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There are so many distractions, SO VERY MANY! and it is easy to allow these distractions take you away from the path to getting the life and the business you want. Everything seems like a great idea… Everyone makes their magic bullet solution seem like the ONLY way to make it to your goal…
So, I have a love-hate relationship with my extended family… I was never quite sure why I felt out of place, thinking there was something wrong with me… Never wanting to play to the rules… Never really understanding the FUCKING RULES! I was considered selfish and rebellious…
So, you want your own business… And you want it to be successful… You have experienced success in other areas of life… But for whatever reason, this whole business thing is beyond you… And so, you get to wondering how you can be a successful entrepreneur… You get to wondering if it will ever work for you… You get to thinking that maybe it is for everyone else but it just is not for you… And I ask you this simple, simple SIMPLE question… “WHAT MAKES YOU SO SPECIAL THAT THE PRINCIPLES OF SUCCESSFUL BUSINESS WILL JUST NOT WORK FOR YOU?” Seriously! Think about it.
Man, one of the most freeing things that happened to me in 2016, was just releasing the need to look good, to get it right, to be perfect all the time. It held me back sooooo much and I imagine it is doing the same thing to you.
<img width="500" src="http://rosemarynonnyknight.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/01/Why-Do-You-Persist-in-Believing-this-nonsense-48.jpg" /> You have everything you need to flourish. Do you really understand that? There is no need to wait around for any kind of saviour, do you GET THAT? I know the leaders reading this have always known that they are powerful. And yet, I think a few of you just need someone like me to remind you to stop looking outside of yourself for a saviour… And that saviour may be what you believe to be God…r
<img src="http://rosemarynonnyknight.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/Copy-of-building-a-business-155.png" width="500"/> Lets cut straight to the chase here and it may hurt and make you angry with me for stating the obvious but I have to do it because honey, surely you are tired of this merry-go-round thing you seem to be doing… You claim to want a freedom lifestyle… You claim to want to impact and change more lives… And yet, when it comes down to it, you are stuck in place, worrying, thinking, planning, hoping… BUT AIN’T NOTHING GETTING DONE!
There is so much you want to make happen… You want a business that makes you loads of money… Be honest! You are fed up of having to consider how much money you have before yuo do what you want… You want to do work that you wake up excited to do… You want to impact a whole lot of people for good…
I am listening, you know… Listening hard to all that you say you want… And I am watching you - yes, I know it sounds a little creepy but, keep reading, you will hear my heart… I watch you, wait, wait and wait some more for things to come to you, instead of you taking courage in both hands and go and get it.
So… it is about 3 am and I am awake… I did consider going back to sleep, and I probably will at some point… But I felt something… A frisson of excitement as I considered the day ahead… One where I was starting up the FREE 10 day Launch bootcamp (Have you joined in yet? RosemaryNonnyKnight.com/launchbootcamp)
Life has happened to you and it has not always been fun. And now you are beginning to think that you need to settle for any old nonsense that comes your way. So what, that you are bored to death with the status quo?! You have somehow convinced yourself that this is all you can get and you may as well get used to it. I used to be that way… I used to think that life was just too hard and all I was going to do was struggle… Finally I woke up and saw the light and remembered that I was solely responsible for my outlook on life…
You spent all your life at a job where someone told you where to be from 9am (maybe 8 or even 7am) until about 5/6/7pm… And in each day, you racked up about 8 hours or more at work… In theory, you worked for that period of time with a break or two for meals and a snack and well… a break…
Some time ago, the bottom fell out of your world! Everything you thought you knew, suddenly got shifted and you descended into a massive fog from which you are still trying to extricate yourself… And you wonder where the hell you have gone! How did you become this victim of circumstances?
Some days, it is hard to not see the fact that you are not quite where you think you should be… You start to think that this is a permanent state of affairs… And if you are like a norm, you make it so because you stop taking action, you start navel-gazing and you start doubting everything about you and your worth… Next thing you know, it really is a permanent state of affairs because, honey, you made it so. What if, you did not act like a ‘norm’ and instead you got pretty determined to create the life and the business you want…
I was actually going to title this something about – DEATH IS COMING. ARE YOU READY? But I thought that might be too morbid and so I changed it a little. I am not sure if that was a wimpy decision or not. Probably wimpy
<img width="500" src="http://rosemarynonnyknight.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/Why-Do-You-Persist-in-Believing-this-nonsense-84-1024x535.jpg" /> There is no point getting angry, frustrated or fed up with the ways things are at the moment. There is no point feeling sorry for yourself that you have not yet reached your goals… All of those types of emotions, stifle the one thing you absolutely need to break free from this particular slump… They stifle your creativity. It is your creativity that will enable you to come up with novel ideas and novel ways of doing things…
You may be called to the whole 7 billion people on the planet… Or you may only be called to 10 people Are your people hearing your voice? You may wake up feeling down and out… Or you may wake up feeling full of the joy of life… Are your people hearing your voice?
