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- Beyond The White Dress - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2018 from Dominique NicoleAs a Divorce Coach and Consultant, by the time people find me, they are well beyond marital bliss and about to embark on one of life’s major life changing events, we know as divorce. There are woman that sit in my chair and as I listen to their stories and the history of their marriage, I ...
Views: 179 - True-Self: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Preoccupied With Feeling Safe? - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often believed that self-esteem is the defining factor when it comes to how someone experiences life. So, if someone has a good amount of it there life will be fulfilling; whereas if they don’t their life won’t be. On one side will be someone who is living a life that is deeply ...
Views: 103 - What Role Does A Difficult Past Play In Your Life? - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2018 from Christiana StarFor many individuals, the past is not past but remains an ever-present influence in their present life. Even though the physical effects of past events often demand more attention, the psychological legacy may be much more difficult to move on from. If past events are processed as experiences to ...
Views: 125 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Feel More At Peace When They No Longer Need Anything From The People Who Abused Them? - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused at the beginning of their life, it is likely to mean that they experienced a lot of pain during this time. In addition to this, most, if not all, of their development needs might not have been met. As a result of this, even though a number of years will have passed ...
Views: 177 - Their Arm Was Covered In Cuts! - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was out the other day, I saw someone who had all these cuts on their forearm and I thought that this person must self-harm. Over the years, I have seen a number of people with arms that have received a lot of harm. But, whenever I see something like this, I usually feel pain through ...
Views: 175 - I Already Know My Emotional Triggers, Now What? - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2018 from Imi Lo“MY CBT therapist told me those were ‘irrational thinking,’ which made it worse- now I just blame myself.” “ I have gone through my childhood trauma many times, but when I argue with my partner, I still behave like a five-year-old!” It is not as though we didn’t try- Many of us ...
Views: 279 - “We Are Walking Trees” - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was speaking to Ben Ralston, a therapist, healer, advanced Sivananda Yoga teacher, and writer, a number of months ago, he went into what someone had shared with him in the past. He said that this person had told him that human beings were basically walking trees. I spend a fair amount ...
Views: 214 - How Psychological Abuse Damages Your Self. - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2018 from Christiana StarPsychological abuse leaves no visible marks and often remains hidden within families, romantic relationships, toxic individuals and groups, cults and organisations of various religious and non-religious orientations. However, it is at least as damaging as the more explicitly violent forms of ...
Views: 233 - Child Abuse: Do Parents Lack Empathy When They Deny What Happened? - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperOver six years ago, I wrote an article titled, ‘Abusive Parents: Why Do They Deny What Happened?’ In terms of the amount of comments that I have received for this article, it has to be one of the most popular articles that I have ever written. I wrote this article at a time when I was trying ...
Views: 281 - Were You an Intense Child? - by Submitted on May 31, 2018 from Imi LoPeople’s brains vary. Research has shown that some people are born with a neurological make up that can make them more emotionally or intellectually intense, sensitive, and more open to external stimuli than the general population. They are more aware of subtleties; their brain processes ...
Views: 368 - Hiding and Shrinking: What Disney's Frozen Can Teach Us About Being Emotionally Intense - by Submitted on May 29, 2018 from Imi LoSome people are naturally more intense than others. They are often told that they are ‘too much,’, ’too sensitive,’ ‘too emotional. People who feel more deeply and intensely than others are more aware of subtleties; their brain processes information and reflects on it more deeply. At ...
Views: 296 - The Gifts Inside of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) - by Submitted on May 29, 2018 from Imi LoIt is increasingly being recognized that many individuals who receive the diagnosis of BPD are naturally highly intuitive and perceptive. What was previously thought of as a genetic vulnerability may reflect an innate talent. People who were born emotionally intense, sensitive and are ...
Views: 281 - After You Have Taken My Course, You Will Be Completely Healed! - by Submitted on May 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperEver since I wrote the articles, ‘My Healing Technique Is The Only One That Works!’ and ‘Every Healer Has issues!’, I have been reflecting on the kind of experiences I have had on the courses that I have done. There were times when I was in a desperate position and this meant that my thinking ...
