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Although a man is physically separate from his mother, it doesn’t mean that he will realise this. Instead, he can have the sense that he is merely an extension of his mother. And, while he will have his own inner world, it also doesn’t mean that he will realise this either. The reason for this is that his thoughts and how he feels can largely be defined by his mother. One purpose

Even though a man is in a position where he is overlooking a number of his own needs, due to how focused he is on his mother, it doesn’t mean that he will be consciously aware of this. But if someone pointed out that he does far more for her than he needs to, it doesn’t mean that it would go in. Instead, he could say he is doing what any loving son would do, or words to that effect. Along with this, he might even accuse them of having something against his mother. The Evidence Is There

Over the years, a man may have been in a number of relationships where the woman was anything but supportive, loving and kind. Instead, the woman might have done just about everything that she could to undermine him. However, it is unlikely the woman was like this at the beginning, as she might have come across as the complete opposite. So, she might have been attentive, supportive, funny and affectionate, for instance. Another Scenario

If a woman were to step back and reflect on her life, what she may see is that she is often mean and even cruel toward men. She might see that she has been this way for quite some time. What could enter her mind is that part of her believes that this is how men deserve to be treated. This part can believe that men are bad, take advantage of women and need to be put in their place. One Outlook

If someone is in a relationship, they might have recently shared their body with another or had an affair. Now, this might not be the first time that this has taken place. Not too long ago, they might have behaved in the same way. However, even if this is the first time that this has taken place with the person they are with, they might have done the same thing with their ex. Inner Conflict

Even though someone has a physical body and will, thus, have the physical support that they need, it doesn’t mean they will feel supported. Now, this can mean that they rarely exercise and their muscles are not very strong, but this might not be the case. Regardless of how physically strong they are, they can feel a deep sense of not being supported. Due to this, they can often go into a collapsed physical state and find it hard to do anything. One Conclusion

Even though a man can be overly focused on his mother and do a lot for her, she might not appreciate or be grateful for what he does. Instead, she can simply expect him to be there for her. In this case, he will be giving her a lot of his time and energy, but he won’t be getting anything back. However, while he will be used by the one person who should treat him well, it doesn’t mean that he will be able to see this. Exte al Feedback

Although a man is a separate human being, who has his own needs, feelings and life to lead, it doesn’t mean that he will act like one. Instead, it can be as though he is merely an extension of his mother. Therefore, he will meet his basic needs, or he might typically meet them, but that will be about it. Taking this into account, his mother is going to receive a lot of his time, attention and energy. The priority

In order for someone to make good decisions, they will need to have access to all parts of themselves. So, they will need to be connected to not only what is taking place for them at a mental level, but also what is taking place for them at an emotional and instinctual level. This will mean that they are an integrated human being, and they will be able to act in an intelligent manner. However, while this is the ideal, they might not have a good connection with each part of themselves. One Scenario

If someone were to step back and reflect on how they experience life, what they might find is that they don’t have a strong sense of self. So, instead of feeling like a strong and capable adult who can direct their life, they can feel like a weak and incapable child who needs others to direct their life. What might soon stand out is that they have been this way for as long as they can remember. Subsequently, they are not going to freely express themselves, and their life is unlikely to be very fulfilling. A Half-Life

If a man were to step back and reflect on his life, what he may find is that he often feels low. Along with this, he might also have moments when he thinks about ending his life. As to how long his life has been this way, he may find that it has been this way for as long as he can remember. Then again, he may find that he experiences life in this way after he has gone through a breakup. One Scenario

Over the years, someone may have been in a number of relationships that were not very fulfilling. So, they might have gone in with high hopes at the beginning, only to end up feeling frustrated and angry as time passed. If they have spoken to at least one trusted friend about this area of their life, they might have been told, in one way or another, that they will meet the right person sooner or later. Along with this, they might have said that it’s a good thing that they are not settling for second best. Looking back

If a man is in a position where he acts like an extension of his mother, it is going to be normal for him to neglect himself. So, to say that he will live a life that is not very fulfilling will be an understatement. Naturally, for this to change, he will need to be less focused on his mother's needs and more focused on his own. Additionally, he will need to start meeting the needs that he has been ignoring. A Big Hurdle

