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- What To Do When Your Partner Triggers You - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2018 from Dominica ApplegateEver call up your girlfriend and start off with these words “Oh my Gaah, you are never going to believe what he did?” Chances are you've been in or you're in a relationship now where you get triggered. It's actually rather challenging to not be triggered when you're in a relationship, as ...
Views: 1114 - The Female Bully and the Codependent Part II: “A Smelly Turd in a Pretty Package” - by Submitted on May 18, 2018 from Dr. Anne BrownIn Part One, we discussed some characteristics of the serial female family bully, the way she bullies, her targets and her end game. We looked at some interesting characteristics also seen with the codependent; poor self-esteem and inability to speak her truth or express her anger. In Part ...
Views: 1104(1 vote) - How to deal with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2017 from Nancy CarboneThose with borderline personality disorder (BPD) have an underlying fear of abandonment and often misinterpret interpersonal situations where they end up feeling worthless or mistreated. They can have a distorted sense of self and view of others. The see themselves and others as split, as ...
Views: 1100 - The Truth about Addiction - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2016 from Lou Worldweaver“The greatest pain is not being loved for who you are in your naturalness.” As you read this article I encourage you not to exclude yourself from having addictive patterns, you can become addicted to anything from the most overt to the most subtle. This includes things like social media, cell ...
Views: 1073(2 votes) - How Living For Giving Is Unforgiving - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2009 from Ewa SchwarzUnconditional giving is a state that we all aspire to. We hope to be a giving person without any agendas from the perspective of why we give or what we want in return. Yet, frequently there are emotions at work that we are not aware of that motivate us to over-give to others, be it with our ...
Views: 1060 - Why Data Entry Jobs are Being Outsourcing? - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2011 from Rita ThomsonTo run a business successfully embracing a new challenge every day is. It indicates exciting to be on the way out to overcome obstacles while keeping ahead of their competitors. Every day is a new plan and new strategies, and objectives must be met with. But some key aspects of running a ...
Views: 1047(1 vote) - Breaking Free From a Toxic Environment - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2013 from Yol SwanAna (not her real name*) came to see me because she was having second thoughts about her job and relationship and was looking for direction. She had the desire to switch to a holistic career and had taken some reiki classes. She also remembered being able to see people’s auras when she was a kid ...
Views: 1042(3 votes) - ***The Secret to Increasing Attraction and Loving… - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2014 from Emma ViglucciWhen we are “too close”, whether we are getting along or not … , we can’t see each other. If we can’t see each other, how can we possibly decide if we like each other and feel attraction? This concept is confusing to most, when we live in a society where relationships ...
Views: 1039(1 vote) - Can You Love Too Much? - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2015 from Darlene LancerConventional belief is that we can never love too much, but that isn’t always true. Sometimes, love can blind us so that we deny painful truths. We might believe broken promises and continue to excuse someone’s abuse or rejection. We may empathize with them but not enough with ourselves. If we ...
Views: 1039(1 vote) - Don't Block the Flow - by It is a child-like state that results in having one’s self-worth dependent on external validation. It’s about living from the outside in, molding oneself to fit around others’ lives instead of directing the course of one’s life from internal clues, hopes, dreams, wisdom, and power. . . The ...
Views: 1039 - Say No to Waffling!!! - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2014 from Dr. Anne Brown“It comes from saying No to 1000 things to make sure we don’t get on the wrong track or try to do to much.” Steve Jobs Are you beginning to see where we need our tools, ability to say No, ability to make requests, ability to speak our truth in order be a good leader, and in order to be able ...
Views: 1035(2 votes) - ***Is Lack of Trust Affecting Your Relationship? - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2015 from Emma ViglucciIs lack of trust undermining your connection with your partner and wreaking havoc in your relationship? Lack of trust might extend to beliefs that your partner is cheating. Or it can be as simple as not trusting your partner to be there, follow through, keep their word, be accountable, get your ...
Views: 1033 - Say No To The Weight Of Your Past! - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2014 from Dr. Anne Brown" Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life." Steve Jobs Someone recently asked me the definition of Codependency, so let's take a look at what we can see to help uncover this complicated phenomenon. The visual I have is someone who is suppose to be driving his own ...