Views: 251 - Emotional Intensity: The Wounds of Being ‘Too Much’ - by Submitted on May 29, 2018 from Imi LoSome people feel more than others. They are often told that they are ‘too much,’ ‘too intense,’ ‘too sensitive,’ ‘too emotional. People who feel more deeply and intensely than others are more aware of subtleties; their brain processes information and reflects on it more deeply. At their ...
Views: 319 - What Makes A Good Healer/Therapist? - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI was recently thinking about what factors play a part when it comes to what makes someone a good healer/therapist. During this time, I thought about the kind of people who I had worked with over the years. Over the years, I have worked with numerous healers and therapists, and I would say ...
Views: 252 - Shifting Patterns of Learned Helplessness - by Submitted on May 20, 2018 from Julie Roberts, Ph.D.Growing up with developmental trauma* can cause patterns of learned helplessness where we shut down, get small, space out, disassociate and eventually get depressed. Another response would be to go into the big one where we puff up and present ourselves as bigger than we are (see “Being the Big ...
Views: 247 - Is Our Life Defined By Ancestral Trauma? - by Submitted on May 14, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA number of years ago, a few articles were written about how trauma from slavery and the holocaust can be passed down. What this means, then, is that it doesn’t matter how many years have passed since these things took place, as what happened can have an effect on their descendents. Hard to ...
Views: 250 - The Female Bully and the Codependent: “A Smelly Turd in a Pretty Package” - by Submitted on May 09, 2018 from Dr. Anne BrownPhysical/aggressive bullying is easy to identify. We can all see the broken bones, blood, and bruises. This type of bullying is most often chosen by men. As a therapist, it is usually pretty easy for me to ask certain questions to get the information that physical abuse is indeed happening. ...
Views: 358(1 vote) - This Technique Actually Heals Trauma! - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAround the middle of last year, there was a day when I felt like trying yoga again, and this was partly due to the fact that I felt lighter. What also gave me a boost was that I had just spent the afternoon with a friend. I had thought about doing this before, but I hadn’t taken the next ...
Views: 466 - Call the Witch by Its True Name - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2018 from Sheryl PaulMy favorite fairy tale when I was a child was Rumpelstiltskin, the story of a girl who makes a bargain with an imp-like creature in exchange for saving her life from being executed by the king. First she gives the imp a necklace, then a ring, then promises her firstborn child. But when her child ...
Views: 448 - Sense Of Safety: If Someone Feels Unsafe Does It Mean That They Live In An Unsafe Environment? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that someone needs to eat in order to function at their best, it could also be said that they need to feel safe, too. The food they eat will give them the energy they need, but if they don’t feel safe enough to face the world, it won’t matter. Taking this into account, the ...
Views: 401 - Critical Thinking: Do Our Fears Always Reflect Reality? - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to walk down a dark alley way and heard people running towards them, it could be said that it would be normal for them to experience fear. For one thing, they won’t know why these people are running towards them, with this being the reason why their body is getting them ready to ...
Views: 398 - Birth Trauma and Anxiety - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2018 from Sheryl PaulWhen working with anxiety and intrusive thoughts, the essential component is to resist the gravitational and habitual pull to attach onto the stories that appear like planets in our inner galaxy and assume that they’re true. The story of the day – whether it centers around your relationship, ...
Views: 428 - LOSS AND GREAT CREATOR’S ROLE IN OUR EXISTENCE - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2018 from Jennifer WebbLOSS AND GREAT CREATOR’S ROLE IN OUR EXISTENCE During these end/beginning, contrived and natural times, many are experiencing loss of many kinds on many levels, including grief of all sorts. As intelligent beings, we question why and how and where is God, our Great Creator. This experience ...
Views: 443 - Self-Pity Is Toxic. Choose Self-Compassion Instead - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2018 from Christiana StarUnwanted changes, unexpected challenges, loss, disappointments, abuse or other forms of adversity often bring with them hurt or harm. Feelings of self-pity are quite normal and understandable. Life has changed in some way and often not for the better. It is only natural to feel sorry for ...