If someone were to step back and reflect on their life, they can find that they have the tendency to feel anxious when they don’t please others. This is going to make it difficult for them to freely express themselves. They could see that they rarely, if ever, do what is right for them and tend to do what they can to please others. As a result of this, they could feel extremely frustrated and wonder if their life will ever change. Exte al Feedback

If a man doesn’t have a woman in his life, and he were to step back and reflect on how he feels, he can find that he feels empty. Additionally, he can find that it doesn’t feel supported. After this, he can conclude that the sooner he has a woman in his life, the better. As a result, it might not be long until he is dating a woman and ends up starting a relationship. The First Stage

If a woman were to step back and reflect on her love life, she could think about how this area of her life is not very fulfilling. This is because she might have been with a number of men who were not really into her and were distant. She could think about how she did a lot to try to make these relationships work, and yet, no matter what she did, they didn’t really change. So, she might have made most of the plans, paid for most things, and put a lot of effort into her appearance. Another Element

If someone were to step back and reflect on how they often feel, they can find that they have the inclination to feel sorry for themselves. When this takes place, they can have thoughts that relate to them being a victim and life not being fair. They can see that, once they go into this inner state, it takes a while for them to get themselves out of it. Not only this, but they can see that experiencing life in this way is not serving them. A Prisoner

Even though someone needed a mother who was able to see and reflect their worth back to them, it doesn’t mean that they had a mother who did this. However, if this were the case, they might not realise this now that they are an adult. Yet, if they are not aware of what this stage of their life was like or the impact it had on them, they can be aware of certain symptoms that have arisen as a result. If they are, they can see that they often feel low and struggle to do things. One Conclusion

If someone were to step back and reflect on their life, they may find that it is hard for them to stand up for themselves and take action. Consequently, it can be normal for them to keep their views to themselves, do things that they don’t want to do and be walked over, among other things. They are then going to be a separate human being who has their own needs, feelings and life to lead, but they will typically act as though they are an extension of others. Naturally, this is going to cause them to experience a fair amount of anger and frustration. A Miserable Existence

If someone were to experience a breakup, lose a pet or loved one, they might face and experience how they feel. This doesn’t mean that they won’t be able to live their life. However, due to the impact that a loss has on them, they might not be able to live in the same way as they did before. So, they can have moments when they are unable to function and are not interested in doing some of the things that they did before. Another Reality

For a number of weeks or months, a woman may have been with a man who is overly focused on his mother. Then again, she might have been in this position for over a year. Either way, as a result of this, he is not going to have much time for himself, let alone have much time for her. So, if she has been in this position for a number of weeks or months, she is likely to be frustrated, but if she has been in this position for even longer, she could be well and truly fed up. Exte al Feedback

If someone was abused as a child, they may have the need to speak to the parent or parents who abused them. They can hope that this will be a time when what they say will be validated and they will be supported. However, while this is what may happen, it might also be a time when the opposite takes place. Naturally, if the former takes place, it is likely to be easier for them to gradually heal the damage that was done to them and put the past behind them. A Big Help

If a woman were to step back and reflect on her life, what she may find is that she has the tendency to present herself as an object that exists to be desired by men and perhaps women. As a result, when she is out in public, she can typically not wear much or wear clothes that are very revealing. However, even if she is not out in public, she can still present herself in this way thanks to social media. So, she can have a number of social media profiles where she regularly shares pictures of herself wearing very little. Another Element

What someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on how they behave, is that they typically play a role. This can be something that takes place without them needing to think about it. As a result, they can have the tendency to be easy-going and do what they can to please others. The outcome of this is that they will seldom, if ever, freely express who they are. A Tedious Existence

Although someone has a wide range of feelings, it doesn’t mean that they will come across in this way. Instead, they can typically come across as though they only experience a few feelings or only positive feelings. So, they can have the inclination to come across as though everything is fine and that they have it all together. Thanks to this, some of the people in their life could see them as being strong, and they might even admire them. A lot to carry

