Marriage Coaching Articles

Marriage Fails Marriages are failing! As I reflect on the state of marriage I see almost complete and utter failure. Here is the latest statistic I found: • 50–60 percent of marriages end in divorce, according to multiple online sources.

My Husband Talks To Another Woman Every Day: My Husband Is Talking To Another Woman Online There is a lot of talk about unfaithfulness in marriage. I've written my fair share about cheating spouses and infidelity in marriage. This article will focus on a different kind of unfaithfulness, emotional infidelity. What is emotional infidelity? Emotional infidelity is interacting with others, besides the person you are married to, on an intimate and emotional level. Emotional infid

“I want to learn how to say No so it doesn’t turn into an argument,” David said. He’d been married about two years, and came to my office asking if I could help him learn to talk with his wife “without getting so upset when we disagree.” “I’m fine doing things her way most of the time,” he said, “but sometimes I feel pretty strongly about what I want. This time it’s about a dog – she wants one and I don’t.”

There is the obvious definition of an affair, having sex with someone other than your spouse. But are there different types of affairs? And now that we have the Internet, how does that add to the problem. One of the ways to define an affair is to ask the question, is what you are doing secretive? If your spouse knew what you were doing, would it hurt him or her? Are you going to someone outside your marriage to meet your emotional or physical intimacy needs? Let’s use pornography as an example.

I’ve been working with a lot of couples over the years. One of the most common conce s they bring up are arguments that get too aggressive. Spouses end up getting emotionally hurt, upset and angry. While conflicts are a given in relationships, you can dramatically improve how you argue and significantly decrease the emotional damage you are doing to the relationship. When a conflict is beginning, we tend to think that we know what we are talking about and the other person is wrong.

“I’d like an appointment today, after 5 pm,” he said. “I work out of town and took the week off to save my marriage,” he explained. It was Thursday. He went on to explain that his wife wasn’t willing to take off work to come in during regular hours. When asked how he learned of my work, he said he picked the name out of the Yellow Pages. I suspected this marriage was suffering from complacency.nn Complacency, an overconfident satisfaction with oneself or feeling o

Since working with individuals over the years to heal from infidelity and marriages with multiple wives, I have learnt what successful re-builders do compared to those unsuccessful in repairing their relationships after affairs. Whilst there is no denying that affairs can destroy love, relationships and self-confidence, they don’t have to. As long as the betrayer follows some crucial steps to help their spouse heal and together the couple look at ways to improve and strengthen their marriage.

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It was autumn in Iowa, 1963. I was fourteen and about to begin eighth grade. My mother remarried--for the sixth time--and we moved from my hometown of Muscatine to a farm just outside the rural community of Atalissa. This was the nineteenth move for me since my dad died in 1953. I was four back then.

I'm sure you know that God loves and forgives you unconditionally. But did you know that He expects you to extend that same love and forgiveness to your spouse unconditionally? Of course I knew that, you say. But do you really? Listen God loves us and forgives us daily when we disobey Him, when we don't trust Him, when we don't spend time with Him, and when we don't listen to Him. Can you love your spouse when they don't behave in the manner you desire? I mean really love them without getting an attitude. Can you demonstrate love when you feel they're not listening to you?

Kerala matrimonial always tends to be a little different from the weddings of other parts of India. This is due to various reasons. For anyone, Keralite wedding tends to take a very minimalistic approach. The brides of Kerala tend to play beautifully with their attire mixing them with the aesthetics of the states and making a wonderful look during wedding receptions. Here are some reasons to love Kerala matrimonial in India Subtle Traditions The Kerala matrimony traditions

My Wife Is Emotionally Unavailable: How To Connect With An Emotionally Absent Spouse Your wife is emotionally unavailable. She's built a wall around herself and try as you might you can't get over it. You miss feeling close to her. Now it seems that you two are living more like strangers in the same home than loving spouses. You obviously want it to change before so much distance is there that the only logical solution is a divorce. If you're a married man currently facing th

A question that runs in a couple’s mind if they are considering marriage counselling is that if it really works? Well, this is a legitimate question to ask, as marriage counselling not only requires commitment in terms of time and money but also in terms of emotions - a whole range of emotions as you would eventually have to re-live everything that has happened in your life in front of a total stranger and these might be the very incidents that you have been trying to forge

“My husband had been physically and emotionally abusive since even before we married. I think I became addicted to the drama of it.” These were the first words that K. told me during our initial Online Counseling session. “At night when our children sleep I would feel trapped unable to leave ...