Views: 1032(1 vote) - The lies we tell ourselves - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2011 from Manfred LuckMy appreciation for the gift of EFT is enormous. I've been using it in my practice for about 4 years mostly over the phone and on myself and I've yet to see a condition that it cannot relieve. While relief of pain and suffering and even major increases in peace and happiness are pretty much a ...
Views: 1030(1 vote) - The Spark Remains - by Submitted on May 26, 2011 from Gail OKeeffeThroughout my childhood I received consistent messages that demonstrated the power of a dysfunctional family. The disease of my parents and abusers robbed me of my boundaries and individuality – the right to have a self. Remembering back now, through the years of oppression and sexual abuse, ...
Views: 1023(1 vote) - Deserving - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2014 from Kate JarosinskaOne of the most difficult layers for us to resolve is the one related to self-love. What is self-love? It is the ability to view who you are with unconditional compassion and acceptance. I’ve mentioned this before, and it is worth mentioning this again: anytime we are trying to “fix” something ...
Views: 1016 - How loved one can help in a Medical Crisis… - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2007 from Steve HefferonWhat you are about to read is directed to those who suffer from back pain and those who love them. Much of what I'm going to tell you can be useful in all aspects of your life and for any difficult situation you may face. When dealing with serious back pain, you have to realize that your ...
Views: 1008 - ***Do You Know How to “Clean” Your Energy? - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2014 from Emma ViglucciShare Good Vibes With Your Partner We are energy. We look like solid entities in our human form only because of our limited human faculties. We are energetic beings with vibrational frequencies. Imagine us as energy waves, reaching further than apparent by the illusion of our human ...
Views: 999 - ***Are You Conniving in Your Relating? - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2014 from Emma ViglucciPartners love telling each other what to do, how to behave, how to be, what to think, how to feel, and even things like what to eat and how to dress! They are on a mission to change their partner, consciously or not. This is a sign of lack of boundaries and personal ...
Views: 997 - Where There Is A Will There Is A Way - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2013 from Moreen DuFermontWhere There Is a Will There Is A Way The truth is that we are living in our physical bodies and have “this” one life to live. We each can only take it one day at a time! Of course, I know that this is nothing new to you. In fact, its a philosophy you’ve heard dozens of times before; ...
Views: 988(1 vote) - It's Never Too Late to Begin Life Anew - by Submitted on May 13, 2005 from Mary-Glen ScotIT'S NEVER TOO LATE TO BEGIN LIFE ANEW by Mary-Glen Scot. (Unpublished as of 4-13-05) 1496 words) Perhaps you may have recently suffered the tragedy of a sudden death of a loved one or you may have lost your home and all of your material possessions. Possibly even a combination of ...
Views: 984 - Is Your Relationship in Trouble? - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2013 from Darlene LancerGood relationships run smoothly and enable you to enjoy your life, work, and activities beyond the relationship. You’re not always worrying or talking about it. Like a smooth-running car, you don’t have to keep repairing it. You may have disagreements and get angry, but you still have goodwill ...
Views: 975(2 votes) - Is Mental Health Covered Under Health Insurance? - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2016 from Peter MainFor people who depend on any type of private or company insurance to cover the cost of their health needs, the question of whether or not the health insurance policy covers mental health problems is a crucial one for a number of reasons. The idea of a split between physical health and mental ...
Views: 967 - Are You Divergent? - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2014 from Joy ChudacoffWithin the last week, I've had the opportunity to see the movie "Divergent" not once but twice due to the fact that the movie (and book) is all the rage with girls and my daughter is no exception. It's your typical good versus evil plot but the twist is a young woman named "Tris" who's ...
Views: 966(2 votes) - How Badly Do You Want An Awesome Relationship? - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2014 from Emma ViglucciBe Awesome With Your Partner! How badly do you want to have an awesome relationship with your partner?How committed are you to making the relationship work? Is failure an option? Do you have one foot out the door? I hear partners complain about how they want things to be different, but they ...