I used to find surrender to be such an ugly word… One where I was just supposed to leave myself to the whims of some exte al person/thing and just let whatever happens, happen… I was scared that Spirit did not love me enough to take care of me…
You keep lurking to see what the latest, greatest marketing technique is… You don’t think that who you are and what you have, is enough… You hide behind pretty websites, whizz bang program names, complicated membership sites, fancy sales funnels and all of that stuff but it separates you from your people…
People will try to take advantage of you… Don’t let them. You are pretty dang strong so people, who are not your people, will want to lean on you… Don’t let them… People will tell you their sad story hoping to get you to pity them enough to serve them for free…
<img width="500" src="http://rosemarynonnyknight.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/01/Why-Do-You-Persist-in-Believing-this-nonsense-54-1024x535.jpg" /> Yesterday, my hubby walks into the lounge and announces he has completed his run… And though it was painful, he completed it. And he is proud of himself because he is still on track, he is being consistent and he loves it. He has a goal he is working towards reaching and though it hurts at times, he is determined to keep moving forward. He sees himself as a champion-fighter and he is staying on course despite the pain.
Gosh, I read posts written by religious and spiritual people and they really do rile me up a little… It is all about waiting… Being still… Praying until something happens… And you know what, I do believe in being still and praying…
<img src="http://rosemarynonnyknight.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/Copy-of-Copy-of-building-a-business-11.png" width="500"/> It is easy to forget why you do what you do in the heat of everyday challenges… And I certainly forgot yesterday… All kinds of events being thrown at me… Facing fears… Teaching children… People trying to tell me what to think… Me forgetting that I don’t have to listen… Me forgetting that I always have a choice… And so reverting back to being a victim… And then recognising the old conditioning as it reared its ugly head…
In the last few days, I have been led to focus on releasing elements of my past… It is as though every book, every blog, every EVERYTHING that comes my way is directing me towards releasing the drama of my past so that I am powered forward to my chosen future… And I am so thankful that Spirit cares that much for me… It has been tough facing down some of the lies I have believed…
Most people, and I am sad to say that I used to be one of these, think that you can give things a go for a little bit and then quit if it gets too hard, quit if it seems impossible, quit if all your friends seem to be happy to settle for nothing, just simply stop and settle for the okay life… And so, for a long time there, I got the okay life… And so do most people.
For the longest time, I lived a half-life… I knew I was capable of more and yet, I refused to live it out… And now, I look back and realise that it was a choice… A choice to believe the lies about not mattering… A choice to believe the lies about not being important enough… A choice to believe that I could not just do what I wanted to do… A choice to think that my strengths, my desires, my dreams were given to me to taunt me and never actually to be realised…
<img src="http://rosemarynonnyknight.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/Copy-of-Copy-of-building-a-business-14.png" width="500"/> It is so easy to fall into the trap of looking for affirmation about who you are from other people. It is even worse now with social media. You look for engagement as a measure of how well loved you are but really, it is no measure at all. Tell me, how many pieces of content do you read a day where you do not acknowledge at all that you were there, EVEN if you enjoyed it? Lots, right?
<img src="http://rosemarynonnyknight.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/01/Copy-of-building-a-business-147.png" width="500"/> I see you going around thinking that unless you are perfect in all of your ways then you do not have the right to win. And it is just a silly excuse! A silly crazy excuse that keeps you from even giving your dream and vision a great big go! You can tell yourself that you made a mistake, you can tell yourself that no one wants to be led by or even buy from someone as imperfect as you and you would be adding mistakes upon the original mistake!
<img src="http://rosemarynonnyknight.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/01/Copy-of-building-a-business-154.png"width="500"/> Don’t you understand that the dreams you have are just so different from most people? Don’t you see that you cannot keep comparing yourself to other people when you are simply not of this world! You ARE different! You have always suspected it and now you can completely confirm that it is true – You are very, very different and most of the people around you do not get you! So be careful where you go looking for advice!
I see you thinking, thinking, thinking some more… “Will this work, will that work?” “Can I do that or would it be too much?” “Am I allowed? Will the gods of business and all things entrepreneur curse me for trying to do this thing over here?” “Maybe I will break my business if I do that?”
Man, I am tired of appealing to all and sundry… I am tired of speaking so generally that anyone thinks that they are my person… I am tired of being surrounded by those who just want to make a few pennies here and there and it is not really attached to a big vision… I am looking for those who want to be great! WHO ARE ALREADY GREAT!