Nothing is more painful and crushing than finding out the partner you promised to have and hold forever has cheated and lied to you. It can ton feel like your whole world has come crashing down like a ton of bricks. Feelings of anger, fear and hurt can flood your system. Along with the shattering news are shattered dreams, hopes, and expectations you had for your relationship and the future. It’s natural to feel lost, numb and change your mind or consistently questioning yourself about what you want next.

“I can't get enough sleep,” James told me. “I had some medication, but it doesn't seem to work anymore.” It's a common problem. About 30% of the U.S. population reports having trouble sleeping in a given year. About 12% of those turn to pills, and fill about 60 million prescriptions annually. And for many people, they seem to work...for awhile. * The problem with pills

Financial Abuse – Relationship Advice for a Financially Controlling Husband / Wife: Financial conflict causes a great deal of unhappiness and tension in relationships. I received this email last week and they have given me permission to share it, here is the advice I gave Emily (name changed) I hope if you are facing financial control or other conflicts this helps you. Hi Nicolar

What’s Love Got To Do With It? Not Everything! Not many of us aren’t familiar with Tina Turner’s immortal words questioning, “What’s love got to do with it?” Her notion that risking love may ultimately risk a broken heart still rings true today. However, when I consider the question, “What’s love got to do with it,” I can honestly say, not everything. But don’t get me wrong. I would never say that true love is not the goal many of us seek in a long-term and successful relationship. But love is not everything.

My Husband Puts Me Down In Front Of His Family: When Your Husband Puts You Down Some words have fangs. Among the sharpest are those classified as negative labeling. Negative labels come in the form of adjectives: "You're lazy, selfish, unreasonable, insensitive, etc.," and also in nouns: "You're a loser, slut, bitch, bad boy, etc." Sometimes tone of voice grows fangs on otherwise benign words. "I love you," can imply with nefarious inflection that no one else could, because y

Why do couples struggle to stay intimate? This is a question that baffled me when I started working in this field. Many women would say to me “what do I do when the feelings in a marriage are gone?” or men I work with to save their marriage would share “when a marriage is over to one person can you get it back?” I wanted to know why when the feelings in a marriage are gone can they not be restored with focus and effort. The good news is they can, the problem is 3 main things stop couples from reconnecting which I will explain in this article.r

When it comes to a potentially romantic relationship, chemistry is a loaded word. Does one of these beliefs pop into your mind when you hear it? • For a good relationship, chemistry needs to be there right away. • Chemistry might not be felt initially but can develop later. • Love at first sight, or a variation of this, predicts a good long term relationship. • Chemistry can come and go, depending on other factors. • Chemistry is not essential for a good marriage. • Chemistry can attract you to the "wrong" person.

“In those days John the Baptist came preaching in the wilde ess of Judea, and saying “‘Repent, for the kingdom of heaven is at hand?’ For this is he who was spoken of by the prophet Isaiah saying: The voice of the one crying in the wilde ess: Prepare the way of the Lord; Make His path straight’.” Matthew 3: 1-3

From the fictional ones at Wisteria Lane to the "real ones" in Atlanta, we've all seen or at least heard of them. Desperate housewives, they're everywhere and deeply ingrained in modern culture. Not exactly something to look forward to if you are on your way to being, or already are, married. But, did you know that ...

Do any of these statements describe your feelings?nn___ You often feel that your partner criticizes you unfairly.nn___ You feel that your partner consistently looks for nit-picking things to criticize.n n____You feel that your partner routinely criticizes you for things that have been blown out of proportion or are beyond your control. nnIf you answer “yes” to at least one of these statements, you may be living with a partner who finds it easier to find fault than to prai

My Husband Says I'm Boring: Why Husbands Get Bored with Wives after marriage Although a divorce is - or at least shouldn't be - a goal by itself, it is a fact that more than 50 percent of our marriages end this way. Here are a few tips to save your marriage. You can find more tips by searching for " marriage tips " online. If you and your mate have scheduled some time for a Friday night dinner, a relationship tip would be to put together a surprise instead. For example, if yo