Views: 964 - Importance of web hosting services for web development tasks - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2011 from william BellInternet is the basic source and a specialized asset through which all the international marketers are working upon their bases and interact through each other. After the large number of experiments we have come to resolute over various computing devices. There are different types of ...
Views: 952(2 votes) - How to deal with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2017 from Nancy CarboneThose with borderline personality disorder (BPD) have an underlying fear of abandonment and often misinterpret interpersonal situations where they end up feeling worthless or mistreated. They can have a distorted sense of self and view of others. The see themselves and others as split, as ...
Views: 950 - Evolving Through Healthy Detachment - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2014 from Moreen DuFermontEvolving Through Healthy Detachment Many Buddhist practitioners claim that the chief cause of suffering stems from any form of attachment; therefore, the converse would also be true, that to experience a sense of peace and well- being would emerge from a process of healthy detachment and ...
Views: 944 - Is Your Lover 'Out of Sight, Out of Mind'? - Object Constancy and Borderline Personality Disorder - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2018 from Imi Lo“Although the push-pull behaviors in our current relationships seem to be triggered by our partner, they are actually a result of old fears we carry from our childhood. “ Anxiety is a normal part of being in an intimate relationship. It usually comes in two forms- the fear of abandonment, ...
Views: 937 - Nurturing Self in the New Age - by “By the way, the hardest part of unconditional Love is accepting wherever we are at in the moment no matter how uncomfortable. The hardest part of acceptance is not the difficulty of allowing others their process (although Lord knows that can be very hard); it is allowing ourselves our own ...
Views: 935 - Self-Forgiveness - Is Your Guilt True or False? - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2015 from Darlene LancerWe all experience guilt from time to time. But many of us have a hard time letting go of it and find it difficult to forgive ourselves, even though we may readily forgive others. First of all, it's important to recognize whether our guilt is true or false. Just because we feel guilty, that ...
Views: 935(1 vote) - ***It’s Time for Love! - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2015 from Emma ViglucciIt’s amazing how many partners know their partner loves them, but they still don’t feel loved… This is actually kind of an epidemic… Couples struggle because they get stuck in power struggles. They let their Ego get in the way. They approach their situation from a reactive and self-preservation ...
Views: 934 - ***Do You Have the System to Meet Both of Your Needs Yet? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2014 from Emma ViglucciBeing seen and accepted for who we are is a basic need that specially plays out in our relationship. I find that the driver behind most conflict and dissatisfaction in relationships has to do with the partners feeling they can’t be themselves in one way or another. Partners ...
Views: 929(1 vote) - ***Are You Tapping Into Your Partnership Synergy? - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2014 from Emma ViglucciPeople usually marry for love. A new phenomenon, only a couple of centuries old, in the history of the institution of marriage and in this culture. I say “usually” because sometimes people just get married because that is the thing to do, again speaking from today’s and ...
Views: 914 - Seven Kinds of Power - by Submitted on May 07, 2011 from Steve HauptmanIf you love an addict, or live with one, or depend on one in some way, you are probably in, as the old saying goes, nine kinds of pain. And I’m guessing that, whether or not you realize it, the very worst of these pains comes from being confused about the difference between power and ...
Views: 914(1 vote) - ***Detoxing for Relationship Success! - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2015 from Emma ViglucciThere is more to us than meets the eyes… We have an internal world operating at all times that we are vaguely aware of. Some people are totally out of touch with theirs… The more we become acquainted with our own Self and all it’s aspects, needs and desires the more we can be our Authentic Self ...
Views: 911 - ***Would You Like to Experience Greater Desire and Passion? - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2014 from Emma ViglucciCouples usually end up accepting the lack of desire and passion in their relationship as a fact of life for a longterm relationship. They are not happy or satisfied with this, but their attempts at remedying their lack of (passionate) physical intimacy don’t usually succeed. The reason ...
Views: 906 - How Do I want to be loved? - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2015 from Emma ViglucciHow does this happen? Here we are loving a person and doing our best to show them we love, cherish and want to be with them to fail miserably at conveying that message. This is even worse when compounded by difficulties and lack or relationship skills partners bring to the table. But, it ...