Views: 382 - Why Memories Remain Painful Even After Long Time And How To Loosen The Hold Of The Past - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2018 from Christiana StarWhy Memories hurt. When an experience is recorded as a memory, it goes through the emotional and cognitive filters, assumptions and interpretations of the person. This is one of the reasons why different people can have quite different recollections of an event they all witnessed. As ...
Views: 398 - Why Memories Remain Painful Even After Long Time And How To Loosen The Hold Of The Past - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2018 from Christiana StarWhy Memories hurt. When an experience is recorded as a memory, it goes through the emotional and cognitive filters, assumptions and interpretations of the person. This is one of the reasons why different people can have quite different recollections of an event they all witnessed. As ...
Views: 387 - Victim, Survivor or Thriver? How They Are Different and What You Can Do To Move On. - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2018 from Christiana StarEach experience is telling us something about ourselves, other people, the society we live in, the country, the world. The messages we receive from our experience are filtered through our belief system, previous experience and cultural norms. For example, one person may see adversity as ...
Views: 454 - Forgiveness - Why You Should Consider It And How To Forgive. - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2018 from Christiana StarA gift to yourself The idea of forgiveness makes many people shout, Never!! Indeed, resentment, blame, recrimination and desire for revenge seem so much more natural than forgiveness. Is there anything to be gained by forgiving an offender? Formerly associated only with spiritual ...
Views: 466 - PTSD Veil Lifted To Let The Light Shine In - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2017 from Risa RuseThe acts of trauma become like a dense, dark veil covering the soul. Identifying the emotions to match the veil has to be part of our goal. That is if we choose to allow our Higher Self to take control, you see. This is the inner guidance that comes, once we receive it flowing with ...
Views: 642 - Being Seen: Can The Fear Of Being Harmed Stop Someone From Wanting To Be Seen? - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that whenever one spends time around others, they are going to be seen. Therefore, the only way for one to not be seen by others will be for them to spend time by themselves. Black and White This is then something that is not hard to understand; in fact, it is perfectly ...
Views: 433 - 5 Secrets to Getting Back on Your Feet After an Accident - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2017 from Eileen O'ShanassyRecovering from an accident can be tough. Depending on what happened, you might feel guilty about the accident or afraid of the same scenario happening to you again. And if you've been injured, healing physically adds an extra layer of complication to your recovery. Here are five tips for ...
Views: 463 - “I Was Brought Up To Tolerate Abuse!” - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperI remember sitting at the dinner table, after I had come back from school and having an argument with my mother. This soon came to an end, though, as she ended up leaving the table and going to her room. I can’t remember exactly why we had this argument as it was a long time ago, but I think ...
Views: 506 - “I Was Terrified of My Mother” - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn the middle of 2010, my life was going in the right direction; I felt confident, I had a relatively fulfilling job, and I had a plenty of good people around me. It was as though my life could only get better. Unfortunately, my life was about to get worse, a lot worse, and everything changed ...
Views: 476 - Make PTSD A Faded Memory - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2017 from Risa RuseLet us take an imaginary, hypothetical journey together, you see. Actually, this is something that is really happening to me. Although, if it could happen to myself the circumstances could be yours, too. It involves looking down on our everyday lives, examining what keeps us blue. This ...
Views: 646 - “I Thought It Was All About The Mind!” - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was having hypnotherapy towards the end of 2012, I was told we were all nothing more than a conversation in our head. As a result of this, the way for me to change my life would be for me to change what was taking place in my mind. I remember hearing this and being amazed at what I ...
Views: 468 - “I Felt Suicidal!” - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWent I went to a new salsa dancing class in the middle of 2010, there was one woman who caught my eye. And while we were dancing together, I asked her about where she was from and what she did, amongst others things. I was pulled in by her appearance, and her easy going and friendly nature ...
