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Even though someone is a separate human being who has their own needs, feelings and preferences, it doesn’t mean that they will typically come across in this way. In general, they can come across as though they are merely an extension of others. Assuming that this is the case, when they are around others, they will focus on their needs and do what they can to meet them. This can mean that the people in their life see them as selfless and enjoy being around them. A Caregiver

If a man is currently in an intimate relationship with a woman, he could find that he spends a lot of time giving but very little time receiving. Due to this, he can often feel weighed down and drained by her needs. And, no matter what he does for or gives her, she might often criticise him and act like he doesn’t give much. Thanks to this, there can be times when he is filled with anger and resentment. Missing out

What a man may see, if he steps back and reflects on his behaviour, is that he has the inclination to play a role when he is around others. So, he can see that when this happens, he comes across as though everything is fine. It then won’t matter if this is actually the case, as he won’t open up about what is going on for him. He can see that this is also a time when he is focused on others and does what he can to please them. It’s Automatic

After having been mistreated as a child and as an adult, someone might decide that it is best for them to no longer talk to or see their abusive parent. However, it might have taken them a long time to arrive at this point. One reason for this can be that, although this parent is having a negative impact on them, they will still be their parent. Thus, they will have always been part of their life, and they will have formed an attachment to them. Another part

If a man, who is caught up in his mother’s world, were to reflect on how he lives his life, he could see that it’s as though he is nothing more than an extension of his mother. He could see that he spends a lot of time doing things for her and very little time, in comparison, doing things for himself. Therefore, if he is not at work, he can often be doing things for her or listening to her talk about her problems, for instance. Naturally, this is going to cause him to neglect himself. The next stage

Recently, a woman’s father may have passed, and this may have left her in a very bad way. However, thanks to what her relationship was like with her father, she might not just be grieving his loss. No, in addition to this, she can also feel exposed and as though she is no longer as safe a she was. If this is the case, not only will she feel sad, but her whole personality could have changed. A Big Difference

What a man can find is that it is difficult for him not only to feel settled, but to also feel good about himself. If this is the case, what will be normal is for him to feel anxious and fearful, and worthless and ashamed. Now, if he were to think about why this is, what might enter his mind is that this is due to the life that he leads. So, he can have a job that is soul-destroying, he could have friends who treat him badly, and he could be in a relationship with a woman who mistreats him. A Natural Outcome

If a man were to step back and reflect on his life, what he may see is that when he is attracted to a woman, it doesn’t occur to him that she is a human being. She is then not going to be someone who has her own needs, feelings, preferences, insecurities and fears, for instance. Instead, he can just see her as an object who can meet his needs. However, he might not just see her as an object that can meet all of his needs, though, just his sexual needs. The Next Stage

In order for someone to make good decisions, they will need to have access to all parts of themselves. So, they will need to be connected to not only what is taking place for them at a mental level, but also what is taking place for them at an emotional and instinctual level. This will mean that they are an integrated human being, and they will be able to act in an intelligent manner. However, while this is the ideal, they might not have a good connection with each part of themselves. One Scenario

Even though someone looks like one person on the outside, it doesn’t mean that they will be one person on the inside. The reason for this is that there can be the self that they are aware of, their conscious self and then, there can be the self that they are not aware of, their unconscious self. It will then be as if there are two of them, but it is not possible for them to see that there are two of them. However, and assuming that this is the case, the part of them that they are not aware of won't lie dormant. A Big Impact

If a man were to step back and reflect on his life, what he may see is that, when he is around his mother, he becomes someone else. So, he can lose touch with his needs and how he feels and focus on her. As for his mother, she can typically talk about what she has been doing and what is troubling her. She might seldom, if ever, ask him about how he is doing or if anything is troubling him. Another part

If someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they might see is that they have the tendency to be in the background in life. So, this can mean that they will spend a lot of time by themselves. Then again, they might not spend much time by themselves and could spend a lot of time with others. But even if they do spend a lot of time with others, they could still do what they can to not be noticed. One Scenario

If someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they might see is that they have the tendency to focus on others and do what they can to please them. This can be something that just takes place without them having to think about it. So, when they are around another person, they will focus on their needs and lose touch with their own. This can mean that other people will typically describe them as being very empathetic and even needless. Another part