During someone’s childhood, what they needed was an environment where they felt safe and secure and were loved. However, they might have grown up in an environment that wasn’t anything like this. If so, if both of their parents were around, one of them might have been abusive, while the other might have been the enabler. This is not to say that only one of them mistreated them, though, as they both might have mistreated them. The Difference

If someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they might see is that they more or less always adapt to others. So, when it comes to how they behave, it can depend on who they are with. For example, what can enter their mind is how they play the role of someone who is happy when they are around certain people. Whereas when they are around others, they can play the role of someone who is empathetic and understanding. A Big Difference

If someone who was abused as a child were to speak to their abusive parent about what happened, they might not get very far. This parent could deny what they say and even accuse them of making it all up. If this is the case, they will continue to behave in a way that is very similar to how they behaved during their formative years. They are then going to deny that they mistreated them while mistreating them. Exte al Feedback

Although someone has an emotional self, in addition to a mental self, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. The reason for this is that they could typically be out of touch with how they feel. What this is likely to mean is that they will spend most of their life in their head and be out of their body. This is because their feelings will be found in their body, not their head. A Different Approach

What someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they have the inclination to feel low and be depressed. They might see that they have been this way for as long as they can remember. Assuming that this is so, it can not only seem as though they were simply born this way, but that this is how their life will always be. Even so, as they experience life in this way, it is going to be difficult for them to make the most of the life that they have been given. One Area

If a man steps back and reflects on his life, what he may see is that he has the tendency to be passive, put up with bad behaviour and be depressed. Assuming that this is the case, he can see that he has been this way for most of his life. What he might wonder is why he lacks energy, rarely stands up for himself and often feels so low. If he does, he might soon conclude that he was simply born this way or that he lacks testosterone, for instance. Another Angle

Even though someone acts as though they are merely an extension of their family, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. The reason for this is that this can just be what is normal. As a result of this, their main focus will be on doing what they can to please the people in their family. Or perhaps to be more precise, what they can do to please their mother or father, or whoever else is the head of the family and makes the decisions. Secondary Importance

If someone were to step back and reflect on how they experience life, what might enter their mind is that they have a number of fears. Due to this, it is likely to make it difficult for them to embrace life. In general, they could live in a way that causes them to be on the outside and unable to make the most of the life that they have been given. As a result, they could often feel angry, frustrated and helpless about not being able to freely express themselves. A Closer Look So, when it comes to what they fear, they may have some, if not all, of the following fears:

If a woman is in a relationship, it might not be long before it comes to an end. Now, this might not be because she is with a man who is not right for her or is treating her badly; no, it can be because of what her father thinks of the man that she is with. So, when she is with her father, he could often talk about how he doesn’t think that the man she is with is right for her. Or, if he doesn’t say that, he could say something that means the same thing. Another part

Recently, someone may have found out that their partner has cheated on them. Then again, they might have found out that this has taken place more than once, and that this has been going on for a little while. Either way, thanks to what has happened, they can be in a bad way, both mentally and emotionally. So, their mind can be all over the place, and they can be in a lot of pain. A Big Impact

What a man can find is that when he does what his mother wants, he feels good about himself. Or, at the very least, he notices that he feels settled and is able to focus on what he is doing. However, when he doesn’t do what his mother wants, he can find that he doesn’t feel good about himself. Or, once again, at the very least, he is unable to feel settled and to focus on what he is doing. The outcome

For a while now, a woman may have been with a man who is emotionally unavailable and is often physically out of reach. As a result of this, she can not only experience a fair amount of anger and frustration, but she can often feel exhausted. However, although she might have been in this position for a number of months or longer, a big part of her might have the need to stay with him. Another part of her can then often wonder why she doesn’t just walk away from him. Exte al Feedback

If someone is feeling low and is even depressed, they might believe that they need a goal to work toward. Then again, they could talk to a trusted friend or family member about how they feel, and this is what they could be told. Assuming that the latter takes place, this can be seen as a way for them to change how they feel. This is because they won’t be as caught up in their thoughts or feelings, as they will have something to focus on. Another part

