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By Val WilcoxRecently published1 topic

Fear Is a State of Mind

Fear is nothing more than a state of mind. YOU allow it to manifest into a concrete entity. How does this affect your actions and thoughts as you expand your horizons? Why does this stop you from moving towards your dreams/visions? Let’s take a closer look at this stealer of your dreams. "Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood." Marie Curie First and Foremost, I know you all understand that F.E.A.R. is nothing more tha False Evidence Appearing Real. So knowing this, why does fear have such an impact on you?

Primary topic: Empowerment

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Are Competing Commitments Holding You Back?

Competing Commitments may be getting in the way of following your dreams. You say you’re committed to achieving a certain goal, yet your actions say otherwise. What you say and what occurs are total opposites. Your actions speak louder than words. Have you ever had this happen? Have you planned to change things in your life but the results don’t look at all like you expected? Things just seem to get in the way. Life’s just not fair! Why does everything happen to me? Hmmmm, are you ready to face the truth or would it be easier to stay in victim mode?

Primary topic: Empowerment

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By Val WilcoxRecently published1 topic

What Does Q-Tip Have to Do With Personal Development?

Q.T.I.P. Is your curiosity peaked? You never know where or when an important message will present itself. Last weekend I heard such a message. Patricia Clason, a speaker and Business Coach, talked about different triggers you can utilize to empower yourself in any circumstance. The one that really resonated with me was the Q-Tip technique. We all know what a Q-Tip is and the many different uses for it. I’d like to share a totally new concept of a Q-Tip that I learned. First let’s examine the characteristics of a Q-Tip. Come on, bear with me here. ïr

Primary topic: Empowerment

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By Val WilcoxRecently published1 topic

Your Level of Persistence

We are all tested to find our persistence level. How dedicated are you to achieving your vision? Will you keep trying no matter how many times you get knocked down? Persistence is to the character of man as carbon is to steelr Napoleon Hill The basis of this is the power of your will. A combination of willpower, persistence and desire are needed to attain your goals. Know that you will achieve your goals, let no one deter you.

Primary topic: Empowerment

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By Val WilcoxRecently published1 topic

Clarify Your Vision

Clarifying you vision is the first step to achieving your dream. It will be difficult to step into your life dream if you don’t have a definite vision of what that is. Creating a unique vision means clearing away all the doubt and fears you may harbor about accomplishing your dream. If you are willing to step into the process with soul-searching honesty and a deep desire to live your dream, you are well on the way. Once you’ve defined your dream (along with the compelling reasons WHY it is important) then the next step is to ask yourself this absolutely essential question:r

Primary topic: Empowerment

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By Val WilcoxRecently published1 topic

Staying In Integrity

What thoughts does Staying In Integrity bring up for you? Does it mean that you are being true to your beliefs? Does it mean following through on your word, keeping your commitments? Does it mean being accountable? Now, when you think about these areas, do you have any feelings of constriction? Do you feel uncomfortable with any of these? Is your mind already coming up with excuses/reasons why you haven’t kept in Integrity? Stay with me for a bit because it’s an area you may want to explore a bit more. This is NOT the end of the world. What Is Integrity?

Primary topic: Empowerment

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By Val WilcoxRecently published1 topic

What You Think of Me is None of My Business

Yup, that’s what I said. Do I have your attention? Alright, let’s talk. I’m not advocating acting as if no one else in the world matters. What I am saying is how many of your decisions are based on what you think someone else may think or say? Do you follow your dreams or do you worry what someone would think of you? Do you step outside your comfort zone or stop short so people won’t question your actions? Do you see where I’m heading with this? Growing up, I’ve lost count of the times I was told not to do or say something because: • What would the neighbors think…r

Primary topic: Empowerment

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By Val WilcoxRecently published1 topic

Are You On a Rhinoceros Path?

Let me tell you a little story about a rhinoceros in a zoo: This rhinoceros had a small enclosure where he paced along the same path day after day until he wore a path in the dirt. The zoo keepers felt sorry for him and expanded the enclosure to give him more space to move around in. After the addition was built, the zoo keepers headed home for the night.

Primary topic: Empowerment

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By Val WilcoxRecently published1 topic

If At First You Don't Succeed...

You all know that saying: “If At First You Don’t Succeed…Try, Try Again. Are you incorporating that into you life? Do you stretch beyond the limits of your comfort zone by doing something new or different? Is the outcome always what you thought it should be? Honestly, probably not…but that’s ok! You learn by doing, especially when it pertains to something outside of what you normally know or do. Life is filled with new experiences that you can learn from. This is how you travel along your journey of personal growth. The Voice of the Gremlin

Primary topic: Empowerment

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By Val WilcoxRecently published1 topic

Creative Chaos

Chaos often breeds life, when order breeds habit. Henry Adams Where there is chaos, there is opportunity for growth. Challenging the status quo of life reminds you to continuously stay open to change. Using history as a base, chaos has preceded discoveries in all areas of life. So by utilizing this model in your life, there is good reason to recognize the benefits of creative chaos.