If a man, who is overly focused on his mother and spends a lot of time meeting her needs, were to reflect on how he behaves, what might enter his mind is how he is more like his mothers parent than her son. This is because he won’t just be there for her from time to time; his life will revolve around her. Unless he is at work, then, he can be going things for her, or he can be listening to her problems and doing what he can to cheer her up. Now, as out of balance as he will be, he can find that this is what feels comfortable. Inner conflict

If a man were to step back and reflect on his life, he may find that he has rarely, if ever, been able to develop a deeper connection with a woman. So, he might have had casual encounters and even dated a few women. However, he might not have been able to take things further with a woman and have a relationship. Or, if he has had at least one relationship, it might have lasted for a very long time. One Reason

Even though someone is a separate human being who has their own needs, feelings and challenges, for instance, it doesn’t mean that they will typically act like one. Instead, it can be as though they are on this planet to care for and ensure that other people are not emotionally unsettled. So, if they were to think about how they usually behave when they are around friends or family, they can see that they are very focused on them and become who they want or think they want them to be. And, if they are sad or angry, they can do what they can to be understanding and make them feel better.

If someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they might find is that they have the inclination to overreact when they are given feedback or receive constructive criticism. So if they are in a relationship, they might see that if their partner says that they would prefer something else or says that something could be done differently, they end up feeling as though they are being rejected.

What can be normal is for a man to spend a lot of time having sex with different women, or he might spend a lot of time dating different women. Then again, he might go from one relationship to another. If this is the case, it will mean that he is seldom, if ever, going to be in a position where he is single and doesn’t have a woman in his life. But if there are moments when he doesn’t have a woman in his life, this can be a time when he becomes very agitated. One Level

What someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on how they behave, is that they have a strong need for attention. Their need for intimacy, on the other hand, can be more or less nonexistent. As a result of this, they will like having other people’s eyes on them and on what they are doing, but they typically won’t share their inner world with others. Therefore, they are generally going to have surface-level relationships with others. The Former

Over the years, a woman may have been with a number of men who were overly focused on their mother and were emotionally unavailable. Then again, the men she has been with might have just been emotionally unavailable. Either way, she is likely to be well and truly fed up with this area of her life. If she is, it could be said that this is not going to be much of a surprise, considering how depriving this area of her life will be. One conclusion

Although there can be a number of areas that are going well for a woman, there can be one area that is not going well. So, she can have a job or a career that is going well, she can be doing well financially, have good friends, and have good health. However, when it comes to her love life, this can be an area that is anything but fulfilling. What can be normal is for her to end up with men who are overly focused on their mother and are emotionally and even physically out of reach. Looking Back

For a little while now, a man may have been able to see that he is overly focused on his mother. What can be clear is that, thanks to how focused he is on her needs, he doesn’t have much of a life himself. So, he might have a job that is or isn’t fulfilling, might or might not have a few close friends, and may or may not look after his physical health. However, regardless of this, he might not be in an intimate relationship. The Central Theme

If a man were to describe the type of woman that he is looking for, he could say that he is looking for a woman who is understanding, affectionate, caring and feminine. Over the years, he might have been with a number of women who were like this. Or, to be more precise, he might have been with a number of women who were like this in the beginning. So, when he was with a woman like this, she might have displayed these traits for a number of months or even longer and then gradually changed. The first Stage

If someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they may see is that, when they are around others, they tend to play a role. Therefore, instead of freely expressing themselves, they will go into a fixed way of behaving. So, their focus will be on pleasing others, and they can come across as understanding and easy-going. They are then not going to be the centre of attention and stand out; they will be in the background. Tiring Existence

Even though someone is a separate human being who has their own needs and feelings and life to lead, it doesn’t mean that they will typically come across in this way. In general, it can be as though they are an extension of others and are here to meet their needs. So, when they are around another or others, they can focus on their needs and do what they can to meet them. They are then likely to be very attentive, understanding and helpful. The Other Side