Even though someone is an individual, it doesn’t mean that they will generally act like one. What can be normal is for them to do what they can to please others and what they think will please others. But, as this is just what is normal, they might not be aware of how out of balance they are. If they are not aware of what is going on, they are still going to pay a heavy price for living in this way. One Scenario

If a man’s life revolves around his mother, he is going to be more like an extension of her as opposed to an autonomous human being who has his own life to lead. But, although he will be neglecting himself, he might not be consciously aware of this. Assuming that this is the case, there will be no reason for him to draw the line and live his own life. The outcome of this is that he will continue to turn his back on himself, causing his life to pass him by. Taking Its Toll

Over the years, a woman may have seen a number of her female friends move forward in their careers and form loving and supportive relationships. However, she might not have moved forward in their career nor had a loving and supportive relationship, let alone be in one. Thanks to her inability to progress in these areas of her life and perhaps others, she could feel frustrated and angry. What can enter her mind is that she is just very unlucky or that someone or something ‘out there’ is holding her back. The Next Stage

Even though someone is an interdependent human being, they could typically act as though they are independent. They are then going to have a number of needs, but, in general, they will create the impression that they don’t. Apart from their basic needs then, such as their need to eat and sleep, a number of their needs will be overlooked. Still, this is not to say that they will be consciously choosing to be this way. Totally Unaware

What someone can see, if they were to step back and reflect on how they behave, is that they typically act as though they are an extension of others. They are then going to be a separate human being who has their own needs, feelings and life to lead, but they won’t act like one. In general, then, they are going to be focused on other people’s needs and do what they can to meet them. This can largely take place automatically, meaning that they won’t choose to be this way. One Area

Although someone is a human being, and has needs, feelings and inherent worth, it doesn’t mean that they will act like one. Instead, they can typically act as though they are an object that exists to meet other people’s needs. The outcome of this is that they will typically ignore a number of their needs and feelings, and will only feel valuable if they are doing things. As a result of this, they are going to be deprived and are likely to seldom, if ever, relax and take it easy. The Norm

At this point in time, a man could be in a relationship that is anything but loving. So, he can be with a woman who is typically emotionally distant and has very little interest in how he feels, seldom listens to what he has to say, regularly puts him down and humiliates him, and she might even become physically violent at times. He might have been with her for a number of weeks, months or years. But, no matter how long he has been with her, she will have an undermining effect on him and his life. His Experience

During a man’s formative years, he needed to feel safe and secure and be loved. This would have allowed him to stay connected to himself and connect to his mother and father. Thanks to this, he would have been able to gradually go from a dependent to an interdependent human being. This stage of his life would then have built him up and given him what he needed to stand on his own two feet and be in his power. A Different Scenario

At this point in time, someone could be dating or in a relationship with someone, but it might not be very fulfilling. So, they might rarely hear from them or see them, and when they do see them, they might typically be emotionally absent. Furthermore, when they do spend time together, they might typically only have surface-level conversations and have sex. They are then going to receive very little when they don’t see them, and when they do see them, they won’t receive much more. A Big Difference

If a man is in a relationship, when he is around his girlfriend, he could find that he has the tendency to be on edge, to be focused on her moods and to do what he can to please her. This can be because she is often emotionally unstable and unpredictable. Thus, by not relaxing around her, being on high alert, and doing what he can to tune into and meet her needs, he can hope that this will stop her from exploding. Or, at the very least, that he is ready if this does take place. A Lot to Deal With

If a man is entangled in his mother’s world and his life largely revolves around her needs, he might not see it. However, if he were to end up dating a woman, the woman could soon see that he is out of balance. Not only this, but she could see that his mother is not grateful for what he does for her and is simply using him. Assuming that this is the case, she can wonder why he can’t just face up to what is going on and start putting himself first. The Next Stage

If a woman were to describe the type of man that she wants to be with, she could say that she wants a man who is emotionally strong and can lead, protect and take care of her. Over the years, she might have been with a number of men who were like this. In fact, the last man that she was with might have been like this, at least in the beginning. However, as time passed, his behaviour might have gradually changed, with him becoming very different. One Experience