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Dear Dr. Romance: I'm a 23 year old single mother and believe me when I say my life has been crazy and very rough. I have no relationship with the father of my child. He's pretty much abandoned our four yearl old son after his 1st birthday. He doesn't help out, and blames everything on me, so I don't even speak with him anymore.
Dear Dr. Romance: I would like to know if it's possible to make your wike fall in love with you again? She just recently announced to me that she wanted to go our seperate ways. I am devestaded we have 2 kids together and she told me that she just grew appart from me. I'm madly in love with her and don't want to get seperated. What can i do? Dear Reader,
Dr. Romance writes: OK, so you're disappointed. Your dream has ended in the trashbin. So, after you get finished with laying on the floor, kicking your heels, and screaming; or going on a drunken binge, or beating someone up, you find you're still disappointed, and all that acting out hasn't fixed anything Now what do you do? Disappointment is a dead-end in your road. Now you need to figure out a new direction.
Click here for video. Dr Romance: Should you stay in your marriage? Marriage can be frustrating and disappointing, especially if you don't have the skills to fix it. But giving in to the frustration and leaving may turn out to be the worst thing you ever did. Consider these reasons to stay:
So many couples are now separated part- or full-time because of military deployment and/or work travel and schedules, I get a lot of questions about faithfulness. Your marriage vows may have said, “'til death do us part” but no one said anything about what happens when a military career or traveling job makes it necessary for you to part, and you want to maintain the closeness in your relationship. Not only does the war take husbands away from their wives, but the greater involvement of women in the military means that more husbands are also left behind during wartime deployment.
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Many couples are moved to write their own wedding ceremony: either because they aren’t comfortable with the traditional ones, or they don’t belong to a tradition that has a ceremony, or they just want to create something unique that expresses their love and commitment. To help you create a design of your own, I’m presenting the basics of wedding/commitment celebrations here, to use as a guideline. Because this is the beginning of a tradition that can be very important in your lives, I encourage you to think and talk it through carefully, withr
Dear Dr. Romance: Just read a fine article of your from a link off the internet, and was wondering your best recommendation of the books you've wrote for jealousy and suspicious minds in a marriage with no real proof? Dear Reader:
Dear Dr. Romance, Should a man expect a woman to want to become involved with him when he is still best friends with is ex-lover--and he is a renter in her house? He claims it is all over between them, but I don't see how he or the ex-love should expect a woman to feel comfortable fitting into this arrangement. Please, I would love some perspective. Dear Reader:
Click Here for Video Dr. Romance on MONEY TALKS Money talks need to be a part of scheduling weekly meetings - not just for money, but also for catching up with one another.
There are a few simple communication techniques that work like magic in relationships, whether with committed partners, friends, co-workers or relatives. One of the most effective is reassurance, which is simple to do, and calms both of you down, which allows your discussion move on without struggles. When a discussion begins to get difficult, if you learn to stay calm and reassure the other person you’ll find it works very effectively.
Dear Dr. Romance: I have had baby with this girl and we are planning to marry this year. Just last we were talking about things we do not like and the things that we like. I said she was unfaithful before we had the baby and she said that not true but that she was lesbian was sleeping With this lady she had started this with when she was in junior school.
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Dating Again? Use These Five Tips On Every Date! You’re fresh out of a disaster, and you are terrified of the thought of dating again, but you’re going to try anyway. Good for you! Here are some guidelines to help you avoid repeating old mistakes: 1. Pay Attention!
How To Be a Happier -- and More Successful -- Single Parent Are you a single parent struggling with how to make it all work? Dr. Romance offers three tips to happier single parenting. 1. Be a Grownup.
Put Spice Back into your Marriage with Tips to Help when the Sex Gets Boring Are you bored with your marital sex life? What can you do about it? Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D, psychotherapist and author of "Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting about the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage (Adams Media 2008)" offers tips to improve intimacy with your mate. Q: Sometimes I feel sexually excited, but I don't always feel desire for my husband...In other words, I'd rather take things into my own hands. Does this mean there's something wrong or missing from our relationship?
