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- Deserving - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2014 from Kate JarosinskaOne of the most difficult layers for us to resolve is the one related to self-love. What is self-love? It is the ability to view who you are with unconditional compassion and acceptance. I’ve mentioned this before, and it is worth mentioning this again: anytime we are trying to “fix” something ...
Views: 1528 - It's Never Too Late to Begin Life Anew - by Submitted on May 13, 2005 from Mary-Glen ScotIT'S NEVER TOO LATE TO BEGIN LIFE ANEW by Mary-Glen Scot. (Unpublished as of 4-13-05) 1496 words) Perhaps you may have recently suffered the tragedy of a sudden death of a loved one or you may have lost your home and all of your material possessions. Possibly even a combination of ...
Views: 1527 - The Truth about Addiction - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2016 from Lou Worldweaver“The greatest pain is not being loved for who you are in your naturalness.” As you read this article I encourage you not to exclude yourself from having addictive patterns, you can become addicted to anything from the most overt to the most subtle. This includes things like social media, cell ...
Views: 1521(2 votes) - What You Should Know about Narcissists, Their Partners, & NPD - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2019 from Darlene LancerPoor Narcissus. The gods sentenced him to a life without human love. He fell in love with his own reflection in pool of water and died hungering for its response. Narcissism was named for him. Like Narcissus, narcissists only love themselves as reflected in the eyes of others. It’s a common ...
Views: 1521(3 votes) - Regain Your Inner Core By Working On Core Issues - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2014 from Moreen DuFermontRegain Your Inner Core By Working On Core Issues The concept of family goes back to the beginning of time. It’s the traditional social system that shapes our inter-personal dynamics and provides the working model for the story we create about ourselves. Of course, we’ve all been children at ...
Views: 1512 - Breaking Free From a Toxic Environment - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2013 from Yol SwanAna (not her real name*) came to see me because she was having second thoughts about her job and relationship and was looking for direction. She had the desire to switch to a holistic career and had taken some reiki classes. She also remembered being able to see people’s auras when she was a kid ...
Views: 1507(3 votes) - When Your Child's Addiction Becomes Your Own - by Submitted on May 07, 2011 from Kristin WhitelawFrom the moment you give birth, an innate force within secures a powerful and concentrated intent at the deepest level to protect your precious child, protect them from harm. As a parent, you accept this role with reverence as it carries the highest priority. Holding your child carefully, ...
Views: 1507(1 vote) - Confusion and Disappointment of Love Addiction - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2018 from Randi FineConfusion and Disappointment of Love Addiction (Codependency Part One) written by Randi G Fine, originally published on Life As A Human Have you ever believed that you could love someone enough to fix whatever is wrong in their life? Do you have the ability or tendency to deny and ...
Views: 1474 - The lies we tell ourselves - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2011 from Manfred LuckMy appreciation for the gift of EFT is enormous. I've been using it in my practice for about 4 years mostly over the phone and on myself and I've yet to see a condition that it cannot relieve. While relief of pain and suffering and even major increases in peace and happiness are pretty much a ...
Views: 1474(1 vote) - ***How to Have a Successful Relationship… - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2014 from Emma ViglucciAttune to Your Partner! What is a Successful Relationship? Is being with your spouse, partner, for decades the definition of a successful relationship? Is it raising awesome children? Is it having financial resources, a beautiful home? Is it having our partner do stuff for us? Is it having ...
Views: 1472 - My Personal Journey of Recovery - by Submitted on May 29, 2011 from Randi FinePrologue from My New Book FINE…LY: MY STORY OF HOPE, LOVE, AND DESTINY I believe that there are divine reasons for the pregnant pauses in our lives; the times when our life seems to come to a screeching halt and we are rendered powerless over it. Those are the times we should pay especially ...
Views: 1468(1 vote) - Stop Reacting, Start Responding! - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2015 from Emma ViglucciDo you find that your interactions with your partner include some of the following? Poor or no eye-contact Giving of the back or talking to the back Talking to the air Not responding, acknowledging or answering questions Dismissing Shutting down, ignoring ...
