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“Coaching is unlocking a person’s potential to maximize their own performance. It is helping them to learn rather than teaching them.” – Timothy Gallwey Thought + Dream + Goal + turn into Reality = Mastermind
"Excuses are the nails used to build a house of failure" ~Don Wilder and Bill Rechin The Excuse is a false reason that you give to explain why you do something. Excuses are the tools of incompetence, used to build monuments of nothingness, and those who specialize in them seldom accomplish anything.
A fundamental corner stone to forgiveness is an apology. No matter what the situation is that you find yourself immersed in, when there is a hurt involved of any degree a simple “I apologize” is an excellent starting point. A true apology cannot undo the harm that has been done but it can restore dignity to the victim. Without apologizing you have no right to forgiveness.
As July 2011 fades off into the sliding sunset, it is time to contemplate on the two historical events in two great nations – Independence Day July 4th USA and Canada Day - its 144th Birthday, July 1, Independence and standing in your power as the person you are meant to be seems like a good topics for a post reflecting this month. Embracing and celebrating both your independence and standing up for who you were born to be is just as important as the fireworks displayed within our two great nations.
As we head into mid-life we sometimes feel we are in crisis. We feel loss everywhere we turn; loss of our youth, loss of a relationship, loss of children to significant others, careers or school. We feel the loss of friendships, friends or relatives though death. Loss just circles us like buzzards over a carcass in a hot desert. We feel the silence of loss – it is so loud that it screeches at us to listen, but w tend to cover our ears. It takes a toll - but only if we let it.
Impossible is defined as something that is not possible; unable to be, exist, and happen; unable to be done, or performed.
1. 50 + is the new 35! I say this because I am in my 52nd year and I feel 35. My inner being is doing everything now that I would have done at 35 if I had only known how much fun it could have been. But I was busy, busy, busy; raising kids, running a household trying to work part time, grocery shopping, cleaning a house, taxiing around everyone to their various interests – whew! I had no time to breathe let alone be 35. I am so glad I am enjoying it now. I now have time to look back at the goals and dreams I had in my earlier ages. Do the same and write them down again.
“Follow your heart and do what feels right for you, because that’s living. Everything else is dying.” - Henri Junttila In the hectic world we live in today, sometimes it is hard to find ways to live life in complete happiness. You are entitled to live your life they way you want to and were meant to live them. Many of us are afraid to stand up for ourselves, ask for what we want and refuse what we don’t want. We let others opinions guide our dreams and goals. Standing up for what you believe in takes some work but with enthusiasm and perseverance, you can live the life you desire.
The term Midlife crisis is a term made famous in 1965 by Elliott Jaques, a Canadian psychoanalyst and organizational psychologist, and is now used to describe the period of deep-seated self-doubt that is felt by some individuals in their "middle years" or middle age of life. This experience is a result of sensing the passing of their own youth and the imminence of their old age.
Envision your beautiful lovable you as a fancy basket which you would decorate for your home. This basket would be a showpiece and hold all the wonderful mementos of your life. Bring out the best and biggest basket you have ever seen. Cover it in beautiful flowers, ribbons and beads - all the elements of your life; your journey in this world. Go crazy with your imagination, indulge in your dreams as this is basket is an image of who you are and what you are made of.
"Just as physical energy comes from diet, exercise and rest, emotional energy comes from the ways you take care of yourself emotionally -- living in a way that makes you feel inspired, hopeful, self-confident, playful, loving and in touch with what you care about most," - Mira Kirshenbaum. When we feel drained we automatically suspect our physical energy has not be looked after. So we jump to the energy boosting drinks and ingest copious amounts of vitamins. But have you considered that possibly it could be your emotional energy that is suffering?
Disobedient is a label and only soup cans need labels. As a child we explored the world with complete abandonment doing exactly as we desired because we could. Then when a particular behavior didn’t fall into the confines society had designed and the rules put in place for our “safe keeping,” we were quickly labeled as disobedient. But were we really? A disobedient child/adult is someone who doesn’t act right. But who’s “right” are we to follow? Every culture has different rules and ideas how people should act to be accepted.
It has been said over and over again that in order to grow and improve your self-esteem you must step outside the imaginary boundaries of your comfort zone. This increases anxiety but with positive self-talk you can overcome and face all your challenges head on thus moving forward.r
As we enter the lazy days of summer and for most of us on this continent try to quench our thirst with cold drinks, I am reminded of my favorite libation – lemonade. There is nothing finer than sipping on the icy cold concoction of freshly squeezed lemons, sugar and iced water when all about you is melting into the pavement. You can feel the instant relief to your parched soul with that small glass of the sugary wonder. The same can be said for life as it tosses us lemons at every turn.
"The children desire freedom! And every particle of their being from their Source says, “You are free. You are so free, that every thought you offer, the entire Universe jumps to respond to it.” And so, to take that kind of knowledge and try to confine it in any way, defies the Laws of the Universe. You must allow your children to be free, because the entire Universe is set up to accommodate that. And anything you do to the contrary will only bring you regret. You cannot contain those that cannot be contained. It defies Law."— Abraham
Have you ever felt that you are stuck in your journey? One foot firmly planted in the past and another cemented right in front of you? With the rest of your physical being dying to move forward and blossom? This feeling of “stuck” is just a label. It is a point of view that with a little refocus can be banished from your psyche. Here are a few ways that “stuck” might show up for you: Stuck is when you want to move forward but the only way you see to do that is an option that you do not want to entertain.
Life’s path is never straight and narrow or perfectly flat and smooth. As children we view life as simple as a single step in front of us one small foot at a time. When we fall we simply get back up and steady our wobbly legs then push on to the desired item in our eyesight. We never think about the bumps in our path because our needs are so much more important. As small people with big dreams getting to our destination is so much more than the journey.
“At work, you think of the children you have left at home. At home, you think of the work you’ve left unfinished. Such a struggle is unleashed within yourself. Your help is rent.” – Golda Meir