Dear Dr. Romance: I heard you on the radio today and I think that this is my last hope. My dad told me to listen to you this afte oon, since I have been having problems with my marriage. I am in my late twenties and I have 3 children under four years old. My husband is two years older. We recently moved into a home away from family and away from what we are used to. I am totally happy with where we are living and he "says" he is but I am thinking that it is not like that.
Don't Let Divorce Muddy Your Marriage - 3 Tips Are you remarried? Are you trying to make this new relationship work. Dr. Romance offers three tips to help this new marriage work better than the first one. 1. Understand your baggage.
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If You're Searching And Can't Find Love, Try This Probably the most prevalent questio I'm asked in my counseling practice is “Where is love?” Clients want to know why they can't find a successful life partnership, why a friend or family member won't respond as they would like, even why they don't love themselves.
Dear Dr. Romance: I've been with this man over thirty years back and forth. Something always seems to happen and we end up apart again. He endsup getting married and yet though living states apart he always ends up calling and we do the same thing all over again.
You're divorced and ready to look for a new love. Here are three tips to help you as you search for a new partner in life. 1. Know the difference between fooling around and building a real relationship.
Ready To Get Back Out There? 3 Must Knows Men and women have to redefine themselves after a relationship ends, and reinvent their lives. If they do it well, it can lead to the most satisfying and successful years they've had. Dating successfully after divorce or a breakup require several steps to recover from the breakup. Understanding what went wrong in the last relationship, so you don't repeat the pattern. Identifying the kind of partner you're looking for and developing social networks involving these kinds of people.
Dear Dr. Romance: I saw the articles on your site and I would like to know if you can ´´program´´ the subconscious mind to win a X salary per month, even if the subconscious mind is programmed to attract money. Dear Reader:
Knowing how to set appropriate boundaries can make the difference in whether or not your relationship succeeds. The topic frequently comes up in my counseling office, and most people think boundaries are set by telling other people what the limits are. But boundaries are really something you must create within yourself. Having the confidence to say “no” to another is one important aspect of creating boundaries; but it begins by knowing what you do and don’t want. The Tennis Match -- Setting Boundaries and Taking Space
If You're Fighting About Money, Read These Five Tips In our society, money represents power, success, and often even your value as a person. We say (misquoting the Bible,) “Money is the root of all evil," or “money is power;” or “he who has the gold, makes the rules.” We consider it spiritual to take a vow of poverty, and we prosecute and convict people who get greedy.
As a counselor, I get a lot of clients who are worried about intimacy and sex. Romance books are a lovely escape from reality, and can help reduce your stress from daily frustrations. And, you can even learn a few tricks to enhance your relationship. The danger comes in if you begin to believe in the fantasy, compare your real-life partner to a fictional character, and become dissatisfied and feel unfulfilled. One of the attractive things about romance heroes is that they do all the work, but in a real-life rela
Dr. Romance’s 3 tips to finding true love:
Number 7 Might Shock You
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When I was a girl, growing up in the small township of Rockland, New York, there was a tiny post office, which was a small room with a separate entry in the house next door. Rockland’s official postmistress was Clara Weiss, who seemed very elderly even when I was a very small child. She was what we used to call a “maiden lady” or spinster, who had dedicated her life to taking care of her mother, who was disabled, and also not quite balanced. Mrs. Weiss had one leg, and frequently escaped from the house and crawled around the yard, yelling strange things.
Dear Dr. Romance: I am writing this letter to you because I really want to know what is the right love to last a lifetime? I am frustrated right now. How couples especially married, last love into lifetime? I am in love with someone, but I don't know if that person feels the same way too. But in some way or in somehow, I know she feels in a small amount of love for me. How to love right? God is loving right, must we follow that? Dear Reader:
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Dear Dr. Romance: My best girlfriend ever and I dated for about eight months, then had a long distance relationship when she went back to her home country. She just broke up with me over email and she is dating someone from her home city for the last month. I thought we were very happy and serious and our best things were chemistry and compatibility!