Views: 1468 - Strong Minds Accept No Graciously - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2014 from Dr. Anne Brown"What we fear doing most is usually what we most need to do." Tim Ferriss How did we become a society that cannot hear the word No? Why are we so sensitive to being told No? There is yes and there is No, there is night and day, dark and light, yin and yang, and on and on. So to be balanced ...
Views: 1468(1 vote) - Is Mental Health Covered Under Health Insurance? - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2016 from Peter MainFor people who depend on any type of private or company insurance to cover the cost of their health needs, the question of whether or not the health insurance policy covers mental health problems is a crucial one for a number of reasons. The idea of a split between physical health and mental ...
Views: 1461 - Are You Divergent? - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2014 from Joy ChudacoffWithin the last week, I've had the opportunity to see the movie "Divergent" not once but twice due to the fact that the movie (and book) is all the rage with girls and my daughter is no exception. It's your typical good versus evil plot but the twist is a young woman named "Tris" who's ...
Views: 1459(2 votes) - How to deal with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2017 from Nancy CarboneThose with borderline personality disorder (BPD) have an underlying fear of abandonment and often misinterpret interpersonal situations where they end up feeling worthless or mistreated. They can have a distorted sense of self and view of others. The see themselves and others as split, as ...
Views: 1458 - Your Present Pain Originated a Long Time Ago - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2017 from Dominica Applegate“90% of the present pain you feel is linked to unresolved pain from the past.” When I heard about this principle, I was like, are you’re kidding me? You mean to tell me the crazy-ass emotional insanity that shows up unexpected and uninvited in my life periodically is linked to my childhood? ...
Views: 1454 - Codependency and Narcissists: What Could Possibly Go Wrong? (Part I) - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2019 from Dr. Anne BrownFor this discussion, we are going to stick with our understanding of codependency as a system of distortions that exists on a continuum. Codependents learn personality traits that interfere with knowing one’s self and others. The people-pleasing aspect of codependency might drive the ignoring of ...
Views: 1446(1 vote) - How to deal with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2017 from Nancy CarboneThose with borderline personality disorder (BPD) have an underlying fear of abandonment and often misinterpret interpersonal situations where they end up feeling worthless or mistreated. They can have a distorted sense of self and view of others. The see themselves and others as split, as ...
Views: 1438 - ***Learn to Set Healthy Boundaries for Relationship Success! - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2014 from Emma ViglucciMind Your Own Side of the Fence! We hear all the time that having boundaries is a must for healthy living and happiness in relationship. The only glitch is that a lot of people don’t have the slightest idea about boundaries, never mind about setting them appropriately. I find that ...
Views: 1427 - Can You Love Too Much? - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2015 from Darlene LancerConventional belief is that we can never love too much, but that isn’t always true. Sometimes, love can blind us so that we deny painful truths. We might believe broken promises and continue to excuse someone’s abuse or rejection. We may empathize with them but not enough with ourselves. If we ...
Views: 1424(1 vote) - Holidays, Families, & “have to” - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2013 from Robert BurneyWhen we look outside for self-definition and self-worth, we are giving power away and setting ourselves up to be victims. We are trained to be victims. We are taught to give our power away. As just one small example of how pervasively we are trained to be victims, consider how often you ...
Views: 1424(1 vote) - Don't Block the Flow - by It is a child-like state that results in having one’s self-worth dependent on external validation. It’s about living from the outside in, molding oneself to fit around others’ lives instead of directing the course of one’s life from internal clues, hopes, dreams, wisdom, and power. . . The ...
Views: 1413 - Codependency and #MeToo: A New Way Forward - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2019 from Dr. Anne BrownRecap So, to recap Part One, we discussed our history as women as it relates to our relationship with men and how up until the middle to late 20th century we didn’t have laws to protect us from abuses. Women, along with children, were property of men. Men could abuse us with no consequences. We ...
Views: 1408(1 vote) - Codependency and #MeToo: A Brief History of Abuse - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2019 from Dr. Anne BrownOur History When we look at the history of women as it relates to men, we see that it has only been in the last 100 years that we were given rights. Before we had rights, women and children were the property of men. Men could do with us whatever they pleased, whenever they pleased. This ...