My Wife Rejects My Affection: What Does It Mean When Your Wife Doesn't Show Affection "Come on honey, it has been such a perfect night ... don't you think I am sexy?", "Listen, I am tired, let's just sleep ok." ... Does this sound familiar to you? For nearly 20% of marriages it does all year around as there is no physical intimacy in marriage for them just cold bed sheets, frustration, depression and humiliation as someone who was once their lover rejects them time and again

Why is Marriage Education necessary and valuable? By Yehuda Ayalon A loving marriage relationship is probably the most important source of happiness and success. Investing time, money and effort to make your marriage happy is one of your best investments in your life. Young couples marrying for the first time face a high chance of divorce. Many other couples stay married but are in chronically distressed marriages. They and their children are at increased risk for mental an

Do you suddenly find yourself questioning your husband's every move? Has your husband been acting really weird recently, causing you to suspect whether or not he's being faithful to you and your marriage? Well ma'am, I'm sorry to say, but as it stands right now there's less than a 25% chance that your husband is NOT cheating on you. That's just plain ol' statistics talking, there. However, even though I'm sure that right now you're feeling both confused and distraught, I urge

rnThere’s really nothing like a night out with the girls. Leaving your husband and kids at home for the night is the most freeing experience of all – and add onto that the ability to hit the town with your best friends, and you’ve got yourself a perfect combination! rn rnWhether hitting the town means getting all gussied up and going to the most expensive restaurant in town or pretending you’re young again and hitting up the latest dance club, there are plenty of hip

Meditation was once visualized as an Eastern tradition where the person sits in a circle surrounded by candles and saying mantras or humming. Currently, meditation and its benefits are recognized and are far from what we had in mind before. Aside from the calming effect that it could bring, meditation is often said to be a path to awaken the spirit and start the journey towards spiritual awakening.

As per the Oriya Matrimony , the rituals of a Hindu Oriya wedding are quite the same as the other Hindu wedding process. However, several major differences are observed, which are apparent because of the variations in the region. Orissa is one of the most prosperous states of India, situated on the eastern side of the country, on the shores of Bay of Bengal. The residents of this area are categorized as very simple and down to earth people, called the Oriya. Having a simple l

Is your spouse cheating? Sadly and amazingly enough this sort of behavior is going on in Christian marriages too! What can people do when they realize that their spouse has been unfaithful? First of all understand that this problem is not about “how you feel”. Your feelings are ok to have but don’t base your actions on those feelings. The pandemic of adultery in marriage today is all about the cheater—they are mislead into believing that they can defraud and disrespect another person’s physical space while at the same time trespassing against the marriage bed.

There is no ‘cook-book’ Relationship Advice solution for an unhealthy abusive relationship. Being involved in a relationship that has reached the point where it’s a constant cycle of abuse is not healthy for either partner and unfortunately there is no ‘quick-fix’ for this type of situation. ...

Men and women are different in how they process and store emotions. There are always exceptions to this rule, but I’m about to describe how the majority of men and women deal with hurt and resentment. Both genders feel hurt and resentment, and both can certainly hold on to resentment a long time. But men have a slight tendency to throw off resentment and hurt on their own --women tend to need someone to talk to throw off the hurt and resentment. The best person for them to talk to is the person that caused the hurt and resentment.

How To Make My Husband Value Me: How To Make Husband Realise Your Importance Love can be fleeting. That fact alone is disheartening when you meet and fall in love with a man. Finding someone that you truly adore is rare and naturally you want to do whatever you can to ensure that he'll stay in love with you. All around us it seems that so many relationships are falling by the wayside. If there's anything you can do to secure the love you two share, you want to do it, right? L

My Husband Talks To His Best Friend More Than Me: Husband Talks To Male Friend Everyday Before things get out of hand and we seek to part ways with our partners and loved ones in a marriage there are certain factors that we must address honestly to ensure we do not find ourselves reliving these moments in a new relationship. Blind Love Blind love is very important because it is during these times that we hide the truth from ourselves. Our love for someone can make it impossib

“Nicola, My husband won’t go to marriage counselling, I’m desperately unhappy what shall I do?” “My wife refuses to speak to anyone, she says we are beyond help, it’s too late. Shall I give up?” These are statements I hear time and time again, and to be honest I don’t blame a husband or wife if they don’t believe in traditional relationship counselling. Statistics report that 75% of people who see marriage counsellors are worse off or divorced after! An alarming statistic isn’t it.

