some races should be treated with respect or given opportunities that would be an example of where judgment is inappropriately used.

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Communication: Is It Important To Respect Other People's Personal Space?

During those moments when one is in a crowded place, it is not going to be possible for them to maintain their personal space. The space that they need in order to feel comfortable is not going to exist. This could be something that one experiences everyday or it could be something that takes place every now and then. If one lived or worked in a city, for instance, this is going to be something that they are used to.

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother Enmeshed Men: Why Don’t Some Men Break Away From Their Mothers?

For many years, men have been seen as being one way and women as being another way. And part of this related to men being the ones who were independent and the women as being dependent. So a man would be an example of the masculine on the outside and on the inside and a women’s outer femininity would be matched by her inner femininity.

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: Can We Ever Truly Know Anyone?

Throughout one’s life, they are naturally going to meet people they feel close to and people they don’t. And the people who they don’t feel close to are going to be in the majority. Special connections are going to be rare and this is because one won’t meet people like this all of the time. Another obstacle is that that these kinds of relationships take time and energy and one only has so much time and energy available. So these relationships will have to be consistently nurtured or else this special connection could end up disappearing.

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Social Media: Can Social Media Stop Us From Living In The Moment?

While one’s attention can be in the moment, it can also go into the past and focus on the future. This is something that is likely to take place for most people on the planet and it could also be described as normal. At times, one will want to reflect on the past to remind them of something or to get in touch with a time in their life when they felt good. Just as there will be moments when ones thinks about how their life might be in the future.

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

The Life Of Pi: My Interpretation Of The Metaphors

When I first saw the trailer to this film I thought it looked like the kind of film that is rarely made. Ang Lee came up as the director, and it appeared to be the ultimate adventure. After seeing the trailer I soon forgot about the film until I decided to go the cinema and it was showing. My expectations were neutral and open to what I might find.

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

I Can’t Live Without You!

A number of months ago, I heard someone say that they couldn’t live without their partner. Now, this wasn’t because this person was disabled and therefore, needed this person in order to be able to handle life. No, this was someone who was perfectly capable of handling life by themselves. However, although this was the case, this person created the impression that they needed their partner. A Deeper Look

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Neediness: Is Your Neediness Pushing People Away?

While having needs is part of being human, there is a big difference between having needs and being ‘needy’. When it comes to ones needs, one is going to be aware of what they are and then go about getting them met. And at times they will be met and at times they won’t be. So in this case, they are a part of one’s life and yet they don’t consume their life. It is not the end of the world if they are not met; as one will know that is won’t be long until they are. Therefore, they will be coming place a place of trust and not fear. Needy

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: Why Do Some People Attract People Who Are Needy?

When it comes to dynamics in relationships that cause problems and a fair amount of frustration, there are two common patterns of behaviour. One of those is when one is attracted to people who are unavailable. So they desire to be another person and yet continually end up being attracted to people who are not there for them. This is going to create one set of challenges, and what will create another is when one attracts people who are needy. Here, one will end up attracting people who want so much and more than they can or are prepared to give.

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: Why Do Some Men Feel Powerless With Women?

It is a human need to feel a sense of power; with the most important power of all said to be based around having a sense of personal power. This is more of an inner power, where one is generally in control of themselves, as opposed to being in control of others. And when it comes to the area of relationships between men and women, it is vital that a man feels a sense of empowerment when it comes to attracting, relating to and being with a woman. Just as it is equally important for a woman to feel this way when it comes to relating to a man.

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: Why Do Some People Fall Apart When A Relationship Comes To An End?

If one has just gone through a break up, they may find that it is hard for them to focus on other areas of their life. Due to how much pain they are in, everything else could fade into the background. Perhaps they were with someone for a long time and they may have even had a strong connection with them. Therefore, now that the relationship has come to an end, it is going to be normal for them to be in pain. Death

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Self Love: Why Is It So Hard To Accept Ourselves?

