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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: why are men in their mid 40s-50s attracted to 20ish girls?

Dear Dr. Romance: I was wondering if in any of your books or articles you discuss about why men in their mid 40s-50s might be attracted to 20ish girls. I kind of know the obvious reasons, but being more curious about what that might mean maturity wise etc. Dear Reader: From your question, I don't know if you're asking about someone you know, and want to understand what's going on, or you're just generally curious. Here's some general information about age differences in relationships:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

How to Cope with Toxic Friendships

Research shows that the happiest and healthiest people are those who are well-connected to friends and family, but all friendships are not beneficial. A healthy friendship has mutual caring, mutual respect, mutual responsibility and good communication.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dr. Romance on Friends in Need: Interventions for Domestic Violence

Last month, Dr. Romance received the following letter from a reader:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dr. Romance on How to Stretch Time

Dr. Romance writes:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dr. Romance On Your Heart's Desire

Your heart's desire -- what could it be? So many people, including many of my clients, are searching to know what it is would satisfy them, to give their lives focus and direction.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: His mother was an alcoholic and a toxic bitch

Dear Dr. Romance:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: What Causes One To Constantly Sabotage Oneself?

Dear Dr. Romance: What causes one to constantly sabotage oneself? Why would someone constantly put up their own roadblocks? Dear Reader:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dr. Romance on shared laughter

Dr. Romance writes: A lighthearted approach to serious matters often is the most productive one. Imagine what your days would be like if you focused on having fun and making yourself and your partner laugh. Fun is also good for your health: Telling your partner the cute thing your kid said (or your pet did) or talking about the funny scene in the latest hit movie will lower your blood pressure, calm your pulse and generally help you release a lot of stress.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: How can I make my family understand I love him?

Dear Dr. Romance:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: My girlfriend has a driving phobia

Dear Dr. Romance

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dr. Romance: Into Each Life

Dr. Romance writes: As a parade went by, one of the horses pulling a float entry left a memento in the middle of the road right in front of where we were watching from the sidewalk. From that point on, every band or group that came marching down the road marched bravely on, right through the pile of horse manure. The image struck a chord in me, one that the band was not intentionally playing.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: Why this compulsion to cheat?

Dear Dr. Romance:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dr. Romance Video: Dr. Romance on How to Be a Loving Couple When You Have Kids

(To view video, click here.) Parenthood is an overwhelming job. Kids, especially babies, seem to need you there constantly. It's very easy for parents to get so into the role that they lose sight of the couple relationship they used to have. "Dr. Romance" shows you how to devote adequate time to your kids and still keep a special part in your relationship for each other. Intimacy After Baby

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: What Is The Grieving Process?

Dear Dr. Romance: What Is The Grieving Process? What are the stages of the grieving process? How long does it take to go through each stage? Can one stage be relived over and over again? Is there a way to help someone through each stage? Dear Reader:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: I just want to bring joy and spice in their life

Dear Dr. Romance:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: What behavior does a control freak have?

Dear Dr. Romance:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Coping with Critics

No one likes to be criticized, fairly or not. It's always difficult to deal with, and it can hurt. Because I'm a writer of books and columns, and because I've lectured, appeared on radio and TV, I am sometimes recognized in public. I'm glad I'm not more recognizable, for along with the lovely feedback, gratitude and complements I get from many people, others feel compelled to criticize, often in a mean way, and often without having even read whatever book or column they're criticizing.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: Why is my ex still calling me?

Dear Dr. Romance: I was dating this guy for about 2 years. During the time that we were together we had some good times and bad. For one he was cheating on me with another girl then we got back together. During that time we worked hard to make the relationship work then I found out that he was sleeping with someone else. When I found this out, I finally left him alone.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: Why Did you recommend not asking?

Dear Dr. Romance:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: I have a family member with two failed marriages

Dear Dr. Romance:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: Is it appropriate for him to still have her in his life?

Dear Dr. Romance:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: I am beyond confused

Dear Dr. Romance: I need help! I am beyond confused. My husband is having an affair for more than six months with some woman who is 15 years younger than him. He lives with this women for all practical purposes and only comes home to sleep. He shows up at 11:00 p.m. at night and leaves by 7:30 A.M the next morning. We have been married for 19 years and we have 3 children.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dr. Romance on The Colors of You

Dr Romance writes:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: When younger sisters say hurtful things

Dear Dr. Romance My sister is 2 years younger and not long after my Dad died, I thought we should sit down and talk about things that needed to be done. She is the executor and took offense, accusing me of getting between her and Dad. Then, when my Mom got sick, she also got angry at everything I tried to do to help out.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: the thought of seeing him have sex with other women bothers me a lot

Dear Dr. Romance: I am a bipolar woman with emotional problems. These problems seem to manifest most lately with my boyfriend whom I tend to blame for everything. I feel super insecure when we are out and he notices other women. He taught me a lot about sexuality and commented constantly about other females and tried to entice me into threesomes, or at least get me interested in having one.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: I feel like I am a maid and a sex toy not a wife

Dear Dr. Romance:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: Does Friends with Benefits Work?

Dear Dr. Romance: I was browsing the net and came across one of your articles "No Strings Attached Sex" which I found very interesting as it relates to a situatio I am facing currently.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dr. Romance Video: How Can You Improve Your Sex Life In Marriage?

Dr. Romance is delighted to be interviewed by Mind Your Body TV via Huffington Post: How Can You Improve Your Sex Life In Marriage?