If a man finds it hard to be assertive, take action and be emotionally centred, for instance, it can seem as though he has an underdeveloped masculine aspect. This is because this part of him will seemingly give him the power that he needs to stand up for himself, get things done, and provide the strength that he needs to handle how he feels. With this in mind, this side of him will need to develop in order for his life to change. The focus can then be on what is taking place in his mind, so looking at the thoughts that he usually has and what he believes. The First Part

If someone were to think about what their mother was like during their early years, they might not think of someone who was emotionally attuned, affectionate and supportive. Instead, they could think of someone who was emotionally distant, was seldom affectionate and was unsupportive. Along with this, she might have often been verbally abusive and even physically harmed them at times. Consequently, they wouldn’t have felt safe and secure around their mother, and as though they could freely express themselves. A Tough Time

What can be normal is for a man to feel low and even depressed, and he might even have moments when he thinks about ending his life. As for what his life is like, it is likely to be anything but fulfilling. So, he can have a job that is soul-destroying, or he might have a job that is fulfilling but has been at the same level for years. When it comes to his relationships, he might not have any close friends, and could have people in his life who regularly put him down. Another Area

Recently, a man may have thought about what it would be like for him to be a woman. Then again, this might have been something that he has been thinking about for many months, or even years. When he thinks about this, he can think about what he would wear, what he would do, and how other people would treat him. This can then be a time when he feels seen, heard, valuable, alive, and free. What follows is one possible explanation for these feelings; it won’t apply to everyone. Another Experience

If someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they may see is that they find it hard to stick to things and often say things that they later regret. As a result of this, they can have endless goals that they haven’t achieved and have fallen out with a lot of people. Due to this, they can be well and truly fed up and wonder what it is that they can do to be more in control of themselves. The next step can be for them to look into what they can do to experience life differently. One Direction

What can be normal is for someone to feel on edge and as though something bad is going to happen to them. At other times, it could be even worse, as it could be as though their life is going to end. If so, they will either experience anxiety or they will experience anxiety, fear and terror. Naturally, this is going to make it difficult for them to not only feel at ease but to embrace life. One Scenario

If someone has gradually become consciously aware of the fact that their childhood wasn’t very nurturing, they can have the need talk to some of the people in their life about it. Now, this can be a time when the friends and/or family members that they tell are very understanding and supportive. The people who they tell could also be shocked and make it clear that they didn’t deserve to be treated as they were. After receiving these kinds of responses, they could be both relieved and grateful. Uncertainty

If a man acts as though he is an extension of his mother and spends a lot of time meeting her needs, what can be clear to an outsider is that he is out of balance. The reason for this is that he is a separate human being who has his own needs, feelings and life to lead. Therefore, by behaving in this way, he will be ignoring a number of his needs and how he feels, and he won’t be living his own life. However, while someone on the outside can see this clearly, he might not be able to. Unaware

If someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that it is hard for them to freely express themselves. Therefore, instead of them behaving how they want to behave, it can be as if they are living in a prison and are only allowed to do certain things.

If a man were to step back and reflect on his life, what he may see is that he finds it hard to stand on his own two feet, stand up for himself, and feel good. As a result of this, his life is unlikely to be very fulfilling. He might see that he has been this way for as long as he can remember, and may even believe that he was simply born this way. Along with this, he could have a very challenging relationship with his mother. A Negative Impact

If someone is an adult, it could be said that they will no longer need a mother or father. Now, this is not to say that their mother and father, that’s if they are still around, no longer have a purpose in their life. Of course, they will still be their parents, and they might enjoy being around them, so there will be no reason for them to cut their ties with them. However, the key point here is that they won’t need a mother and father in the same way that a child would. The Difference

Even though a man has a masculine element, it doesn’t mean he will be in touch with this part of himself. If this is the case, he is unlikely to be rooted in his body; instead, he is likely to live in his head. The outcome of this is that he can be very intellectual or even ‘spiritual’. Thanks to this, he can have the inclination to avoid how he feels and have interests that are largely cerebral or otherworldly. Another Part

If someone were to think about their early years, they could remember some of the moments when they were mistreated. This may have been a stage of their life when they were often ignored, rejected, put down, humiliated, and even physically harmed.