Views: 906 - Holidays, Families, & “have to” - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2013 from Robert BurneyWhen we look outside for self-definition and self-worth, we are giving power away and setting ourselves up to be victims. We are trained to be victims. We are taught to give our power away. As just one small example of how pervasively we are trained to be victims, consider how often you ...
Views: 898(1 vote) - Your Present Pain Originated a Long Time Ago - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2017 from Dominica Applegate“90% of the present pain you feel is linked to unresolved pain from the past.” When I heard about this principle, I was like, are you’re kidding me? You mean to tell me the crazy-ass emotional insanity that shows up unexpected and uninvited in my life periodically is linked to my childhood? ...
Views: 892 - "Crying" Gets Your Needs Met! - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2015 from Emma ViglucciWhen we are babies we learn to get our needs met by alerting our parents of a poopie diaper, hungry belly, or an ouchie with our crying. As adults, we continue to try to get our needs met with our �crying�. Our crying has become more sophisticated over time and now takes the form of criticism, ...
Views: 880 - Dental Services In Auckland - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2011 from Chris BautistaAuckland dentists offer you the best in dental health care. They are quality dentists that cater to your dental health requirements. Each patient's requirements are unique; the decision of choosing one becomes very difficult when there are too many options available. You have to research your ...
Views: 871 - Are You Chained to The Desk? - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2014 from Joy ChudacoffAs I write this, I'm 690 miles from my office in Los Angeles. Actually, I'm in Park City, Utah enjoying a glass of Pinot and writing to you. I'm here on a family vacation getting some much needed rest and a modified digital detox. One of the benefits I've experienced since leaving the office ...
Views: 870(1 vote) - Dealing with An Alcoholic? It's Time to Live Intuitively. - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2014 from Mary DeYonCould it be that all of our problems stem from not listening to God? If prayer is talking to God and intuition is God talking to us, maybe we need to listen more. When I was in the midst of my crazy life with alcoholics from my father to my husbands, I felt abandoned by God because I prayed and ...
Views: 867 - Have Awesome Outcomes, Exercise Your Power to Choose! - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2015 from Emma ViglucciI find that we make poor choices at almost every turn and then wonder how come our relationship and life are not as we’d prefer them to be I find that we do not own our Self and our life, that we do not know who we are and what we are meant to do I find that we do not take the time to design our ...
Views: 852 - ***It’s Time for Passion! - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2015 from Emma ViglucciIn my recent reading I have come across a piece of writing that has made me think of sexuality and physical intimacy from a different angle. I love when that happens! Give me material that sparks my creative juices and that I can integrate into my work for greater impact, and I’m a very happy ...
Views: 841 - You CAN Understand Your Partner! - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2015 from Emma ViglucciA key ingredient in a satisfying relationship is Understanding. When we don’t feel understood we are out of sinc with one another and our needs can’t be met. Understanding validates our existence, is respectful and mindful. It is amazing that most people do not have this necessary ingredient ...
Views: 841 - How to Create the Relationship You Desire - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2015 from Emma ViglucciUsually we have good intentions and mean to invest in our relationship. Somehow this fizzles from the moment we have that thought or attitude to the next moment… We are very fickle in our thinking about the status and course of our relationship. One moment we are partners for life, the next we ...
Views: 829 - Avoid being Cheated by Rosemary Price Psychic - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2020 from Pearls of WisdomAvoid being cheated by Rosemary Price psychic. Most of us can get enticed by someone who is not trustworthy at some time or another. But this is when our hearts rule of our. The key to not being scammed is to always have the head rule the heart. Take the example of a designer hand bag for ...
Views: 826(1 vote) - ***It’s Time for Romance! - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2015 from Emma ViglucciI think romance is underrated… I hear couples express they want romance and to be romanced, but they state it with a sense of shame, wishful thinking and as an unattainable outcome. They off-handedly claim their wish in the same sentence that dismisses it with the practicality of everyday life. ...
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