Click here for video Many men think it's exciting to be a "serial single guy" but at a certain point, life begins to feel empty. That means it's time to grow up emotionally, and consider making a commitment and building a life with more real satisfaction.
Dear Dr. Romance: I recently read "Does First-Love ever die? How to deal with a flame that still flickers" While my situation doesn't parallel the situations you described in the article, it's very similar.
It was one of those magical encounters with a personal truth—you know how it feels. I was fifteen, in ninth-grade English. The teacher, Mr. Rizzutto, read us a poem, and it had such a profound effect on me that even five decades later, I’m still using it as a guide. The poem, “Outwitted,” by Edwin Markham, is simple: He drew a circle that shut me out; Heretic; rebel; a thing to flout. But Love and I had the wit to win: We drew a circle that took him in.
Dear Dr. Romance: I am confused I am dating a deaf girl and I love her with all my heart. The problem is she likes to party sleeping around and in the community they have noticed it. They keep complaining about deaf gals but sometimes I want to cry coz I love that girl so much. Dear Rufus: I understand you love her, but does she love you? Are you both deaf? If you're not deaf, can you speak American Sign with her?
Dear Dr. Romance: I am living alone. I've been told I am sexually week. Can I have a life partner? How long will it take? I need care and protection, and to know what my choices are. How can I be fruitful to society and mankind? Is my life worth anything? Tell me the truth. Believe me I can keep my cool. I am mentally stable and happy. Dear Reader:
Dr. Romance writes: Richard and I have been married since 1982 It hasn’t always been easy, but it’s definitely been worth it. In the first year of our marriage, after a difficult struggle between us, I gave my husband a card. On the front it said, "I love you", many times, and inside it said, "It's a dirty job, but someone has to do it." That phrase has carried us through many difficult times since. We have kept our love alive, and the joy of this relationship carries us through the rest of life.
(To view video, click here.) Moving in together is a financial commitment, and so is marriage, so it’s important to consider the tough issues you’ll face as a cohabiting or married couple. Dr. Romance presents seven things you should consider before entwining yourselves financially as well as emotionally.
Dear Dr. Romance: I'm a single mom, of a teenage son. I was never married to his dad (if you want to call him that). I have the hardest time finding a relationship cuz I am on SS income and I am judged by that. Irnam a loving person, the good guys want a woman that works or is very active. I'm not able to dorneither. So how can I find a good man to love me for me? Dear Reader:
Dear Dr. Romance; I read your article about Older Women Dating Younger Men I am dating a man who is 22 yrs, younger than myself. He appeared older and I appeared younger to him. Now I'm afraid the age difference means our relationship won't work. Would you be able to help me with this dilemma? Dear Reader:
Dear Dr. Romance: You give good advice and I really like the articles you have here. I wish I could apply it to my life. I have married and divorced twice and i always tell myself "I don't know how to choose a man". But is it the man or me who is wrong? I don't know. Now, I have a new relationship and I am afraid to lose again this time. Can you tell me what to do? Dear Reader:
She was an Italian immigrant in New Jersey, a hard-working, frugal, Catholic single mother who lost her husband in WWII. She spent most days of her life as a “spooler” in a thread factory, retiring just before her job was automated. Her English was good, but she didn’t always catch the finer points. She sang Italian opera arias just for pleasure.
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Dear Dr. Romance: I stumbled upon your article "Don't Make The Same Mistake Twice" while I was searching for advice on dating a divorcee. I can't help but wonder what advice you would give to a girl who has never been married who is currently seeing a divorcee. I have never in my entire life dated a divorcee, so I am clueless.
3 Must Do's If You Want To Break The Cycle If you're the adult child of a divorce or simply trying to improve your marriage, here are three tips to help you cultivate a good relationship with your partner. 1. Weekly State of the Union discussion.