Views: 451 - Logged In: Video Games & Mental Illness - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2017 from B.L. AckerVideo games have become a large part of society today. While once considered a past-time for nerds, in recent years they have become mainstream, incorporating popular culture, movies, tv shows and sports in a way that appeals to the masses. From computers to consoles to games and apps on phones ...
Views: 609 - The Purrfect Medicine: Separating The Myths From The Truth About Having An Emotional Support Animal - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2017 from B.L. AckerI have a pair of sugar gliders. They’ve been with me for over six years, since they were eight weeks out of pouch. For those who do not know what sugar gliders are – they are small marsupials that can live twelve to fifteen years and bond closely with their owners. I have brought them many ...
Views: 555 - Empty PTSD So God Can Fill Us UP - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2017 from Risa RuseWe were discussing our age appropriateness for retirement last night. Funny how the issue seemed vague for myself, but for my daughter brought fright. She was worried (and that comes with a spirit attached) that we can catch. Though, there are 25 years for her, only a few until Social ...
Views: 589 - Will not be a victim - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2017 from David Harm3 September of 2015 I got married to a wonderful lady. I admit, I have been married before, so this shouldn’t be any different. Yet, this was different. My now wife and I had been dating for five years. Our dating consisted of being together roughly two months over the course of the ...
Views: 501 - Dear Dr. Romance: What behavior does a control freak have? - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I recently read "Could He/She be a Control Freak?" and I suddenly found information that seemed to pertain to a failed marriage that I was still pondering about. I am wondering, if a person had a chaotic childhood ...
Views: 614(1 vote) - Therapy: Can Someone End Up Working On The Wrong Area When They Have Therapy? - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a position where they are unable to handle life, it could be said that it will be a good idea for them to reach out support. What this could show is that one feels depressed, or they might suffer from fear and anxiety, for instance. A Number of Things Or, there is the ...
Views: 549 - 5 Signs You Need to Work Through Past Trauma to Make a Better Future - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2017 from Claire StewartTrauma is something almost everyone experiences at some point in their lives. Some people go through traumatic experiences as children, while others make it all the way to adulthood before experiencing trauma. Regardless of when we went through our individual traumas, we all have something in ...
Views: 682 - PTSD Ending Has A Price - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2017 from Risa RuseI guess we should identify what we need to get rid of when we want to unshackle ourselves from Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD.) That is, the things we need to emotionally throw over-board in order to be able to steer our spiritual ship steady. I was reminded of this analogy when reading ...
Views: 690(3 votes) - The Healing Energy of Words: Writing for the Health of It - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2017 from Diana RaabWhen life takes an unexpected turn, writing can be a beneficial, form of release from stress due to either emotional or physical factors. Many published authors have used writing as a catalyst for their survival during difficult times. Some of them include: Anais Nin, Joan Didion, Reeve ...
Views: 1330 - Balance Your Emotions with these Easy to Follow Steps - by Submitted on May 31, 2017 from Julie DohertyLife can be so Emotionally disturbing on so many levels at times Creating feelings of frustration, anger, anxiety, panic and what may feel like pure helplessness. One of the most common things I am asked to teach people is in Learning - How to Cope with these Emotional Disturbances and ...
Views: 877 - Trump’s Appeal to Arab Nations to Deal with Radical Militants Foretold in Daniel 8? - by Submitted on May 21, 2017 from Richard Ruhling“Every time a terrorist murders an innocent person and falsely invokes the name of God, it should be an insult to every person of faith,” said Trump. Historians say Daniel 8 was fulfilled when Alexander the Great conquered the Medes and Persians (v 20) but they overlooked verse 17 where ...
Views: 648 - Trump’s Appeal to Arab Nations to Deal with Radical Militants Foretold in Daniel 8? - by Submitted on May 21, 2017 from Richard Ruhling“Every time a terrorist murders an innocent person and falsely invokes the name of God, it should be an insult to every person of faith,” said Trump. Historians say Daniel 8 was fulfilled when Alexander the Great conquered the Medes and Persians (v 20) but they overlooked verse 17 where ...
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