I would firstly like to point out that the love I am talking about here is not narcissistic or egotistic. What I am referring to is an acceptance of who we are; our true nature, free from the ideas and perceptions of who we are or should be. This is of course one of the hardest things in life; since there are so many influences; both exte ally and internally, that can stop us from even beginning this process let alone achieving it. An Important Story

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Emotionally Undeveloped: Why Are Some People Emotionally Undeveloped?

Not every part of a human being develops at the same rate, and this is to be expected. If one was to look at nature and see how a tree grows, they will soon see that the branches are not all the same length. Some are longer than others and at the same time, it hasn’t affected the tree. It is still strong and the shorter branches are not causing any problems to the rest of the tree.

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Psychological Boundaries: The Ability To Say Yes And No

The term boundaries can seem unclear and even confusing at times. What does the term ‘boundaries’ mean? And how does it relate to psychological wellbeing? Are they the same as ‘walls’? And in this context what are walls? What I am describing here are psychological boundaries. So here I will describe my current understanding of what they are. I will also look at what stops us from developing healthy boundaries and as a result, causes us to create walls in there place. I think that the best way to understand both of these terms would be to see them as metaphors. What Are Walls?

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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Being Enough: Why Do Some People Not Feel Good Enough?

This is something that can come under many names, from self esteem, to self worth, self belief and confidence. And no matter what words are used, what it ultimately comes down to is the feeling or sense of being enough. Here one feels that who they are is enough, and this relates to who they are as a person and is not based on what they have done or will do. In many ways it could be described as a state of mind or being, as opposed to certain exte al requirements being met or fulfilled. Conflict

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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Relationships: Do Actions Speak Louder Than Words?

It is often said that ‘Actions speak louder than words’ and while this saying has been around for a very long time, it doesn’t mean that this advice is always followed. At times, it can be difficult to pay attention to anything but the words that are being spoken. When this happens, what someone says is all important and their actions then become ignored or even irrelevant. And at this point, another person could say whatever they wanted and it would be believed.

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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Deceit: Why Are Some People Easily Deceived?

There are some people who believe just about everything that another person says. And then there are others who go to the other extreme, who question and doubt everything they hear. With other people having a balance between the two; so they don’t believe everything that comes out of other people’s mouths and they don’t doubt everything either.

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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Defence Mechanism: Escapism

This is another of the defence mechanism that all of the others could be said to come under. Any one of the myriad of Defence mechanism comes under the purpose of escaping our current sense of dissonance, with the aim of removing the uncertainty and into a more familiar (safer) place, regardless of how functional to us this is.

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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Happiness: Why Do Some People Believe That They Don't Deserve To Be Happy?

What makes one person happy is not necessarily going to be the same as what makes another person happy, but while their requirements may be different, they both have the need to be happy. This is something that most people on the planet want to experience; with their being many ways in which one can experience happiness. However, even though this is what people want, it doesn’t mean they are able to fulfil this need. There are going to be some people who are generally able to fulfil this need, and then there are going to be others who are unable to do so. Complete Fulfilment

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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The Heart: Why Do Some People Close Their Heart?

When it comes to relationships with other human beings and with life itself; the heart has a unique purpose. At an emotional level; the left side (feminine) of the heart allows one to receive and the right side (masculine) of the heart allows one to give. And when one of these sides is out of balance, ones relationships with others and even one’s body will reflect this. It is said that in order to give one must be able to receive. Balance

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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Blame: Why Do Some People Always Blame Others?

For change to take place and progress to be made, there needs to an element of responsibility. And this applies to all areas of one’s life; without it, something might stay as it is or simply get a lot worse. But while this is evident, it doesn’t mean that someone will take responsibility for what happens to them. There are people who may take responsibility for some things and not others. And then there will be people who renounce all responsibility.

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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Relationships: Why Do Some People Try To Change Others?

Change is part of life and cannot be avoided and yet that doesn’t mean that it’s an easy thing to embrace. There are many others ways that can be sought as a way to avoid change. One of those ways is to try and change other people. This is something that probably comes under the umbrella of the terms control and manipulation. And it can be part of all types of relationships. If one were to experience the odd occasions of being with someone who tried to change them, it is unlikely to create much of a problem.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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