Views: 1398(1 vote) - How to deal with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2017 from Nancy CarboneThose with borderline personality disorder (BPD) have an underlying fear of abandonment and often misinterpret interpersonal situations where they end up feeling worthless or mistreated. They can have a distorted sense of self and view of others. The see themselves and others as split, as ...
Views: 1397 - Seven Kinds of Power - by Submitted on May 07, 2011 from Steve HauptmanIf you love an addict, or live with one, or depend on one in some way, you are probably in, as the old saying goes, nine kinds of pain. And I’m guessing that, whether or not you realize it, the very worst of these pains comes from being confused about the difference between power and ...
Views: 1390(1 vote) - Say No to Waffling!!! - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2014 from Dr. Anne Brown“It comes from saying No to 1000 things to make sure we don’t get on the wrong track or try to do to much.” Steve Jobs Are you beginning to see where we need our tools, ability to say No, ability to make requests, ability to speak our truth in order be a good leader, and in order to be able ...
Views: 1388(2 votes) - Is Your Relationship in Trouble? - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2013 from Darlene LancerGood relationships run smoothly and enable you to enjoy your life, work, and activities beyond the relationship. You’re not always worrying or talking about it. Like a smooth-running car, you don’t have to keep repairing it. You may have disagreements and get angry, but you still have goodwill ...
Views: 1387(2 votes) - Self-Forgiveness - Is Your Guilt True or False? - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2015 from Darlene LancerWe all experience guilt from time to time. But many of us have a hard time letting go of it and find it difficult to forgive ourselves, even though we may readily forgive others. First of all, it's important to recognize whether our guilt is true or false. Just because we feel guilty, that ...
Views: 1382(1 vote) - Are You Chained to The Desk? - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2014 from Joy ChudacoffAs I write this, I'm 690 miles from my office in Los Angeles. Actually, I'm in Park City, Utah enjoying a glass of Pinot and writing to you. I'm here on a family vacation getting some much needed rest and a modified digital detox. One of the benefits I've experienced since leaving the office ...
Views: 1377(1 vote) - Evolving Through Healthy Detachment - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2014 from Moreen DuFermontEvolving Through Healthy Detachment Many Buddhist practitioners claim that the chief cause of suffering stems from any form of attachment; therefore, the converse would also be true, that to experience a sense of peace and well- being would emerge from a process of healthy detachment and ...
Views: 1377 - Recovering From Relationship Codependency - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2018 from Randi FineRecovering From Relationship Codependency (Codependency Part Two) written by Randi G. Fine Originally published on Life As A Human Codependency is an emotional disorder that begins forming in childhood, but it does not reveal itself until a person starts having adult ...
Views: 1373 - Why Data Entry Jobs are Being Outsourcing? - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2011 from Rita ThomsonTo run a business successfully embracing a new challenge every day is. It indicates exciting to be on the way out to overcome obstacles while keeping ahead of their competitors. Every day is a new plan and new strategies, and objectives must be met with. But some key aspects of running a ...
Views: 1373(1 vote) - ***It’s Time for Love! - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2015 from Emma ViglucciIt’s amazing how many partners know their partner loves them, but they still don’t feel loved… This is actually kind of an epidemic… Couples struggle because they get stuck in power struggles. They let their Ego get in the way. They approach their situation from a reactive and self-preservation ...
Views: 1370 - Nurturing Self in the New Age - by “By the way, the hardest part of unconditional Love is accepting wherever we are at in the moment no matter how uncomfortable. The hardest part of acceptance is not the difficulty of allowing others their process (although Lord knows that can be very hard); it is allowing ourselves our own ...
Views: 1346 - How loved one can help in a Medical Crisis… - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2007 from Steve HefferonWhat you are about to read is directed to those who suffer from back pain and those who love them. Much of what I'm going to tell you can be useful in all aspects of your life and for any difficult situation you may face. When dealing with serious back pain, you have to realize that your ...
Views: 1336 - Unexpected Trauma after Abuse - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2019 from Darlene LancerCodependency robs us of a self and self-love. We’ve learned to conceal who we really are, because we grew up pleasing, rebelling against, or withdrawing from dysfunctional parents. This sets us up for trauma. As adults, even if we’re successful in some areas, our emotional life isn’t easy. ...