Oh My G-Spot! What is the G-Spot? Do you know? Do you know where it is? Now days it seems if you are not a G-Spot expert you are just not the love you think you are. Funny thing many women don’t know either. They are pretty sure they have one and they have been told that G-Spot orgasms are mind blowing. And, Boy Oh Boy, do they want one!

When we talk about the dimensions of the sexual relationship within the sphere of marriage, we always think of two individuals who share common thoughts and emotions with the “fusion” of their bodies. The individuals are normally in a state of gratifying and dedicated physical intimacy. The core of this aspect of the relationship is the emotional link that ties them together. In the marriage bed, couples don’t just make love, they GIVE love to each other.

My Husband Prefers His Friends Over Me: My Husband Puts His Friends Before Me At times relationships that we thought were steady and strong can also break without any prior notice. Perhaps you are facing a situation right now where you suddenly find that your marriage has hit rock bottom. You are wondering how to get close to your spouse again, and what your chances are to succeed. The first step is to think in retrospect about the time you shared with your spouse. Were there

The trouble with arguments is that they don't work. I'm not talking about a good debate, where you have some great ideas, and they clash, and you start a healthy back-and-forth that feels fun. I mean arguments – where tension starts to rise, responses start to get personal, and you go around in circles without getting anywhere. Often this kind of conflict takes on a life of it's own, where you end up arguing about who does more of the chores or what time you came home last night, while bigger issues like caring, teamwork, and appreciation hide under the surface.

Anxiety in women is different from anxiety in men. Overall, women report more anxiety. Women are 60% more likely to be diagnosed with an anxiety disorder. Women also face different stressors, because they have somewhat different life and work challenges. Womens' biggest stressors are money and work – almost 80% of women worry about money, and about 2/3 worry about work. Over half of all women feel significant stress about family responsibilities, and both personal health and family health.

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Today we live in an age that promotes self-awareness BUT when it comes to relationships, it fails to show us how to use our self-awareness to arrive at good decisions. Most of the advice we get makes our problems even worse. There are literally millions of men and women ambivalent about whether to stay in or leave their marriage. If this is you, I will share why you MUST get out of limbo for the sake of your sanity, health and relationship.

While one of the most important wedding decisions you'll make is your wedding dress, you'll find that the right lingerie to wear with the dress is just as important. After all, you want to be comfortable and you want to look great too. You'll want to feel beautiful on the inside and the outside, so don't skimp on the lingerie to wear with your dress. Not only will the lingerie you choose have a lot to do with the way your dress looks, but it will probably be seen by your husband later. This means you want it to look amazing.

My Husband Is Withdrawing From Me: Emotional Withdrawal In Marriage - Husband Withdraws Affection Many couples who seek out relationship help and marriage advice have fallen into a relationship rut-in other words, they feel stuck. And when you and your spouse/partner are locked in cycles of conflict, you probably assume you have nothing in common-especially during those times when your husband seems to shutdown emotionally and withdraw from you. However, the likelihood is tha

I always wondered why marriages conceived in love, trust, and commitment fall flat after tying the knot! What goes wrong in a relationship that couples feel that they can't talk to each other anymore, not the way they used to anyway. Why do they need their own space? Why people develop their own mental islands where the spouse is not allowed? Seventy percent of all divorces happen in first five years of being married. I have struggled to find answers. Having been married for 34 years and having studied couples in relationships for over 20 years. Now I know why?

Am I with the right partner? As a couples therapist, I've been asked this question a lot. The couples I see are usually frustrated, and often for good reason. They've tried to solve relationship problems by talking, by not talking, by changing their behavior and by not changing it. Nothing, so far, has worked. Who wouldn't be frustrated...and confused? It's no surprise that they start to wonder if maybe the situation is hopeless, if maybe they just don't have the right partner.

What does the immensely popular book, "The Boys in the Boat" have to do with marriage? Hint: Ask yourself what you think a great marriage looks like? Spouses enjoying being together, basically in harmony for a lifetime? Or does "happily married" sound to you like an impossible dream? Cynicism about marriage is common these days. Fairy tales that finish with "and they lived happily ever after" don't mention a key ingredient in marriage. Nor do novels and movies give credence to the importance of this element: Teamwork. Roles of Spouses No Longer Fixed

Romantic relationships happen all the time. It is especially possible that they can happen in the workplace. When you have many people working in the same place day after day friendships will develop and can possibly turn into something more. You might find that a group of co-workers will start going out on the town for drinks after work every Friday night.