Primary topic: Empowerment

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By Val WilcoxRecently published1 topic

Being in the Moment

Are you living in the Moment? How exactly does this work and what is the meaning of “Being In The Moment?” Brings up quite a few questions doesn’t it! Let’s start with an explanation of what this means. Living in the Moment is all about living like there's no tomorrow. Being aware of what is happening right now, without focusing on the past or the future. How often do you truly listen to another person? Is your complete attention on what is right in front of you? Are you wondering why this is important?

Primary topic: Empowerment

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By Val WilcoxRecently published1 topic

A Reason, Season, or a Lifetime

“People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.” I think most of us have heard that poem before. It’s a very touching and pointed piece which speaks of the heart of life. We all have experienced this with others or perhaps we have been one of these for another. Probably both, especially if we are actively engaged in living our lives. How does this pertain to our jou eys of personal awareness and growth? Understanding may assist us in moving forward without fear of losing someone we have met along the way. A Reasonr

Primary topic: Empowerment

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By Val WilcoxRecently published1 topic

It's Never Too Late...

I truly believe it’s never too late to live the life you were meant to live! Not that many years ago, I made a conscious decision to step into my life and quit leaving it all to chance. After many challenging “Life Lessons,” I came to a point of really evaluating where my life was heading. I knew I did NOT want to repeat those same old experiences, but didn’t have a clue where to start or how to change things.

Primary topic: Empowerment

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By Val WilcoxRecently published1 topic

Visualize Your Compelling Desire

I know we’ve all heard this many times. Visualize the life you desire, take action on that and it will come to be. Do you believe it? You should because it’s been proven over and over again. It isn’t some crazy woo woo, out there concept. Athletes utilize this technique all the time. They visualize their actions in a race or a game over and over again long before they actually do it. This conditioning of your subconscious mind brings about results. The results are based on the level of your belief and desire to succeed.

Primary topic: Empowerment

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By Val WilcoxRecently published1 topic

The Past is the Past

Everyone has a past. Some parts of it may be wonderful and other parts may harbor painful memories. You have come to accept what has been. You realize that holding onto shame, blame or guilt will not allow peace with your past. Mistakes were learning experiences that can serve you in moving forward.

Primary topic: Empowerment

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By Val WilcoxRecently published1 topic

Attitude of Gratitude

The practice of gratitude as a tool for happiness has been in the mainstream for years. Long-term studies support gratitude’s effectiveness, suggesting that a positive, appreciative attitude contributes to greater success in life, better health, peak performance in sports and business and a higher sense of well-being.

Primary topic: Empowerment

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By Val WilcoxRecently published1 topic

Where Do You Stand?

Where exactly DO you stand? Do you know what your core values are? What are your beliefs? What are the most important principles that you operate from? Finding your answers to these questions will help shape your present and future immensely. All your decisions or choices are based on your values.

Primary topic: Empowerment

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By Val WilcoxRecently published1 topic

How Many Rocks Are in Your Backpack?

I can hear your thoughts… “What? Rocks in a backpack? Why that’s crazy! Makes no sense to carry heavy rocks around.” But you are, whether you know it or not. When you hold onto bad experiences from your past and use them as excuses for your actions, you my friend ARE carrying around rocks in your backpack! Want some examples? • My parents never taught me how to save money so I’m not good at budgeting my money. • Mom never hugged me or told me she loved me so I don’t know how to express my love for another person.r

Primary topic: Empowerment

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By Val WilcoxRecently published1 topic

Filling the In-Between

Life is a series of In-Betweens. How do you spend your In-Between times? Ok, let’s start with an explanation if what an in-between is. In the broadest sense, the in-between is the time between your birth and your death. Then take that and break it down more into the time between being a child and an adult, the time between each year, each month, each week, each day, each hour… You can also think of this as the time between each different activity you are doing. You get the picture.

Primary topic: Empowerment

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By Val WilcoxRecently published1 topic

Where Did THAT Come From?

As you continue your journey along the path of self discovery, your reactions to certain events may cause you to wonder where that came from. You react in ways that seem totally out of context with the situation. This may cause you to pause and wonder why this simple situation is having such an impact on you. Not to worry. You’ve just run into an old, buried program that is showing up because a situation you’re in is causing it to trigger. You know you’ve never been in this situation before, yet your reactions are so strong it’s puzzling.

Primary topic: Empowerment

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By Val WilcoxRecently published1 topic

Get Out of Your Own Way

Are you getting in your own way when it comes to moving towards your dreams or goals?r

Primary topic: Empowerment

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By Val WilcoxRecently published1 topic

Clarify the Right Relationship with Yourself

As you travel through life, you’ll want to have a direction to follow. Clarifying what you desire in your life will give you this map. Not only will this aid you in your path, it will also be a guide for who you attract into your life. If your relationships are not bringing you joy and satisfaction, it may be time to re-evaluate yourself. Yes, I said yourself, not your partner. Your perception on who YOU are and what YOU feel you deserve in life has a huge impact on your relationships. You do attract that which you send out.