Some days, it does feel like you are working your socks off and getting absolutely nowhere, doesn’t it? You can see the goal you are aiming for and it seems so close and yet also, so far away. It is like the Walls Of Jericho. The walls are thick. The walls are high. The walls look unshakeable!
<img width="700" height="400" src="http://rosemarynonnyknight.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/01/Why-Do-You-Persist-in-Believing-this-nonsense-44.jpg"> Another year ends I see you, honey… With the tears dripping down your face as you contemplate another year where nothing happened the way you wanted it too…. The doubt rises… The fear seems all-encompassing and you wonder if you have what it takes to keep going… To keep moving forward… You wonder if you are a fraud… You wonder if you are being punished for not doing enough…
<img src="http://rosemarynonnyknight.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/Copy-of-building-a-business-159.png" width="500"/> If you would just read this and simply do it, you would win but you probably will not because it took me years to get to the point of actually just believing this and getting on with it. There is simply something inside the driven, determined maverick, that wants to complicate life, business, success… It is as though we do not want it to be simple… We want the complicated answer, not the simple answer…
<img src="http://rosemarynonnyknight.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/03/Rosemary-Nonny-Knight-blog-posts-6-1024x535.png" width="500"/> I was passive for so long… Waiting for the spiritual magic bullet to come find me… Begging and pleading with God to save me – I called that prayer… I never felt like I belonged anywhere… I was both rebellious and submissive… I wanted to be liked so much that I sold my birthright time and time again… What a freaking waste of time… Always, deep within, I wondered “Is this it?”
You are fed up with limiting yourself because of money… So make more! You are fed up with having to say no to your kids because you cannot afford it… So make more! You are fed up with having to work a job or be in a business that is not your soul purpose…
<img src="http://rosemarynonnyknight.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/10/Copy-of-building-a-business-72.png" width="500"> Leader, you live life as though you have no choice but to do the things that you do… You look on everyone else having what looks like a good time and somehow you tell yourself that it is your lot in life to suffer and do whatever others don’t want to do because you are ‘responsible’! Seriously?! You act like a victim of circumstances… But you are a creator… Someone made in the image of God… Someone with incredible power under the hood… LIMITLESS!
Simple Answer - NEVER! Your life is your life at the moment and actually, it is the life of most entrepreneurs - at least the ones who are honest about it! If you want to make money doing what you love, if you want to impact people with your product, service, if you want to increase your income, you are going to have to simply get on with it in the midst of the chaos.
I used to wander aimlessly through life wondering what I felt motivated to do… Wondering why I did not feel inspired to do what I said I wanted to do… Wondering why I did not get my own version of the ‘Because I want to’ Life! I had bought into a lie…
You are not your mum… You are not your dad… You are not your brother… You are not your sister… You are not your friend… You are not your pastor… You are whoever the fuck you choose to be! You have this picture in your head of who you want to be…
You say you don’t want to be greedy… And so you downplay your goals… Making them smaller and smaller each passing year… You don’t see that you are living from a place of lack. You think that you getting yours means someone else has to lose theirs… And as you say, you don’t want to be greedy…
Listen IN
<img width="500" src="http://rosemarynonnyknight.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/01/Why-Do-You-Persist-in-Believing-this-nonsense-64.jpg"> Today, I read the following and it is something you need to hear because I see you, worried, wondering, uncertain as to whether what you want will ever come about. You doubt yourself and you doubt the journey and it keeps you trapped in this uncertain limbo where you are not sure whether to go back to the familiar or to continue onwards to the promise.
When will you start living like your life is yours? When will you start asking for and receiving the best? When will you start believing that the dreams and visions in your heart are really yours to fulfill? When will you stop selling your soul for money? And I speak to me, probably much more tha I speak to you!
When I was younger and on the occasional day even now, I get myself into a tizzy. A tizzy where I wonder if I am allowed certain things… After all, my greatest heart’s desire has always been to be close to God, to Source, to my higher power… I long for Him with every breath in my body…
<img src="http://rosemarynonnyknight.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/Copy-of-Copy-of-building-a-business.png" width="500"/> Stop looking around! Stop comparing! Stop thinking everyone else is better than you! the word you are really looking for is ‘DIFFERENT!’ Everyone is different from you – NOT BETTER! You are a category of one and there is no one, NO ONE like you! And if you would finally own that, really OWN IT, then you would figure out how to win. You don’t have to be sexier than someone else – How do you even measure that?
You left college, university with high hopes… You knew you were called to change the world! I mean, everyone said it to you! You were up to big things… The local spiritual guide would come up to you randomly and remind you of your destiny… Your lecturers, teachers, everyone could see greatness in you…