Nowadays, it is not common to hear about a man who has taken his own life. At times, this can mean that he will leave behind family and friends, and at others, it can go further than this, with him leaving behind a girlfriend or wife and even a child or children. For those who are left behind, they can be filled with not only a deep sense of loss, overwhelming sadness and disbelief, but they can be filled with guilt. This is because they can blame themselves for not doing more and for not being able to stop him from ending his life. Another Scenario

If someone wanted to attain a thing, meet a certain type of person, or have a certain experience, they could do what they can to manifest what they desire. So, what they can do is use a visualisation technique where they imagine that they have already achieved what they want to achieve. This will be a time when they will see the things that they would see, have the thoughts that they would think, and feel the feelings that they would feel, if they had achieved what it is that they desire. Now, this inner experience won’t reflect their current reality, but this is the whole point.

If a man is not at work, and even if he is, there can be moments when his mother expects him to be there for her. After she has contacted him, he could soon be on his way to see her and do what she wants. What this is likely to show is that his mother's needs come first, and his needs are of secondary importance. Then again, he might not even be aware of a number of his needs, and his mother’s needs could seem like his needs. A Natural outcome

Even though someone is a separate human being who has their own feelings, needs and life to lead, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. As a result, they can typically come across as though they are an extension of others and are here to meet their needs. So, when it comes to the people in their life, most, if not all of them, could be in a position where they are struggling to handle life. Some of these people could have mental and emotional issues, financial problems, health problems and/or relational challenges. A Full-Time Job

What someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that it is difficult for them to make it clear when they don’t want to do something. Instead, they can find that they have the inclination to go along with things that they don’t want to do. They might see that they have only just started to be his way, or they might see that this is how they have been for as long as they can remember. If they can relate to the latter, they are likely to be well and truly fed up with experiencing life his way. One Area

If a man were to think about what his mother is like, he could think about someone who is controlling, critical, cold and domineering. Therefore, when he is around her, he is not going to feel free, supported, loved or valued. Due to this, he might think that he needs to spend as little time as possible around her. He may even have moments when he thinks about cutting her out of his life, with this being seen as the only way for him to protect himself from her undermining nature. Inner conflict

If a man spends a lot of time doing things for his mother and often thinks about her when he is not with her, he is going to be directing a lot of his time and energy toward her. Thanks to this, he might not have much of a life. And, if he is dating or in a relationship with a woman, he might not have much time for her, and when he is with her, he might not be very present. This is something that she might often bring up. One Outcome

What a man may find, if he were to step back and reflect on his life, is that when his mother feels down, he usually does what he can to make her feel better. For example, he might call her if he is not free, but if he is free, he might go and see her. If he does go and see her, this could be a time when he will take her something to cheer her up. Or if he doesn’t take her anything, when he is there, he could try to make her laugh. Another outcome

If someone has an area of their life that is not very fulfilling, they can look into what they can do to change it. During this time, they can learn about how, once they become aware of how they are behaving, they will be able to change the behaviours that are not serving them and thus, change this area of their life. For example, they might see that they continually end up with people who are emotionally unavailable and out of reach. So, they can look into what signs they need to become aware of that show that another person is not ready to have a real relationship. Clarity

Over the years, a man may have spent a fair amount of time learning about how to please a woman sexually. So, he might have watched videos, read articles and books, and had numerous conversations with other men in order to improve this area of his life. Along with this, he might have had sex with a number of women over the years. This could mean that he typically only has casual encounters and seldom dates, let alone has relationships with women. A Common Occurrence

What a man may find, if he were to step back and reflect on his life, is that he often feels worthless, down and even has moments when he thinks about ending his life. He might see that he has only started to feel this way in recent years, or he might see that he has been this way for as long as he can remember. Now, he might decide to keep this to himself, or he might reach out to a trusted friend. If he does reach out and talks about what is going on for him, his friend could be very understanding and supportive. Exte al Support

Not too long ago, a woman may have been with a man who was overly focused on his mother. And, now that it is over, she could feel tired and confused, but also greatly relieved. This is because she is likely to have given a lot while receiving very little, and yet, no matter what she did, it might not have changed his behaviour. Thus, due to this, it will make sense if she is thankful that it has come to an end. The Same Old Story