Primary topic: Empowerment

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By Val WilcoxRecently published1 topic

It’s All About the Story

Life is all about the Story. Your journey is filled with experiences, both great and not so great. You have the power to choose how to tell your stories. How you write the stories in your book depend on how you perceive the events. YOU are the author of your Life Book, YOU can write it anyway you choose.

Primary topic: Empowerment

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By Val WilcoxRecently published1 topic

Can You Hear Me Now?

Are you listening? No, I’m not really talking about listening to others when they speak. I’m talking about connecting with yourself, your head with your heart and your source - the infinite being. Are you using all three levels of being? Picture three spheres connected vertically, a small one on top connected to larger one in the middle connected to the bottom one which is so large it’s dimensions are infinite. • The top sphere is your head, your conscious mind; which governs reason, logic & the 5 senses. Most decisions are made from this sphere.

Primary topic: Empowerment

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By Val WilcoxRecently published1 topic

Coming From Ground and Center

“Grounding and Centering” is a visualization and meditation exercise you can use to focus yourself on the present. You learn to feel more whole, more aware while being able to balance yourself. This exercise can be used whenever you are stressed, worried or nervous. When you can step into this state of being, it helps you to Live in the Moment. Being Grounded and Centered are essential parts of Living in the Moment. “Coming From Ground and Center”

Primary topic: Empowerment

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By Val WilcoxRecently published1 topic

Stepping Stones or Stumbling Blocks

Life brings you many experiences, some of which may be good and some which are not so good. Your perception of these experiences will determine whether you look at these as stepping stones to a better you or as stumbling blocks which hold you back. It’s not about life being fair or just, it’s about learning and growing from your experiences. There is an ebb and flow to life. The balance of life comes from the contrast of good and bad, ying and yang. The bad experiences give you what you don’t want, which helps you clarify what you DO want. Life is Not Perfect

Primary topic: Empowerment

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By Val WilcoxRecently published1 topic

Are You Proactive or Reactive?

Are you proactive or reactive when faced with life’s challenges? Throwing your hands in the air and acting as if you have absolutely no control over what happens doesn’t do any good. That’s being reactive and staying stuck. To be proactive, take the initiative, take action with steps to face any challenge using clear and balanced confidence.

Primary topic: Empowerment

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By Val WilcoxRecently published1 topic

Prosperity Consciousness and You

Prosperity consciousness is a way of thinking that gives you more power over what you have in your life. It’s a concept made popular by New Age thinking, but a principle that’s been around for a very long time. Developing your prosperity consciousness requires a few key things that once you truly understand, can change your life.

Primary topic: Empowerment

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By Val WilcoxRecently published1 topic

Everyone Needs Stress Breakers

Since it’s nearly impossible to completely eliminate stress from your life, why not look for ways to manage it. Using Stress Breaker techniques will alleviate or shorten the effects of stress on your life. Your focus on stress is what determines how you allow it to affect your life. Now don’t start listing all the reasons why your life is stressful. That does NOT serve you and this is all about empowering yourself to achieve better balance in your life. Are you ready to step into that?

Primary topic: Empowerment

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By Val WilcoxRecently published1 topic

Dream It...Live It!

When you discover what it is you feel destined to achieve, go for it! Even if at first it’s a vague concept in the back of your mind, be sure to nurture it, embrace it, and allow it to expand. As you focus on your dream…start to live it! Open up to all the possibilities that are presented to you. I understand this may seem scary, unpredictable and wayyyyyyyyy outside your comfort zone. That’s perfectly normal. Many tend to live in their safe little boxes where everything is predictable, safe and boring. Is that what you really want?

Primary topic: Empowerment

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By Val WilcoxRecently published1 topic

Paying the Price of the 3 R's

onto, aren’t they? Can you identify areas in your life where these have reared their ugly head? What exactly is this pattern and how does it affect your life? Resentment

Primary topic: Empowerment

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By Val WilcoxRecently published1 topic

Healing What Hurts

important to realize that this pain is something that needs to be acknowledged and processed. The longer you hold onto that pain, the harder it is to work through it. There will come a time when you will be forced to acknowledge it. This old pain makes itself known to you in ways you can’t predict. Rather than waiting for this to happen, you can empower yourself by identifying the pain and resolving to take action toward healing it.

Primary topic: Empowerment

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By Val WilcoxRecently published1 topic

Celebrate YOU!

Do you realize how totally awesome you are! Yes, I’m talking to you. Many start along the path of self discovery and self improvement when they have become fed up with the life they’re living. In the beginning, focus is on career, raising a family, buying a house, fitting into roles you believe you should take on. All well and good, yet you begin to question the importance of all this.

Primary topic: Empowerment

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I'm Stuck!

Ever feel that way? Your feet have suddenly become cement blocks. You cannot focus on tasks that you’ve set in place to move you towards your goals. You find yourself doing everything BUT what you say you want to do. Irritation and frustration sets in. “Arghhhhhh, I’m Stuck!!! Or are you? What these emotions and actions may really be telling you is you’re about to push past the outer rim of your comfort zone. You’re ready to step onto a path that is so unknown and so far from anything you’ve ever done before that all your warning signals start firing off.

Primary topic: Empowerment

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