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: My husband's one-night-stand is pregnant

Dear Dr. Romance: My husband had a one night stand several weeks ago. He told me about it. We've been going to counseling for several months and were doing great. We just found out she's pregnant. I love my husband, but can I work through this?

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dr. Romance on Winning the War Within

Dr.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dr. Romance on Grief: From Surviving to Thriving

Dr. Romance has had many clients who are grieving, and wrote this to help. None of us wants to think about it, but the standard definition of a totally successful relationship is the old, traditional "til death do us part." Any time we love, whether it’s a life partner, a dear friend, a child, a sibling, a parent or even a beloved pet, we are risking the loss of that love.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: I Don't Want to Leave without Saying Goodbye

Dear Dr. Romance, I have developed feelings for my co-worker and during the past several months, we have had very brief encounters that were limited to greetings. Due to the small work place, I could not go and talk comfortably to him without eliciting attentions/rumors.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: I just got my girlfriend pregnant and I might be gay.

Dear Dr. Romance: I've just gotten my girlfriend pregnant and still have doubts about my sexuality, whether I'm gay or bisexual. She wants me to get some clarity before she decides to keep the baby or not. Can you help? Dear Reader:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

WHERE IS LOVE?

Probably the most prevalent questio I’m asked in my counseling practice is “Where is love?” Clients want to know why they can’t find a successful life partnership, why a friend or family member won’t respond as they would like, even why they don’t love themselves. In a perfect world, love wouldn’t be something we have to learn—if you believe in a loving cosmos, then we were all conceived in Love, and it’s Love that created us. But, we live in a human world, and we’re all imperfect beings, falling short time and time again in our attempts to love one another and even to love ourselves.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear. Dr. Romance: Every time we talk, I'm in tears and he's mad.

Dear Dr. Romance:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dr. Romance on Grief: From Surviving to Thriving

Dr. Romance has had many clients who are grieving, and wrote this to help. None of us wants to think about it, but the standard definition of a totally successful relationship is the old, traditional "til death do us part." Any time we love, whether it’s a life partner, a dear friend, a child, a sibling, a parent or even a beloved pet, we are risking the loss of that love.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dr. Romance: Spouse's Child

It’s not the first thing everyone thinks of, but the existence of an out-of-wedlock child will have a big economic impact, and the financial responsibility will grow with the child. 1. Unless you can settle with the child’s other parent out of court, court costs can be very expensive.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: How can I help her to turn around?

Dear Dr. Romance: I have read your article "Fair Fight Guidlines" and it is impressive. I like to ask your advise for the following situation:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Attitude: From Negative to Gratitude

Despite the occasional temporary setback, my life is good, and I’m grateful. It wasn’t always that way, however. At 18, just after I left for college, I was essentially orphaned, and have had to go from no education or support to finding a purpose, supporting myself through a PhD, and developing four businesses to do that. I also recovered from an abusive marriage, and now have been happily married for 23 years, and in successful private practice since 1978. Before I could succeed, I needed to learn to support myself emotionally as well as financially.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dr. Romance's Happiness Tip: Alone on Valentine's Day?

Valentine's Day gets a lot of media attention, and it can be hard to avoid. When you don't have a special someone to spend it with, or worse yet, you've just lost a relationship, it can be brutal. If you're alone, it's important to take good care of yourself. Gather your best friends around you and make some special plans to have a wonderful day. Send valentines or personal notes to everyone who means a lot to you.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: Something Might Just Happen!

Dear Dr. Romance:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

How Not To Be A Wicked Stepparent

Are you a stepparent? Are you struggling to make the right decisions for your newly created family? If so, here are four tips to help. 1. Give your blended family a chance to bond. Don’t worry if everyone doesn’t settle in right away; bonding takes time. Hopefully, you all got to know each other before you moved in together, but the transition to living comfortably together can take time. 2. Have family meetings weekly.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: I think I am missing myself

Dear Dr. Romance: I think I am missing myself Dear Dr. Romance:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: He pushed me to tears

Dear Dr. Romance:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dr. Romance on Creating Peace

Dr . Romance wishes you a Happy New Year, everyone! This is the time when a lot of energy is spent on making resolutions, most of which we don’t manage to keep. So, in the face of all the violence we have experienced this year, I would like to propose a different kind of resolution. Will you join me in resolving to create a year of peace?

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: I am not sexually as attracted to him as I'd like to be

Dear Dr. Romance:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

The Good Boss and the Bad Boss: Motivation and How to Create It

Dr. Romance writes:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Dear Dr. Romance: My Wife is Totally Shut Down

Dear Dr. Romance: My wife is totally shutdown and she does not know what to do. She wants to talk to someone for help and also for taking a decision that can help her to decide the future of us as a couple if is still possible or not.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Getting Along With Each Other

In 1998, Richard and I had a marvelous opportunity to sail around the world as the ballroom dance teachers on a cruise ship. Many of the places we saw then, such as Oman, Jordan, Turkey, Morocco, Indonesia and Israel are in turmoil now, and not as safe for tourists. Last year, when Palestinian soldiers took refuge in the Church of the Nativity at Bethlehem and were under siege, I marveled that I had stood where they were, and I could picture the place as the news reports came in.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Tina TessinaRecently published1 topic

Your Inner Detective

The biggest obstacle to most of my clients' healing and recovery is their inability to understand and accept their feelings, and the emotional and behavioral clues that indicate where the problems lie. Most of us learn early that being too open with our feelings and thoughts is dangerous. It can lead to punishment, censure, ridicule, or hurt feelings. In some families, being open and honest about your feelings is like giving other family members ammunition to use against you.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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