Views: 1323(2 votes) - ***Are You Conniving in Your Relating? - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2014 from Emma ViglucciPartners love telling each other what to do, how to behave, how to be, what to think, how to feel, and even things like what to eat and how to dress! They are on a mission to change their partner, consciously or not. This is a sign of lack of boundaries and personal ...
Views: 1316 - Say No To The Weight Of Your Past! - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2014 from Dr. Anne Brown" Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life." Steve Jobs Someone recently asked me the definition of Codependency, so let's take a look at what we can see to help uncover this complicated phenomenon. The visual I have is someone who is suppose to be driving his own ...
Views: 1309(1 vote) - Need-Fulfillment is the Key to Happiness - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2019 from Darlene LancerThe key to happiness is meeting our needs. Although codependents are very good at meeting the needs of other people, many are clueless about their own needs. They have problems identifying, expressing, and fulfilling their needs and wants. They're usually very attuned other people and may even ...
Views: 1296(2 votes) - Where There Is A Will There Is A Way - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2013 from Moreen DuFermontWhere There Is a Will There Is A Way The truth is that we are living in our physical bodies and have “this” one life to live. We each can only take it one day at a time! Of course, I know that this is nothing new to you. In fact, its a philosophy you’ve heard dozens of times before; ...
Views: 1294(1 vote) - Dealing with An Alcoholic? It's Time to Live Intuitively. - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2014 from Mary DeYonCould it be that all of our problems stem from not listening to God? If prayer is talking to God and intuition is God talking to us, maybe we need to listen more. When I was in the midst of my crazy life with alcoholics from my father to my husbands, I felt abandoned by God because I prayed and ...
Views: 1291 - ***Do You Know How to “Clean” Your Energy? - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2014 from Emma ViglucciShare Good Vibes With Your Partner We are energy. We look like solid entities in our human form only because of our limited human faculties. We are energetic beings with vibrational frequencies. Imagine us as energy waves, reaching further than apparent by the illusion of our human ...
Views: 1277 - How Do I want to be loved? - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2015 from Emma ViglucciHow does this happen? Here we are loving a person and doing our best to show them we love, cherish and want to be with them to fail miserably at conveying that message. This is even worse when compounded by difficulties and lack or relationship skills partners bring to the table. But, it ...
Views: 1264 - ***The Secret to Increasing Attraction and Loving… - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2014 from Emma ViglucciWhen we are “too close”, whether we are getting along or not … , we can’t see each other. If we can’t see each other, how can we possibly decide if we like each other and feel attraction? This concept is confusing to most, when we live in a society where relationships ...
Views: 1260(1 vote) - HOW SHAME FEELS AND WHAT MAKES IT TOXIC - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2019 from Darlene LancerSprawled on the hallway floor, skirt flying, hitting and kicking, I wrestled with Tina before a crowd of junior high school schoolmates, including a dozen boys from my class. Tina was a gang member who had recently transferred from another school. She and her cohorts had taunted and insulted me ...
Views: 1251(2 votes) - ***Detoxing for Relationship Success! - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2015 from Emma ViglucciThere is more to us than meets the eyes… We have an internal world operating at all times that we are vaguely aware of. Some people are totally out of touch with theirs… The more we become acquainted with our own Self and all it’s aspects, needs and desires the more we can be our Authentic Self ...
Views: 1225 - Guest Author Interview – Dr. Anne Brown - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2019 from Dr. Anne BrownTitle: Backbone Power: The Science of Saying No Genre: Co-dependency/Stress Management Synopsis: A No Nonsense approach to Making Decisions. A Self Help Guide to having Backbone and Integrity in all your choices, short term and long term. Is this decision going to be good for Me? To ...
Views: 1213(1 vote) - How Badly Do You Want An Awesome Relationship? - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2014 from Emma ViglucciBe Awesome With Your Partner! How badly do you want to have an awesome relationship with your partner?How committed are you to making the relationship work? Is failure an option? Do you have one foot out the door? I hear partners complain about how they want things to be different, but they ...
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