Dear Dr. Romance: I need a man to stand behind me
Dear Dr. Romance:
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Everyone is relieved when the holidays are over, and sometimes disappointed. If you're worn out, it's worth your while to take the time to recharge a little, and pamper yourself. Dr. Romance gives 4 Tips for handling Post-holiday blues
Dear Dr Romance : I just read about you and some articles you wrote about Age Differences in Relationships and really enjoyed what you had to say and how you said it.
Lately, I've gotten so many anguished questions from people who are being criticized and rejected by family for making relationship choices the families don't like, usually for cultural or religious reasons, that I changed my mind about what I was going to write this month.
Dear Dr. Romance: My situation is different that some. See I have only been in 2 relationships, but they were really long term. My first I was 16 till I was 21. Second from 22 till 26 years old. Both of those relationships were an on off kind of relationship. So inbetween the ons and off, let's say I was a bit promiscuous. I never had a problem getting a girl, but I never really liked a girl, I thought they were cute, and just wanted to have sex. So that's a basic sum of my past, thought it might help.
Dr. Romance writes: I’ve been dealing with a lot of unwanted changes, and it’s not easy. Losses, disappointments, changes – we all struggle when life doesn’t go our way. Why is it so hard to handle change? Then there are the changes we want to make, fight hard to make – losing weight, giving up smoking, being more organized. Why is it so hard to create change?
Dr.
Dear Dr. Romance: I enjoy reading your "Happiness Tips Newsletter" I actually want to ask you some questions. I know you are a psychotherapist, So i thought you might to explain the difference between the mental health unit of an hospital and a psych ward? Why would one feel ashamed to have stepped in there for one reason or another?
Make new friends, keep the old. One is silver, the other is gold.——adage
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Dear Dr. Romance : I am a 20 year old college student. I have been going out with a man for almost 2 years, I feel he is the one I want to marry but now we are having problems and I don't know how we are going to stay together. I made the mistake of telling him about my past romantic history and he can't forgive me for it. I also feel he does not respect me. Please tell me what I can do about this. Dear Reader:
Dear Dr. Romance: I have been reading your article "The Fine Art of Squirrel Hunting". I certainly will appreciate any wisdom or guidance that you can share. I'm a minister who ministers to congregations, and I was widowed several years ago.
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Recently, as we were eating in an Italian restaurant, the music being played transported me back to holidays with my Italian/American family. Traditional, sentimental Italian songs were such a large part of our gatherings for the holidays. After a huge, slow, multi-course dinner, Uncle Tommy would get up and go to the piano, and just start playing.
Dear Dr. Romance: I told my husband that if he cannot be with me as his wife and does not give me the place that a wife should have that I wanted to go on with my life and file the papers. He stopped seeing the other woman for a weekend. Then, on the Thursday that followed, he called me during lunch (in front of her ) to tell me that his heart was someplace else and that we should file the papers.
Dr. Romance writes: Each of us is individual, special and different for a reason: You are a gift to the planet. Anthropology tells us we are different because we survive better that way – the recombining of genes in sexual reproduction makes us a stronger species than cloning would.
Many years ago, an Edwin Markham poem inspired me, and I've tried to live by it Outwitted by Edwin Markham He drew a circle that shut me out Heretic, rebel, a thing to flout. But Love and I had the wit to win: We drew a circle that took him in!
Recent events have me thinking about political anarchyriots, bombings, civil wars, threats, and other bad and dangerous behavior around the world. Politically, anarchy means obeying no laws. It's frightening to watch a mob take over. Anarchy is the result of two things: repression and neglect. When people are economically and politically repressed, they become frustrated. When they are also ignored and neglected, negative forces are free to take over. This is how gangs and terrorist organizations take hold.
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Dear Dr. Romance A question for you: I have a female friend that I dated for 7 months - she dumped me - and is, I think, dating some other guy. The question is: I have tried to ask her for 5 or 6 different events - and have gotten turned down for each one - with some excuse - the excuse sounds good - but I think its just that an excuse. So, the other day I point blank asked her - do you want me to stop asking you out - and be honest" . Her reply was "NO".
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The revered Sufi poet, Rumi, wrote: "We turn poison into medicine and our sorrows into blessings"
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Dear Dr. Romance: I am a native American woman who has been abused and betrayed by my husband. He was my coresearcher and advisor for several years. We were married according to tribal custom, which he later denied happened and disowned me in the courts where he was believed over me.
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Dear Dr. Romance: I have a question for you. I normally don't ask questions like this. But I was looking at your Facebook page and reading some of your responses. Here goes.
Dear Dr. Romance: I have been dating my boyfriend for seven years, I care for him deeply. However, I am not happy. I want to break-up with him, but I don't know the best way to do it and not hurt him. I would still like to remain friends with him, or is this just wishful thinking? Dear Reader:
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Want to be powerful in your relationships? Learn emotional self-control. Learning to take charge of your emotions means you can't be "set off" by someone else. You control your reactions, they don't control you. When you're too reactive to your partner, he or she can easily draw you into a fight that stops you both from focusing on fixing the problem.
Dear Dr Romance: I just wanted to say thank you for the article you wrote "Dating 101: Do Opposites Attract?" I just read it today and you have really made my day. I'm currently in an interracial relationship with a wonderful man from Africa. Not only are we from different races but he is Muslim and I am a Roman Catholic so it makes it a little more interesting. Unknowingly we have been following the guidelines you have written in your articler
Dear Dr. Romance: I saw your article "The One Who Got Away " about getting back together with your ex.
Dear Dr. Romance: I am a male Kenyan, married with 2 daughter. Of late, have totally lost urge for sex and it can only appear once per week though a weak one. Outside affair is a norm in my religion, but whenever I site a beautiful lady suddenly the mind switches to sex and I go to an extent of hooking her and talking on sex,though have never had sex outside marriage. Kindly advise me on how I can resume my initial romance with my wife.am very embarassed.
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Dear Dr. Romance: Your article on "Fair Fight Guidelines" is wonderful!!! My major issue is that I cry upon a disagreement. This prevents me to think clearly, act maturely and interact directly. Would you please address this issue? Dear Reader:
Dear Dr. Romance: I have a question for you. I normally don't ask questions like this. But I was looking at your Facebook page and reading some of your responses. Here goes.
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Q & A with a Dr. Romance reader: Q: I would like your advice and input. I have been working in business for 12 years as a CPA and have recently been quite frustrated with it. Recently I did some career/interests/aptitude testing and found that the work I do now is pretty much what I am LEAST suited for! Lots of psychic energy spent being successful in this career. A: Yes, I was an accountant for 15 years, so I understand. It didn't make me happy, either.
Men and women have to redefine themselves after a relationship ends, and reinvent their lives. If they do it well, it can lead to the most satisfying and successful years they've had. Dating successfully after divorce or a breakup require several steps to recover from the breakup. Understanding what went wrong in the last relationship, so you don't repeat the pattern. Identifying the kind of partner you're looking for and developing social networks involving these kinds of people.
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